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  • feedwordpress 08:00:34 on 2020/05/05 Permalink
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    The One Aspect Of Crisis Management That No One Talks About 


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    Some people are more suited to crisis leadership than others. Many hunker down and hope they make it through. Others are bold and dynamic, always driven to stay a step ahead of events.

    But throughout the spectrum, there is one aspect of crisis management that no one is talking about. Whatever your approach, you must stay aware of your people.

    What’s happening today is effecting every person on your team at a deep level. And if you want to stay successful as a leader, you need to address those changes.

    Here are some of the ways your people are likely reacting:

    Some go into deep into action mode. Many people think that if they stay busy and are in constant motion, they won’t have to address what is happening around them. So they go into action mode. Some of my clients are now working 16-hour days just to keep moving.

    Some are angry and don’t even know it. People may be feeling frustrated—about change, about uncertainty—unaware that underlying that frustration is anger. Anger happens when frustration isn’t being addressed. A massive crisis that changes nearly every aspect of life with no clear end in sight is a perfect example of a situation that can cause deep-seated anger.

    Many are mourning what used to be. People are likely to be mourning their old lives and wishing things could go back to what used to be. Some may be grieving for long-awaited events, family gatherings and celebrations that have been canceled. Others may have lost a friend or family member. When people are grieving, emotions such as guilt, despair, fear and anxiety are common.

    Most are reflecting on their lives. Crisis often triggers inner turmoil, because it takes away the noise of everyday distractions and gives people a clear look at their life from a new perspective. They may be asking themselves, Am I where I need to be? Is this what I thought I would become? Is this giving me the joy I was looking for? And the answers may change their future direction.

    If you aren’t recognizing what is happening to your people and communicating with empathy and understanding, you may be facing a bigger crisis within your organization than you realize. Leading in a crisis is not about just having an action plan and implementing it for success. It’s about acknowledging your people and accepting that they’re likely to be going through things that will take them some time, and maybe help, to work thorough.

    As a leadership coach, I have seen countless organizations in crisis, and I know the price of ignoring its human dimension. if you want to keep your most talented and capable people, address the issues they’re struggling with.

    Lead from within: Crisis management is not only about having a plan for the future; it is recognizing your people for who they are and what they need from you as a leader.

     


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  • feedwordpress 08:00:15 on 2020/04/28 Permalink
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    What Your Leadership Will Not Be Able to Give You 


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    There are some things you cannot expect from your leadership. Everyone—in leadership or not—needs to be able to nourish their inner self. You can count on those around you for many kinds of help, but there are some things you have to rely on yourself to provide.

    Don’t expect people to hold you accountable as well as you can for yourself. A successful leader will always be responsible. But those you lead or even those above you can’t hold you accountable as well as you can for yourself. You know better than anyone where you’ve succeeded and where you’ve let yourself down.

    Don’t expect anyone else to understand what you’re going through. Even if someone has gone through something similar, everyone experiences things differently and in a different context. People may walk the same path, but not in the same way. Spend time working to understand what’s happening in your life and what it means to you, because others will never be able to fully understand it.

    Don’t expect others to be your cheerleader. Leadership is about being an inspiration for others and keeping them motivated—but you also have to do the same for yourself. You may draw some inspiration from your team, but ultimately you have to set your own goals and motivate yourself to reach them. Learn to engage your own mind and heart as well as those of others.

    Don’t expect praise or recognition. The greatest leader is not necessarily the one who does the greatest things; it’s the one who gets their people to do the greatest things. You may or may not get praise for your leadership from others, and expecting acknowledgement from others can sometimes set yourself up for disappointment. Learn to praise others without expecting the same in return.

    Don’t expect people to read your mind. If you aren’t communicating openly and regularly, you can’t get upset with those you lead for not knowing what you think. Assumptions can be damaging, so don’t put your people in a position of having to guess. If they don’t have all the information they need, that’s on you, not them.

    Don’t expect your leadership to validate your self-worth. Your value lies within yourself. Other people are tuned in to their own lives. If anything, they’re busy projecting their own needs and wants onto you. But as a leader you have to learn to validate yourself first—then everything will fall into line.

    If you got into leadership hoping to get something you will be disappointed, because leadership is about giving to others. That’s why it’s important to learn to care for yourself in ways that can help you honor others.

