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  • feedwordpress 08:00:35 on 2018/08/14 Permalink
    Tags: , , Impostor Syndrome, , , , , , Personal Development, ,   

    5 Easy Ways to Escape The Impostor Syndrome Trap  

    Imposter syndrome is a common psychological phenomenon in which you feel that you’re the only person in the group who doesn’t have it together. You feel you don’t deserve the good things that have come your way. And the more others recognize your achievements, the more you feel like a fake. You’re basically always looking over your shoulder and waiting to be called out as a fraud.

    In my research as an executive leadership coach, I have found that 99 percent of all high-achieving individual suffer from some degree of imposter syndrome—that means you and I and many of the people we know all suffer from this syndrome. So how do we escape the trap of the imposter syndrome? It’s largely a matter of five simple steps:

    1. Recognize that the syndrome exists. The first thing you have to do is recognize that imposter syndrome actually exists. With acknowledgement comes awareness and with awareness comes the power to manage your own thoughts. Remember, it’s not what you are that holds you back, it’s what you think you are not that keeps you from success. Feeling like an impostor at times is, for many of us, a natural side effect of learning the ropes and gaining expertise.

    2. Acknowledge your capabilities. Sometimes we get so caught up in what we don’t know that we forget we’re actually more capable and more competent than we think. Our skills are strengths that can take us wherever we go through whatever we do. We just have to acknowledge them, own them and allow them to carry us when we feel insecure and filled with self-doubt.

    3. Be proud of your accomplishments. Take ownership of your accomplishments—each and every one qualifies you to own your success. Take your accomplishments and truly experience them, learn from them, absorb as much as you can from them. Prepare yourself for your own greatness by keeping your mind conditioned to accomplish more. To own your accomplishments with pride is the one of the bravest and best things you can do when you’re feeling insecure or doubtful.

    4. Remember that perfection isn’t real. Recognize that the perfection doesn’t exist— problems will arise and you’ll make mistakes. It’s not perfection but doing your best in your challenges that gives you the confidence you need to feel assured in your achievements. When you expect perfection, you tend to overlook your own strengths. Those who try to appear perfect will eventually mess up, the confident will feel insecure and the informed will second-guess themselves. That’s the nature of an imperfect life.

    5. Stop comparing yourself to others. One of the greatest accomplishments in life is learning to resist comparing yourself to others, because that’s a war you can never win. There always will be someone who is smarter, better or even more successful, but that shouldn’t be your concern. The true measure of success comes within yourself. How do you measure up against who you are and what you want to do?

    At the end of the day, we must learn to value ourselves, which means we must tell ourselves that we are good enough, smart enough, capable enough. And if we have to learn something new we will, because what we do in life ultimately comes out of who we believe we are.

    Lead from within: Our confidence comes from doing what we do best. The only thing that can bring us down is allowing our own insecurities to keep us stuck.


     

    N A T I O N A L   B E S T S E L L E R
    The Leadership Gap: What Gets Between You and Your Greatness

    After decades of coaching powerful executives around the world, Lolly Daskal has observed that leaders rise to their positions relying on a specific set of values and traits. But in time, every executive reaches a point when their performance suffers and failure persists. Very few understand why or how to prevent it.

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  • feedwordpress 08:00:26 on 2018/08/07 Permalink
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    12 Mistakes to Avoid As a First Time Leader 

    Studies show that about half of all new leaders either fail or give up on pursuing a leadership path. New leaders always have a lot to learn, and mistakes—sometimes lots of them—are part of the process. But some mistakes are more costly than others. If you can avoid the worst of them, you can build your credibility and deliver the results that will steer you toward success.

    New leaders don’t have to look green. Avoid these foundational mistakes and people will assume you’re a seasoned and experienced leader.

    1. Letting your emotions get the best of you. When you’re in a position of leadership you can never let your emotions control you. Of course you’re going to experience emotions, and in some circumstances it’s appropriate for those emotions to be visible—but never to the point where you’re no longer in control of the situation.

    2. Compromising on your values. There will always be pressure that comes with leadership. Sometimes compromise is the best way forward, but at other times you’ll be asked to make an outright choice that goes either for or against your values. When that moment comes, remember that the best leaders chose what’s right, not what’s easy.

