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  • feedwordpress 08:00:54 on 2018/06/28 Permalink
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    7 Important Questions to Ask People You Admire   

    What if you suddenly found yourself sharing an elevator or seated at an event with somebody you admire, someone like, Warren Buffett, Elon Musk or Bill Gates? Would you stammer an introduction and look awkwardly at your feet, or would you be able to make the most of the encounter with a set of smart, concise questions?

    It’s unlikely you’ll ever meet any of those people, but you probably encounter other admirable people on a regular basis. Whether it’s a national leader in your field or the senior manager who works down the hall, here are some questions you can ask from the leaders you admire to learn from their success:

    1. What’s the biggest factor that has helped you be successful?
    Success is different for everyone, but it’s always interesting to learn how people arrived where they are. Their stories may point you in a new direction, give you an answer you’ve been looking for, or motivate you to push through the tough times. Responses also give you insight into their values and priorities.

    2. What are your success habits?
    Asking successful people about their daily habits can give you ideas for your own routines. The answers are rarely esoteric; generally, they’re actions anyone can take. As the old saying goes, we are what we repeatedly do.  Excellence, then, is not a quality but a habit, and successful people are simply those with successful habits.

    3. What mistakes have you made along the way?
    This question is one of the most important things you can ask anyone, because it allows you to learn from their experience. If you ask it often and listen carefully to the answers you hear, you will make fewer mistakes yourself. You’ll have insight into how to do things in a way that doesn’t lead to miscalculations or blunders.

    4. What was the hardest decision you ever had to make?
    Most successful people have had to make at least a few genuinely difficult between-a-rock-and-a-hard-place decisions. Learning what they chose, and why, gives you a close look at their thought processes and priorities, helping you prepare for the tough decisions that lie down the road for you. At the end of the day, it’s in your moments of decisions that your success is shaped.

    5. What is the best advice you can give?
    Some people respond better than others to such an open-ended question, but when it connects, it can cut right to the important stuff. Compile the responses you get to this question and keep them where you can read through them all from time to time.

    6. If you could start all over again, what would you do differently?
    Successful people tend to be self-aware, and it’s likely that they’ve already given this question some thought. You might expect to hear about preventing some mistake or failure, but successful people know that mistakes and failure are among our greatest teachers. Many focus instead on wishing they had taken more chances and been bolder.

    7. What’s one change I should make right now to help me get closer to my success?
    This question is appropriate to ask of someone who’s already familiar with you and your work. Improvement requires change, and sometimes the hardest part is knowing what needs to change.

    Most successful people are grateful for what they’ve achieved, and many are happy to share their knowledge and experience. It’s too good a resource to waste, so be prepared to make the most out of every encounter, especially with those you admire.

    Lead From Within: Just remember, we tend to become those we admire.

     


     

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    The Leadership Gap: What Gets Between You and Your Greatness

    After decades of coaching powerful executives around the world, Lolly Daskal has observed that leaders rise to their positions relying on a specific set of values and traits. But in time, every executive reaches a point when their performance suffers and failure persists. Very few understand why or how to prevent it.

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  • feedwordpress 01:05:22 on 2018/06/16 Permalink
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    18 Hard Things to Do If You Want to Be a Successful Leader 

     

    Nobody ever said that being a leader would be easy. If you’ve taken more than a couple of steps down the path, you know that leadership comes with challenges and complications at every stage.

    Becoming a successful leader is synonymous with becoming the best version of yourself–it’s that simple and also that difficult.

    Here are 18 hard things you will have to do if you want to be a successful leader:

    1. You have to be able to foresee the future but stay focused on the present.

    The first step of successful leadership is creating a better future by focusing on the present. From there, you can envision it and then make it happen.

    2. You have to be able to reach your goals and deliver on results.

    To be successful as a leader, you need to identify goals, take measured actions, and get results, because at the end of it all leaders are measured by what they are able to deliver. Even a little progress each day will add up to big results.

    3. You have to feel comfortable with being uncomfortable.

    Success begins beyond our comfort zone. Great things never come from playing it safe.

    4. You have to feel the fear and take the risk anyway.

    Successful leaders are visionaries who have learned to overcome any fear of taking chances.

