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  • feedwordpress 08:00:32 on 2018/06/21 Permalink
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    7 Body Language Mistakes You Need to Avoid 

    If you’re in a position of leadership—whether you’re a CEO, manager, or community volunteer—it’s likely that you put a great deal of care into the words you use. But if your
    body language doesn’t sync with those words, you may be giving a terrible impression without even knowing it.

    It is said that people form impressions of others in seven to 30 seconds. That’s pretty quick.
    If you don’t have the right body language, you may be leaving a negative impression
    before you even have a chance to speak.

    Body language goes far beyond a handshake and smile. But in my decades of executive leadership coaching, I’ve found that executives don’t pay nearly enough attention to its importance.

    Here are some of the most common body language mistakes to avoid if you want
    to make the great impression as a leader.

    1. Clashing body cues and spoken words. If you’re saying “Let’s all work together
    and make this work” while your hands are crossed against your chest, you’re likely
    coming across as confusing. People tend to trust nonverbal messages over verbal
    ones when the two are at odds. If you want people to believe your conciliatory words,
    uncross your arms and appear friendly and approachable and open.

    2. Raising your chin when you speak. While you definitely want to be proud of
    what you’re saying, a raised chin is a sign that you feel superior to the person
    you’re speaking with. Show respect by lowering your chin and staying evenly
    face-to-face.

    3. Putting one foot out the door. If you want to see where a person’s interest truly lies,
    look at their shoulders and feet. One of the first indicators that someone is trying to
    leave a conversation is when they turn a shoulder or a toe away. To show engagement
    and interest, keep your body directed at the person in front of you.

    4. Lack of eye contact. When you fail to maintain eye contact with someone
    who’s speaking, you’re signaling a complete lack of interest. Lack of eye contact
    will shut down even the most enthusiastic speaker. Establish the habit of thoughtful
    eye contact to show your interest.

    5. Constant fidgeting. Have you ever had a conversation with someone who couldn’t
    stop moving? Feet bobbing up and down, swaying back and forth, making little motions
    with their arms—fidgeting sends a message of stress bordering on anxiety, and it’s both unnerving and extremely distracting. When you have something to say, relax your body
    and try to be still as possible so your words come out strong and your body doesn’t give away cues of your stress.

    6. Not giving enough space. This one is especially important: give people enough space. People who lean right into you and speak inches away from your face seem to be taking advantage of their power. Nobody likes to feel their space has been invaded. Unless
    you’re signaled an invitation to come closer, the best body language is to stay at least
    an arm’s length away. Don’t back up too far, though, or you’ll come across as
    unapproachable or uninterested. Stand just close enough to show you’re engaged,
    and don’t lean in or out too much.

    7. Looking at your watch. Have you ever been distracted in a meeting or conversation
    when the person you’re trying to connect with keeps looking at their watch? We all know
    that means they’re checked out, uninterested or indifferent to what is being said. Stop
    looking at your watch—that goes for your phone, too—and don’t let your body language signal boredom.

    Everyone wants to make a good impression, no matter what their position or title. But
    when your body is saying one thing and your words another, there’s a better-than-average chance you’re making a poor impression. Review these common mistakes from time to
    time and make sure you’re not guilty of any of them and if you are avoid them or correct them.

    Lead From Within: As a leader, your body language will speak volumes, make sure
    you are mindful and paying attention to the message you are sending.

     


     

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    The Leadership Gap: What Gets Between You and Your Greatness

    After decades of coaching powerful executives around the world, Lolly Daskal has observed that leaders rise to their positions relying on a specific set of values and traits. But in time, every executive reaches a point when their performance suffers and failure persists. Very few understand why or how to prevent it.

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  • feedwordpress 08:00:20 on 2018/06/19 Permalink
    Tags: , , , , management, ,   

    5 Ways to Be A Better Leader 

    Good leaders, like professional athletes, make everything they do look easy. But in reality, many of them have to work hard to manage or compensate for potentially career-limiting traits.

    I’ve worked with many executives as a business leadership coach, and I’ve come to understand that becoming a better leader requires a strategy and suggestions on how to improve. With that principle in mind, here are five ways you can become a better leader immediately.