    Lead from within: You can’t expect to receive much beyond your own satisfaction from your leadership, but as a leader you are expected to be your best and lead by example.

     


    #1  N A T I O N A L   B E S T S E L L E R

    The Leadership Gap
    What Gets Between You and Your Greatness


    After decades of coaching powerful executives around the world, Lolly Daskal has observed that leaders rise to their positions relying on a specific set of values and traits. But in time, every executive reaches a point when their performance suffers and failure persists. Very few understand why or how to prevent it.

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  • feedwordpress 09:10:29 on 2020/03/19 Permalink
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    How to Be A Great Leader When Crisis Hits 


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    Times of crisis are the moments when leadership is most needed. But what happens when we’re required to maintain social distancing and teams need to work remotely? How can we lead in ways that make a positive difference? Here are some of the thoughts I’ve been sharing with my clients:

    Maintain a leadership presence. Many leaders are fearful of overreacting, and some wishfully hope that a crisis will resolve itself. Great leaders, however, know that in crisis you don’t overreact but neither do you let yourself be passive. You show your presence as a leader by reassuring those who count on you that you are there and doing everything in your power to make things run smoothly.

    Forge a plan but keep it fluid. In crisis, you must create plans but balance those plans against the knowledge that they may need to change if the crisis escalates or changes direction. It’s the leaders who can adapt, those who know how to go with the flow, who are the most successful. Crises tend to be fluid situations, so you need to plan on the fly and be ready to make adjustments as new elements arise. Don’t look for perfection—look for actions that work.

    Decide and act quickly. Many leaders try to get away with a “wait and see” attitude, but the best are decisive and act quickly. They don’t wait until things are really bad to act; they respond from the onset and do what it takes for people to have faith that thoughtful, clear decisions are being made.

    Communicate constantly. The worst thing any leader can do is trying to hide behind bad news. Crisis management requires communication—the vulnerable and honest kind, where you stay in touch with what is happening and keep people informed often and consistently. Leaders who hold back in these moments lose trust; those who keep people informed are admired.

    Stay positive and productive. In times of crisis people get anxious and have a hard time staying calm and getting things done. Leaders who can remain positive and productive through the storm are the most successful and set a strong example for those around them. Great leaders keep a level head by remaining optimistic and forge ahead with constructive ideas and a disciplined focus.

    Manage your relationships. It’s especially important in unsettled times to be mindful of all your relationships: employees, customers, clients, colleagues, neighbors. What you say and do in these moments will be remembered long after the crisis is over and may come to define your leadership and your success in the long run.

    Crises happen. But it is what you do with your leadership that matters.

    Lead from within: In a crisis, your team, your colleagues, and your customers all need your leadership. Show them what great leadership is by being the confident leader you know you are.


    #1 N A T I O N A L  B E S T S E L L E R

    The Leadership Gap
    What Gets Between You and Your Greatness


    After decades of coaching powerful executives around the world, Lolly Daskal has observed that leaders rise to their positions relying on a specific set of values and traits. But in time, every executive reaches a point when their performance suffers and failure persists. Very few understand why or how to prevent it.

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  • feedwordpress 08:00:39 on 2020/03/10 Permalink
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    The Best Ways Leaders Quiet Mind Chatter 


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    On average, each us has around 50,000 different thoughts a day—and some have many more. Thinking is an important part of being a good leader, but knowing how to control and quiet your thoughts is important in preventing stress and mental exhaustion. Knowing how to quiet mind chatter is a valuable skill—and one that’s often overlooked. Here’s what top leaders do:

    Make time to check out. Engage every day in a time of meditation, prayer or deep breathing, and develop shorter techniques to help you anytime the chatter becomes overwhelming. Great leaders know that their mind is their most important asset, and keeping it healthy and strong it is essential. Part of that is practicing a time of stillness.

    Quiet the mind with concentrated focus. Many people find that focus is the only cure for a chattering mind. It’s almost impossible to think about two things at the same time. Great leaders conquer overthinking and mind chatter with focused thought and action.

    Don’t get lost in your fears. I believe in the acronym that describes fear as false evidence appearing real. If you want your mind to stop running wild from one fear to another, address your thoughts. Ask yourself what’s the worst that could happen and work through your fears instead of allowing them to take hold. Just spending a few moments going through and naming your fears can bring you clarity.

