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  • feedwordpress 08:00:25 on 2018/10/11 Permalink
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    Is Your Body Language Revealing More Than You Want it To 

    Body language is revealing—sometimes more revealing than we’d like for it to be. Studies find that up to 80 percent of what we understand In a conversation is read through the body, not the words. Especially for people in leadership, it’s important to make sure your body language isn’t undermining your message when you face your colleagues, board members, or the public. Here are some of the most common issues:

    Speech and body language out of sync. If your mind is saying no and your words are saying yes, that conflict will be revealed in your gestures, and there’s a better than average chance that anyone who’s listening is confused—even if they aren’t sure why. In almost any situation where you’re communicating with others, you’ll do best by keeping your body language open and accepting.

    Looking off instead of making eye contact. If you tend to glance away or lose eye contact as you’re addressing a meeting or audience, remember that facial expressions, especially the look in your eyes, can tell attentive listeners immediately what’s going on in your head. When  people are engaged in an interesting conversation, their eyes remain focused on the other person’s face about 80 percent of the time

    Tuning out when you should be tuned in. Do you have a hard time trying to be a good listener because you keep tuning out what’s being said? Especially when you’re in leadership, you need to stay attentive and at least give the appearance of being interested—no matter what.

    Lack of engagement. Even if you don’t know anything else about body language, you’ve probably heard that you appear closed off and unengaged when you lean away or cross your arms or legs.In general, when you arrange your body in this way, you signal that you’re mentally, emotionally, and physically closing yourself off from the other person.

    Nodding “yes” while signaling “stop talking.” Have you ever noticed that when you see someone nodding excessively, often everything else going on with them is signaling for you to stop speaking? Many of my clients are often taken aback at this revealing connection, which is clear as daylight once you become aware of it.

    Allowing discomfort to win out over confidence. When people close off their gestures while they’re speaking, the root cause is often self-consciousness. Communicating with clarity and confidence is an important leadership skill. Being confident in conversation with others helps you get what you want and need and stand up for yourself and your values.

    Lead from within: Effective communication is 20 percent what you know and 80 percent how you feel about what you know.

     


     

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    The Leadership Gap: What Gets Between You and Your Greatness

    After decades of coaching powerful executives around the world, Lolly Daskal has observed that leaders rise to their positions relying on a specific set of values and traits. But in time, every executive reaches a point when their performance suffers and failure persists. Very few understand why or how to prevent it.

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  • feedwordpress 08:00:57 on 2018/10/08 Permalink
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    How the Most Successful People Spend Their Mornings 

    I believe that morning habits are especially important. If you want to be successful, a set of good morning rituals that you follow faithfully can make a big difference. The probability of your success may well depend on the choices you make about how to spend those critical hours before your workday gets under way.

    Here are some elements of the morning habits of some of the most successful leaders, that I coach, do on a daily bases. Implement them yourself and watch your effectiveness increase.

    They start strong and start early. Successful people tend to be up and going strong while the rest of the world is still asleep. However you choose to use it, find some quiet time to prepare for the day—ideally before anyone else is up so there are no distractions. How well you start your day determines how well you live your day.

    They carve out time for reflection. Set aside time for journaling, reflection, reading, or meditation. Time spent on reflection is never wasted time—we spend most of the day transfixed by all the ways we can reflect ourselves out to the world, and it feeds the spirit to spend some time looking back within ourselves.

    They fire up their own motivation: Motivation doesn’t last forever, so plan to replenish yours regularly. Highly successful people spend time every day nurturing their motivation by listening to podcasts, watching videos, reading—anything that keeps them inspired. Motivation gets you started, and habit keeps you  going.

    They burn some calories. Morning exercise is among the favorite daily rituals of successful leaders. Whether you have time for just a quick stretch, 15 minutes of cardio, or something more substantial, exercise will keep your body and mind at their best to help keep you productive and effective in the long day ahead.

    They plan. If you don’t take a few minutes of your morning to map out a direction for the day, how will you know if you’re headed in the right direction? Every successful leader I know takes at least 10 minutes of their morning to plan and strategize. They start with what they want to accomplish that day and they allocate their time according to the importance of each task. Having a plan helps make their day more manageable and less stressful.

