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  • feedwordpress 08:00:50 on 2020/10/15 Permalink
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    How To Make Sure You Are Living Up to Your Potential 


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    No matter how well you’re doing and how many skills you’ve acquired, you may not be fully living up to your leadership potential.

    If you suspect that you have untapped potential but you’re not sure how to reach it, start by working to discover what’s standing in your way so you can put yourself back on track to being the leader you know you can be.

    If you don’t know yourself: Self-understanding is critical to leadership. If you want to understand, motivate and inspire others, you have to begin with yourself. Hire a coach or find a mentor who can help you define your strengths, your gaps, and your style of leadership. All of us have gold hidden within, but we have to dig to get it out.

    If you’re self-centered: Top leaders spend much of their time thinking of others and finding ways to support them, coach them, mentor them and develop them. Great leadership consists largely of believing in others and helping them become great. If you aren’t already doing that, you need to take the focus off yourself. Start cultivating your empathy and devoting more of your time and energy to those around you.

    if your mindset is negative: Left unchallenged, negativity becomes weakness of character. Especially for those in leadership, it’s important to keep your outlook positive. Remember that thoughts become actions, actions become behavior and behavior becomes habit—and your habits play a huge role in achieving your potential. A positive mindset is the mark of a superior personality.

    If you play it safe: As I’ve seen many times over with my clients, few things will stall out your leadership potential more completely than constantly playing it safe. Getting yourself unstuck means having the nerve to take risks and make hard decisions when they’re needed. And ironically, playing it safe is one of the riskiest things you can do. To reach your top potential you will have to face your fear and do what you need to do in spite of it.

    If you don’t know and live by your values: People don’t become great leaders because they’re ambitious or committed to success; they become great leaders because they hold clearly defined values and align everything they do to those values. When you understand your own values and priorities and you commit to them, you gain the authority of authenticity and everything else falls into place. Hard decisions become easier and the people around you become your priority. Knowing and living your values is the key to great leadership.

    The best leaders begin by understanding themselves and finding the gaps they need to fill. They work on their own mindset and attitudes, and over time they come to realize that leadership is about serving others while you better yourself.

    Lead from within: The willingness to learn, the desire to risk, the urge to reach your full potential—these are the keys that will unlock the door to your leadership excellence.

     


    #1 N A T I O N A L  B E S T S E L L E R

    The Leadership Gap
    What Gets Between You and Your Greatness


    After decades of coaching powerful executives around the world, Lolly Daskal has observed that leaders rise to their positions relying on a specific set of values and traits. But in time, every executive reaches a point when their performance suffers and failure persists. Very few understand why or how to prevent it.

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  • feedwordpress 08:00:10 on 2020/06/30 Permalink
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    Why Every Leader Needs to Spend Time Alone 


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    Studies have long shown that chronic loneliness and isolation are damaging to people’s mental and physical health. But a balanced amount of time spent alone has clear benefits—and depending on your temperament, it may be a necessity. It can even help strengthen your leadership. Here’s how:

    Improved social relationships. At first glance, it doesn’t make sense to improve your social relationships by being alone . But when you take the time to look inward, defining your needs and priorities, your social life will be better spent. Similarly, time alone can improve your relationships at work. And the better your relationships, the happier and more productive you’ll be—as a human and as a leader.

    Improved creativity. The best way to foster creativity is to take the time to give yourself a framework of goals, outcomes, objectives and results. If you don’t slow down to do this work you will find yourself going around in circles. And once you’ve determined a destination, getting and staying in touch with your creativity requires the kind of deep dives that are best accomplished alone.

    Improved confidence. Many leaders subscribe to the mantra fake it till you make it, but as a leadership coach I have seen this approach cause far too many implosions. Instead, lead from within by developing an understanding of who you are and what you’re good at. From there you can build on your strengths and leverage your weaknesses in authentic ways that benefit both you and those you lead. It’s a deeply rewarding process, one that will benefit you in every way, and it requires spending the kind of focused time and energy that you can find only when you’re alone.

    Improved emotional regulation. Most leaders have a thousand things coming at them all at once. Those who spend some daily time centering themselves in quiet meditation, prayer, or thought are able take it in stride. Those who never give their nerves a break from the constant overstimulation and chaos of the work day are far more likely to react badly as soon as something goes off track.

