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  • feedwordpress 22:50:27 on 2021/05/19 Permalink
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    Why Being a Self Serving Leader is So Dangerous 


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    Good leadership is focused on others, but self-serving leadership undermines that principle to focus on the ego and the symptoms can take hold and begin damaging your leadership before you’re even aware. Be on guard against these signs so you can recognize them in yourself before they take root and grow:

    Arguing. If you find yourself often arguing with others or in a mindset where you’re right and others are wrong, you’re likely coming across as rigid and unwilling to listen. Stop arguing and start being open to finding points of agreement.

    Absence. If you’re always engaged in something else when your people need you, they’ll see you as distracted, absorbed and preoccupied. Work to becoming a leader who empowers, inspires and motivates by being available and accessible.

    Defensiveness. When your leadership is about protecting and defending yourself, you’re likely to find yourself working against those you’re supposed to be leading.

    Boasting. When you take all the credit instead of sharing it with your team, you show them where your priorities are, so don’t expect them to work so hard next time. Spotlight your people instead of yourself.

    Bluster. If you’re in the habit of speaking over others, interrupting, and making statements without allowing others to respond or express their own thoughts, you kill the energy and ideas of your team. Talk less and listen more.

    Competitiveness. Competition can spur people to do great work, but if you’re competing against those you lead, you’re setting a bad example. Remember that they’re on your side; work to elevate their performance and focus your competitive side elsewhere.

    Envy. When you’re jealous or begrudging of those you lead, remember that leadership at its core is taking pleasure in other people’s success. Celebrate, appreciate and recognize the work and success of others.

    Self-promotion. If your leadership is ego-driven, you’re missing the point. Turn your attention to elevating those you lead, not yourself. Any time you  find yourself wanting to promote yourself, change it up and honor your team instead.

    Delusion. if you’re basing your leadership on a false impression of your own self-importance, you need to understand that grandstanding serves only to isolate you from those you are trying to influence and lead, and it’s counterproductive to bringing people together to do great things. Break down the false and misleading impressions you have of yourself and practice leading from reality.

    Ego. When you think of leadership as something you do to serve yourself, your leadership is bogged down in ego. Instead, try dedicating your energy to helping others be successful. Be known as a leader who serves others instead of yourself.

    Self-serving leadership is dangerous to you and to those you lead. Few things can do more to undermine your influence, respect and trust.

    Lead from within: It’s easy to fall into self-serving leadership behaviors, even if it’s not the way you normally operate. So be a thoughtful leader who is self-aware at all times.


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    The Leadership Gap
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    After decades of coaching powerful executives around the world, Lolly Daskal has observed that leaders rise to their positions relying on a specific set of values and traits. But in time, every executive reaches a point when their performance suffers and failure persists. Very few understand why or how to prevent it.

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  • feedwordpress 10:50:53 on 2021/05/04 Permalink
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    Your Leadership Is Contagious—Whether You Know It Or Not 


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    When standards in an organization change, the process tends to be so gradual that it’s not readily noticeable. One day you look around and realize that things that used to be unacceptable are now commonplace. Whether it’s a lax attitude toward work and deadlines, gossip and backbiting, or dishonesty, it’s easy for negative behavior to take hold.

    When norms change, people tend to ask “How did that happen?” I’m here to tell you: it starts at the top. Leadership is contagious, whether leaders know it or not. If a leader’s standards slip, the standards of the organization follow. If leadership’s values are compromised, the values of the business won’t be far behind. It’s imperative to keep close tabs on your own leadership, because others are certain to follow your lead, one by one, until your entire team is affected.

    Here are some of the ways leaders can ensure that their contagious leadership is spreading only good qualities:

    Be consistent and predictable. If you want to be trusted, respected and credible, people have to know that they can count on your conduct to always be consistent.

    Remain true to your values. Let others know who you are and what you stand for, and lead through your example of living out your values every day. Give people reason to feel good about emulating you.

    Evaluate your communications. Leaders communicate a lot, and people are quick to judge those communications as well as the cues they get from body language and nonverbal communication. Think about what you’re saying and—even more important—how you’re saying it.

    Show people what’s most important to you. The quickest way to learn what’s important to someone is to see what they give their time to. Ask yourself if you’re spending your time in ways that reflect your values or if you’re sending mixed messages.

    Take command of your emotions. If you’re quick to lose your temper, if you yell when things go wrong, if you lose patience easily, you’re sending a message to others that it’s OK—and maybe even expected—to do the same. Don’t let your own behavior validate screaming, tantrums, or abuse. Remember, your emotions have the power to make people comfortable or uncomfortable—which do you want it to be?

