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  • feedwordpress 08:00:42 on 2019/03/21 Permalink
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    When it Comes to Leadership, This is What Really Matters 


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    When I first started out as an executive leadership coach, not many CEOs saw the importance of leadership coaching or development. Over the past few years attitudes have changed, and recent research finds that 90 percent of CEOs are planning to increase their investment in leadership development and see it as the most important human capital issue their organizations face.

    Identifying and developing great leaders is a critical factor in organizational health, which in turn drives shareholder returns. But what direction should that development take? I think it’s important to focus on the fundamentals—the most critical traits and skills leaders need to be successful. Here are some of the most important:

    Emotional intelligence. Any successful leader must have a healthy dose of emotional intelligence. Leaders with good EI know how to identify and manage emotions—their own as well as those of others. They practice awareness and empathy, and stay connected with their own feelings and in control of situations. Understanding emotional intelligence and developing the EI of your organization’s leaders is a great investment.

    Effective problem solving. Knowing how to solve problems is one thing, but knowing how to solve them effectively is far more valuable. To be an effective problem solver requires the ability to discover key information, the knowledge to conduct a detailed analysis, and a willingness to consider all solutions. It’s a key skill, not just in high-stakes situations but every day, and it’s surprisingly difficult to get it right. Successful leaders have just as many problems as others, but they know how to solve them more effectively.

    A willingness to consider the opinions of others. Most leaders think they need to have all the answers to be successful, but that’s as far from the truth as you can get. Successful leadership means being able to listen to the ideas, viewpoints and positions of others. Leaders who do well on this dimension typically base their decisions on sound analysis and input from the right people; they avoid biases and premature conclusions.

    The ability to achieve results. Great leadership is not only about developing and communicating a vision and setting objectives but also about following through to achieve results. Leaders who focus on results tend to emphasize the importance of efficiency, productivity and accountability, resulting in a process that naturally prioritizes the highest-value work.

    Being able to be supportive. A successful leader is supportive of those they lead by showing up with authenticity and a sincere interest. They build trust and help people overcome challenges. They manage group work in a way that promotes efficiency, and they never forget that the role of leadership is not to develop followers but to develop new leaders.

    The power to motivate and inspire. Part of great leadership is developing strategies that reenergize people’s attitudes about the organization and their role within it. Research shows that leaders who can reenergize their employees tend to have a workforce that’s truly engaged, with higher levels of employee retention and productivity. And because motivation and inspiration mean different things to different people, the most successful leaders in this area start by knowing their people well enough to understand what works for them.

    These are far from the only traits a good leader needs, but they’re among those with the highest return on investment. Keep them in mind as you plan your leadership development program.

    Lead from within: For organizations investing in development of their future leaders, prioritizing the most important areas ensures the highest level of success.

     


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    The Leadership Gap: What Gets Between You and Your Greatness

    After decades of coaching powerful executives around the world, Lolly Daskal has observed that leaders rise to their positions relying on a specific set of values and traits. But in time, every executive reaches a point when their performance suffers and failure persists. Very few understand why or how to prevent it.

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  • feedwordpress 08:00:13 on 2019/03/14 Permalink
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    How to Work with a Leader Who Lacks Emotional Intelligence 


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    Many experts believe that a person’s emotional intelligence quotient, or EQ, may be more important than IQ. The ability to perceive and manage emotions certainly seems to be a better predictor of success, quality of relationships, and overall happiness.

    Low emotional intelligence has demonstrated negative effects in the workplace; it lowers morale and reduces productivity.

    When leaders exhibit low EQ, the effects are especially pronounced. A study by Pearson and Porath of thousands of managers and employees found strong repercussions when a leader engages in negative behavior:

    • Two-thirds of employees said their performance declined
    • Four out of five employees lost work time worrying about an unpleasant incident
    • 63 percent wasted time trying to avoid the offender
    • More than 75 percent said their commitment to their employer had waned
    • 12 percent resigned due to the leader’s behavior

    Unfortunately, many leaders still lack emotional intelligence. But there are strategies that can help when you encounter a leader with low EQ. Here are five of the most fundamental ways to help improve the situation:

    Acknowledge them. Leaders have a lot on their plate; they are juggling more than one responsibility at a time. The best way to work with a busy leader who lacks emotional intelligence is to acknowledge their emotions and frustrations, to let them know you see their challenges and hardships. Let them learn how it feels to be acknowledged. In South Africa, when you greet someone you say “Ubuntu,” which translates as “I see you.” See your leader and their struggles.

