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  • feedwordpress 08:00:01 on 2019/09/24 Permalink
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    This is What Makes the Introverted Leader So Successful 


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    Leadership is a practice that often involves constant stimulation, socializing and communicating, all at a fast pace. It sounds like the last profession an introvert would want to pursue or would be successful in. But I have coached some exceptional introverted leaders to leverage the supposed weaknesses of their introversion into leadership strengths.

    The process of taking the traits you consider a weakness and repurposing them as strengths is a not an easy one, but it can create formidable leadership. Here are some of the ways that leaders leverage introversion:

    The quieter they are, the more they hear. Because most leaders are extroverts, they tend to do a lot of talking. But introverted leaders are great listeners, with a strong ability to concentrate and block out distractions. They’re able to listen between the words and dig deep into what people really mean when they speak—especially those who may not be comfortable speaking honestly. Listening is the core skill of communication, and introvert leaders create strong bonds through their ability to listen.

    The more restrained they are, the smarter they appear to be. Have you ever noticed that in meetings it’s rarely the loudest or most talkative person in the room who makes the most sense? It’s the quiet ones, the ones who show restraint, who come off as the most intelligent. Leaders who can monitor and control themselves are most effective leaders. Power lies in restraint.

    The more reflective they become, the deeper their thinking. Extroverted leaders often process information by speaking their thoughts out loud, but an introvert takes time to process information before they speak. They don’t jump to conclusions and they have the advantage of being more responsive than reactive. When you can slow down your thinking, your responses become deeper and your ideas more effective.

    The louder things get, the more silent they become. Silence is awkward for many of us, but introverted leaders are comfortable being silent no matter what’s going on around them. They don’t need to participate in every activity or fill silence with noise—they’re content to quietly observe. When they do speak, the volume may be low but the value is likely to be high.

    The more dominant others are, the more subdued they become. People often think leadership is about being assertive and dominant and authoritative, but that approach usually alienates people, It is the subdued, humble leaders that people most admire. Introverts have a natural tendency to draw people to them and tend to engage in more meaningful relationships compared to extroverts. An introvert doesn’t try to overshadow others, so they naturally elicit trust when developing relationships and creating connections.

    Extroverts may be chosen more often for leadership roles, but that doesn’t mean that introverts don’t make great leaders.

    Lead from within: In a world where outgoing social people are seen as more confident and capable, it’s the ones able to identify their people’s needs and plan more carefully who will make better, stronger and ultimately more influential leaders.

     


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    The Leadership Gap: What Gets Between You and Your Greatness


    After decades of coaching powerful executives around the world, Lolly Daskal has observed that leaders rise to their positions relying on a specific set of values and traits. But in time, every executive reaches a point when their performance suffers and failure persists. Very few understand why or how to prevent it.

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  • feedwordpress 08:00:51 on 2019/07/18 Permalink
    Tags: , , Lack Of Leadership, , , , , relationships, ,   

    7 Ways to Lead People Who Don’t Want to Lead 


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    As leaders, an important part of our work is helping others developing their leadership abilities. But what can you do about people who don’t think of themselves as leaders?

    There are many reasons why people who could be great leaders don’t want to lead. They may have outdated or incorrect beliefs about leadership or a bad experience in their past. Whatever the origin of their resistance, you need to first understand it so you can address it.

    Here are some of the common obstacles people put in their own leadership path. If you have a reluctant leader, there’s a good chance that one or more of these will apply:

    They’re simply afraid. There are people who really want to lead but are fearful they might not have what it takes. Help them understand that fear is a natural emotion when you step outside your comfort zone, but you have to feel the fear and do it anyway.

    They’re waiting for an opportunity. As leaders, we’re accustomed to taking initiative on our own. But many others have the opposite mindset—they’re waiting patiently waiting for a place to lead. Find ways to show those who are waiting to know this is their time. Help them find inspiration by steering them toward an area where they can make an impact, and make sure they know their abilities are needed.

    They don’t know how. Beginning leaders always have more questions than answers, and some think that means they need to wait to lead until they know more or have more experience. You can best help these people by offering to mentor them or getting them a coach or a class. Remind them that no one starts out knowing everything and that successful leaders are always learning. Make sure they see you watching, listening, reading, and asking questions.

