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  • feedwordpress 09:14:41 on 2017/04/25 Permalink
    Tags: , Imposter, Imposter Syndrome, , , , , Personal Development, , , ,   

    How the Imposter in You Can Derail Your Leadership 

    Lead From Within, Lolly Daskal, Imposter Syndrome

    How many times in your life have you wanted to achieve something significant but were stopped by an inner voice?

    How many times in your leadership have you wanted to move to the next level but heard something inside saying, “No, you’re not ready”?

    These voice—the one that tells you you’re not good enough, smart enough, capable enough, worthy enough, or ready for the next step—is the voice of the imposter within you. The imposter wants to hold you back and prevent you from doing the things you dream about. It’s sabotaging you in the guise of protecting you.

    The imposter’s voice is the voice of fear—fear of vulnerability, fear of shame—and it will work to keep you from trying new things or taking bold action. Here are five ways the imposter can derail your leadership:

    The imposter compares. Most of us spend too much time looking over our shoulder to see how successful, how accomplished, how smart someone else is and how we measure up. There will always be someone who appears to be smarter, better, faster, wiser, leaner than you are. It can be exhausting trying to keep up with everyone, and comparing yourself to others leads to nothing but frustration. Measure your accomplishments within yourself. Don’t look at others but ask yourself daily what you can do better tomorrow.

    The imposter wants to please everyone. When you feel insufficient it’s a short leap to wanting to always please everyone, even though you know it’s impossible. Trying to please all is a no-win situation; leadership is not about pleasing people but empowering them—and that means sometimes pushing them to the edge of their discomfort zone. If you’re trying to please everyone you are doing harm to your leadership.

    The imposter is an overachiever. When your to-do list that is longer than you can manage, you need to step back. Delegate to the gifted and talented people you’ve surrounded yourself with. When you do, you help keep your own workload manageable and you empower others to lead and grow.

    The imposter is a perfectionist. There are few things more unhealthy than an either-or system in which you’re either perfect or a failure. Perfection isn’t real, and the sooner a leader knows that the less they will feel like an imposter. Don’t reach for perfection but concentrate doing your best to the best of your ability in a way that shows people that what you do you take pride in. Remember that your actions send a message to those you lead.

    The imposter feels like a fraud. The saying “fake it till you make it” is certainly popular. But it can be a damaging message. Pretending to be something else while you’re trying to figure it out isn’t authentic or genuine. Don’t fight the imposter by pretending that you deserve your success—learn to believe it, and then let the rest fall into place.

    Lead from within. The imposter within you will try to sabotage you and play havoc with who you are and what you can accomplish. The only effective way to combat it is to take full charge of your capabilities and competence and lead with confidence, because greatness lies within you.
    Check out my new book:
    The Leadership Gap: What Gets Between You and Your Greatness

    After decades of coaching powerful executives around the world, Lolly Daskal has observed that leaders rise to their positions relying on a specific set of values and traits. But in time, every executive reaches a point when their performance suffers and failure persists. Very few understand why or how to prevent it.


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  • feedwordpress 10:16:11 on 2017/04/18 Permalink
    Tags: , , , Personal Development, Rebel Leader, ,   

    Why Every Leader Should Have A Little Rebel Inside 

    The Rebel Within, Lolly Daskal, The Leadership Gap, To achieve something significant in the world, to have a meaningful influence, you need to be a rebel.

    A rebel knows how to challenge the status quo and make an impact.

    It’s the executive assistant who, frustrated by her nonresponsive boss, coordinates a meeting with the company’s vice presidents to help her develop a strategy for bringing about change.

    It’s the manager of a team raising money for philanthropic causes who asks his team members to consider not only raising money but also giving and working toward the cause themselves.

    It’s the security guard who, when his ideas for improved internal security are ignored by management, sets aside some of his personal time each week to teach and guide employees on the importance of security.