    5. You have to know how to inspire others while finding your own motivation.

    Successful leaders demonstrate to others what’s possible. But achieving success is a matter not only of creating the impossible but also of motivating yourself to focus on the right things.

    6. You have to bring people along when they’re reluctant to move forward.

    When a leader can inspire their people to move past the struggles today and develop the strength to move toward tomorrow, they will have achieved success.

    7. You have to embrace failure as you fail forward.

    It’s impossible to lead without failing at something, unless you lead so cautiously that you might as well not lead at all–in which case you fail by default. To succeed, you must be willing to experience failure.

    8. You have to be able to rise above drama and dysfunction.

    When everyone goes low, great leaders go high.

    9. You have to be accountable for your actions and responsible for your behavior.

    Being accountable as a leader means not only taking responsibility for what you do, but also being accountable for what you do not do.

    10. You have to be transparent when you most want to be opaque.

    If you’re covering up your tracks or withholding the truth in any way, it’s only a matter of time before the truth comes out. So be transparent: tell the truth, speak with candor, and do it always. Being honest is the only way to be at peace with yourself and for others to respect you.

    11. You have to trust before you can be trusted.

    Trust is the bedrock of successful leadership. When trust is broken, it takes a long time and commitment on the part of both parties involved to mend it–that’s why it’s so much better to always be trustworthy.

    12. You have to lead by example even when there is no path.

    People watch what you do more than they listen to what you say. Be someone worth emulating and build the kind of leadership that sets you apart. Where there isn’t a path, create one.

    13. You have to be positive when everyone else goes negative.

    In leadership, what you do in a negative situation says a lot about your power. When others go negative, great leaders stay positive.

    14. You have to care about others–maybe more than they care about you.

    Start noticing what you like about others and tell them. Go out of your way to personally acknowledge and compliment those who have gone out of their way to excel, and don’t worry so about how much credit you get.

    15. You have to care about your character more than your reputation.

    Your character is what you really are, while your reputation is merely what others temporarily think you are. A genuinely good character is the hallmark of a successful leader who inspires others.

    16. You have to ask questions even though people don’t always have answers.

    This may sound harsh, but the best leaders, the most successful, have a mindset that the only true wisdom they know is that they know nothing. That’s why they ask questions, even though some of the questions are unanswerable.

    17. You have to lead when no one is else is following.

    Successful leaders will forge forward and create a path even if no one is following, because they know if it’s compelling enough and meaningful enough, people will show up and they will follow.

    18. You have to invest in yourself even though others may not.

    To be a successful leader you have to invest in yourself. It’s easy to think you can do it on your own, but the best leaders invest in themselves by hiring a great coach who can make them do what they don’t want to do so they can become who they have always wanted to be. And that is successful leadership.

     


     

    N A T I O N A L B E S T S E L L E R
    The Leadership Gap: What Gets Between You and Your Greatness

    After decades of coaching powerful executives around the world, Lolly Daskal has observed that leaders rise to their positions relying on a specific set of values and traits. But in time, every executive reaches a point when their performance suffers and failure persists. Very few understand why or how to prevent it.

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  • feedwordpress 22:12:56 on 2018/06/11 Permalink
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    9 Stressful Things You Need to Stop Tolerating–if You Want to Be Successful 

     

    There are many things that can stress us out, especially when we want to create our own success stories.

    Unfortunately, most of us end up tolerating some of our own bad habits, even though they cause much of the stress we experience.

    So what are the stressful habits we need to stop tolerating? Here are the worst:

    1. Toxic relationships.

    Stop spending time with the wrong people. Life is too short to waste time on people who are toxic. The people in your life should support you, help you, and lift you up. If not, they are likely causing you uneasiness that you don’t need and shouldn’t have to tolerate. To succeed, you need relationships that will make you feel good about yourself.

    2. Lying to yourself.

    Everyone lies–that’s a fact–but lying to yourself can cause unnecessary concerns. If you want to be successful, you have to take chances and risks, and above all, you have to be honest with yourself.

    3. Not parting with the past.

    You’ll be less frustrated with yourself if you can let go of the past. You can’t start the next chapter of your life if you keep re-reading the old one.

    4. Settling for less.

    A surefire way to cause stress in your life is to start putting your needs last and keeping them on the back burner.