    Practice self-awareness. Think of yourself as the conductor of an orchestra—focused on helping every person on your team perform at their best. To be effective in this work, you need to understand your own strengths as well as your weaknesses and leadership gaps. Understanding yourself helps you leverage your strengths and your gaps. And at the end of the day, we all need to understand what challenges us and allow that awareness to become better leaders. What we understand, we own—and what we own doesn’t own us.

    Learn how to coach your people. The greatest and strongest leaders know they’re only as good as the teams around them, so they put tremendous emphasis on coaching and supporting their people, helping them grow. It’s important to give each person the attention and feedback that will motivate them to make meaningful contributions.

    Be willing to talk about difficult subjects. It’s always nice when you can act as a cheerleader for your organization, but the more important task is to help your team navigate the uncertain times. Business is messy, leadership isn’t easy and the way ahead may be far from clear. Communicate with your team about the issues facing your organization and industry—things like risks, variables, volatile markets. When you do, you not only build trust but also quash speculation and rumor mills.

    Ask for help when you need it. Most leaders consider themselves highly capable, which makes it even harder when they need to ask for support. But requesting help from others will always be one of the best ways to become a better leader. If you’re feeling stuck, seek out a mentor or hire a coach.

    Serve as a model. When you act as a model of integrity and hard work—when you talk the talk and walk the walk—people will admire your leadership and work to emulate your behavior. If you want to become a better leader, work on modeling the qualities you’d like to see in your team and in others.

    Lead from within: The best leaders know they can be even better leaders and they do everything they can to improve.

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    N A T I O N A L    B E S T S E L L E R
    The Leadership Gap: What Gets Between You and Your Greatness

    After decades of coaching powerful executives around the world, Lolly Daskal has observed that leaders rise to their positions relying on a specific set of values and traits. But in time, every executive reaches a point when their performance suffers and failure persists. Very few understand why or how to prevent it.

    buy now
     


    Additional Reading you might enjoy:

     

    Photo Credit: Getty Images

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  • feedwordpress 04:57:51 on 2018/06/16 Permalink
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    10 Bad Mistakes You Can Make as A New Boss 

    If you have plans of becoming a manager or taking on any leadership position, you can help yourself tremendously by being aware of the mistakes that hurt the reputations and relationships of new bosses. Here are the ten most common that I see in my work as a leadership coach. Check in with yourself periodically throughout your first year and make sure you’re avoiding these potholes, and before you know it you’ll be a well-regarded and seasoned leader.

    Trying to lead with a one-size-fits-all approach.

    Don’t assume that everyone needs the same kind of communication or motivation. The best bosses make an effort to become acquainted with those they lead as individuals and tailor an equitable approach that best connects with each individual on their team. Leadership is about investing your time and energy in getting to know those you lead and giving them what they need most.

    Poor communication.

    Even some experienced leaders have a hard time communicating well with their team. Good news is easy, but difficulties and problems are more challenging to communicate effectively. In my new book, The Leadership Gap, I talk about great leaders as great communicators and truth tellers. They’re honest and transparent with their team, even if the news is bad. Whatever’s going on, share it openly and involve others to come up with a solution. Honest communication builds trust and shuts down harmful rumor mills and gossip.

    Thinking that what got you here will keep you here.

    Many people are promoted to management because they’re rock stars in their field–but that doesn’t necessarily mean they have the managerial or leadership skills they need in their new role. Find a coach or mentor who can help you excel in the transition and teach you what you need to know to succeed and keep advancing.

    Trying to change everything right away.

    Making rapid wholesale changes is among the worst mistakes you can make in any position of authority. To earn respect, start by taking some time to understand the workplace culture and dynamics, then make any changes incrementally and with as much participation and buy-in from the team as possible. Listen and learn, and don’t change things that work well just because you can.

    Abusing power.

    Leadership is not about flexing your personal power but empowering others. That means you stand alongside those you lead and develop relationships that are collegial and mutually respectful. When you do, you’re more likely to discover a team of followers–not just subordinates–who work effectively, efficiently and happily.

    Failing to deliver difficult feedback.

    It’s natural to want to be liked, so too often new bosses avoid giving feedback–especially the difficult kind. But here’s the irony: if your leadership style is based on pleasing people and being liked, over time you’ll be seen as insecure, and you’ll become disliked and disrespected. If problems persist and challenges go unaddressed, your best people will grow frustrated, which in turn will lead to low morale and high employee turnover. Better to face up to what needs to be done.