    Improved decision making. When decisions need to be made—and especially when they need to be made quickly—the best leaders take a moment to themselves. They aren’t stalling—they’re making a peaceful space to review their options, make sure they’re thinking clearly and accounting for everything. A little focused time yields clear, well-thought-out decisions.

    Many people, especially those who are extroverts by nature, may find it hard to spend time alone. But if you can develop a regular practice of closing your door to the world, you’ll give yourself time with your thoughts and a space for your mind to wander in new directions. Time alone can be restorative, building your confidence, creativity, and productivity, and helping you better engage with others.

    Lead from within: Give yourself a break and spend some more time alone so you can become the leader you are meant to be.

     


    #1 N A T I O N A L   B E S T S E L L E R

    The Leadership Gap
    What Gets Between You and Your Greatness


    After decades of coaching powerful executives around the world, Lolly Daskal has observed that leaders rise to their positions relying on a specific set of values and traits. But in time, every executive reaches a point when their performance suffers and failure persists. Very few understand why or how to prevent it.

    buy now

     


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  • feedwordpress 08:00:28 on 2020/06/23 Permalink
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    How to Recognize A Strong Leader In A Group Of People 


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    Strong leaders emerge in different ways and at different times. Some people seem born to leadership, and others build their abilities more slowly. Some have the capacity but need their confidence to develop before they can make best the best use of it. Others don’t step into their leadership until the circumstances call for it—usually in difficult times.

    But in any group of people there will be a few who show leadership qualities, even if they’re not fully developed. Here are some things to look for if you want to know who’s capable of being a strong leader:

    They share their expertise. Those who are supportive of others, those who guide and mentor and are quick to share their expertise are showing key leadership traits. Their attention inspires others to care about what they do, and they’re committed to helping others be their best.

    They are trust builders. People build trust in lots of different ways. Many prospective leaders do so by being competent and reliable in their job. That dependability is the foundation for them to build strong relationships with the people they work with at every level, from their bosses to their peers to support staff. They show integrity, focus on solving problems instead of placing blame, and when things go well they share the credit.

    They are an influence for good in challenging times. People’s true natures tend to emerge when difficulties arise. Some complain or make sure their own interests are served. But those who are empathetic, realistic and proactive—and especially those who look for patterns of recurring challenges and seek ways to solve them—are likely to emerge as true leaders.

    They are emotionally agile. The best leaders know how to manage their emotions and are agile enough to let go of any thoughts, beliefs or emotions that aren’t serving them well. Anyone with that ability has already mastered one of the most challenging components of leadership.

    They are great listeners. Leadership is based on connection, and connection is based on listening. Good listeners—those who seek to understand by asking clarifying questions and by giving their complete attention—have the foundation to make good leaders.

    They don’t wait to be asked. In almost every group there will be few people with no official authority who are quick to step up with support and guidance. Generally it’s the ones who are already excellent at their job, and their combination of helpfulness, initiative, competence and confidence makes them strong contenders for leadership roles.

    You can’t always predict leadership potential, but those who exhibit these positive traits are likely to be effective leaders. Recognize them for who they are, and give them as many opportunities as possible to grow into their potential.

    Lead from within: We sometimes look at leadership in a superficial way. In reality, the person who cares the most is the one who will stand out from a crowd of prospective leaders.

     


    #1 N A T I O N A L  B E S T S E L L E R

    The Leadership Gap
    What Gets Between You and Your Greatness


    After decades of coaching powerful executives around the world, Lolly Daskal has observed that leaders rise to their positions relying on a specific set of values and traits. But in time, every executive reaches a point when their performance suffers and failure persists. Very few understand why or how to prevent it.

    buy now

     


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  • feedwordpress 08:00:10 on 2020/04/23 Permalink
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    Why Its a Bad Idea to Hire Someone Like Yourself 


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    There’s a weakness shared by many leaders—one that spans cultures and industries—and most aren’t even aware that it’s a weakness. It’s this: in hiring, most leaders gravitate toward people they can relate to, people they can get along with and enjoy working with. While the results of such hires may not be disastrous, they fall short of being the best choice for you and your team.

    When you hire someone like you, you’re duplicating a skill set, a background or a perspective—or all three. You already have someone like you on your team; what you need is someone who can complement your strengths, not mirror them. The differences between people are a valuable asset, and the more diverse your team is—the more skills and perspectives you can bring to the table—the stronger it will be. Seek out a range of people, hire them and appreciate them for who they are and what they contribute.