    3. Dismissing the importance of clear communication. A leader who fails to provide clear guidance is frustrating for everyone within their sphere. When communication is ambiguous, when reports and instructions are unclear, people feel uncertain and hesitant to act. As a leader, its important to understand that people crave guidance and clarity.

    4. Demonstrating bullying behavior. Any leader who thinks bullying will get people to do what they want, is not only a bad leader but doesn’t even have a clue about leadership. Every true leader understands that there’s a direct correlation between how people are treated and how they work. Fear is never a good motivator, but encouragement always works. Bottom line: all bully leaders eventually fail and fall.

    5. Fluctuating priorities. It’s difficult and stressful to work for a leader who is constantly changing their mind, or shifting their view of what’s important. as a leader, you need to realize that your inconsistency will cause turmoil. therefore, as a leader you must decide what is important and keep it a priority.

    6. Lacking accessibility. Leaders need to be present and available. The more you’re in touch with your people, the more you’ll know what’s going on and the more people will trust you with what’s happening. Everyone occasionally needs a minute or for a question or report or to brag about a success. Accessibility improves not only morale but also productivity, because you’re there to provide answers and keep things moving.

    7. Reprimanding people in public. This is a principle that is worth repeating and repeating again: if you have to reprimand someone or even discuss a mistake, do it in private. When people lose dignity, you lose respect.

    8. Talking dishonesty. It’s a simple truth that honesty breeds trust and dishonesty erodes it. When you tell the truth, you never have to keep your story straight. Lying may save you some trouble in the short run, but nothing is worth your integrity.

    9. Displaying favoritism. It’s appropriate to praise top performers, but remember to spread positive attention as much as you can, especially in public. Favoritism, or even the appearance of it, will cause unhappiness, kill productivity, and cost you in respect. Nobody likes being overlooked.

    10. Acting as though you’re the smartest in the room. Even if you are—and it’s never a safe assumption—never act like it. Don’t make pronouncements, but ask questions and listen. Listen to learn, listen to understand, listen to empower others to speak their mind.

    11. Making promises you cannot keep. Those you lead take you at your word. What may seem like a minor promise to you may be much more important to them. Your responsibility is to be accountable to your promises and make them happen. You can’t lead if you don’t keep your word.

    12. Saying “my way or the highway.” If you aspire to being thought of as a leader who’s  domineering, dictatorial, and close-minded, this kind of attitude will get you there quickly. It shuts people up and shuts them down. If you want to be a successful and respected leader, make it a point to consider the opinions of others and be willing to adjust your decisions if better ideas come along.

    Lead from within: We all make mistakes, but some mistakes have a higher price tag than others. Especially when you’re just starting out, set a good tone and make sure you stay far away from avoidable major mistakes.

     


     

    N A T I O N A L   B E S T S E L L E R
    The Leadership Gap: What Gets Between You and Your Greatness

    After decades of coaching powerful executives around the world, Lolly Daskal has observed that leaders rise to their positions relying on a specific set of values and traits. But in time, every executive reaches a point when their performance suffers and failure persists. Very few understand why or how to prevent it.

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  • feedwordpress 08:00:40 on 2018/07/31 Permalink
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    6 Big Career Mistakes That Can Sabotage Your Future  

    We all make all kinds of mistakes—some because we’re inexperienced, some because we don’t know what we know, and some, unfortunately, because we have a tendency to keep repeating that one mistake until we finally learn our lesson.

    Thankfully, most mistakes don’t do lasting harm and can even benefit us in the long run. There are, however, some mistakes that are so damaging they amount to career sabotage. Here are six of the worst:

    Believing you must KNOW everything and DO everything to be successful. It’s important to become a subject matter expert, but when you think you have to know everything and do everything, you are setting yourself up to fail. You come across not only as a micromanager but also as someone who doesn’t trust your team or colleagues. The most successful people are good at letting those who are qualified do their job and at finding ways to collaborate and work together to get things done.

    Thinking your leadership skills will develop naturally with time. Big mistake! You can be extremely competent in what you do, but if you don’t have any leadership coaching, mentoring or guidance, don’t expect to keep moving up—or even to stay where you are. Everyone who leads others has to be constantly working on their leadership development. As a leadership coach for top executives, I see this all the time—those who get promoted to prestige jobs don’t think they need any more coaching. But leadership is a skill that requires constant nurturing and developing. It may mean devoting time each day to your growth as a leader or hiring a coach  to help you sharpen your interpersonal skills and build your confidence.

