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    10 Ways to Make Sure People Love Working For You 


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    If you want people to love working for you, it’s important that you keep them happy. Many studies and workplace reports show that employee happiness has a direct tie to the bottom line.

    Happy people are more creative, innovative and dedicated than their unhappy counterparts. And they are more likely to be loyal and responsible and to stick around for a long time.

    It’s the very definition of a win-win situation. And the best way to make it happen is to create an environment and culture that foster employee happiness. Here are some of the most important things you can do:

    Make people feel important. When you create an environment in which people feel important, it becomes a place where they want to spend more time. When people know they matter and believe they are contributing in ways that make an impact, they want to stick around and follow the leader who makes them feel significant.

    Let people know they’re being heard. It sounds simple enough, but it’s something many leaders don’t bother to do. People want to know someone is listening—really listening. Being heard means that when problems are uncovered, people work together and take action to fix the issues, and it’s an important part of happiness at work.

    Deliver praise and appreciation often. Everyone wants to be appreciated and recognized for their efforts, but when things get frantic—as they often do—leaders too often forget the power of simple words like “thank you,” “I appreciate you,” and “I value the work you’re doing.” These simple phrases can be a game changer for how people feel about your leadership.

    Make work fulfilling. Everyone wants their work to have a purpose. For people to feel good about the work they’re producing, they need to believe it’s part of something meaningful. It’s your job as their leader to make sure they know what that looks like. Allow people to see the inner workings of the organization from all angles and perspectives. When you do, they feel better connected and more committed to its mission. Success by itself doesn’t breed happiness—it’s the other way around.

    Prioritize work-life balance. It is important that people understand you value them as a person. One powerful way to make that happen is to make work-life balance a clear priority. You may want to let people work from home on Fridays, provide discounted child or elder care, or find other incentives that improve people’s overall quality of life. Attention to work-life issues shows you care about your people—at work and away.

    Encourage wellness. Encouraging people in wellness and health by supporting positive steps in areas like exercise, diet and meditation will create a lot of happiness. People often work too hard and for too many hours. As a result, they don’t feel well and may become unhappy. Encouraging wellness says you care the people on your team.

    Engage in meaningful dialogue. It’s important to engage in meaningful conversations—not only about work but also about deeper issues and what’s going on in people’s lives. Meaningful dialogue connects people in profound ways, and more connected people are happier at work.

    Refrain from micromanaging. Employees who feel trusted and supported, without being hovered over, are more relaxed and confident in the work  they do. When you’re tempted to micromanage, remember why you hired your team and trust them to make the right decisions without interference. Giving people the freedom to do their jobs as they think best will keep their confidence high, adding to the success of your organization.

    Be accessible and available. If your door is always closed and your tone says “Do not disturb,” people will feel disconnected from the person whose thoughts, opinions and guidance they most need. People want to know that their leader is invested in them. When you are accessible and available, you send a clear message that people can count on you and you’ll be there for them.

    Help them grow and develop. There’s no better way to show you care about your people and you’re serious about investing in them as individuals than to foster their personal and professional can growth and development. Your support and encouragement show that you believe in them, you recognize their potential and you want them to succeed as individuals.

    Lead from within: If you want people to love working for you, show them the love they deserve and make them happy.

     


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  • feedwordpress 09:00:34 on 2019/01/07 Permalink
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    When Is It Important to Change How You Lead 


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    I have a habit of reading a book a day, and my favorite subjects are history and biography. I like to study what has happened to leaders in the past and how they dealt with their own challenging times.

    We have our own challenges in the here and now: business changes quickly and technology is constantly evolving. But the principles of leadership are timeless. So do we change our leadership to adapt, or stay the course we’re already on?

    As with so many things, the answer is “It depends.” The changes themselves aren’t the issue—it’s the things that get lost in the shuffle. Especially when change is whirling around you, take some time to examine the basics and see what’s missing—then adapt your leadership to provide it. Here are some examples:

    When character is lost, lead with character. Character sets the tone for how people will be, and when it goes missing it leaves a definite void. Lead by example; show what character looks like and sounds like. The importance of character can’t be overstated. Authentic leaders are grounded in a strong set of personal values that can have a profound effect on everyone.

