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  • feedwordpress 22:12:56 on 2018/06/11 Permalink
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    9 Stressful Things You Need to Stop Tolerating–if You Want to Be Successful 

     

    There are many things that can stress us out, especially when we want to create our own success stories.

    Unfortunately, most of us end up tolerating some of our own bad habits, even though they cause much of the stress we experience.

    So what are the stressful habits we need to stop tolerating? Here are the worst:

    1. Toxic relationships.

    Stop spending time with the wrong people. Life is too short to waste time on people who are toxic. The people in your life should support you, help you, and lift you up. If not, they are likely causing you uneasiness that you don’t need and shouldn’t have to tolerate. To succeed, you need relationships that will make you feel good about yourself.

    2. Lying to yourself.

    Everyone lies–that’s a fact–but lying to yourself can cause unnecessary concerns. If you want to be successful, you have to take chances and risks, and above all, you have to be honest with yourself.

    3. Not parting with the past.

    You’ll be less frustrated with yourself if you can let go of the past. You can’t start the next chapter of your life if you keep re-reading the old one.

    4. Settling for less.

    A surefire way to cause stress in your life is to start putting your needs last and keeping them on the back burner.

    5. Believing in perfectionism.

    Trying to be prefect only provokes anxiety. The real world doesn’t reward perfectionists; it rewards people who get things done and make things happen.

    6. Holding on to your fears.

    If you’re scared of making a mistake, you’ll never succeed. Doing something and getting it wrong is 100 times more productive than doing nothing at all, so don’t allow your fears to get in the way of who you are meant to be and what you need to accomplish. Every success story has a trail of failures behind it; every mistake can lead to success.

    7. Cutting yourself down.

    Stop talking down to yourself–trust me, there are enough people who can do that job that you never have to do it yourself. Change your small-minded thoughts to big-picture goals and build yourself up instead of cutting yourself down. Refuse to lower yourself or your standards; instead, constantly raise yourself up.

    8. Accepting your own excuses.

    Sooner or later, you’ll realize that excuses don’t get you what you want. And if you want success, you’re going to have to take things into your own hands and make it happen. Excuses cause tension, while power creates determination.

    9. Being jealous.

    Don’t be concerned with who may be more successful than you. Instead, concentrate on beating your own records and surpassing your own goals. Success is a battle between you and yourself, no one else. Make it worth your while; make it about you.

    At the end of the day, don’t have tolerance for the things that stress you and stand between you and your greatness.

     


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    What Gets Between You and Your Greatness

    After decades of coaching powerful executives around the world, Lolly Daskal has observed that leaders rise to their positions relying on a specific set of values and traits. But in time, every executive reaches a point when their performance suffers and failure persists. Very few understand why or how to prevent it.

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  • feedwordpress 10:23:58 on 2018/06/11 Permalink
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    12 Stressful Things You Need to Stop Tolerating Right Now 

     

    Some forms of stress are necessary–especially if we want to stimulate creativity and new learning.

    Others bring no benefit at all and serve only to prevent us from being effective or successful.

    Here’s a list of a dozen of the worst sources of bad stress. Shut them out of your life starting today, and you’ll find that you’re more productive, calmer, and happier.

    Procrastination. There’s nothing more stressful than having something weigh on you until the very last minute, followed by the panic of not being certain you can get it done. If you want to make an easy job seem hard and make sure you don’t do it as well as you could, keep putting it off. Procrastination is the top form of self-sabotage.

    Clutter. Clutter derives from the middle English word clotter, and it definitely clots our ability to function well. When you tolerate clutter, you’re allowing yesterday’s junk to interfere with your ability to reach what you need in the present. Find simplicity and order and you’ll find opportunities for growth.

    Negativity. Negativity is an incredibly destructive force–and in a world where we’re barraged with negative information, it’s easy to be lured in. But to give negativity a place gives it power. Make it a habit to focus on the on the positive side of things. You may not be able to change events, but with a positive mindset you can change perceptions and outcomes.

    Comparisons. It’s in our nature to look at what others have and see how we measure up, but it’s a pointless exercise since there will always be someone with more and someone with less. It distracts you from the only comparison that’s valid–between yourself and your goals. Stop comparing and find your strength.

    Perfectionism. Anyone who’s suffered from perfectionism knows that it doesn’t make you better but leads to disappointment and ultimately failure. Focus on doing what you do well with excellence, which is much more motivating than perfectionism.

    Dishonesty. To tolerate dishonesty–from others or from yourself–is one of the most stressful things you can do to yourself. Lies may seem to smooth things out in the moment, but ultimately they do nothing but create complications and anxiety.

    Mediocrity. Everyone wants to feel they measure up to standards, but tolerating mediocrity leaves no room for greatness. When mediocrity is accepted, excellence, uniqueness, and true success die a painful death. Aspire to excellence, always.

