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  • feedwordpress 14:30:12 on 2018/06/10 Permalink
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    How to Become a Better Person in Just 7 Days 

    Max Depree once said that we cannot become what we need to be by remaining what we are.

    If your goal is become a better person by being a better leader, businessperson, entrepreneur, parent, mentor, or teacher, then the first step is to learn to do better.

    And doing better is something we all can aspire to, wherever we are, whatever we’re already doing.

    That aspiration–to constantly improve, to always be changing and growing, to keep doing better–is what keeps us moving forward. However successful we already may be, it’s how we prepare the way for tomorrow’s success.

    The alternative is a sad one: to look back one day and wish you had done better.

    The time to start is today. Here are seven questions for the next seven days. If you can ask them with courage, answer them with truth, and put into use what you learn from them, the next seven days will be your master class on becoming a better person.

    Day 1: What do I sound like?

    Begin the day, by listening to the things you say–to others and to yourself. The way you sound is the best indicator of how you think. Do you express negativity or optimism? Complacency or joy? Acceptance or judgment? Learn to select your thoughts, and the changes in your speech and demeanor will follow. Make today the first day of sounding the way you want to feel.

    Day 2: What do I still need to learn?

    Feeling that you already know everything you need to know robs you of your ability to learn more. Ask yourself specifically what you still need to learn. It may be honing a skill, cultivating a new habit, bringing your technical knowledge up to date, or opening up a whole new field of study. If you are unwilling to learn, no one can help you, but if you are determined to learn, no one can stop you. Make today the first day of a new learning plan.

    Day 3: How can I be more purposeful?

    To be more purposeful is to be more present, which in turn makes you more approachable–not only to others but also to yourself.  As David Viscott writes: “The purpose of life is to discover your gift. The work of life is to develop it. The meaning of life is to give your gift away.” What can you do today to be more purposeful, more approachable more accessible, more present? Remember that your story counts, your voice matters, and you were born to make an impact. Make today the day you begin to focus on your purpose and meaning.

    Day 4: How can I become a better role model?

    Effectiveness as a role model begins with learning to love and respect yourself. It is a position of privilege, one that asks you to dig deeper to understand what is important to you and mold yourself into the best person you can be so you can lead by example. It’s not about making yourself into someone you’re not but about being genuine with who you are, with all your weakness and strengths, and living from that truth. Make today the day to start being an authentic role model. Be yourself, be your best, and do everything with excellence.

    Day 5: Whom do I need to forgive? 

    Where in your life do you need to apply forgiveness? And where can you let go of anger? Who has betrayed you, hurt you, caused you pain? Today you can become a better person by starting to right the wrongs in your life. Whether it’s yourself or someone else, make today the day to forgive so you can move on.

    Day 6: How can I lace everything with love?

    It was the Roman poet Ovid who said, “If you want to be loved, be lovable.” And the way to increase the store of love in our lives is by lacing everything with love. Love yourself, love your friends, your family, your partner, your colleagues, your bosses, your clients, your teachers–treat everyone you encounter as a beloved fellow human. Give freely of yourself without expecting anything in return. Make today the day you lace everything everything you say and do with unconditional love. There’s no greater game changer. Love is all there is.

    Day 7: How can I cultivate an attitude of gratitude?

    On the last day of the week that begins your better life, it’s time to focus on gratitude. Look back over your week with gratitude for who you are and what you have, and for who you are becoming and what you are gaining. What are you happy for in your life? What are you proud of? Don’t just think about them but be actively grateful–for the good things, because not everyone gets them, and for the bad things as well, because they bring you strength, growth, and empathy. Make today the starting point of a sense of gratitude that extends through all your days. Being grateful makes us appreciate what we have.

    At any point in your life, every day you have a brand-new opportunity to be a better person than who you were yesterday. When you pay attention to those opportunities and make the most of them, your reward will be a life of amazing growth and accomplishment.


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    What Gets Between You and Your Greatness

    After decades of coaching powerful executives around the world, Lolly Daskal has observed that leaders rise to their positions relying on a specific set of values and traits. But in time, every executive reaches a point when their performance suffers and failure persists. Very few understand why or how to prevent it.

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  • feedwordpress 09:04:56 on 2018/02/20 Permalink
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    How to Be The Best Role Model 

    Chances are, at some point you’ve worked with a leader whose example is still with you today. Maybe it was a leader who showed confidence when everyone else was frazzled, who stayed calm under intense pressure. Or a boss who deftly handled whiners and complainers, or a mentor whose patient guidance set you on the path you’re still following.

    Whatever their role, these are the people who know that who they are is as important as what they do. For them, setting a positive example is an integral element of leadership, a part of their life and work every day.

    So what kind of example are you setting? Whether you’re aware of it or not, your actions and attitudes are being watched. You’re setting an example, modeling acceptable behavior to others.

    How can you tell if you’re setting an example people can look up to? Here are some traits the best role models share:

    They lead with self-awareness. The best role models reflect honestly and productively on their own behavior and the impact they have on others. They consider the needs and feelings of others, they’re responsible for their actions and accountable for their mistakes, and, most important, they pay attention to how their words and actions affect others.

    They lead with positivity. Great role models know that no one can be cheerful all the time, but they look for opportunities in difficult situations and face challenges with resilience and energy. They inspire those around them with their positivity and optimism.

    They lead with empathy. Part of being a role model is tuning in to the feelings of those around you. It means meeting people where they are and relating to them with kindness, compassion, and understanding. At the heart, it’s as simple as acknowledging our shared humanity.

    They lead with humility. The best role models are humble enough to be honest when they’re not sure about something. They’re supportive when you need help, sincere when others are manipulative, and modest when others are showing off. Those who lead with humility are at their best when they’re encouraging others to succeed.

    They lead with integrity. Great role models enter every situation with their good character, morals, and principles firmly in place. They don’t preach; they don’t have to. They know their values and use them as the basis of their choices, and they have the decency to do the right thing even when it’s difficult.

    They lead with trust. Leaders with consistent character—the ones who “walk their talk”—develop an atmosphere of accountability and responsibility. And those elements form the foundations of trust. A commitment to building and earning trust is one of the most important elements of a great team.

    They lead with respect. Many people aspire to impressive titles in an effort to get others to respect them. But the best roles model understand that you earn respect through the way you treat others. They give respect, and in turn they receive it.

    They lead with honesty. People will naturally look up to you if they can count on you to tell the truth, however difficult or awkward it may be. This includes telling the truth about yourself, the mistakes you’ve made, and the places where your judgment has faltered. Your people will appreciate and emulate your transparency

    Whether you want to be or not, unless you live alone in a cave you’re probably somebody’s role model. That makes it important for each of us to remember that people learn more from what we do than what we say, more from what we are than what we teach.

    Lead from within. Whether you choose to be or not, you are a role model—so watch your words and be mindful of your actions, because people are looking at each other to be inspired.

    N A T I O N A L    B E S T S E L L E R


    What Gets Between You and Your Greatness

    After decades of coaching powerful executives around the world, Lolly Daskal has observed that leaders rise to their positions relying on a specific set of values and traits. But in time, every executive reaches a point when their performance suffers and failure persists. Very few understand why or how to prevent it.

    buy now


    Additional Reading you might enjoy:


    Photo Credit: Getty Images

    The post How to Be The Best Role Model appeared first on Lolly Daskal.

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