    Spend more time in the present. By being in the present moment in your everyday life, rather than replaying the past or projecting possible futures, you can replace much of the time you spend overthinking with genuine connection. Sure, it sounds simple—but having the ability to live in the moment is an effective way to reduce stress and foster control over mind chatter.

    Remember you have control. Stop a rapid train of thought with an emphatic mental STOP!, then take several deep breaths and move on. It is important to remember that you’re in control of your thoughts, not the other way around. Keep your thoughts on your side so they don’t interfere with your success.

    Practice gratitude. Starting each morning with gratitude will help set the tone of your day. Reflect on what you are grateful for, which will shift your focus from what you don’t have to what you do have. With time, the practice of gratitude will train your mind to reflexively find the positive. Take some time each day to give thanks for the good things in your life.

    The best leaders know that it’s normal—and occasionally even beneficial—to have a lot of thoughts dancing through your head. The trick is to learn how to quiet it down so you can have a more calm and purposeful life.

    Lead from within: Mental noise is the constant chatter of the mind that never stops. It is the inner conversation or monologue that goes on constantly in the mind, and what we do with it makes a big difference in our leadership.

     


    #1  N A T I O N A L   B E S T S E L L E R

    The Leadership Gap
    What Gets Between You and Your Greatness


    After decades of coaching powerful executives around the world, Lolly Daskal has observed that leaders rise to their positions relying on a specific set of values and traits. But in time, every executive reaches a point when their performance suffers and failure persists. Very few understand why or how to prevent it.

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  • feedwordpress 09:00:50 on 2020/02/06 Permalink
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    This One Trait Will Destroy Your Leadership 


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    There are lots of traits that can harm your leadership. But the most dangerous—the trait that carries a real danger of destroying your ability to lead—is defensiveness.

    No one enjoys taking criticism, but if you can’t listen to others and take in what those around you are saying, you’re slowly eroding your leadership, even if you don’t realize it. Here are some questions to help you identify the principal danger signs in yourself:

    Are you closed off to criticism? if you cannot listen to criticism you will never know what people actually think. Unless you are willing to hear the candid thoughts of people you trust, you cannot develop or grow as a leader, and you will likely lose the respect of your people.

    Do you deny your mistakes or faults? You can’t learn from your mistakes if you’re busy trying to deny they exist. The best leaders are humble enough to see their mistakes, courageous enough to admit them and wise enough to correct them.

    Do you rationalize away your failures? Nobody wants hear how you justify your mistakes as a leader—they want to know what you’ve learned in the process, how failure has made you smarter and better. The best route to respect is to be candid about your own missteps and failures.

    Do you get upset at the messenger who brings bad news? If you punish those who are honest with you, no one will tell you truth. An important part of being a leader is showing strength and tenacity in the face of bad news, focusing on solutions rather than lashing out.

    Do you blame others for your problems? When you try to blame others for your own shortcoming and problems, it shows your low self-esteem as a leader. It’s never easy, but you have to show that you’re courageous enough to accept your faults and strong enough to take corrective action.

    Do you ignore others? If you don’t listen to others, others won’t listen to you. It’s that simple.

    Do you lead with a sensitive ego? A sensitive ego is one that protects you from pain. It can also prevent a you from maturing mentally and emotionally by causing you to distort truths and ignore unpleasant facts about yourself. When you fail to connect with and show your authentic self, you cast your leadership into question.

    Do you shut down negative feedback? Trying to keep things quiet doesn’t make them go away—and most of the time it doesn’t even work. Make yourself listen to the good and the bad, because what you don’t own will end up owning you.

    Are you unapproachable? As a leader, you should be both approachable and accessible. You can’t lead when you’re closed in.

    If you’re concerned that defensiveness is harming your leadership, get your ego out of the way and start working through to the honesty and integrity that foster great leadership.

    Lead from within: Defensiveness is a sign of failure. You can’t move forward in your leadership until you overcome it.

     


    #1 N A T I O N A L   B E S T S E L L E R

    The Leadership Gap
    What Gets Between You and Your Greatness


    After decades of coaching powerful executives around the world, Lolly Daskal has observed that leaders rise to their positions relying on a specific set of values and traits. But in time, every executive reaches a point when their performance suffers and failure persists. Very few understand why or how to prevent it.

    buy now

     


    Additional Reading you might enjoy:

     

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