    Every leader—no matter what position or title—has a rebel within. The question is how healthy or repressed your rebellious side is. Here are ways to recognize the rebel within:

    A rebel has strong convictions. A leader who stands strong in their convictions creates an environment of certainty for everyone. When you are absolutely convinced that your decisions and principles are the best choice, you inspire others to follow you, and they in turn will absorb those beliefs and make them their own.

    A rebel has inner confidence. To be a great leader requires confidence. Rebels demonstrate a strong sense of self-assurance, so people gravitate to them and anticipate that great things are in store. This high level of confidence comes from an inner passion to make meaningful things happen in a way that creates a real difference.

    A rebel is a disruptor. A rebel never considers the status quo acceptable; they have an inner need to change things up. But they do it with a purpose: to make things better for others. They’re mindful that how they lead as very important as what they set out to do. When you lead by example, inspiring and influencing with your actions and words, others tend to trust them and admire you. Rebels disrupt people as well as things—they want people to know greatness lies within them.

    A rebel knows their strengths and skills. Unfortunately, many people in positions of leadership and authority lack the capacity to truly lead. They are not credible, trusted or respected, and they don’t have the command to influence others. But rebels are aware of their strengths and lead with them. A commitment to continuous learning, growth and evolution keeps leaders rebellious and wise.

    A rebel has influence and impact. Influence grows when you cede power without being forced to, when you care for others without being required to, when you empower others because you want to, when you serve others because you choose to. This kind of drive grants rebels tremendous influence and impact. They have a way of persuading people to do what they want.

    A rebel is a trend spotter. Rebels are always planning and creating and thinking about what comes next. They’re gifted at connecting the dots between strategic priorities and peoples’ work, organizational problems and opportunities. They earn respect because they’re good at coming up with ideas and plans and equally adept at making things happen—not only for themselves but for the greater good.

    A rebel is passionate about a cause. Rebels lead from extreme passion for a cause. Their focus is almost exclusively on others and how to serve them. One of the reasons rebels are so effective as leaders is that people understand that what drives them at heart is a cause bigger than themselves.

    Lead from within: Rebels are those who know the why’s of their life, so they can bear all the hows of their leadership.

    Check out my new book:
    The Leadership Gap: What Gets Between You and Your Greatness

    After decades of coaching powerful executives around the world, Lolly Daskal has observed that leaders rise to their positions relying on a specific set of values and traits. But in time, every executive reaches a point when their performance suffers and failure persists. Very few understand why or how to prevent it.


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  • feedwordpress 09:00:42 on 2017/04/11 Permalink
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    6 Excellent Reasons Most Leaders Are Not Qualified to Lead 

    The Leadership Gap, Lolly Daskal

    Every day, people are promoted into leadership who are completely unqualified to lead. People are placed in a leadership role because they’re a good performer who’s overdue for a promotion or because they act the part—even though they’re completely unequipped to motivate or coach people. Or the board selects a CEO who excels at processes and procedures but doesn’t connect with people.

    In most cases, a leadership role requires an entirely different set of skills and aptitudes than the work that got them there. Maybe that’s why a Gallup report found that companies pick the wrong managerial candidates 82 percent of the time—a frightening statistic, since managers have the greatest impact on employee engagement.

    My work as a leadership coach and business consultant often brings me into contact with leaders who are unqualified to lead, here are six excellent reasons why this is true:

    1. Power and authority don’t qualify. While unqualified leaders try to gain authority from titles, successful leaders earn authority by establishing mutual trust and accountability among colleagues. Leadership is not a title but a behavior.

    2. Processes doesn’t motivate. Some people love designing processes and procedures, and every organization needs people with that expertise. But successful leaders focus on people, not processes. How things work is less important than who makes them work.

    3. Explanations don’t engage or empower. The worst leaders will tell you how things should be done simply because they believe they know best. The best will navigate the way and then guide your journey. True leaders are selfless and consider it a privilege to serve and connect with others.