    5. Believing in perfectionism.

    Trying to be prefect only provokes anxiety. The real world doesn’t reward perfectionists; it rewards people who get things done and make things happen.

    6. Holding on to your fears.

    If you’re scared of making a mistake, you’ll never succeed. Doing something and getting it wrong is 100 times more productive than doing nothing at all, so don’t allow your fears to get in the way of who you are meant to be and what you need to accomplish. Every success story has a trail of failures behind it; every mistake can lead to success.

    7. Cutting yourself down.

    Stop talking down to yourself–trust me, there are enough people who can do that job that you never have to do it yourself. Change your small-minded thoughts to big-picture goals and build yourself up instead of cutting yourself down. Refuse to lower yourself or your standards; instead, constantly raise yourself up.

    8. Accepting your own excuses.

    Sooner or later, you’ll realize that excuses don’t get you what you want. And if you want success, you’re going to have to take things into your own hands and make it happen. Excuses cause tension, while power creates determination.

    9. Being jealous.

    Don’t be concerned with who may be more successful than you. Instead, concentrate on beating your own records and surpassing your own goals. Success is a battle between you and yourself, no one else. Make it worth your while; make it about you.

    At the end of the day, don’t have tolerance for the things that stress you and stand between you and your greatness.

     


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    THE LEADERSHIP GAP

    What Gets Between You and Your Greatness

    After decades of coaching powerful executives around the world, Lolly Daskal has observed that leaders rise to their positions relying on a specific set of values and traits. But in time, every executive reaches a point when their performance suffers and failure persists. Very few understand why or how to prevent it.

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  • feedwordpress 21:22:26 on 2018/06/11 Permalink
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    10 Small Things Successful People Do Every Day 

    Every day, we’re surrounded by life lessons–little self-contained bits of truth that can help each of us to be a more successful manager, a greater boss, a superior leader, a better person.

    It’s easy to dismiss these ideas because they’re packaged in such small bites, but they can be a great way to positively connect with some of the world’s great wisdom.

    Here are 10 of my favorites:

    1. You have to start somewhere. The first step to getting anywhere is deciding you’re not willing to stay where you are. The least helpful thing you can do is to wait for perfection before taking action. Start where you are, use what you have and do what you can to succeed.

    2. There is always a demand for your supply of respect. Base your attitude in life on how you want to be treated and show respect even to people who don’t deserve it. How you treat others is not a reflection of their character but of yours.

    3. You win when everybody wins. Prepare to win and expect to win, but remember that to be a real winner you must also make winners of those around you.

    4. If your presence doesn’t add value, your absence won’t be felt. The secret to success is no secret at all–it’s finding ways to add value to people’s lives. If you want to be rich in the truest sense of the world, it cannot be about you–it has to include adding value to the lives of those around you.

    5. Focus your attention on what is important. Learn to be disciplined about what you respond to and react to. Not everyone and everything deserves your time, energy and attention. Make conscious choices about what you want to pay attention to and what you want to let go.

    6. All the confidence you will ever need comes from the capabilities you’ve honed. Here’s something I always tell my clients: Confidence comes from believing you are able but competence knows you’re able. Believe in yourself and your possibilities, but know what you are already a master of.

    7. Love what you do or find something else. If you don’t love what you do, you’ll spend the rest of your life being miserable. It’s really that simple. Love what you do and it will never feel like work.

    8. Identify your limits and leverage your fortitude. You will never know your limits unless you push yourself beyond them. The only way to change yourself is to challenge yourself–if you never push, you have direction but no destination.

    9. Know when to forge ahead and when to slow down. The faster we live, the busier we get–but the slower we take things, the deeper we can go. We need both action and reflection in the right balance.

    10. To learn the best, learn from the best. Everyone you meet knows something you don’t. Learning is a treasure, so connect with the expertise of those around you at every opportunity,

    The biggest difference between successful people and not successful people, are the successful people know that taking small daily actions will lead to big results.

     

     


    N A T I O N A L    B E S T S E L L E R

    THE LEADERSHIP GAP

    What Gets Between You and Your Greatness

    After decades of coaching powerful executives around the world, Lolly Daskal has observed that leaders rise to their positions relying on a specific set of values and traits. But in time, every executive reaches a point when their performance suffers and failure persists. Very few understand why or how to prevent it.

    buy now

     


    Additional Reading you might enjoy:

     

    Photo Credit: Getty Images

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  • feedwordpress 13:29:55 on 2018/06/11 Permalink
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    18 Effective Habits of Highly Successful People 

    Whether we like it or not, a big part of what we do in life is governed by habits. Even more importantly, habits can lead us to think and feel in certain patterns.

