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  • feedwordpress 11:04:39 on 2017/08/08 Permalink
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    The One Time You Should NOT Express Positivity 

    Optimism and positivity are beneficial to leadership in almost every circumstance. You won’t find many who would dispute that thought.

    We know the best kind of leadership requires seeing the glass as half full. We know that even in the most challenging times and difficult circumstances, it’s important to concentrate on what we have rather than what we lack. We understand the importance of gratitude—not just as a response when things are going especially well but as a daily practice. It’s not that happy people are thankful, it’s that thankful people are happy.

    We know positive thinking and an optimistic attitude can actually change our reality for the better. In the words of the old adage, “Think good, and it will be good.”

    A daily practice of gratitude and positivity can benefit you even when things get so bad that you can’t see a good outcome or any seed of hope. You can assure yourself that even if you can’t currently comprehend it, there’s a lesson or a stubborn thread of grace in there somewhere.

    There’s one situation, however, when positivity and gratitude don’t work—when, in fact, they can actually be destructive.

    That’s when you try to apply them to others.

    It’s understandable, the urge to apply something so helpful to someone who’s hurting. But however well intended, it simply doesn’t work.

    A distraught or grieving colleague or client doesn’t want to hear “There must be something good in your life to be grateful for.” Or “It must have been meant to be.” Or “I know you’re disappointed but things work out for the best.”

    When someone is suffering, it’s cruel to suggest that it’s all a lesson designed to make them a better person. And it’s downright arrogant for us to tell them this is good for them, or that it’s the way it’s meant to be.

    Our job is not to philosophize about another’s pain, but to alleviate, relieve and lessen it.

    True leaders know that when they see someone suffering, there’s only one acceptable response. They roll up their sleeves and ask, ‘What can I do to help?

    Here are some ways you can be of service to someone who’s hurting:

    Listen. One of the most important traits in leadership is the ability to listen. The best leaders, the skillful ones, know the importance of listening more than they speak. It’s especially important to listen to people who are trying to make sense of difficult events.

    Show support. If someone’s going through a tough time, the most meaningful thing you can say is I’m here for you. Simple words, but when they’re backed up with action they share a burden—and they reassure the person that they’re not alone.

    Convey empathy. Adopting a human approach to your leadership sets an example that helps you build an entire culture of empathetic leaders. People will admire your approach and work harder for you knowing that you respect their personal needs.

    Connect with caring. Gone are the days when people expect leaders to sit behind a closed office door and dictate from power. The best leaders today get to know their people on a personal level as well as professionally. They care, and they show that caring by connecting, communicating and demonstrating compassion.

     Lead from within: A positive is not the best answer for every situation. As a leader, you need to let each situation involving one of your people bring forth the best of what you have to offer in the terms of how you listen, how you support, how you care and how you connect.


    Learn more about the gaps that exist in positivity in my National Bestseller book:
    The Leadership Gap: What Gets Between You and Your Greatness

    After decades of coaching powerful executives around the world, Lolly Daskal has observed that leaders rise to their positions relying on a specific set of values and traits. But in time, every executive reaches a point when their performance suffers and failure persists. Very few understand why or how to prevent it.

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  • feedwordpress 14:18:26 on 2017/08/07 Permalink
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    Fun With Joel Comm and Lolly Daskal 

    Joel is the self-confessed ‘dumbest person in the room’ with today’s guest, author, and speaker, writer Lolly Daskal. Joel brings out Lolly’s inner girl and discusses her obsession for books and reading at least one book per day, sometimes before breakfast Joel discussed Lolly’s latest book: Leadership Gap – What Gets Between you and Greatness, and find out why this leadership book is different to others and how you can leverage a weakness into strength.

     

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    Find Lolly on her website
    Read Lolly’s latest book: The Leadership Gap Book : What gets Between You and Your Greatness

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  • feedwordpress 18:26:22 on 2017/07/21 Permalink
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    CHEDDAR TV: What It Takes To Be A Great Leader 

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  • feedwordpress 10:16:37 on 2017/07/13 Permalink
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    Daily Two Minutes Of Greatness 


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    Lolly Daskal is the founder of Lead from Within, a global leadership, executive coaching, and consulting firm based in New York City. Lolly has more than thirty years of experience with clients ranging from Fortune 500 executives to government leaders, to entrepreneurs and nonprofits.

    Lolly is one of today’s most sought-after executive leadership coaches and leadership consultants, and was named a Top-50 leadership and management expert by Inc.com and was named ‘The Most Inspiring Woman in the World’ by Huffington Post.

    She has written thousands of articles and columns for a variety of media, including Inc., Harvard Business Review, Fast Company, Huffington Post, and Psychology Today as well as a couple of best-selling books, the latest being ‘The Leadership Gap: What Gets Between You and Your Greatness’.

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  • feedwordpress 15:41:46 on 2017/06/21 Permalink
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    5 Unconventional Leadership Books You Need to Read 

    “Today a reader, tomorrow a leader.”
    ―Margaret Fuller

    Want to know one of the “secrets” to becoming a better leader? Become a more voracious reader.

    One of the best ways to “stand on the shoulders of giants” is to read. We hear it all the time–that the most successful people, our greatest leaders, are people who read constantly (including Bill Gates, Steve Jobs, Elon Musk, and Warren Buffett).

    Reading for leaders is a way to broaden their knowledge, to expand their world view, to gain insight and widen their perspectives.

    But the secret is knowing what to read. Not every book will get you where you need to be. Here is my list of the top five books you must read if you want to become a more successful, well-rounded leader.

    #1. The Leadership Gap: What Gets Between You and Your Greatness by Lolly Daskal

    “If you want to get your leadership right, you have to get yourself right.”

    In The Leadership Gap, Lolly Daskal reveals the consequences that highly driven, overachieving leaders face when they continue to rely on a skill set that has always worked for them but is no longer effective.

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    Article on Inc Written by Chris Winfield

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