    4. “My way or the highway” doesn’t inspire. Leadership requires courageous thought and innovative creativity; it prizes inclusion and diversity. But an unqualified and insecure leader is likely to be rigid and cautious in their thinking and value obedience and conformity in their team.

    5. Competence doesn’t communicate. The most important element of leadership is communication and connection, drawing people in. When a worker is promoted into leadership because of their competence in a particular area, they may have no clue about the interpersonal requirements of their new position. It’s understandable that they’d just want to close their office door and do what they know how to do.

    6. Success can’t happen in a silo. An unqualified leader with a sudden promotion is likely to be more invested in their own success story than in the people around them. But successful leaders know true leadership becomes ineffective, if not impossible, without teamwork and respect for other people.

    It’s possible for even the most unqualified leader to succeed if they’re willing to let go of old patterns and undertake a lot of new learning.

    Lead from within: True leadership lies in guiding others to success and ensuring that everyone is performing at their best, doing the work they are pledged to do and doing it well, by unleashing their greatness and minding their gaps.

    Check out my new book:
    The Leadership Gap: What Gets Between You and Your Greatness

    After decades of coaching powerful executives around the world, Lolly Daskal has observed that leaders rise to their positions relying on a specific set of values and traits. But in time, every executive reaches a point when their performance suffers and failure persists. Very few understand why or how to prevent it.


    Additional Reading you might enjoy:

    Photo Credit: Getty Images

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  • feedwordpress 11:37:59 on 2017/04/04 Permalink
    Tags: , Greatness in Leadership, , , Personal Development, ,   

    How Leaders Build Great Organizations … And How They Can Destroy Them 

    The Leadership Gap: What Gets Between You And Your Greatness

    If you ever doubt the power of leadership, take a look at the organizations around you—those that are successful and those that are failing (or have failed). Sometimes external forces are a factor, but more often than not some aspect of leadership is at the core of the company’s outcome.

    The choices you make every day as a leader have an enormous effect on the fate of your company—and those who work for the company, and those it serves. Here’s a guide that can help you look at the choices you’re making now and the ones you’ll face in the future:

    Choices that build great companies

    1. Lead from within. I believe in this principle so much that I chose it as the name of my consulting company. In my 30 years of working with executives and leaders, it’s still the most important message I convey. People take cues from the leader, so make sure your leadership is centered in clear purpose and integrity and that you’re setting an example you want others to emulate. Every leader must first learn to be great within.

    2. Create a compelling vision. Great companies have leaders who know where the company is going, communicate a compelling vision and meaningful direction, and allow others to be part of something that is bigger than themselves.

    3. Identify a clear plan and achievable goals. Have a strategic plan that will guide growth and show where, how and what the company is planning to accomplish. Then translate that strategic plan into action by setting goals that are clear, achievable and measurable. A plan without a goals is just a dream.

    4. Encourage team empowerment. People want to be part of an empowered team; when leaders are aligned with each other and communicate well, people get on board and want to succeed. Great leaders provide a strategic framework, set the goals and make sure resources are available, then allow their teams to engineer their own success. When people feel they own their work, they take it seriously, because their work becomes a reflection of themselves.

    5. Put your heart and soul into it. Leaders are great not because of their power, but because of their ability to inspire, and the best leaders know that building a great company isn’t just what you accomplish but what you enable others to accomplish. Great leaders don’t set out to be a leader, they set out to make a difference.

    Choices that destroy great companies

    1. Don’t communicate. When you withhold information, you’re basically telling your team that you don’t think they’re capable of handling the truth. Always communicate openly and honestly. Your people are with you, so allow them to be part of the conversation.

    2. Be untrusting and untrustworthy. The lack of trust—in both directions —can quickly doom any relationship or enterprise to failure. When you fail to trust your team, and you fail to show them you can be trusted, you create a maor obstacle.

    3. Display disrespect. Like trust, respect is a two-way street. Many leaders who focus on being respected fail to see the need to earn that respect or to show respect to others. Respect is the most important thing you can give your team—every member, in every role, from the top of the org chart to the bottom.