    Serve them. Leaders serve others, so even if you feel they don’t need your help, it can be beneficial to let them be on the receiving end of service. Give respectful feedback without criticism. Help them understand the importance of emotional intelligence and the benefits of cultivating related skills, for the benefit of not only the leader but also the team and the entire organization.

    Calm them. A big component of emotional intelligence is the ability to manage emotions and triggers. If your leader has a low EQ, it may fall to you  to calm them down and model for them how emotionally intelligent people are able to regulate and control their emotions.

    Appreciate them. It’s hard for a leader not to notice when people on their team are appreciative and thoughtful. It not only makes them feel good but also sets the tone for the way people speak to each other and behave toward each other. Consideration, compassion and understanding are important elements to demonstrate.

    Lead them. Be the example you want to see in your team and your company. Watch your own emotions and your own triggers—be the person who understands how your emotions impact others and recognize the role you may have played in creating difficult circumstances. At the end of the day you become the leader who illustrating to others what it’s like embodies emotional intelligence.

    At the end of the day, the best way to help those who lack emotional intelligence is to lead by example in acknowledging them, serving them, calming them, and caring for them. Show them what is like to have EI within yourself and how they too can begin to embody those skills to benefit themselves and those around them.

    Emotional intelligence is essential in the workplace. Don’t tolerate a lack of it.

    Lead from Within: Whether you’re a leader now or may become one in the future, cultivating emotional intelligence will not only serve you but also help you outlast and outperform.

     


     

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    The Leadership Gap: What Gets Between You and Your Greatness

    After decades of coaching powerful executives around the world, Lolly Daskal has observed that leaders rise to their positions relying on a specific set of values and traits. But in time, every executive reaches a point when their performance suffers and failure persists. Very few understand why or how to prevent it.

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  • feedwordpress 08:00:13 on 2019/03/12 Permalink
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    How Can You Tell If Your Leader Is Afraid Of You 


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    We tend to think of leaders as people who are focused on serving others, dedicated to the mission of the work they do, and committed to their people. Unfortunately—as in every field—some people in leadership positions are threatened by those they lead, especially those who embody the qualities they lack as a leader.

    How can you tell if your leader is freaked out by your competence or confidence? Here are some signs to look for:

    Constantly shutting you down. Your boss shuts down every great idea you bring up and disagrees with your creative solutions without any reason.

    Stealing your ideas. When you have a great idea at work and your boss doesn’t stomp on it, they find a way to stall you long enough to steal it and claim it as their own.

    Restricts your access to high-level people in other departments. Your boss tells you to funnel all communications through him or her rather than going directly to anyone outside your department. Fearful bosses tend to be very controlling.

    Finding fault in everything you do. You get positive feedback from everyone else, but you’re constantly under your boss’s skin.

    Failing to respond. Your boss regularly cancels your meetings, forgets to return your calls and emails, and generally doesn’t seem to have you anywhere on their priority list.

    Micromanaging you. Your boss keeps dictating process details and checking up on your work.

    Ignoring you. You’re shut out of decision making and don’t have access to strategy sessions.

    Giving you low-level assignments. Your manager takes away your highest-impact and highest-visibility projects and leaves you with low-priority busy work.

    Leaders are only human and they, too, can be afraid and feel threatened by others. It’s not a good thing but it is sometimes an unfortunate reality. Don’t make it into anything bigger than it is—do your job and do it well, and let your talent speak for itself. At the same time, keep good documentation in case you ever have to report mismanagement or defend yourself, and consider moving to a different workplace where your talents and skills will be appreciated.

    Lead from within: Insecure leaders show their fears in the way they treat others.

     


     

    N A T I O N A L   B E S T S E L L E R
    The Leadership Gap: What Gets Between You and Your Greatness

    After decades of coaching powerful executives around the world, Lolly Daskal has observed that leaders rise to their positions relying on a specific set of values and traits. But in time, every executive reaches a point when their performance suffers and failure persists. Very few understand why or how to prevent it.

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  • feedwordpress 09:00:56 on 2019/03/07 Permalink
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    A Big Leadership Lesson from a Small Spider 


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    There’s a story about Robert the Bruce (Robert I), a 14th-century king of Scotland. As he was struggling to protect his kingdom against the English, he found himself driven from his castle and forced to flee to keep from being taken prisoner. Feeling completely defeated and at a loss about what to do next, he took refuge in a cave.

    Soon he spotted a small spider spinning its web. He watched as the spider would spin and then stop, spin and stop. Each time it didn’t make a move for a long while, he thought it had given up and failed in its task. But each time it eventually started again, moving with slow determination. And in time, after many stops and starts, it completed its web.

    The king reflected on the three characteristics that made the spider successful—patience, awareness, and determination—and set out to apply them to his own situation.