    When self-awareness is lacking, lead with self-awareness. Research suggests that leaders who are self-aware—who know themselves—are up to four times more effective in managing change than people who aren’t. The need for self-awareness and understanding is a constant. “Leader, know thyself” is the biggest asset to leadership.

    When honesty is gone, lead with integrity. There’s nothing more destructive than dishonesty, and broken trust can rarely be regained. In a broken environment it’s more important than ever to lead with integrity and to maintain standards of honor and truthfulness. However difficult it may seem, it always pays off in the end.

    When empathy isn’t present, lead with compassion. One of the most valuable traits a leader can possess is the ability to tune in to people and truly understand them. Understanding the emotions of others equips you to respond to them and to develop strong relationships. When empathy is missing from a workplace, a leader needs to set the tone by demonstrating the power of compassion and understanding.

    When decisiveness is absent, lead with determination. One of the biggest challenges of our time is trying to choose from a dizzying multitude of options. Decisiveness has never been more important. In its absence, a leader needs to be even quicker on their feet and prepared to gather data quickly and make huge decisions on the fly in an educated manner.

    When optimism is gone, lead with positivity. Even the sunniest people find it hard to keep up positive energy in a sour environment. When morale sinks, an excellent leader can always start to change things up. They know the power of encouraging words and team spirit, and they make sure people feel good enough about what they are doing in order to keep forging forward.

    When vision is missing, lead with a viewpoint. It’s incredibly hard to rally a group of people together without vision, so it’s imperative for a leader to connect people with a vision so compelling that it draws them to become part of it.

    When innovation is absent, lead with creativity. If those around you are not tapping into the team’s innovation or creativity, it’s the leader’s duty to demonstrate inventiveness and inspiration, leading others to think and act with creatively and passion.

    To truly be a timeless leader you need to pay attention to what is missing and become the person who provides it. The times will keep changing and so will you, but if you grow in leadership while staying agile and alert, you will be able to deliver great leadership under any circumstances.

    Lead from within: Different types of leadership are needed at different times. Figure out what is right for the circumstance and become the agent of needed change.

     


     

    N A T I O N A L   B E S T S E L L E R
    The Leadership Gap: What Gets Between You and Your Greatness

    After decades of coaching powerful executives around the world, Lolly Daskal has observed that leaders rise to their positions relying on a specific set of values and traits. But in time, every executive reaches a point when their performance suffers and failure persists. Very few understand why or how to prevent it.

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  • feedwordpress 09:00:34 on 2019/01/07 Permalink
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    When Is It Important to Change How You Lead 


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    I have a habit of reading a book a day, and my favorite subjects are history and biography. I like to study what has happened to leaders in the past and how they dealt with their own challenging times.

    We have our own challenges in the here and now: business changes quickly and technology is constantly evolving. But the principles of leadership are timeless. So do we change our leadership to adapt, or stay the course we’re already on?

    As with so many things, the answer is “It depends.” The changes themselves aren’t the issue—it’s the things that get lost in the shuffle. Especially when change is whirling around you, take some time to examine the basics and see what’s missing—then adapt your leadership to provide it. Here are some examples:

    When character is lost, lead with character. Character sets the tone for how people will be, and when it goes missing it leaves a definite void. Lead by example; show what character looks like and sounds like. The importance of character can’t be overstated. Authentic leaders are grounded in a strong set of personal values that can have a profound effect on everyone.

    When self-awareness is lacking, lead with self-awareness. Research suggests that leaders who are self-aware—who know themselves—are up to four times more effective in managing change than people who aren’t. The need for self-awareness and understanding is a constant. “Leader, know thyself” is the biggest asset to leadership.

    When honesty is gone, lead with integrity. There’s nothing more destructive than dishonesty, and broken trust can rarely be regained. In a broken environment it’s more important than ever to lead with integrity and to maintain standards of honor and truthfulness. However difficult it may seem, it always pays off in the end.