    4. Allow expectations to remain undefined. Great companies are defined by each person’s understanding of their role and their place in the big picture. People want to know what they’re responsible for and how they’re being evaluated. If your company’s culture fails to reward success or even define it clearly, people will focus less on how to get things done and worry more about what to do.

    5. Hinder autonomy. Great employees won’t stay where they aren’t free to express, excel and engage. People need to be free in order to create, innovate and grow.

    LEAD FROM WITHIN: Wherever it stands now, your organization can be built up or destroyed—and it starts with you. Everything that is happening within has a way of reflecting to the outside.

    The Leadership Gap: What Gets Between You And Your Greatness Lolly Daskal If you are interested in learning more about greatness and leadership. Pre-order my new book, The Leadership Gap What Gets Between You And Your Greatness and get a free assessment worth ($97)

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  • feedwordpress 00:45:46 on 2017/03/03 Permalink
    Tags: CEO, Culture, , , , , Personal Development, , , teams,   

    How to Lead Better When Pressure Is Mounting 

    Most of us work under pressure, that is a given, but not many of us who work under pressure will have our work affect hundreds if not thousands. As a leader, CEO, boss, what we do, gets magnified, scrutinized, and maximized.

    The idea that a leader can make decisions when times are under pressure, and still bring out the best in their people, ­­­­­­is something that we can all learn from and certainly apply to our lives and leading.

    As an executive coach to leading thought leaders around the world  and as a business consultant I have seen qualities that leaders retain in order to become better leaders under pressure.

    Here are things that they do and that we can do to emulate and echo great leaders qualities.

    Manage their anxiety

    Most people lose themselves in the stress of tension, but great leaders draw from their interpersonal skills to know that to lose control is not to manage well. they understand that courage is grace under pressure, so as leaders they learn to be bold, and manage their anxiety, even though their anxiety sometimes seems bolder than they are.

    Maintain an optimistic attitude

    Great leaders recognize that all kinds of risks and uncertainty can threaten their organization’s survival, and they know that becoming negative, and getting all critical is never going to make any stressful situation better, so they learn how to remain positive and have an optimistic attitude.

    Find order in chaos

    Great leader know that if you cannot handle the pressure you cannot be successful, and therefore are all about finding clarity and coherence in times of chaos, they look for order, so they can find solutions that will make a difference not only for their company but for their people.

    Look for those who can assist

    Great leaders know you cannot do everything alone, you need others to help, assist, and to collaborate with, in times of stress, great leaders look for support, from those who are talented, skilled and capable, they work with them, to find solutions that will work.

    Mold their own potential

    Great leaders know they are only as good as what they know, they can only lead from how we are informed. therefore, great leaders are constant learners they make the time to constantly learning new things, to up their game, what they knew yesterday, is not good enough for today, because pressure is something you feel when you don’t know what the you are doing, therefore manage pressure, they work on molding their own potential, the better they are, the better equipped they are at handling the pressure.

    Stay ahead of the curve

    Great leaders try to stay ahead of the curve, they need to be present in the moment, but they are always planning for the future, the greatest leaders are always thinking what is my next step forward, when pressure mounts the calm has to prevail, so they can think what will be my next step, the more you know the better you can decide what is your next move is, you truly don’t know what you need to do, until you find yourself under pressure sometimes you learn best in calm, and some in chaos.

    Continue to contribute to the cause

    Great leaders know that to withstand stress, you need to be able to be grounded in something bigger than yourself, they are constantly and consistently grounding themselves and dedicating themselves to pursuing the noble cause of their company, organization or institution, they know that if purpose is the driver they will be able to prevail.

    Pressure is real, dealing with it is genuine, don’t allow the picture in our head of how it’s supposed to be, prevent you from being who know you can be. Great leaders handle their pressure, and because they do, those around them will respect them and trust them.

    Lead from within

    As Winston Churchill stated. you can measure a man’s character by the choices he makes under pressure.

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