    Since habits are so powerful, it’s worth paying attention to the ones that are most effective.

    Here are 18 effective habits of successful people, learn them, implement them and make them your own.

    1. Successful people are persistent.

    They know nothing can take the place of persistence and determination, so they make a habit of never quitting until they get results.

    2. Successful people are self-confident.

    Self-confidence comes from the habit of mastering yourself, your skills and talents. It’s a process that slowly but surely builds unshakeable trust in yourself–which is a vital element of success.

    3. Successful people think big.

    When you think big, you act big, and big things happen. What is the next big idea, project, business that you can think about?

    4. Successful people have an unswerving commitment.

    Their strong convictions mean they’ll structure everything else in their life around their most important goal, doing whatever it takes to make it happen.

    5. Successful people contribute generously.

    Successful people make it a habit to bring value to others. To become successful, look for ways to give, not to get.

    6. Successful people have tremendous willpower.

    They have the strength to see things through without vacillating or procrastinating. When you want it, you make it happen. The world’s greatest achievers are those who have had the willpower to stay focused on their goals and consistent in their efforts.

    7. Successful people have patience.

    They understand that in everything there are failures and frustrations. To take setbacks personally just slows things down that much more. Their habit of patience is not so much about the ability to wait as knowing how to act while they’re waiting.

    8. Successful people are optimistic.

    They choose positivity instead of fear. Optimism is an ideal strategy for making a better future–you have to first believe that the future can be better before you can step up and take responsibility for making it so.

    9. Successful people are flexible.

    They make it a habit of being agile and adaptable. Many of them have become successful doing something different from what they initially started out to do. They know the world is always changing and they refuse to lock themselves into a box.

    10. Successful people know their “why.”

    Successful people make a habit of knowing why they do what they do–what they’re in it for. They’ve given thought to their reasons and motives, which in turn gives them the courage and the determination to continue.

    11. Successful people think long term.

    Most people think short term, because they want instant gratification. Successful people know how to set that desire aside and cultivate the habit of thinking in the long term. They plan ahead because they know that lasting success beats momentary gratification.

    12. Successful people are strong communicators.

    People who can communicate effectively excel in life. Successful people understand that in order to achieve great success, you must first must understand your central message and how best to communicate it.

    13. Successful people take risks.

    They know you can’t make important gains without important risk. If you take risk out of life, you take opportunity out along with it.

    14. Successful people have self-management skills.

    In the end, everything boils down to personal relationships and self-management. Successful people make those areas a priority–people skills and personal development.

    15. Successful people are resourceful.

    They develop networks and cultivate contacts, and they know how to make things work. They know when you have the right people with the right abilities in the right place at the right time, everyone benefits.

    16. Successful people take definitive actions.

    If there’s one critical thing that separates successful people from the herd, it’s this: successful people take action. They don’t talk about what they’re going to do or think about their intentions. They get up and get it done.

    17. Successful people play by their own rules.

    They make a point of working harder than everyone else and learning every single detail from scratch. And because they do what most people aren’t willing to do, they get to set the agenda.

    18. Successful people think winning thoughts.

    They don’t allow any room for negativity or doubt. They may even visualize how success will look and feel. They intuitively understand that once you can think it you can achieve it.

    In the end, successful people know the importance of having effective, healthy winning habits, and they work hard on creating, building and cultivating winning habits to make their success a reality.

     


    N A T I O N A L    B E S T S E L L E R

    THE LEADERSHIP GAP

    What Gets Between You and Your Greatness

    After decades of coaching powerful executives around the world, Lolly Daskal has observed that leaders rise to their positions relying on a specific set of values and traits. But in time, every executive reaches a point when their performance suffers and failure persists. Very few understand why or how to prevent it.

    buy now

     


    Additional Reading you might enjoy:

     

    Photo Credit: Getty Images

    The post 18 Effective Habits of Highly Successful People appeared first on Lolly Daskal.

     
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