    Guilt. Guilt weighs us down and crushes us. It’s tremendously stressful whether it’s deserved or not. Guilt never feeds us or nourishes us toward what we want. Make your choices and live with them–you may feel regret at some things, and resolve not to repeat them, but don’t allow guilt to take hold.

    Excuses. Excuses may come in handy when you don’t want to do something, but they also keep you from doing the things that you are meant to do. If it’s important, then sack the excuses and find a way to make it happen. Excuses never moved anyone closer to their goals.

    Enmity. The essence of enmity is insecurity, which appears we are unhappy with ourselves and causes great stress. But if we tolerate hostility and lead with anger, we alienate others and separate ourselves from our own potential. Enmity comes from clinging to negative experiences, so choose to move on instead of hanging back in anger.

    Rejection. When we interpret rejection as not being good enough, it’s bound to create stress. But like failure, rejection is often a necessary step to the pursuit of success. If you’ve never been rejected, your goals probably aren’t ambitious enough.

    Defeat. How stressful it is to feel defeated. But it’s possible to experience failure without defeat. Everyone fails at some point, but instead of being defeated and allowing your failures define who you are, use them as a guide to better yourself and improve your odds of success next time.

     


    N A T I O N A L    B E S T S E L L E R

    THE LEADERSHIP GAP

    What Gets Between You and Your Greatness

    After decades of coaching powerful executives around the world, Lolly Daskal has observed that leaders rise to their positions relying on a specific set of values and traits. But in time, every executive reaches a point when their performance suffers and failure persists. Very few understand why or how to prevent it.

    buy now

     


    Additional Reading you might enjoy:

     

    Photo Credit: Getty Images

    The post 12 Stressful Things You Need to Stop Tolerating Right Now appeared first on Lolly Daskal.

     
  • feedwordpress 22:33:37 on 2018/06/10 Permalink
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    How to Stay Calm When Everything Around You Is Stressful 


    Most of us live with some degree of stress as an ever-present force. Success requires that you cultivate the ability to stay calm when everything around you is stressful and everyone around is stressed out. Stress is worth taking seriously: it’s a known killer. But you can fight back.

    Here are six powerful ways you can wage the life-and-death fight against stress:

    1. Forego blame. When things go wrong, it’s human nature to seek out someone to blame. You want to find someone to be at fault and teach them a lesson so this never happens again. But blame does nothing to ease stress and doesn’t solve the problem. Forgo placing blame and start thinking of your own responsibility-the things you can do differently next time to prevent the problem or make the repercussions less severe. The day you stop blaming others is the day you begin to feel relief from stress.

    2. Put things in perspective. Stress enters when things are out of control and when you lose perspective. Those who are strong and successful tend to throw wider nets and take longer views of their problem to put things into perspective. Try to think not in terms of a crisis but a problem-something that can be solved. And don’t get stuck trying to solve the problem with the same thinking you used to create it; change your perspective and you’ll see new possibilities.

    3. Stay available. When stress hits, it’s a natural response to want to run and hide. And some people do literally check out-they physically leave when there’s trouble. In fact, the way to offset the stress is to do exactly the opposite: make yourself more accessible and stay more available. When you authenticate it and deal with it in proximity to your team, you can work through it in collaboration, not around it on your own.

    4. Be part of the solution. There will always be problems and stress. To position yourself as part of the solution means becoming the person who stays calm enough long enough to think of ways to make it through. Within every problem, every challenge, there is always a solution. And when nothing is sure, the possibilities are wide open.

    5. Tap into your confidence. Especially in stressful times, it’s easy to start second-guessing yourself, to lose focus on your confidence and spend your time comparing yourself to others. Everybody has their own strengths and weakness, and its only when you accept yourself and everything that you are that you truly succeed. When you tap into your confidence, you can stay consistent and focused in your priorities. In tough times, be gentle with yourself and tell yourself you are doing the best you can.

    6. Take action. The best way to combat stress is simply to be present with it. When you look stress in the face you can unmask what you are afraid of and begin making things happen. After all, the goal is to succeed-and to succeed takes action, hard work and effort.

    The person who can find that calm center in times of great challenge will prevail through focus, perspective and a firm grip on purposeful action.

     


    N A T I O N A L    B E S T S E L L E R

    THE LEADERSHIP GAP

    What Gets Between You and Your Greatness

    After decades of coaching powerful executives around the world, Lolly Daskal has observed that leaders rise to their positions relying on a specific set of values and traits. But in time, every executive reaches a point when their performance suffers and failure persists. Very few understand why or how to prevent it.

    buy now

     


    Additional Reading you might enjoy:

     

    Photo Credit: Getty Images

    The post How to Stay Calm When Everything Around You Is Stressful appeared first on Lolly Daskal.

     
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