    When empathy isn’t present, lead with compassion. One of the most valuable traits a leader can possess is the ability to tune in to people and truly understand them. Understanding the emotions of others equips you to respond to them and to develop strong relationships. When empathy is missing from a workplace, a leader needs to set the tone by demonstrating the power of compassion and understanding.

    When decisiveness is absent, lead with determination. One of the biggest challenges of our time is trying to choose from a dizzying multitude of options. Decisiveness has never been more important. In its absence, a leader needs to be even quicker on their feet and prepared to gather data quickly and make huge decisions on the fly in an educated manner.

    When optimism is gone, lead with positivity. Even the sunniest people find it hard to keep up positive energy in a sour environment. When morale sinks, an excellent leader can always start to change things up. They know the power of encouraging words and team spirit, and they make sure people feel good enough about what they are doing in order to keep forging forward.

    When vision is missing, lead with a viewpoint. It’s incredibly hard to rally a group of people together without vision, so it’s imperative for a leader to connect people with a vision so compelling that it draws them to become part of it.

    When innovation is absent, lead with creativity. If those around you are not tapping into the team’s innovation or creativity, it’s the leader’s duty to demonstrate inventiveness and inspiration, leading others to think and act with creatively and passion.

    To truly be a timeless leader you need to pay attention to what is missing and become the person who provides it. The times will keep changing and so will you, but if you grow in leadership while staying agile and alert, you will be able to deliver great leadership under any circumstances.

    Lead from within: Different types of leadership are needed at different times. Figure out what is right for the circumstance and become the agent of needed change.

     


     

    N A T I O N A L   B E S T S E L L E R
    The Leadership Gap: What Gets Between You and Your Greatness

    After decades of coaching powerful executives around the world, Lolly Daskal has observed that leaders rise to their positions relying on a specific set of values and traits. But in time, every executive reaches a point when their performance suffers and failure persists. Very few understand why or how to prevent it.

    buy now

     


    Additional Reading you might enjoy:

     

    Photo Credit: iStockPhotos

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  • feedwordpress 08:00:55 on 2018/08/23 Permalink
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    7 Things the Most Respected Leaders Do Every Day 


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    Everyone wants to be respected and admired, but often we are afraid of being perceived as too aggressive or overly confident in our pursuit of own greatness.

    While you can’t control other people’s opinions, you can always control your own actions. Respect takes time and effort—it’s not something you’re given but something you earn. Here are six top ways that the best leaders earn respect every day:

    They first give respect. Respected leaders know you must show respect before you can earn respect. They treat everyone with courtesy and kindness; even when criticizing or giving feedback, they’re always considerate and compassionate. As the saying goes, people will forget what you said and they’ll forget what you did, but they’ll never forget how you made them feel.

    They keep their promises. If they tell you they’re going to do something, you know you can count on them to get it done. For a leader to become known as a person who can’t be trusted is one of the quickest ways to engineer a loss of respect. The best leaders are always aware that people are counting on them, and they do everything they can to deliver on their promises and earn the respect of their people.

    They listen before speaking.
    The best leaders are typically the best listeners. Taking the time to listen instead of rushing in with an opinion shows that they’re confident in their leadership. It’s the insecure leaders who always have to speak first and signal that their thoughts are most important. Even in disagreement, everyone deserves to be heard—and a a true leader knows how to use listening, and silence, to their advantage.

    They ask for help. Most people see asking for help is a sign of weakness, but respected leaders are secure enough to admit they need help and view asking as a sign of strength. I always tell my clients that vulnerable is the new strong. It’s a smart leader who asks for help to learn and grow.

    They admit when they’re wrong. Most of us find it hard to admit when we’re wrong, but a respected leader is quick to say, “I messed up” or “I made a mistake” or “I was wrong.” It’s only the narcissistic, self-centered, egotistic leaders who they think they’re always right even when they are wrong—an attitude that costs them in respect.

    They serve others. Respected leaders know that nothing great can ever be accomplished alone. At its core, leadership is about serving others and inspiring them to bring out their own greatness. Great leaders inspire others by empowering and serving them.

