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  • feedwordpress 04:57:51 on 2018/06/16 Permalink
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    10 Bad Mistakes You Can Make as A New Boss 

    If you have plans of becoming a manager or taking on any leadership position, you can help yourself tremendously by being aware of the mistakes that hurt the reputations and relationships of new bosses. Here are the ten most common that I see in my work as a leadership coach. Check in with yourself periodically throughout your first year and make sure you’re avoiding these potholes, and before you know it you’ll be a well-regarded and seasoned leader.

    Trying to lead with a one-size-fits-all approach.

    Don’t assume that everyone needs the same kind of communication or motivation. The best bosses make an effort to become acquainted with those they lead as individuals and tailor an equitable approach that best connects with each individual on their team. Leadership is about investing your time and energy in getting to know those you lead and giving them what they need most.

    Poor communication.

    Even some experienced leaders have a hard time communicating well with their team. Good news is easy, but difficulties and problems are more challenging to communicate effectively. In my new book, The Leadership Gap, I talk about great leaders as great communicators and truth tellers. They’re honest and transparent with their team, even if the news is bad. Whatever’s going on, share it openly and involve others to come up with a solution. Honest communication builds trust and shuts down harmful rumor mills and gossip.

    Thinking that what got you here will keep you here.

    Many people are promoted to management because they’re rock stars in their field–but that doesn’t necessarily mean they have the managerial or leadership skills they need in their new role. Find a coach or mentor who can help you excel in the transition and teach you what you need to know to succeed and keep advancing.

    Trying to change everything right away.

    Making rapid wholesale changes is among the worst mistakes you can make in any position of authority. To earn respect, start by taking some time to understand the workplace culture and dynamics, then make any changes incrementally and with as much participation and buy-in from the team as possible. Listen and learn, and don’t change things that work well just because you can.

    Abusing power.

    Leadership is not about flexing your personal power but empowering others. That means you stand alongside those you lead and develop relationships that are collegial and mutually respectful. When you do, you’re more likely to discover a team of followers–not just subordinates–who work effectively, efficiently and happily.

    Failing to deliver difficult feedback.

    It’s natural to want to be liked, so too often new bosses avoid giving feedback–especially the difficult kind. But here’s the irony: if your leadership style is based on pleasing people and being liked, over time you’ll be seen as insecure, and you’ll become disliked and disrespected. If problems persist and challenges go unaddressed, your best people will grow frustrated, which in turn will lead to low morale and high employee turnover. Better to face up to what needs to be done.

    Staying isolated in the office.

    To be in a new position can be daunting, and wanting to make sure all goes well can keep you working long hours isolated behind closed doors. But that isolation is a big mistake. New leaders need to be visible, available and accessible. Your presence helps convey the message that you’re there to serve others and they can count on you.

    Not learning to delegate effectively.

    As a leadership coach I can’t count how many times I’ve heard this: “I’m new, I want to do things right, and if it’s going to be done right, then I have to do it myself.” Wrong! if you cannot delegate, you are not leading effectively. The only message you’re sending is that you’re a micromanager who doesn’t trust your people to do their jobs, and that reputation never leads to good results. Don’t make the mistake of trying to do everything all by yourself. Learn to trust those who have been hired to do their work–stand beside them but don’t control them. Give them the freedom they need to excel.

    Not knowing how to motivate others.

    It can be intimidating to be the new boss, but it’s imperative that you start by working to understand the motivation of your people–what drives them, compels them, excites them. From there you can fulfill your responsibility to nourish them into doing things they didn’t even know were possible. As I tell my clients, great leaders inspire those around them to do great things, and they do it by knowing what motivates others to excel.

    Failing to show appreciation.

    In their desire to hit the ground running and start racking up impressive accomplishments, new leaders often fail to recognize the contributions of others. When you focus only on results, you forget to acknowledge the effort, the talent and the performance. And when that happens, you team becomes less imaginative, less productive, and more likely to play it safe and just put in their hours.

    Every new role carries a need for new skills, and being a new boss is no different. Avoid these costly rookie mistakes and you’ll have a great start toward becoming the leader you are meant to be.


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    After decades of coaching powerful executives around the world, Lolly Daskal has observed that leaders rise to their positions relying on a specific set of values and traits. But in time, every executive reaches a point when their performance suffers and failure persists. Very few understand why or how to prevent it.

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  • feedwordpress 04:32:13 on 2018/06/16 Permalink
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    6 Big Career Mistakes That Can Sabotage Your Future 

    If there’s one thing we all have in common, it’s that we all make mistakes–some because of inexperience, some because we don’t yet know what we know, and some, unfortunately, that we repeat again and again until we finally learn better. Mistakes are a natural part of learning, living, and leadership. But some mistakes can seriously sabotage your future. Here are a few to make sure you steer clear of:

    Mistake #1: Believing you have to know everything and do everything to be successful.