    When you hire someone you like, you’re working from the wrong criteria. It’s great to enjoy the people you’re working with, but it’s far more important that they can stretch who you are and what you know. And sometimes the people who stretch us the most are those who can be frustrating and challenging. Don’t look for the most likeable candidate but the one who can bring the most to your team and your leadership.

    When you hire someone you get along with, you may be creating an echo chamber. It’s always a good experience when you have positive chemistry with a prospective hire—when something immediately clicks—but you may be surrounding yourself with people whose personalities are too similar to your own. While you don’t want to hire anyone toxic or exceptionally difficult, remember that some tension is necessary for developing great work. The right kind of tension means you and everyone on the team are challenged to be open to new ideas and to shift your way of thinking—and that’s a positive force.

    Making a bad hiring decision can be costly to your business and your leadership reputation. But bad hires are easier to avoid than the ones that aren’t terrible but also aren’t the best you could do. Filling positions with the right people is crucial to making your business and leadership work smoothly, so keep an open mind and remember the value of diversity when you’re tempted to hire someone who appeals to you on a personal level.

    Lead from within: If you keep hiring people like yourself, people you like, and people you get along with, you’re depriving yourself and your team of important opportunities for growth and achievement.

     

     


    #1 N A T I O N A L   B E S T S E L L E R

    The Leadership Gap
    What Gets Between You and Your Greatness


    After decades of coaching powerful executives around the world, Lolly Daskal has observed that leaders rise to their positions relying on a specific set of values and traits. But in time, every executive reaches a point when their performance suffers and failure persists. Very few understand why or how to prevent it.

    buy now

     


    Additional Reading you might enjoy:

     

    Photo Credit: iStockPhotos

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  • feedwordpress 08:40:37 on 2020/04/16 Permalink
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    The Most Effective Ways Leaders Handle Stress 


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    Leadership is stressful even in the best of times. And leading through a time of crisis elevates that stress levels that often feel unmanageable. That’s why every leader needs to know how to strategically and effectively manage stress. Here are some things to remember when it feels like you have more than you can handle:

    Prioritize self-care. The best leaders are selfless people working in pursuit of a higher purpose and serving their people. They’re quick to give up their personal time and energy to get the job done. But to be a good leader, you have to begin by taking care of your own mental and physical well-being. When you make self-care a priority, you strengthen yourself for the long run and set a good example for your team.

    Learn to say no. Setting manageable priorities is important at any time, but in times of crisis it’s more important than ever. Think about the activities and projects that are absolutely central to your organization’s mission, and turn down the rest. Upholding clear priorities keeps your work sustainable and protects you and your team from burnout.

    Narrow the focus. It’s easy to feel overburdened in difficult times, but when you lose focus you invite stress. As you plan your tasks for each day, maintain a tight view of what’s most important and reasonably attainable. Schedule less important tasks for the future, and delegate when you can.

    Don’t be afraid to ask for help if you need it. We live in a world where people think leaders need to do and know everything themselves. But asking for help—whether it’s in long-term planning, adapting a complex project to reflect new realities, or just getting through the stresses of the day—doesn’t make you weak. If anything, it makes you stronger and more human in your vulnerability.

    Set healthy boundaries. At a time when the boundary between work and home life is even more blurred than usual, it’s important to find effective ways to keep it clear. Make a commitment to the time you give yourself every day, whether you spend it connecting with family and friends, reading, exercising, engaging in a prayer or meditation practice, or listening to music—whatever recharges you.

    Lead by example. To show others that you don’t expect them to do it all, you need to begin by showing them how it’s done. Instead of micromanaging those around you, practice delegation and trust. Set a good example of effective practices, a balanced work life, positivity and self-care.

    Lead from within: The best leaders understand that pushing yourself at maximum capacity 100 percent of the time yields no gains in your long-term performance.

     


    #1 N A T I O N A L  B E S T S E L L E R

    The Leadership Gap
    What Gets Between You and Your Greatness


    After decades of coaching powerful executives around the world, Lolly Daskal has observed that leaders rise to their positions relying on a specific set of values and traits. But in time, every executive reaches a point when their performance suffers and failure persists. Very few understand why or how to prevent it.

    buy now

     


    Additional Reading you might enjoy:

     

    Photo Credit: iStockPhotos

    The post The Most Effective Ways Leaders Handle Stress appeared first on Lolly Daskal.

     
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