    Suffering from S.O.S. (Shiny Object Syndrome) SOS is an ailment of distraction, and it affects businessmen and women who are entrepreneurial, specifically because of the qualities that make them unique: high levels of motivation, a craving for new technology and new developments, and the courage to start new projects and create new things. Think of a small child chasing after something shiny. Once they get there and see what the object is, they immediately lose interest and start chasing the next thing. I am sure you can see how this would derail a successful career. Once you reach a certain level, success isn’t about getting new opportunities but getting the right opportunities. The time you spend looking for the next new opportunity is time you could be working on your own goals or simply enjoying your life.

    Putting your life on hold while you chase success. If you don’t have a life, you don’t have a career. Thinking that putting in longer hours will make you more successful is a big mistake. It’s not the hours but the quality of what happens in those hours that matters. I have seen gifted, talented individuals who work all day and all night and still are not as effective as those who come in early and leave early so they can have time with their family. Study after study shows that you’re at your most effective when you take breaks, nourish your body, walk, exercise, meditate. Don’t work yourself ragged, neglecting your family, friends, and health in hopes that things will improve. Prioritize your tasks and become more efficient, and you can spend less time at the office.

    Chasing the title but not being equipped for the role. Those who are average at what they do chase after titles more than results and effectiveness. Seeking out high status instead of focusing on building skills may not be the only way to disrupt your career, but it will get the job done. Stay focused on the substance, not the symbol.

    Burning the bridge and not understanding the effects of the fire. You never want to become that person that the HR people use as an example: “I have a good story—a good example of what not to do when you leave a job.” Those good stories make for bad references and missed opportunities. And far too often they’re about poor behavior during an exit from the company. It’s easy to get swept up in the excitement of wanting to tell everyone what’s wrong, what isn’t working and how the place you have been is the worst place. It may feel good in the moment—everyone who’s ever had a bad job understands the desire to go out this way—but it isn’t likely to change anything and it will cost you in long-term career damage.

    The important principle is never to make the same mistake twice, especially when they’re mistakes that will derail your career.

    Lead From Within: Keep growing in strength and in knowledge and stay focused on your goals, and you’ll never have to make those mistakes that will derail your career

     


     

    N A T I O N A L    B E S T S E L L E R
    The Leadership Gap: What Gets Between You and Your Greatness

    After decades of coaching powerful executives around the world, Lolly Daskal has observed that leaders rise to their positions relying on a specific set of values and traits. But in time, every executive reaches a point when their performance suffers and failure persists. Very few understand why or how to prevent it.

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  • feedwordpress 08:00:39 on 2018/07/19 Permalink
    Tags: , Good Leadership, , , , , Personal Development, Poor Leadership, ,   

    How to Transform Poor Leaders into Good Leaders 

    John J. Pershing, a US Army general in World War I, once said, “A competent leader can get efficient service from poor troops, while on the contrary a poor leader can demoralize the best of troops.”

    Most teams and organizations are only as capable as their leaders—and that makes it important to help transform all the all the poor leaders around you into good ones. Here are some ways to recognize the weak leaders around you and help put them transform.

    Poor leaders fail to lead by example. They often ask others to do things they don’t want to do themselves. It may even be unintended, but the result is a loss of respect. Demonstrate for them how the best leaders roll up their sleeves and lead by example, always in with their team, always walking their talk.

    Poor leaders communicate ineffectively. Just as most people think they’re good drivers when many are not, most leaders like to think of themselves as good communicators. If you know a leader who likes to pat themselves on the back for their communication skills, show them how great leaders assess whether their message is getting through and work constantly to develop their ability to communicate effectively and meaningfully.

    Poor leaders are secretive and slow to share information. They’re stingy with the things they know and reluctant to help others benefit from their expertise. Their teams are closed off groups that treat information as power over others. Show these people that good leadership is open and transparent, communicating frequently and clearly and working to share their knowledge and expertise as widely as possible.