    To build a successful career, you definitely need to develop expertise in your field. But when you allow yourself to think you have to know everything and do everything, you’re setting yourself up to fail–plus you come across as a micromanager who doesn’t trust your team. Don’t sabotage your success by trying to know and do it all. Remember instead that the most successful people are those who are good at getting out of their people’s way and giving their team space to collaborate and get things done.

    Mistake #2: Thinking your leadership skills will develop naturally with time.

    You may be extremely competent in what you do, but if you don’t have any leadership coaching, mentoring, or guidance, don’t expect that whatever got you to your position will keep you there. If you’re in a leadership role, you need to be constantly honing your skills. As a leadership coach for top executives, I see this all the time–those who get promoted to prestige jobs don’t think they need any coaching. But leadership is a skill that requires constant nurturing and development. That may mean devoting some time each day to sharpening your skills, or taking a class, or hiring a coach to help you understand your strengths and weaknesses and build your confidence.

    Mistake #3: Falling prey to SOS (Shiny Object Syndrome).

    An ailment of distraction, Shiny Object Syndrome most commonly affects business people with an entrepreneurial mindset precisely because of the qualities that make them unique: They tend to be highly motivated, they crave new technology and new developments, and they aren’t afraid to start new projects and create new things. But if you’re constantly chasing after something, only to lose interest and start in on the next thing, you’re in danger of derailing your career. Once you reach a certain level, success isn’t about getting new opportunities but about getting the right opportunities. The more time you spend looking for something new, the less time you have to devote to becoming your best.

    Mistake #4: Putting your life on hold while you chase success.

    If you don’t have a life, you don’t have a career. Thinking that longer hours will make you more successful is a big mistake. It’s not the hours you put in but the quality of what happens in those hours that matters. I have seen talented individuals who work all day and all night, and they’re still not as effective as those who come in early and leave early so they can have time with their family, preserving their health and maintaining their balance. Science shows that you’re at your most effective when you take breaks, nourish your body, exercise, meditate–whatever feeds your body and spirit makes you better at work. Don’t run yourself ragged, neglecting your family, friends and health. You’ll end up with nothing.

    Mistake #5: Going after a title instead of preparing to fill a role.

    Those who are average go after titles instead of working to get the best results and become as effective as they can be. If you’re more concerned with titles and status than with substance, you could be sabotaging your success. Sometimes you have to take a step back to position yourself to take two steps forward. Focus on building the skills you’ll need for your next steps forward.

    Mistake #6: Burning bridges.

    This may be the biggest mistake of all. You never want to become that person of whom the HR person says, “Here’s a good example of how not to leave a job.” When you’re on your way out, it’s easy to get swept up in the excitement of wanting to tell everyone what you see as wrong and dysfunctional. But that short-term satisfaction can cost you in reputation. Most fields are a fairly small world, and there’s a good chance you’ll run into some of these people again. As the old saying goes, leave nothing behind but golden footprints.

    We all make mistakes. But be mindful of your mistakes, especially those that can harm your career. Pay attention to their patterns, and to what I call as a coach your leadership gaps. You can leverage them to your benefit, or you can let them damage your career and slow down your life’s work.



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    The Leadership Gap: What Gets Between You and Your Greatness

    After decades of coaching powerful executives around the world, Lolly Daskal has observed that leaders rise to their positions relying on a specific set of values and traits. But in time, every executive reaches a point when their performance suffers and failure persists. Very few understand why or how to prevent it.

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    Additional Reading you might enjoy:


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  • feedwordpress 04:21:46 on 2018/06/16 Permalink
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    4 Impressive Ways Great Leaders Handle Their Mistakes 

    All leaders make mistakes. To be human means to mess up once in a while. But the difference between good leaders and great ones lies in how they handle those mistakes.

    What are you modeling to those around you when you make a mistake? Your team will be watching, and what they see will affect their relationship with you and the level of trust they hold for you, so it’s important to get it right. Here are four simple but impressive ways you can demonstrate great leadership when you make a mistake:

    1. Acknowledge your mistakes.

    Never try to cover up or blame others for what went wrong. If you messed up, admit it and own it. It doesn’t have to be a big deal–simply acknowledge your responsibility and move on. Insecure leaders may be afraid of looking weak, but not admitting their mistake makes them look worse and costs them respect. I believe that in leadership, vulnerability is the ultimate strength. Admitting your mistakes earns you the respect of those you lead and makes your leadership human.