    Embody positivity. A positive leader means a positive team and positive organization; a negative leader is working to build a team and culture based on negativity.

    Treat others the way you want to be treated. Treat people with respect and dignity and they will treat you—and their coworkers—the same.

    When you’re a leader, your actions are constantly being watched by others. Ask yourself if you want those you lead to emulate what you do and how you do it. If not, be thoughtful of how you lead and commit to setting a good example.

    Lead from within: If you know your leadership is contagious, you’re more likely to exhibit behavior worth catching.

     


    #1 N A T I O N A L  B E S T S E L L E R

    The Leadership Gap
    What Gets Between You and Your Greatness


    After decades of coaching powerful executives around the world, Lolly Daskal has observed that leaders rise to their positions relying on a specific set of values and traits. But in time, every executive reaches a point when their performance suffers and failure persists. Very few understand why or how to prevent it.

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  • feedwordpress 08:00:50 on 2021/04/20 Permalink
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    How Leadership Challenges Can Bring Out the Best In You 


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    Being a leader is a challenge in itself. And every leadership role comes with its own set of specific challenges. In my work as a leadership coach I have been able to see a wide range of situations that are especially challenging to leaders. Whatever form a challenge takes, it’s best to approach it as an opportunity for you and your team to excel in a high-profile situation.

    Here are some of the most common situations that can give you the opportunity to bring out your best in your leadership and team:

    When you’re starting something new. Whether you’re launching a new initiative, creating a new product or hiring new people for leadership, new beginnings are challenging. But they also present a clean slate. Make sure you put in the planning and effort you need up front to ensure the new initiative is successful.

    When you’re concluding something. As a venture or working relationship ends, it creates change—and sometimes heightened emotions—that can be difficult to navigate. It’s your role as a leader to tie up loose ends and ensure a smooth transition so everyone can move on successfully.

    When you’re planning a change. Organizations, teams and people are constantly changing, and most of the time that’s a good thing. You can’t have growth and improvement without change. But even the most positive change sometimes runs into opposition and defensiveness. Change has a considerable psychological impact on the human mind, and for people who are fearful by nature that impact takes the form of anxiety. For the hopeful it is encouragement; for the confident it is inspiration. It is the leader’s job to be able to handle these mixed responses with grace while getting people accustomed to the idea of change.

    When you’re in transition. It’s one thing to plan for change, but when the actual transformation begins, the prospects are high that your leadership and team will face significant challenges and difficulties. Weathering these times of transition takes confidence, thoughtfulness, and careful communication—including lots of listening. This means that at a time when you’re likely to be distracted by a thousand details, you have to stay mindful of keeping everyone strong and moving forward together. For many leaders, times of transition represent the most significant challenges of their careers.

    Whatever the challenge, try to view it as an opportunity for you to bring the best of who you are and what your leadership has to offer. To fully leverage the opportunity you have to acknowledge the attitudes and tendencies that get in your way and work to overcome them, work closely and effectively with your team, and do your part to keep steering the organization in a direction that serves its mission. It all starts with effective leadership.

    Lead from within: There will always be challenges, and how you show up as a leader will always make a difference. Make you sure your leadership is bringing out your best so those around you can bring out theirs.

     


    #1 N A T I O N A L  B E S T S E L L E R

    The Leadership Gap
    What Gets Between You and Your Greatness


    After decades of coaching powerful executives around the world, Lolly Daskal has observed that leaders rise to their positions relying on a specific set of values and traits. But in time, every executive reaches a point when their performance suffers and failure persists. Very few understand why or how to prevent it.

    buy now

     


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  • feedwordpress 11:47:25 on 2021/04/06 Permalink
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    How The Best Leaders Avoid Doing Everyone Else’s Job 


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    If you’re a leader, a manager or a boss, you know how things come at you—all at once, all the time, without stopping, and with people relying on you to respond quickly and decisively.

    The ability to respond to complex situations and make rapid-fire decisions is necessary to great leadership, and it’s grounded in knowing how to keep your perspective and avoid distractions.

    Here are some of the ways the best leaders maintain a clear view on their own roles and responsibilities and avoid doing everyone else’s job.

    They focus on what’s important. Leaders with perspective don’t allow themselves to be sidetracked by checking off items on the to-do list of others. Instead, they stay connected to the things that are most important to them and keep their attention concentrated there—every day, all the time.

    They keep their emotions out of it. We all know leaders who worry and are fearful that others might not be doing their job as well as they can. The best leaders keep their emotions in check, and concentrate on their own responsibilities. They may feel fear and worry, but they trust their people and their experience to do their jobs.