    They’ve failed in the past. If someone’s held a leadership role in the past and it didn’t work out, they may be reluctant to try again. This is a great opportunity to motivate someone who has given up to try again with a reminder that best leaders have failed many times, perhaps more times than they have succeeded. As someone once said, success is a combination of what you learn through failures. Talk about some of your own failures and what you learned from them. Show the importance of tenacity and make sure they know you believe in them.

    They’re waiting for a leadership title. Some people believe they aren’t in a position to lead unless their title is manager or director. As a leader, it’s your job to help everyone on your team find a way to lead from within and discover the ways they can serve or add value to others. Focus on the gifts and talents of everyone on your team and make sure people know that if they inspire or influence someone, whatever their role, they are a leader.

    Lead from within: Leadership is not a destiny granted to a few but a choice available to all of us and if we don’t embrace it, we won’t find it.

     


     

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    The Leadership Gap: What Gets Between You and Your Greatness

     

    After decades of coaching powerful executives around the world, Lolly Daskal has observed that leaders rise to their positions relying on a specific set of values and traits. But in time, every executive reaches a point when their performance suffers and failure persists. Very few understand why or how to prevent it.

    buy now

     


    Additional Reading you might enjoy:

     

    Photo Credit: iStockPhotos

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  • feedwordpress 08:00:30 on 2019/04/18 Permalink
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    10 Ways to Make Sure People Love Working For You 


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    If you want people to love working for you, it’s important that you keep them happy. Many studies and workplace reports show that employee happiness has a direct tie to the bottom line.

    Happy people are more creative, innovative and dedicated than their unhappy counterparts. And they are more likely to be loyal and responsible and to stick around for a long time.

    It’s the very definition of a win-win situation. And the best way to make it happen is to create an environment and culture that foster employee happiness. Here are some of the most important things you can do:

    Make people feel important. When you create an environment in which people feel important, it becomes a place where they want to spend more time. When people know they matter and believe they are contributing in ways that make an impact, they want to stick around and follow the leader who makes them feel significant.

    Let people know they’re being heard. It sounds simple enough, but it’s something many leaders don’t bother to do. People want to know someone is listening—really listening. Being heard means that when problems are uncovered, people work together and take action to fix the issues, and it’s an important part of happiness at work.

    Deliver praise and appreciation often. Everyone wants to be appreciated and recognized for their efforts, but when things get frantic—as they often do—leaders too often forget the power of simple words like “thank you,” “I appreciate you,” and “I value the work you’re doing.” These simple phrases can be a game changer for how people feel about your leadership.

    Make work fulfilling. Everyone wants their work to have a purpose. For people to feel good about the work they’re producing, they need to believe it’s part of something meaningful. It’s your job as their leader to make sure they know what that looks like. Allow people to see the inner workings of the organization from all angles and perspectives. When you do, they feel better connected and more committed to its mission. Success by itself doesn’t breed happiness—it’s the other way around.

    Prioritize work-life balance. It is important that people understand you value them as a person. One powerful way to make that happen is to make work-life balance a clear priority. You may want to let people work from home on Fridays, provide discounted child or elder care, or find other incentives that improve people’s overall quality of life. Attention to work-life issues shows you care about your people—at work and away.

    Encourage wellness. Encouraging people in wellness and health by supporting positive steps in areas like exercise, diet and meditation will create a lot of happiness. People often work too hard and for too many hours. As a result, they don’t feel well and may become unhappy. Encouraging wellness says you care the people on your team.

    Engage in meaningful dialogue. It’s important to engage in meaningful conversations—not only about work but also about deeper issues and what’s going on in people’s lives. Meaningful dialogue connects people in profound ways, and more connected people are happier at work.

    Refrain from micromanaging. Employees who feel trusted and supported, without being hovered over, are more relaxed and confident in the work  they do. When you’re tempted to micromanage, remember why you hired your team and trust them to make the right decisions without interference. Giving people the freedom to do their jobs as they think best will keep their confidence high, adding to the success of your organization.