    2. Learn from your mistakes.

    Once you learn from your mistakes, don’t repeat them. As the old saying goes, when you repeat a mistake it is not a mistake anymore but a decision. The nature of great leadership lies in accepting risks, trying new things, and taking big chances, looking for the limits of what’s possible. And the best leaders know creativity often means breaking rules, making mistakes and learning along the way. Mistakes are among the greatest teachers, and working to understand your mistakes is one of the best forms of self-education. Creativity is allowing yourself to make mistakes; leadership is learning from them.

    3. Teach others from your mistakes.

    The times in our lives when we feel we have the least power can actually be the times we have the most–when we can affirm or redefine who we are and what we believe, and make choices that help others benefit from our experiences, good and bad. When you make mistakes, make a point of teaching others what you’ve learned. Doing so builds connection and trust. The best leaders are the great teachers, coaches, and guides who show us the way after they have been down that path.

    4. Move beyond your mistakes.

    Success is connected with action. Successful people keep moving; they make mistakes but don’t quit. Learn to use failure as a stepping stone away from the past. You don’t forget your mistake, but you don’t dwell on it or let it get you down. Get up and keep moving.

    Like all of us, you’re bound to make mistakes. But when you handle them well, they can help you be a better leader and a better person.



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    The Leadership Gap: What Gets Between You and Your Greatness

    After decades of coaching powerful executives around the world, Lolly Daskal has observed that leaders rise to their positions relying on a specific set of values and traits. But in time, every executive reaches a point when their performance suffers and failure persists. Very few understand why or how to prevent it.

    buy now


    Additional Reading you might enjoy:


    Photo Credit: Getty Images

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  • feedwordpress 23:23:35 on 2018/06/10 Permalink
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    25 Dumb Mistakes That Very Smart Bosses Make 

    As a leadership coach and business consultant, I spend a lot of time thinking about people’s mistakes. And over the years I’ve learned that even the smartest people have errors in judgment, blind spots, and habits that get them into trouble.

    Here are some of the dumbest mistakes that the smartest leaders seem to be prey to:
    1.     Indecision. One of the worst things that can happen to any team or organization is an indecisive boss. A leader who moves their group in new directions based on new feedback at the drop of a hat, and never seems sure of the appropriate direction, will make employees crazy and never accomplish anything of substance.

    2.     Hiding behind closed doors. Whether they’re hiding something, afraid of confrontation, or just shy, leaders who stay behind a closed door miss countless opportunities to engage, connect with, inspire and be inspired by their team.

    3.     Breaking promises. People take what other people say as their word. If the boss don’t keep their promises, it creates a lack of trust that endures for many long years.

    4.     Making assumptions. People in power, especially, can do significant damage when they convince themselves they have a grasp of a situation and set out to make assumptions without a reality check.

    5.     Taking credit for the work of others. To take credit for anyone else’s work is egregiously wrong, but for a leader to take credit from their team members borders on unforgiveable.

    6.     Thinking they know it all. The worst thing a boss can do is stop being inquisitive and turn into someone whose response to everything is “I know….” The most valuable words to a leader are “I don’t know; I’ll find out.”

    7.     Fudging rules. Bosses who like lots of rules better be ready to enforce them consistently and hold themselves to the same standard.

    8.     Poor scheduling. Leaders who hold a team meetings on Friday afternoons an hour before everyone is supposed to leave and speak for two hours will never get a “world’s best boss” coffee mug.

    9.     Gossip. Gossip should never be tolerated, let alone participating in it, especially when it comes from the boss..

    10.  Bad communication. When as the boss you neglect to communicate important information or you leave out important details, you are jeopardizing those who work for you.

    11.  Thoughtless assignments. Some leaders make assignments seemingly at random, wasting highly skilled senior people on everyday tasks and handing the keys to high-stakes complex undertakings to unproven rookies without guidance or supervision.

    12.  Being secretive. A secretive boss is ultimately communicating a lack of trust, and their behavior sets the tone for the entire team or organization.

    13.  Bad timing. When leaders wait until the last minute to delegate time-sensitive projects, everybody looks bad.

    14.  Distraction are disruptive. Multitasking is always poor form when you’re engaged with other people. A boss who’s messing around on a screen means a team member isn’t being heard.

    15.  Visible carelessness. One common example: The boss gets a report to review and demonstrates with their comments that they missed critical details.

    16.  Clinging to dead wood… Implausible as it seems, I’ve heard from leaders who received resignations from their weakest team members and went on to persuade them to stay.

    17.   … while not guarding the treasure. The other side of the same coin: People let top performers go without even making an effort to keep them on board.