    Staying isolated in the office.

    To be in a new position can be daunting, and wanting to make sure all goes well can keep you working long hours isolated behind closed doors. But that isolation is a big mistake. New leaders need to be visible, available and accessible. Your presence helps convey the message that you’re there to serve others and they can count on you.

    Not learning to delegate effectively.

    As a leadership coach I can’t count how many times I’ve heard this: “I’m new, I want to do things right, and if it’s going to be done right, then I have to do it myself.” Wrong! if you cannot delegate, you are not leading effectively. The only message you’re sending is that you’re a micromanager who doesn’t trust your people to do their jobs, and that reputation never leads to good results. Don’t make the mistake of trying to do everything all by yourself. Learn to trust those who have been hired to do their work–stand beside them but don’t control them. Give them the freedom they need to excel.

    Not knowing how to motivate others.

    It can be intimidating to be the new boss, but it’s imperative that you start by working to understand the motivation of your people–what drives them, compels them, excites them. From there you can fulfill your responsibility to nourish them into doing things they didn’t even know were possible. As I tell my clients, great leaders inspire those around them to do great things, and they do it by knowing what motivates others to excel.

    Failing to show appreciation.

    In their desire to hit the ground running and start racking up impressive accomplishments, new leaders often fail to recognize the contributions of others. When you focus only on results, you forget to acknowledge the effort, the talent and the performance. And when that happens, you team becomes less imaginative, less productive, and more likely to play it safe and just put in their hours.

    Every new role carries a need for new skills, and being a new boss is no different. Avoid these costly rookie mistakes and you’ll have a great start toward becoming the leader you are meant to be.


     

    N A T I O N A L   B E S T S E L L E R
    The Leadership Gap: What Gets Between You and Your Greatness

    After decades of coaching powerful executives around the world, Lolly Daskal has observed that leaders rise to their positions relying on a specific set of values and traits. But in time, every executive reaches a point when their performance suffers and failure persists. Very few understand why or how to prevent it.

    buy now


    Additional Reading you might enjoy:

     

    Photo Credit: Getty Images

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  • feedwordpress 04:52:00 on 2018/06/16 Permalink
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    How to Get Along with a Co-worker You Hate 

    Hate is a strong word. But sometimes you will likely have to work with people you have a hard time getting along with, and over time those feelings can grow into something strong enough to warrant the word.

    Maybe they’re untrustworthy, or lazy, or self-aggrandizing, or unaware of how their habits affect others. Maybe they just rub you the wrong way. Whatever the issue,  you may be feeling that the only way to make it better is to leave.

    But if leaving isn’t an option–or if you like your job and don’t want to give it up–there are things you can do to cope.

    Here are seven ways you can make life more bearable with a co-worker you despise:

    If you can’t change the situation, you have to learn to change yourself.

    If you can’t change the other person–and the odds are high that you can’t–what you can do is to change yourself. Work to adopt a different attitude and mindset. Remember that leadership begins from within, and by developing the resources to deal with your frustration, you’re building a valuable skill.

    To get a solution you must first reframe the problem.

    It’s easy to recall all the things you dislike about your coworker, but instead work to reframe them by focusing on their good qualities. As a coach, when I help people navigate conflicts, I always have each person state a few things that they appreciate about the other. If you can come from a positive side and find something, however small, to feel good about, you’ll be much better off.

    Let the things that irritate you lead to a better understanding of yourself.

    When you have a strong reaction to someone else, psychology says that it might be projection or envy. When you realize you’re totally irritated by something, take a moment to consider whether it might relate to something you dislike within yourself. What we hate in others is likely to be a reflection of our own worst qualities.

    Remember that whatever you resist will follow you.

    If you can’t find a way to work through what you’re feeling, chances are that you’ll have to face the same issue down the road. The lessons we encounter in life tend to be repeated until we manage to truly learn and internalize them. It’s human nature to resist these patterns–and the more important the issue, the more resistance we throw at it. But if you work through it now, you can save yourself a lot of trouble.

    Be radically honest no matter how much you want to hide the truth.