    They listen to learn. The best leaders are always interested in gaining new understanding, educating themselves in new areas and becoming better informed. Don’t be a leader who only makes a show of listening and jumps into act. Listen to learn.

    They let go of their biases. Leaders with perspective don’t allow their own personal experiences and circumstances to obscure their objectivity. They work hard to understand and overcome their biases, if they have judgment on other people’s work, they work hard on letting those biases go, because they know how harmful they can be.

    They don’t make mountains out of molehills. Leaders with perspective don’t blow things out of proportion or respond unreasonably when something goes wrong. They are able to step outside the moment and see mistakes, mishaps and unfortunate circumstances of others, for what they are.

    They have an expansive mindset. Leaders with perspective see the whole rather than fragmented pieces. They make a point of focusing on the big picture and the long-range view.

    They don’t judge or make assumptions. Judging and assuming are surefire ways to lose perspective. Don’t be one of those leaders who forms opinions or comes to conclusions without hearing all the facts and gathering all the information, because uninformed assumptions can be incredibly damaging.

    They don’t have to be the smartest person in the room. Even if they know a lot, leaders with perspective know that they don’t know it all. Listening to other viewpoints and learning along the way allows them to have a wider and more in-depth understanding.

    It is easy to want to jump in and do everyone else’s job, but when you have much to accomplish yourself, it’s best to concentrate on what you have to do, and do it well.

    Lead from within: When your perspective isn’t clouded by distractions, worry and fear about others, you’ll be able to do your own job more clearly, making you a better leader and a better person.

     


    #1 N A T I O N A L  B E S T S E L L E R

    The Leadership Gap
    What Gets Between You and Your Greatness


    After decades of coaching powerful executives around the world, Lolly Daskal has observed that leaders rise to their positions relying on a specific set of values and traits. But in time, every executive reaches a point when their performance suffers and failure persists. Very few understand why or how to prevent it.

    buy now

     


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  • feedwordpress 08:00:55 on 2021/03/30 Permalink
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    Why You Should Make Personal Development Part Of Your Leadership 


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    Leaders often rely on the skills they trust the most—the things they know they do well. But if you speak to most successful leaders, you’ll discover that they’re constantly pushing themselves in new directions and learning new skills. They make personal development a priority—and if you aren’t doing the same, your leadership is not as effective as it could be.

    Think of it this way: if you only keep repeating what you know doing what you know how to do, eventually you’re not going to get the results you need. And with no other resources to turn to, you’ll be stuck.

    The only way to really get the best out of who you are and everything you have to offer is to make personal development an ongoing commitment. Make sure you are taking some positive action to improve yourself on a daily and weekly basis.

    Here are some of the most important areas you can focus on in your personal development plan:

    Keeping an open mind. I have heard leaders say “This is who I am, take it or leave it.” But the best leaders are open to new ideas and new ways of doing things. They’re constantly listening and learning.

    Investing in yourself. As a leader you invest in your business, your customers, your clients. So why not invest in yourself? After all, you’re an important asset. Treat your personal development not as a self-indulgence but as something you do for the good of yourself, your team and the organization.

    Embodying a positive attitude. The best way to evolve in your leadership is to maintain an attitude of positivity and possibility—to believe in yourself. If you know you can develop and change, you surely will. Attitude is one of the most important elements of growth and personal development.

    Accepting responsibility. Too many leaders want to hold everyone accountable but themselves. But passing the buck is poor leadership that leads to poor results and harms your team. If you want to lead successfully, you need to hold yourself accountable for your own choices and development.

    Acknowledging your weaknesses. Just as we all have strengths, we all have weaknesses. The better you can understand and acknowledge your own areas of weakness, finding ways to improve upon them and even leverage them into strengths, the better you will evolve as a leader and a person.

    Don’t make the mistake of treating personal development as a to-do item, a box to check off and be done with. Think of it instead as an ongoing process in which every encounter and experience offers you a chance to do something better. Every step you take will open new directions for your leadership.

    Lead from within: The only thing standing in the way of your becoming the best version of who you are and providing the best leadership you’re capable of is your own willingness and commitment. At the end of the day, the choice will always be yours.

     


    #1 N A T I O N A L  B E S T S E L L E R

    The Leadership Gap
    What Gets Between You and Your Greatness


    After decades of coaching powerful executives around the world, Lolly Daskal has observed that leaders rise to their positions relying on a specific set of values and traits. But in time, every executive reaches a point when their performance suffers and failure persists. Very few understand why or how to prevent it.

    buy now

     



    Additional Reading you might enjoy:

    Photo Credit: iStockPhotos

    The post Why You Should Make Personal Development Part Of Your Leadership appeared first on Lolly Daskal.

     
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