    18.  Promoting problems. Promoting a problem employee, even in hopes that they’ll eventually transfer to a different area, doesn’t solve the problem and calls the leader’s judgment into question.

    19.  Visible bias. Bosses who are racist, sexist, or biased against other groups may learn to cover up their words, but their policies and personnel decisions still call them out.

    20.  Opposition to professional growth. Poor leaders don’t consider learning and development to be important.

    21.  Constant complaints. Unrelenting negativity is always bad, but it’s even worse when it’s coming from the top.

    22.  Lack of feedback. Bosses who don’t provide appropriate feedback have no right to expect team members to improve.

    23.  Showing up impaired. The old-fashioned “three-martini lunch” is supposed to be a thing of the past, but it’s surprising how many leaders still imagine themselves to be above the rules that say you don’t show up for work drunk (even a little bit) or drugged.

    24.  Lack of vision. Leaders who just position themselves at the head of the line trudging through the daily grind without imparting a sense of the big picture aren’t really leading at all.

    25.  Showing off without justification. Photos with B- or C-list celebrities, diplomas from unaccredited or questionable colleges, certificates from every weekend training program–nothing fails more than an unimpressive attempt to impress.


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    What Gets Between You and Your Greatness

    After decades of coaching powerful executives around the world, Lolly Daskal has observed that leaders rise to their positions relying on a specific set of values and traits. But in time, every executive reaches a point when their performance suffers and failure persists. Very few understand why or how to prevent it.

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  • feedwordpress 13:07:10 on 2017/11/21 Permalink
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    7 Deadly Mistakes That Even Great Leaders Make 

    It’s a sad truth of our time that the state of leadership is not well regarded. It seems to be associated with a lot of deadly mistakes.

    Most leaders never show up in headlines or polling data. They have good intentions, work hard to be effective, and serve well. But even the best can fall into habits of mind that hold them back and can cost them credibility.

    Here are some of the most harmful leadership mistakes you may be making:

    A sense of omnipotence. An inflated sense of self-importance can lead to a host of problems—in building relationships, in creating trust, and even in keeping your organization competitive. In today’s world, you have to rely on consensus and shared ownership rather than any individual point of view—even your own. Leadership is all about humility.

    Moving too fast. Business moves fast, and sometimes transactions seem to happen at the speed of light. But a pace that’s too fast for too long makes it impossible to keep up and compounds the risk of errors—the small annoying kind and the catastrophic kind. The best leaders know how to work efficiently and meet deadlines, but they also know how to pace themselves and their team and to slow down the process when they need more time.

    Thinking you have to be perfect. When we feel overwhelmed, our first impulse is to regain control—and for many leaders, that means trying to be perfect. But perfectionism is a dangerous state of mind in an imperfect world of business and leadership, the enemy of creativity, innovation and effectiveness.

    Constantly putting out fires. Demands and pressures on leaders are always expanding. Many of the leaders I coach say they feel that instead of being visionaries of their business they are a sort of chief trauma officer, constantly putting out fires, resolving conflicts and sorting through struggles. As a leader, your job is to improve, grow and expand the organization—and to empower people to put out their own fires.

    Needing to know everything. In business, as in life, we often have to operate in a fog of uncertainty. If you demand absolute certainty before acting you you’ll avoid risks, but it’s risks that get you to greatness. When you keep doing what you know instead of being innovative and creative, you—and your organization—lose a competitive edge.

    Feeling defeated and despondent. Every leader, no matter how skillful they are or how much aptitude they have, will face situations and circumstances that make them feel powerless. It’s important to learn how to be aware of that despair without lingering in it. Leaders need to understand what they feel, and sometimes they need to be coached on how to let go.

    Losing yourself while creating yourself. In the past, leaders were occasionally called upon to defend their integrity. Today, with social media and a 24/7 news cycle, everything you do is scrutinized. Don’t lose your ground but stand where you are. If values and virtues drive you as a leader, there is no mistake you will succeed.

    The best way not to make these deadly mistakes it to be aware of them, manage them and get a great coach to help you leverage them.

    Lead from within: Admitting mistakes, learning from failures, developing strategies and leading from virtues all represent the highest calling of leadership.


    N A T I O N A L   B E S T S E L L E R

    The Leadership Gap
    What Gets Between You and Your Greatness

    After decades of coaching powerful executives around the world, Lolly Daskal has observed that leaders rise to their positions relying on a specific set of values and traits. But in time, every executive reaches a point when their performance suffers and failure persists. Very few understand why or how to prevent it.

    buy now


    Additional Reading you might enjoy:


    Photo Credit: Getty Images

    The post 7 Deadly Mistakes That Even Great Leaders Make appeared first on Lolly Daskal.

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