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    5 Ways Smart People Sabotage Their Success 


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    Most of us believe that smart people are automatically successful, but that’s not always the case. Intelligent people may have an advantage out of the gate, but a surprising number end up sabotaging their own success. Here are five of the top reasons why:

    They think they know it all. When people genuinely believe they know everything they need to know, there’s no reason for them to work to develop, grow or evolve. It’s easy for them to become stuck in their ways, and over time they grow rusty and fall behind on new developments in their field.

    They feel entitled. Those who think they deserve special privileges and treatment often already have a significant advantage—whether it’s intelligence, wealth or social status. Entitled people tend to sit back and wait for success to come to them instead of putting in the hard work it takes to get there.

    They aren’t willing to take risks. Sometimes smart people rely on their intelligence and avoid risk at all costs—and as a result they miss out on a lot of great opportunities. Big rewards often require big risks, and those who aren’t willing to roll the dice have a much harder time moving past the middle of the pack.

    They overthink. The smarter you are, the more likely you are to overprepare and overanalyze. Of course it’s good to be thoughtful, but overthinking doesn’t just create a problem—it creates a problem were there wasn’t one before. There’s no bigger enemy to opportunity than the paralysis brought about by overthinking. It’s a surefire way for smart people to sabotage their own success.

    They lack emotional intelligence. People with high intelligence sometimes see other skills as less important. They rely on their IQ instead of working on their EQ, and they’re often painfully unaware of what’s happening around them and how their demeanor may be affecting the situation. People who grasp concepts quickly and demand high standards are especially prone to creating difficulties when they interact with others. Sometimes smart people rely so much on their intelligence that they miss out on the nuances of a situation where they could have been successful.

    Intelligence is a great gift. But at times it seduces smart people into thinking they’re destined to succeed when that’s not the reality. No matter how smart you are or what other gifts you’re blessed with, make sure you stay connected to reality and work to maintain balance in your attitudes and approach to leadership and work—and life.

    Lead from within: Smart people sabotage their own success all the time without even being aware they are doing it.

     


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  • feedwordpress 18:28:26 on 2018/06/10 Permalink
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    3 Simple but Effective Ways to Stop Sabotaging Yourself 


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    Have you ever said any of these sentences?

    “I can’t do it!”

    “That’s way too difficult!”

    “If I try, I’ll probably fail anyway.”

    ” I always fail. Why bother?”

    If you have, you’re far from alone.

    Unfortunately, many of us sound like this at one time or another. It’s called negative self-talk, and it can do you great harm. After all, what can be worse than an enemy that lives inside your head?

    If these thoughts and sentences start to come on a regular basis or more often than in the past, your inner saboteur is hard at work. This destructive force can stop you from achieving your goals and deter you from being successful.

    Suddenly you’re so worried and fearful about all the things that can go wrong that you don’t even give yourself a chance. The overthinking, the pausing, the uncertain stuck feeling? That’s the saboteur.

    It tends to appear when you stretch outside your comfort zone. It’s drawn by fear, and the longer you let fear remain unresolved, the longer the saboteur will stick around.

    Fear tries to tell you it is doing you a favor by holding you back where it’s safe–but you can’t linger in fear if you want to move forward.

    Instead, you need to learn how to move around and through the saboteur and find ways to achieve success. Here are three basic principles:

    1. Start with awareness.

    The first and most important key is recognizing your self-sabotaging behavior. Awareness is like the sun–when it shines on things, they cannot help being transformed. Awareness will allow you to get outside of yourself and observe how the saboteur keeps you stuck. We tend to see things as a reflection of our own state of mind, not as they are, so observation and awareness are the critical first steps toward overcoming.

    2. Get your mojo back.

    The second key is to get back your mojo–regain your confidence. the confidence where you believe in yourself, the self-esteem that will strengthen you to try new things and take bold risks. If you want to try great new things, start by thinking of all the positive outcomes that are possible. Try to maintain a positive mindset to conquer your fears. Then create a series of small steps, each of which will give you a small win. With each one, you’ll regain a little of your mojo. Don’t think of the things that can go wrong, but instead visualize all the glorious ways everything can go right.

    3. Let go of perfection.

    The third key, and in some ways the most important, is giving up the belief that you have to be perfect. It’s this mindset that invites fear to creep in–thoughts like What if I don’t do it right? I can’t. Why can’t I be better? The negativity of perfection is the perfect environment for the saboteur. So turn off your ideas of having to be perfect. Align yourself instead with positive beliefs about what you can accomplish and you will have the right mental, emotional, and physical states to do whatever you set your mind to.

    Listen for the voice of the saboteur. And when you hear it, know you have more control over it than it has over you. Never let it keep you from the things you want to do.

     


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    What Gets Between You and Your Greatness

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