    They appreciate others. The most respected leaders genuinely care about others and show admiration. These powerful traits show that they can see beyond themselves and have the emotional intelligence to celebrate others and boost the confidence and self-esteem of everyone around them. Leaders with a reputation for caring are among the most highly respected people anywhere.

    Lead from within: The well-respected leader knows respect is hard to attain but easy to lose.


     

    N A T I O N A L   B E S T S E L L E R
    The Leadership Gap: What Gets Between You and Your Greatness

    After decades of coaching powerful executives around the world, Lolly Daskal has observed that leaders rise to their positions relying on a specific set of values and traits. But in time, every executive reaches a point when their performance suffers and failure persists. Very few understand why or how to prevent it.

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    Additional Reading you might enjoy:

     

    Photo Credit: iStockPhotos

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  • feedwordpress 01:40:43 on 2018/06/11 Permalink
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    7 Warning Signs You’re In a Failing Relationship 


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    Relationships are at the core of the most important things we do, not only as leaders but also as humans.

    Relationships are how we form partnerships and families and organizations and communities.

    All relationships–personal and professional–experience ups and downs. There are great times when you can almost read each other’s minds, followed by challenging periods when you seem to be miles apart. These variations happen even in healthy relationships too. But if things seem to be more down than up when you look at an important relationship in your life–whether it’s a colleague or a friend, a key employee or a business partner–you may start to wonder if something more serious is going on.

    Here are some symptoms that should cause you concern, together with the preventive measures that can help you keep your relationships healthy:

    1. Resentment. Resentment grows when someone feels unheard or dismissed. Left unchecked, it leads to bitterness and a smoldering anger that scorches everything around it. Communication goes from difficult to impossible and negativity is overwhelming. The best prevention is a combination of equity and communication. Make sure everything, from cash to household or office responsibilities, is handled fairly, and if there’s something on your mind or you’re feeling frustrated by a situation, talk about it.

    2. Disrespect. Mutual respect is a cornerstone of all successful relationships. If you’re sensing disrespect, whether you’re giving it or receiving, you have a fundamental problem. It’s sometimes a case of never having learned how to disagree respectfully, and at other times a more serious or personal issue.

    3. Dishonesty. An occasional lie is forgivable–and, depending on your moral outlook and the situation, sometimes even appropriate–but lies about serious matters, or a daily barrage of deception, are seriously harmful. Often a key to the source lies in asking yourselves what function the lies are playing. Is it to give an illusion of competence in some area, or to prop up a failing sense of self-respect? Once you understand why, you can find more positive ways to achieve the same end.

    4. Mistrust. A single betrayal–or an act perceived as a betrayal–can wipe out a lifetime of trust. If trust is absent, again, ask why? Is it warranted, or is it coming from something unresolved in in a past relationship? If there has been a breach, is it too serious to be mended?

    5. Distancing. If one or both partners is consistently tuning out, seeking distractions, and making a conscious effort to avoid making a connection, it may be that the bond between you has already been severed. People check out for all kinds of reasons–some temporary, others permanent.

    6. Defensiveness. It’s not unusual to respond defensively when you’re challenged. Over time, defensiveness shifts into the “whatever” stage, which throws up a protective isolating barrier. Wherever the need for this protective stance originates, it prevents open communication and a meaningful relationship.

    7. Contempt. The most serious possible sign; once a relationship is at this point, the odds of survival are low. It’s often a way of turning one’s own despised and unwanted feelings outward, so left alone it may recur in later relationships as well.

    Think about the relationships that are important in your life and work, and ask yourself if they have any of these qualities. If so, you need to take action. It may mean a new focus on growing together in healthier ways, or more structured communication, or a change in the ground rules. You may need the assistance of a counselor to make things right–and you may end up needing to walk away. But with the right intervention and a commitment to success from both parties, you can end up with a newly strengthened partnership.

     


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    THE LEADERSHIP GAP

    What Gets Between You and Your Greatness

    After decades of coaching powerful executives around the world, Lolly Daskal has observed that leaders rise to their positions relying on a specific set of values and traits. But in time, every executive reaches a point when their performance suffers and failure persists. Very few understand why or how to prevent it.

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    Additional Reading you might enjoy:

     

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