    To gain patience, he cleared and sat quietly until he found himself calming down and collecting his composure.

    To cultivate awareness, he thought about the situation he was in and what it would take for him to survive in the short term and continue ruling his country. This awareness not only calmed him down but also allowed him to see things in a new way, removing some of the darkness he’d been under.

    To embody determination, he thought about coming out of the cave ready to fight and do whatever it would take to regain his kingdom.

    The king left the cave with patience, awareness and determination. The fight was long and difficult, with its own starts and stops, but within a few years Scotland prevailed and gained its independence.

    That little spider, gone for centuries, changed the course of history. And we can still apply its lessons today.

    When you find yourself in a challenging situation, ask yourself how you can attain patience. It is patience—with yourself, with your circumstances, and with your thinking—that will give you the wisdom to find new solutions to old problems.

    When you feel everything is conspiring against you, ask yourself what awareness you need to cultivate. Awareness can help you understand that even when you cannot change a situation, you can always change yourself. Developing the ability to tolerate negative circumstances will make you rethink who you are as a leader.

    When you want to give up, ask yourself how you can dig a little bit deeper to find your determination. Great leadership comes from embodying grit, using your inner strength to persist, not allowing any setbacks to stop you from moving toward your mission.

    Leadership lessons are all around us. If a king can learn the most important lesson of his life from a spider, how much can we learn from the people, the things and the opportunities we experience every day if we stay open and pay attention?

    Lead from within: Some of your most valuable leadership lessons will come from unexpected sources. What will you take away?

     


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    The Leadership Gap: What Gets Between You and Your Greatness

    After decades of coaching powerful executives around the world, Lolly Daskal has observed that leaders rise to their positions relying on a specific set of values and traits. But in time, every executive reaches a point when their performance suffers and failure persists. Very few understand why or how to prevent it.

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  • feedwordpress 09:00:01 on 2019/03/05 Permalink
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    The Worst Mistakes You Can Make at Work 


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    We all have witnessed or heard stories of inappropriate workplace behavior—not just everyday mistakes or issues, but the kind of things that get people fired and cause long-term career damage.

    You may feel that nothing like that will ever happen to you, but knowledge is the best prevention. Here are nine of the most damaging things you can do on the job:

    Losing control of your emotions. Whether you experience frustration, irritation, worry, anger, dislike or unhappiness, learn how to manage your emotions at work constructively. Even if everything you’re feeling is 100 percent justified, emotional outbursts are never appropriate.

    Saying one thing and doing another. When you make promises, people hold you accountable. And when you say one thing and do another, people lose trust in you—and once trust is lost, it’s hard to win back. Your reputation depends on keeping your word.

    Burning bridges. The things that matter most in the course of your career are the people you work with and the connections you make. The last thing you want to do is burn any of those bridges, however tempting it may be. We live in a small world, and you never know whose help or goodwill you may need down the road.

    Gossiping. Gossiping is bad for a multitude of reasons, but it still happens on a regular basis. No matter how bad the consequences, gossip seems to be human nature. But especially when it comes to gossip that does real harm to someone, it accomplishes nothing but making you look negative, vindictive and untrustworthy.

    Taking credit for someone else’s work. Taking credit for someone else’s work isn’t just unethical and dishonest, it rarely fools anyone. What people come away with is the sense that you haven’t accomplished anything significant on your own and that you have no respect for your colleagues, making you look even worse.

    Backstabbing. Backstabbers specialize in saying wrong things at the wrong time to the wrong people. It may be disguised as assertiveness or self-defense, but backstabbing is incredibly destructive behavior that harms everyone involved and ruins good teams.

    Self-aggrandizement. Bragging, even when it’s justified, is seen as a show of weakness more than strength. Confidence is silent and insecurities are loud. It’s always tempting to toot your own horn, especially when you’re proud of something you’ve accomplished. You can make your point more graciously by instead bragging on your co-workers’ role in a successful project.

    Lead from within: Some mistakes can be costly, so it’s good to be aware of them and to know your own weaknesses so you can steer clear at work.

     


     

    N A T I O N A L   B E S T S E L L E R
    The Leadership Gap: What Gets Between You and Your Greatness

    After decades of coaching powerful executives around the world, Lolly Daskal has observed that leaders rise to their positions relying on a specific set of values and traits. But in time, every executive reaches a point when their performance suffers and failure persists. Very few understand why or how to prevent it.

    buy now

     


    Additional Reading you might enjoy:

     

    Photo Credit: iStock Photos

    The post The Worst Mistakes You Can Make at Work appeared first on Lolly Daskal.

     
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