    They ask themselves a simple question. There are many ways to make an impact, but if you truly want to leave a mark, ask yourself this simple question every day: “If today were the last day of my life, would I want to do what I’m about to do today?” Everybody wants to feel that what they do has meaning. When you ask this one question on a daily basis, you’ll find yourself prioritizing your day. Asking yourself what matters most and what really needs to be done that day is a great technique for moving beyond the day-to-day to create a future.

    Lead from within: A morning ritual can set the day, week, and month up for success. Don’t try to count how many habits you have; just make your habits matter.


     

    N A T I O N A L   B E S T S E L L E R
    The Leadership Gap: What Gets Between You and Your Greatness

    After decades of coaching powerful executives around the world, Lolly Daskal has observed that leaders rise to their positions relying on a specific set of values and traits. But in time, every executive reaches a point when their performance suffers and failure persists. Very few understand why or how to prevent it.

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  • feedwordpress 08:00:19 on 2018/10/02 Permalink
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    How the Best Leaders Build Trust  


    Trust is the foundation of leadership. Without trust, it’s nearly impossible to recruit and retain followers and to implement change. Trust affects a leader’s impact and the company’s bottom line more than any other factor.

    But there’s no shortcut to building trust. It has to be earned, and that process takes time. The best leaders devote consistent effort to building and maintaining trust. Here are the principles they go by:

    When people experience your character, they will trust you. When you consistently do the right thing whether you feel like it or not, when your actions match your words, when you stand behind your team in every situation, you give people evidence of your  character. The task of a trusted leader is to create an environment where others can do great things in safety, and character makes that possible.

    When people can count on you, they will trust you. Can people rely on you? Are you consistent and dependable? A trusted leader is one who can be counted on to keep their word and say what they mean, no matter the circumstances.

    When people see you genuinely care, they will trust you. If you want to build trust, demonstrate care for others—not just with lip service or in a time of particular need, but with genuine heartfelt compassion every day. Trusted leaders love people; they value connection and seeing others succeed.

    When people view you as competent, they will trust you. It’s important that you know what you’re doing—and when you don’t know something, that you  have the fortitude to admit it. Trusted leaders work to keep advancing their skills and give others the resources to do the same.

    When people encounter your courage, they will trust you. Building trust requires the willingness to take risks and make hard decisions. Trusted leaders are courageous, and they inspire others to be courageous as well.

    When people know what you’re thinking, they will trust you. If you operate with transparency and full disclosure, no one has to rely on guesswork to know what’s happening, and there’s no room for a debilitating rumor mill to take hold. Trusted leaders communicate frequently, honestly and candidly, working to make sure their team stays informed.

    When people see you act with consistency, they will trust you. If you’re consistent in everything you do, you show that you hold even the little things to be important. Consistency at every level makes for greater trust and better results. Great leaders are consistent in all that they do.

    As a leader, you are trusted to exactly the degree that people believe in your character, competence, courage, candor, consistency and commitment. When people trust you, they’ll do almost anything under the sun not to disappoint you.

    Lead from within: The best leaders know that trust cannot be built overnight but requires time, effort, diligence and genuine character.


     

    N A T I O N A L   B E S T S E L L E R
    The Leadership Gap: What Gets Between You and Your Greatness

    After decades of coaching powerful executives around the world, Lolly Daskal has observed that leaders rise to their positions relying on a specific set of values and traits. But in time, every executive reaches a point when their performance suffers and failure persists. Very few understand why or how to prevent it.

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  • feedwordpress 08:00:51 on 2018/09/17 Permalink
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    How to Be Great at Managing Both Introverts and Extroverts 

    As an executive leadership coach, my job often involves helping extroverts understand introverts and vice versa.

    We tend to think of these categories in terms of whether people are outgoing or shy, but it’s more complex than that. Here are some of the basic differences:

    Extraverts have a tendency towards external processing and outward expression.
    Introverts have a tendency towards internal experiences and inward reflection.

    Extraverts gain energy from being with others.
    Introverts often feel drained when they spend too much time with others, particularly strangers.

    Extraverts get bored and restless if they spend too much time alone.
    Introverts look forward to time alone to recharge their batteries and restore their energy.

    Extraverts tend to be very aware of what and who is around them.
    Introverts often don’t pay much attention to their surroundings.