    Poor leaders encourage competition over cooperation. They enjoy pitting one person against another, saying that competition is good for the team. And it’s true to  a point—competition is good for the team, when makes them more productive and effective. But when it undermines the team itself, it’s an example of truly terrible leadership. Show them that success occurs when collaboration and cooperation, rather than competition, are at the forefront of a team’s dynamics.

    Poor leaders have low expectations. Some leaders try to fake success by minimizing challenges and setting a low bar for their team. This behavior often has its origin in a deep fear of failure. Show them how to challenge people to do better and be more, and that you get more when you expect more.

    Poor leaders are unable to empower their people. The core of leadership is being able to motivate or inspire a team, and if they can’t do that, they’re truly failing to lead. Show them how to bring out the best in others by helping them believe in themselves and their abilities, by providing encouragement, support and assistance when it’s needed, and by letting your team know you’re invested in their success.

    Poor leaders are always looking around, never ahead. It’s easy for weak leaders to become so preoccupied with day-to-day challenges that they neglect to prepare for what’s coming at them. Show them how to stop and look at the bigger picture so they can see potential problems sooner, focusing more on strategy and less on tactics.

    Lead from within: Even the worst, weakest leader has the potential to become not just a good leader but a great one.


     

    N A T I O N A L   B E S T S E L L E R
    The Leadership Gap: What Gets Between You and Your Greatness

    After decades of coaching powerful executives around the world, Lolly Daskal has observed that leaders rise to their positions relying on a specific set of values and traits. But in time, every executive reaches a point when their performance suffers and failure persists. Very few understand why or how to prevent it.

    buy now

     


    Additional Reading you might enjoy:

     

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  • feedwordpress 08:00:18 on 2018/07/10 Permalink
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    6 Struggles Every Leader is Guaranteed to Face 

    Every leader will face struggles, but some struggles are common enough that you can learn from the bad experiences of others and avoid the trouble and risk of taking them on yourself.

    Here are six top struggles leaders are guaranteed to face work to avoid them.

    Not doing the right thing. If you don’t lead with character, struggle is practically guaranteed. Character in leadership means consistently doing the right thing and the best thing. It plays a major role in your ability to lead and influence. Great character is molded into great leadership.

    Leading through demands and control. Leaders lose respect when they have to rely on demands and control—and losing respect is fatal to leadership. Leaders may try to demand respect and control outcomes. But respect is earned, not demanded, and outcomes are outside your control. Let go; learn to lead with vision and trust that the outcomes will be positive the long run.

    Relying on unclear messages. If you aren’t a good communicator, serious struggle is more likely to occur. Just as most people think they’re good drivers, most leaders think of themselves as great communicators—but as an executive leadership coach I often see leaders who think they are communicating brilliantly when no one around them has a clue what they’re trying to say. Work on your communication skills to make sure you keep your messages clear and compelling.

    Trying to persuade without inspiring. No matter how strong your vision is, if you lack the ability to inspire and motivate others you’re not going to connect. The difference between motivation and inspiration is that motivation must constantly be renewed, while inspiration lasts a lifetime. Great leaders instill both.

    Refusing to delegate. Most leaders—if not all—think they can always do everything better themselves, and as a result they have a hard time delegating. But refusing to delegate turns you into a micromanager and erodes trust in your leadership, which leads to constant struggle. Learn how to delegate the right task to the right person and then maintain the right level of involvement.

    Giving in to self-doubt. They may or may not ever express it, but from time to time every leader asks themselves, “Am I measuring up?” If the answer is no, it’s likely a matter of self-doubt or lost confidence. Comparisons to others is a quick way to derail leadership. Refuse to measure yourself against anything but your own goals and expectations.

    Lead From Within: Avoid struggle when you can, and learn to face the unavoidable struggles with confidence. The lessons we learn from struggles—our own or those of others—lead to true progress and growth.

     


     

    N A T I O N A L  B E S T S E L L E R
    The Leadership Gap: What Gets Between You and Your Greatness

    After decades of coaching powerful executives around the world, Lolly Daskal has observed that leaders rise to their positions relying on a specific set of values and traits. But in time, every executive reaches a point when their performance suffers and failure persists. Very few understand why or how to prevent it.

    buy now

     


    Additional Reading you might enjoy:

     

    Photo Credit: iStock Photo

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