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  • feedwordpress 13:12:35 on 2021/05/01 Permalink
    Tags: , , driving, , Florida, , Personality,   

    How to Apply 4 Rules of the Road as Workplace Lessons 

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    On a recent trip to Florida, I observed three types of drivers.

    • Older adults. Many appear to struggle seeing clearly and have decreased reflexes which results in slow driving and slower reaction time.
    • Younger adults. Often, they speed, cutting off other drivers as they weave in and out of multiple lanes without using turn signals.
    • Out-of-towners. These people are driving unfamiliar rental cars on unfamiliar roads .Taking their eyes off the road to fiddle with their navigation apps equals a lot of distracted drivers.

    Adding these behaviors together is akin to navigating a minefield. Stressful. Frightening. Hazardous. It made me wonder if driving styles and personalities are related. According to numerous published studies, they are, and people are genuinely interested in why. Tom Vanderbilt’s book Traffic: Why We Drive The Way We Do and What It Says About Us, examines the psychology of human beings behind the steering wheel is a best seller. Vanderbilt observes driving is one of the most complex things we do in our lives and when we forget that it’s not as easy as it seems, we get into trouble.

    Wanting to learn more, I came across a quiz at LittleThings.com asking readers to determine which driving style best matches their personality. For example, the quiz positions an “Adventurer” as a risk taker who enjoys thrilling activities like bungee jumping and skydiving. I imagine that means this person is a more aggressive driver who will grab the road with gusto.

    Then there is the opposite labeled “Nervous Nellie”, an anxious person who shies away from high-risk activities. On the road, Nellies probably takes it slow and plays it safe and may take longer to make decisions.

    Then I began to wonder how this translates to the workplace. If someone who is a perfectionist was taught to keep their hands at “10 and 2” on the wheel and always does, does that mean they are more likely to be as exacting at work? If so, how does their pursuit of perfection affect their ability to interact with others? Are they more likely to decide their way is the right way?

    While there is a good amount of literature on how personality affects driving behaviors, statistics vary according to age groups and countries. However, in my experience working closely with leaders and their employees, I believe habits of all drivers regardless of age or location can also offer us valuable lessons when handling life’s lanes.

    Don’t take it personally

    While you might be horrified by the driver who pulls in front of you with very little room to make a left-hand turn from a right-hand lane, even though their behavior puts you in danger, their aggression may not be directed toward you. At work, you also can’t control what others say and do. You can only control what you say and do and that should be your focus.

    Set an example

    If someone is tailgating you and blaring their horn, it’s imperative to stay calm and if you can, move out of the way. On the road and at work, you may prevent the situation from escalating. You are also setting an example and taking responsibility for your own actions. Attitude matters.

    Adapt and adjust

    If traffic is backed up for miles and you are going to be late to an appointment, do you sit for hours or do you look for alternative routes? Probably the latter. Developing problem solving skills and the ability to change lanes is not something that comes easy to everyone. Improving these skills can build confidence and improve credibility at work.

    Be present

    It’s normal to check our rear-view mirror or glance at a billboard because most of the time our gaze is on the road in front of us. When we fidget with our phones and other technology, accidents are more prone to happen. At work, it’s also important to focus and be present when others are speaking to us.

    Finally, while older, younger and out-of-town drivers are not limited to Florida, regardless of where the road takes you, it’s important to remember the rules of the road apply to everyone regardless of title or position. Having your own unique style is great as long as expressing it doesn’t put others in harm’s way.

  • feedwordpress 13:14:44 on 2018/06/11 Permalink
    Tags: Behaviors, , , , Judgments, , , Personality, ,   

    7 Behaviors That Influence How People Judge Your Personality 

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    From the first moment you meet someone, they are–consciously or unconsciously–judging you.

    Even before you’ve opened your mouth, they’ve started the process of assessing who you are and what you’re about.

    That’s why it’s important to pay attention to the cues you’re sending out–especially the ones you don’t normally register. Here are seven things to be particularly aware of in yourself:

    1. The way you treat others.

    How you make others feel about themselves says a lot about who you are. People will draw conclusions about your character based on how you treat others–especially people in service positions, those who aren’t in a position to help you, and those who are different from you. Do you show the same respect and courtesy to all?

    2. The way you stand.

    Body language is a reflection of your inner self. Are you slumped and slouching, or standing (or sitting) tall and confident? Is your posture open or closed? Are you aware of others around you and mindful of them in your movements?

    3. The way you dress.

    When you invest time and energy in your appearance and clothes, it shows attention to detail and self-respect. On the other hand, too much attention to appearance can make you look superficial and even vain. Aim for the middle–something appropriate to the occasion that reflects your personality in a low-key way. And remember, there’s never a place for unkempt or dirty clothing.

    4. The way you tip.

    People always watch how others tip. Depending on the level of service and the size of your tip, you can send a message that you’re a straight-down-the-middle conformist, that you refuse to reward poor performance, or that you’re open-hearted and generous. The choice is yours.

    5. The way you handle your phone.

    If you can turn it off or leave it alone, you look calm and in control. But if you’re constantly taking peeks, you appear more anxious and fidgety. Points of etiquette are important, as well: Do you excuse yourself to take calls, or force everyone to listen to your one-sided conversation? Make your phone as unobtrusive as possible to leave the best impression.

    6. The way you express yourself.

    The way you use language is a visible window into how your mind works. Think about whether your speech is measured and eloquent or quick-fire and sometimes scattered, how formal or informal you are in addressing others, even your word choices–do you tend to use absolutes like “always” and “never,” or are you a more moderate fan of words like “maybe” and “uncertain”?

    7. The way you value time.

    When you’re punctual, you appear proactive and on top of things. When you’re late, on the other hand, people are quick to judge you as disorganized, inconsiderate, or both. The same kind of judgments hold true for other time-related issues, like procrastination or letting meetings drag on past their purpose.

    The bottom line is that people will judge you whether you like it or not. It may be that you genuinely don’t care what other people think–even though that’s a rarity. For most of us, it pays to be attentive to the messages we’re sending and the ways others are likely to see us.

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