    Extraverts figure things out best by talking them over with other people.
    Introverts need time alone to think things through and get in touch with their inner selves.

    Extraverts find it easy to get through a first draft when writing a report.
    Introverts have a hard time getting started because they want their ideas to be well thought out before they commit to putting anything on paper.

    Extraverts tend to speak first and think later, and are likely to put their foot in their mouth.
    Introverts often walk away wondering, “Why didn’t I think to say that?”

    To help extraverts excel, allow them to express themselves as they think things through. Be appreciative of their creative and innovative thinking, listen to their many ideas, let them multitask, and respect their independent nature. Make good use of their attentiveness and interpersonal skills.

    To help introverts to excel, give them time—time to think, time to speak, time to make decisions. Respect their private nature and their need to work alone. Let them learn at their own pace and have time alone to process and think. Give them information in increments so they can digest and rework it in their heads. Make good use of their thorough, deliberative nature.

    Of course, these categories are generalizations, and few people fit squarely into either. Leaving room for individual variation, it can be helpful to recognize the differences in the way extraverts and introverts think, work and achieve. Letting every member of your team find their own sweet spot allows everyone to excel on their own terms.

    Lead from within: As a leader, you have to be able to get along with all kinds of people, bridging the gaps in personalities and relationships and connecting your team members with the work and environment that will help them excel.


     

    N A T I O N A L   B E S T S E L L E R
    The Leadership Gap: What Gets Between You and Your Greatness

    After decades of coaching powerful executives around the world, Lolly Daskal has observed that leaders rise to their positions relying on a specific set of values and traits. But in time, every executive reaches a point when their performance suffers and failure persists. Very few understand why or how to prevent it.

    buy now

     

     


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  • feedwordpress 08:00:25 on 2018/09/17 Permalink
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    How to Think on Your Feet When You’re Speaking Under Pressure 

    Anyone in any kind of leadership position needs to master the skill of adept thought and speech in stressful high-pressure circumstances. In my work as an executive leadership coach with clients that include top leaders around the world, it’s an area I’m asked about often.

    Here are some tips and tactics to help you think on your feet. The secret is to be prepared: learn and practice a set of skills you can rely on in situations that put you under pressure.

    Repeat what you just heard. One of the hardest parts of contributing to a conversation is answering a direct question, especially when you can’t honestly give the expected answer. Allow yourself to pause and think; don’t feel that you need to fill the space with words right away. A tentative or uncertain reply won’t help your case. To calm your nerves and buy yourself a little time, simply repeat the question that was asked. As an added benefit, you can double-check your understanding of the question.

    Always be thoroughly prepared. Plenty of highly intelligent people aren’t good at speaking spontaneously, but with enough preparation you can still be brilliant. Learn every fact and figure, every prominent person in your field and their perspective, the background of the issue. A prepared mind is a smart mind.

    Learn to organize your thoughts. Constantly ask yourself the following questions: What do I not understand which could be better clarified? What question could I ask that would advance the discussion? What perspective or insight do I have that’s shareable? Don’t worry about being the smartest—sometimes it’s best to be the most organized and effective.

    Ask for clarification. Asking for clarity will compel those who are speaking to be more specific. Don’t give cause for your query to be interpreted as a challenge, but keep it neutral: “When you say X, can you please clarify. . . .”

    Project confidence. Adept thinking in the moment boils down to self-confidence. Speak in a strong voice, make lots of eye contact, and keep your tone and body language positive. Remind yourself how much you know about your job, your organization and your industry, and how many people you work with successfully.

    Summarize and stop. Wrap up lengthy responses with a quick summary statement. After that, resist adding anything more.  Be silent. Pause and allow people to fill the silent spaces. They’re absorbing the information you just presented, and speaking during that time can cause confusion.

    Lead from within: When you have to think on your feet and you want to sound smart, make use of the tips to help alleviate the pressure.

     

    N A T I O N A L   B E S T S E L L E R
    The Leadership Gap: What Gets Between You and Your Greatness

    After decades of coaching powerful executives around the world, Lolly Daskal has observed that leaders rise to their positions relying on a specific set of values and traits. But in time, every executive reaches a point when their performance suffers and failure persists. Very few understand why or how to prevent it.

    buy now

     


    Additional Reading you might enjoy:

     

    Photo Credit: iStockPhotos

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