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  • feedwordpress 08:00:32 on 2018/06/21 Permalink
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    7 Body Language Mistakes You Need to Avoid 

    If you’re in a position of leadership—whether you’re a CEO, manager, or community volunteer—it’s likely that you put a great deal of care into the words you use. But if your
    body language doesn’t sync with those words, you may be giving a terrible impression without even knowing it.

    It is said that people form impressions of others in seven to 30 seconds. That’s pretty quick.
    If you don’t have the right body language, you may be leaving a negative impression
    before you even have a chance to speak.

    Body language goes far beyond a handshake and smile. But in my decades of executive leadership coaching, I’ve found that executives don’t pay nearly enough attention to its importance.

    Here are some of the most common body language mistakes to avoid if you want
    to make the great impression as a leader.

    1. Clashing body cues and spoken words. If you’re saying “Let’s all work together
    and make this work” while your hands are crossed against your chest, you’re likely
    coming across as confusing. People tend to trust nonverbal messages over verbal
    ones when the two are at odds. If you want people to believe your conciliatory words,
    uncross your arms and appear friendly and approachable and open.

    2. Raising your chin when you speak. While you definitely want to be proud of
    what you’re saying, a raised chin is a sign that you feel superior to the person
    you’re speaking with. Show respect by lowering your chin and staying evenly
    face-to-face.

    3. Putting one foot out the door. If you want to see where a person’s interest truly lies,
    look at their shoulders and feet. One of the first indicators that someone is trying to
    leave a conversation is when they turn a shoulder or a toe away. To show engagement
    and interest, keep your body directed at the person in front of you.

    4. Lack of eye contact. When you fail to maintain eye contact with someone
    who’s speaking, you’re signaling a complete lack of interest. Lack of eye contact
    will shut down even the most enthusiastic speaker. Establish the habit of thoughtful
    eye contact to show your interest.

    5. Constant fidgeting. Have you ever had a conversation with someone who couldn’t
    stop moving? Feet bobbing up and down, swaying back and forth, making little motions
    with their arms—fidgeting sends a message of stress bordering on anxiety, and it’s both unnerving and extremely distracting. When you have something to say, relax your body
    and try to be still as possible so your words come out strong and your body doesn’t give away cues of your stress.

    6. Not giving enough space. This one is especially important: give people enough space. People who lean right into you and speak inches away from your face seem to be taking advantage of their power. Nobody likes to feel their space has been invaded. Unless
    you’re signaled an invitation to come closer, the best body language is to stay at least
    an arm’s length away. Don’t back up too far, though, or you’ll come across as
    unapproachable or uninterested. Stand just close enough to show you’re engaged,
    and don’t lean in or out too much.

    7. Looking at your watch. Have you ever been distracted in a meeting or conversation
    when the person you’re trying to connect with keeps looking at their watch? We all know
    that means they’re checked out, uninterested or indifferent to what is being said. Stop
    looking at your watch—that goes for your phone, too—and don’t let your body language signal boredom.

    Everyone wants to make a good impression, no matter what their position or title. But
    when your body is saying one thing and your words another, there’s a better-than-average chance you’re making a poor impression. Review these common mistakes from time to
    time and make sure you’re not guilty of any of them and if you are avoid them or correct them.

    Lead From Within: As a leader, your body language will speak volumes, make sure
    you are mindful and paying attention to the message you are sending.

     


     

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    The Leadership Gap: What Gets Between You and Your Greatness

    After decades of coaching powerful executives around the world, Lolly Daskal has observed that leaders rise to their positions relying on a specific set of values and traits. But in time, every executive reaches a point when their performance suffers and failure persists. Very few understand why or how to prevent it.

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    Additional Reading you might enjoy:

     

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  • feedwordpress 12:58:39 on 2018/06/10 Permalink
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    Why Some People Are Great Leaders, and Others Are Not 

    Many people call themselves a leader–but many of them fail at the actual task of…well, being a leader.

    So why do some fail where others succeed?

    The proof of leadership, its true measure, is not about being assigned, appointed to, or awarded with leadership. It is about action, not position.

    True leadership is earned, and it is earned by having an impact–a lasting influence, an effect on those around you.

    Here are seven traits of the most successful leaders:

    1. They lead with character. You have to know who you are. What makes people want to follow a leader? Why would you follow one leader to the ends of the earth but wouldn’t count on another to lead you across the street? What separates true leaders is their character–the quality of who they are as an individual person. Leadership isn’t about a designation. It’s a matter of knowing who you are and spreading your passion so profusely that others are inspired.

    2. They cultivate strong relationships. You have to know whom your important relationships are with. A common leadership mistake involves trying to lead others before developing a relationship. The stronger the relationship you have with others–the deeper, the more caring, the more connected you are–the more likely you are to have an impact. You have to learn what makes your most vital relationships tick. When you learn about the people who are important to you, you can help them fulfill their dreams.

    3. They steer with competence. You have to know what they know. The ability to understand people is one of the greatest assets anyone can develop. Learning what your people know has a positive impact in every area of your life, not only in your leadership. The biggest gift you can give your people is to learn what they know. The best leaders always surround themselves with individuals who are better than they are. They look for people who know more than they know, without feeling threatened or defensive. They look to develop their own competencies so they can influence people and make an even bigger impact.

    4. They trust their intuition. You have to know what people feel. Few things are more important or pay bigger dividends when it comes to business and leadership than getting to know how your people feel. When you do, you can understand what they’re thinking and get inside their perspective. Nothing will give you greater satisfaction or bring about more influence than being a leader who understands what people feel.

    5. They focus on experience. You have to know what they’ve done. If you want to make an impact, find out what your people are committed to. Where do they spend their time and their money? What are they passionate about? People buy into leaders who are interested in their experience, who want to know what they know. Leaders who can honestly say, “I don’t know it all, so tell me what you know” are truly influential.

    6. They take pride in potential. You have to know where they can develop. Too often, people make the mistake of focusing on their weaknesses. As a result, they spend too little time focusing on their potential. True leadership is about lifting people up, raising their performance to a higher standard, and building their personality beyond their former limitations. To have impact, you need to focus on the potential.

    7. They inspire to motivate. You have to know how to inspire them. You must be able to believe in your people to be able to motivate them. If they see your belief that they have some value, if they know they can make a difference, they will be influenced by you. People earn leadership not through their power but because they have the ability to motivate and inspire others. True leadership is not about elevating oneself but lifting others up.

    Great leaders are capable of developing these seven core elements. They know that to truly affect people, you have to influence them. If you don’t, they will not follow you.

     


    N A T I O N A L   B E S T S E L L E R

    THE LEADERSHIP GAP

    What Gets Between You and Your Greatness

    After decades of coaching powerful executives around the world, Lolly Daskal has observed that leaders rise to their positions relying on a specific set of values and traits. But in time, every executive reaches a point when their performance suffers and failure persists. Very few understand why or how to prevent it.

    buy now

     


    Additional Reading you might enjoy:

     

    Photo Credit: Getty Images

    The post Why Some People Are Great Leaders, and Others Are Not appeared first on Lolly Daskal.

     
  • feedwordpress 13:15:21 on 2017/06/21 Permalink
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    7 Habits All Great Leaders Share 

    One of the best ways to grow in your professional life is to study great leaders. And there’s no better way to understand the best leaders than looking at their habits. After all, our disciplines reflect our priorities, and it’s the things we do every day that shape us.

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    As seen on Thrive Global written by Lolly Daskal

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