    Be accessible and available. If your door is always closed and your tone says “Do not disturb,” people will feel disconnected from the person whose thoughts, opinions and guidance they most need. People want to know that their leader is invested in them. When you are accessible and available, you send a clear message that people can count on you and you’ll be there for them.

    Help them grow and develop. There’s no better way to show you care about your people and you’re serious about investing in them as individuals than to foster their personal and professional can growth and development. Your support and encouragement show that you believe in them, you recognize their potential and you want them to succeed as individuals.

    Lead from within: If you want people to love working for you, show them the love they deserve and make them happy.

     


    #1 N A T I O N A L  B E S T S E L L E R

    The Leadership Gap: What Gets Between You and Your Greatness


    After decades of coaching powerful executives around the world, Lolly Daskal has observed that leaders rise to their positions relying on a specific set of values and traits. But in time, every executive reaches a point when their performance suffers and failure persists. Very few understand why or how to prevent it.

    buy now

     


    Additional Reading you might enjoy:

     

    Photo Credit: iStockPhotos

    The post 10 Ways to Make Sure People Love Working For You appeared first on Lolly Daskal.

     
  • feedwordpress 09:00:34 on 2019/01/07 Permalink
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    When Is It Important to Change How You Lead 


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    I have a habit of reading a book a day, and my favorite subjects are history and biography. I like to study what has happened to leaders in the past and how they dealt with their own challenging times.

    We have our own challenges in the here and now: business changes quickly and technology is constantly evolving. But the principles of leadership are timeless. So do we change our leadership to adapt, or stay the course we’re already on?

    As with so many things, the answer is “It depends.” The changes themselves aren’t the issue—it’s the things that get lost in the shuffle. Especially when change is whirling around you, take some time to examine the basics and see what’s missing—then adapt your leadership to provide it. Here are some examples:

    When character is lost, lead with character. Character sets the tone for how people will be, and when it goes missing it leaves a definite void. Lead by example; show what character looks like and sounds like. The importance of character can’t be overstated. Authentic leaders are grounded in a strong set of personal values that can have a profound effect on everyone.

    When self-awareness is lacking, lead with self-awareness. Research suggests that leaders who are self-aware—who know themselves—are up to four times more effective in managing change than people who aren’t. The need for self-awareness and understanding is a constant. “Leader, know thyself” is the biggest asset to leadership.

    When honesty is gone, lead with integrity. There’s nothing more destructive than dishonesty, and broken trust can rarely be regained. In a broken environment it’s more important than ever to lead with integrity and to maintain standards of honor and truthfulness. However difficult it may seem, it always pays off in the end.

    When empathy isn’t present, lead with compassion. One of the most valuable traits a leader can possess is the ability to tune in to people and truly understand them. Understanding the emotions of others equips you to respond to them and to develop strong relationships. When empathy is missing from a workplace, a leader needs to set the tone by demonstrating the power of compassion and understanding.

    When decisiveness is absent, lead with determination. One of the biggest challenges of our time is trying to choose from a dizzying multitude of options. Decisiveness has never been more important. In its absence, a leader needs to be even quicker on their feet and prepared to gather data quickly and make huge decisions on the fly in an educated manner.

    When optimism is gone, lead with positivity. Even the sunniest people find it hard to keep up positive energy in a sour environment. When morale sinks, an excellent leader can always start to change things up. They know the power of encouraging words and team spirit, and they make sure people feel good enough about what they are doing in order to keep forging forward.

    When vision is missing, lead with a viewpoint. It’s incredibly hard to rally a group of people together without vision, so it’s imperative for a leader to connect people with a vision so compelling that it draws them to become part of it.

    When innovation is absent, lead with creativity. If those around you are not tapping into the team’s innovation or creativity, it’s the leader’s duty to demonstrate inventiveness and inspiration, leading others to think and act with creatively and passion.

    To truly be a timeless leader you need to pay attention to what is missing and become the person who provides it. The times will keep changing and so will you, but if you grow in leadership while staying agile and alert, you will be able to deliver great leadership under any circumstances.

    Lead from within: Different types of leadership are needed at different times. Figure out what is right for the circumstance and become the agent of needed change.