    Hating anyone burns up your emotional bandwidth and energy, keeping you from the things you need to do. Be honest and have a courageous conversation by being vulnerable about voicing your opinions. Much of the time, people are completely oblivious to how their behavior makes other people feel. Bringing their lousy behavior to their attention may open the door and change things for the better.

    Treat feedback as a gift that you are given in the present.

    When you confront someone, you also have to be prepared to listen to their side. Seek first to understand-pay attention to what is being said, taking in body language and tone as well as what’s spoken, then respond, don’t react.

    Focus on inclusion because segregation has never brought anyone but trouble. 

    When you really can’t stand someone, don’t think of segregating yourself from that person. Instead, find ways to include them in what you do. Find out more about the person, learn their story, and try to understand what drives them. You may find out you’ve been reading them all wrong.

    These things are not easy to do–trust me, I know. When people come to me as a coach and ask how to handle a person they hate, they want a quick fix, but quick fixes aren’t really fixes at all. If it’s going to get better, we have to work harder.

    In a perfect world, we’d get along perfectly in good relationships with all our co-workers. In reality, most of us spend at least some time working with someone we can’t stand– but there are always options to try and make things a little better.

     


     

    N A T I O N A L   B E S T S E L L E R
    The Leadership Gap: What Gets Between You and Your Greatness

    After decades of coaching powerful executives around the world, Lolly Daskal has observed that leaders rise to their positions relying on a specific set of values and traits. But in time, every executive reaches a point when their performance suffers and failure persists. Very few understand why or how to prevent it.

    buy now

     


    Additional Reading you might enjoy:

     

    Photo Credit: Getty Images

    The post How to Get Along with a Co-worker You Hate appeared first on Lolly Daskal.

     
  • feedwordpress 04:46:35 on 2018/06/16 Permalink
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    6 Impressive Ways to Lead Without the Title 

    No matter what position you have, leadership skills are valuable. Smart people know that to survive you have to lead, even if you don’t have the title (yet). The truth is, during the span of your career, you will not always have the title, but if you learn and acquire the following skills, they should give your leadership career the jump start it needs:

    Cultivate a great mindset.

    Having a good attitude is a great skill. If you can show enthusiasm and positivity no matter what your job is, people will notice. On any given day, many things can go wrong, but it’s the person who stays above the fray that is appreciated and respected.

    Consistently be supportive.

    When it comes to showcasing your inner leadership, teamwork is essential. if you insist on having your own way or controlling others, your career will run into a wall. The people who are supportive, adding value, always looking to serve others, those are the leaders who are indispensable. Always try to have the attitude of, “What can I do for you?”

    Learn to be flexible.

    If you want to stand out, make a great impression and work to become a person who is agile and flexible. It’s often the stubborn individuals who cost themselves advancement. If you want to succeed, be influential, but learn to be flexible.

    Let people know they can count on you.

    When people know you are accountable, it will give you credibility. When they know you stand by others, they respect you. Letting others know you trust them and showing them they can trust you back makes for a very impressive reputation.

    Be the creative one.

    In your current position, what process can be improved? What best practice can be tweaked? What can you do to make things easier for your customers or clients? Use your creativity to continuously improve processes, and you will always stand out.

    Give credit where credit is due.

    How many times have you seen your colleague or peers, or even your boss, taking the credit when the credit wasn’t theirs to be taken? The way to stand out is to stand together, to acknowledge others for their contribution, and give credit where credit is due. The way to be striking is to shine the light on others.

    If you start cultivating your leadership skills, moving up will be much easier. If you focus on being supportive, having a great attitude, being flexible and creative, and letting people know they can count on you, it will become much much easier for others to see you as a leader, no matter what your current position is.

     


     

    N A T I O N A L   B E S T S E L L E R
    The Leadership Gap: What Gets Between You and Your Greatness

    After decades of coaching powerful executives around the world, Lolly Daskal has observed that leaders rise to their positions relying on a specific set of values and traits. But in time, every executive reaches a point when their performance suffers and failure persists. Very few understand why or how to prevent it.

    buy now

     


    Additional Reading you might enjoy:

     

    Photo Credit: Getty Images

    The post 6 Impressive Ways to Lead Without the Title appeared first on Lolly Daskal.

     
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