     


     

    N A T I O N A L   B E S T S E L L E R
    The Leadership Gap: What Gets Between You and Your Greatness

    After decades of coaching powerful executives around the world, Lolly Daskal has observed that leaders rise to their positions relying on a specific set of values and traits. But in time, every executive reaches a point when their performance suffers and failure persists. Very few understand why or how to prevent it.

    buy now

     


    Additional Reading you might enjoy:

     

    Photo Credit: iStockPhotos

    The post When Is It Important to Change How You Lead appeared first on Lolly Daskal.

     
  • feedwordpress 09:00:34 on 2019/01/07 Permalink
    Tags: , , , , , , , , , relationships, ,   

    When Is It Important to Change How You Lead 


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    I have a habit of reading a book a day, and my favorite subjects are history and biography. I like to study what has happened to leaders in the past and how they dealt with their own challenging times.

    We have our own challenges in the here and now: business changes quickly and technology is constantly evolving. But the principles of leadership are timeless. So do we change our leadership to adapt, or stay the course we’re already on?

    As with so many things, the answer is “It depends.” The changes themselves aren’t the issue—it’s the things that get lost in the shuffle. Especially when change is whirling around you, take some time to examine the basics and see what’s missing—then adapt your leadership to provide it. Here are some examples:

    When character is lost, lead with character. Character sets the tone for how people will be, and when it goes missing it leaves a definite void. Lead by example; show what character looks like and sounds like. The importance of character can’t be overstated. Authentic leaders are grounded in a strong set of personal values that can have a profound effect on everyone.

    When self-awareness is lacking, lead with self-awareness. Research suggests that leaders who are self-aware—who know themselves—are up to four times more effective in managing change than people who aren’t. The need for self-awareness and understanding is a constant. “Leader, know thyself” is the biggest asset to leadership.

    When honesty is gone, lead with integrity. There’s nothing more destructive than dishonesty, and broken trust can rarely be regained. In a broken environment it’s more important than ever to lead with integrity and to maintain standards of honor and truthfulness. However difficult it may seem, it always pays off in the end.

    When empathy isn’t present, lead with compassion. One of the most valuable traits a leader can possess is the ability to tune in to people and truly understand them. Understanding the emotions of others equips you to respond to them and to develop strong relationships. When empathy is missing from a workplace, a leader needs to set the tone by demonstrating the power of compassion and understanding.

    When decisiveness is absent, lead with determination. One of the biggest challenges of our time is trying to choose from a dizzying multitude of options. Decisiveness has never been more important. In its absence, a leader needs to be even quicker on their feet and prepared to gather data quickly and make huge decisions on the fly in an educated manner.

    When optimism is gone, lead with positivity. Even the sunniest people find it hard to keep up positive energy in a sour environment. When morale sinks, an excellent leader can always start to change things up. They know the power of encouraging words and team spirit, and they make sure people feel good enough about what they are doing in order to keep forging forward.

    When vision is missing, lead with a viewpoint. It’s incredibly hard to rally a group of people together without vision, so it’s imperative for a leader to connect people with a vision so compelling that it draws them to become part of it.

    When innovation is absent, lead with creativity. If those around you are not tapping into the team’s innovation or creativity, it’s the leader’s duty to demonstrate inventiveness and inspiration, leading others to think and act with creatively and passion.

    To truly be a timeless leader you need to pay attention to what is missing and become the person who provides it. The times will keep changing and so will you, but if you grow in leadership while staying agile and alert, you will be able to deliver great leadership under any circumstances.

    Lead from within: Different types of leadership are needed at different times. Figure out what is right for the circumstance and become the agent of needed change.

     


     

    N A T I O N A L   B E S T S E L L E R
    The Leadership Gap: What Gets Between You and Your Greatness

    After decades of coaching powerful executives around the world, Lolly Daskal has observed that leaders rise to their positions relying on a specific set of values and traits. But in time, every executive reaches a point when their performance suffers and failure persists. Very few understand why or how to prevent it.

    buy now

     


    Additional Reading you might enjoy:

     

    Photo Credit: iStockPhotos

    The post When Is It Important to Change How You Lead appeared first on Lolly Daskal.

     
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