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  • feedwordpress 08:00:40 on 2018/07/31 Permalink
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    6 Big Career Mistakes That Can Sabotage Your Future  

    We all make all kinds of mistakes—some because we’re inexperienced, some because we don’t know what we know, and some, unfortunately, because we have a tendency to keep repeating that one mistake until we finally learn our lesson.

    Thankfully, most mistakes don’t do lasting harm and can even benefit us in the long run. There are, however, some mistakes that are so damaging they amount to career sabotage. Here are six of the worst:

    Believing you must KNOW everything and DO everything to be successful. It’s important to become a subject matter expert, but when you think you have to know everything and do everything, you are setting yourself up to fail. You come across not only as a micromanager but also as someone who doesn’t trust your team or colleagues. The most successful people are good at letting those who are qualified do their job and at finding ways to collaborate and work together to get things done.

    Thinking your leadership skills will develop naturally with time. Big mistake! You can be extremely competent in what you do, but if you don’t have any leadership coaching, mentoring or guidance, don’t expect to keep moving up—or even to stay where you are. Everyone who leads others has to be constantly working on their leadership development. As a leadership coach for top executives, I see this all the time—those who get promoted to prestige jobs don’t think they need any more coaching. But leadership is a skill that requires constant nurturing and developing. It may mean devoting time each day to your growth as a leader or hiring a coach  to help you sharpen your interpersonal skills and build your confidence.

    Suffering from S.O.S. (Shiny Object Syndrome) SOS is an ailment of distraction, and it affects businessmen and women who are entrepreneurial, specifically because of the qualities that make them unique: high levels of motivation, a craving for new technology and new developments, and the courage to start new projects and create new things. Think of a small child chasing after something shiny. Once they get there and see what the object is, they immediately lose interest and start chasing the next thing. I am sure you can see how this would derail a successful career. Once you reach a certain level, success isn’t about getting new opportunities but getting the right opportunities. The time you spend looking for the next new opportunity is time you could be working on your own goals or simply enjoying your life.

    Putting your life on hold while you chase success. If you don’t have a life, you don’t have a career. Thinking that putting in longer hours will make you more successful is a big mistake. It’s not the hours but the quality of what happens in those hours that matters. I have seen gifted, talented individuals who work all day and all night and still are not as effective as those who come in early and leave early so they can have time with their family. Study after study shows that you’re at your most effective when you take breaks, nourish your body, walk, exercise, meditate. Don’t work yourself ragged, neglecting your family, friends, and health in hopes that things will improve. Prioritize your tasks and become more efficient, and you can spend less time at the office.

    Chasing the title but not being equipped for the role. Those who are average at what they do chase after titles more than results and effectiveness. Seeking out high status instead of focusing on building skills may not be the only way to disrupt your career, but it will get the job done. Stay focused on the substance, not the symbol.

    Burning the bridge and not understanding the effects of the fire. You never want to become that person that the HR people use as an example: “I have a good story—a good example of what not to do when you leave a job.” Those good stories make for bad references and missed opportunities. And far too often they’re about poor behavior during an exit from the company. It’s easy to get swept up in the excitement of wanting to tell everyone what’s wrong, what isn’t working and how the place you have been is the worst place. It may feel good in the moment—everyone who’s ever had a bad job understands the desire to go out this way—but it isn’t likely to change anything and it will cost you in long-term career damage.

    The important principle is never to make the same mistake twice, especially when they’re mistakes that will derail your career.

    Lead From Within: Keep growing in strength and in knowledge and stay focused on your goals, and you’ll never have to make those mistakes that will derail your career

     


     

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  • feedwordpress 08:00:07 on 2018/07/03 Permalink
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    How Successful Leader Manage Their Energy Not Their Time 

    Many of the leaders I work with are anxious to hear tips on time management. But after working with business leaders and executives for over three decades, I’ve come to realize that the most effective and successful leaders treat time management as a secondary concern. For them, it’s energy management that produces real results.

    Most of my clients—and most leaders in general—have a lot to accomplish. When it feels like there aren’t enough hours in the day to do what you need to do, it’s all too easy to push yourself beyond your limits. As a result, you can become burned out long before you accomplish your goals.

    When I coach my clients on using their time effectively, the first step is to work on managing their energy. It can be challenging in our overscheduled and hurried world, but here are some of the fundamental principles:

    It’s about getting the rest you need. People try to get everything done in an all-nighter, but in fact the longer you stay up the less productive you become. It’s best to get a good night’s sleep and start fresh.

    It’s about quality, not quantity. I don’t know any business leaders who don’t have too much to do. It’s not about how much you can get done but how you get it done. Quality always wins out over quantity. It may even give you the zest to do more—it is a powerful feeling when you get things done with excellence.

    It’s about being present without being distracted. The best way to manage your energy and time is to be fully present with whatever, or whoever, needs your attention. When you have true focus, you can accomplish tasks twice as fast with more energy left over.

    It’s about taking small breaks. Multiple studies have found that you have more energy for the day’s tasks, especially work-related tasks, if you take short breaks throughout the day. Those can be as simple as five to 10 minutes of stepping away from your work space and getting into a different mental zone — for instance, taking a short walk, completing an unrelated task, listening to a favorite song or reading something else. Research suggests that distracting yourself briefly once an hour gives you more energy to work during the day productively.

    It’s about working out. You’ve likely heard it a thousand times already: exercise gives you endorphins, endorphins make you happy and being happy gives you energy. When you feel like you don’t have the energy to exercise and you drag yourself to the gym, you’ll leave feeling more energized. Numerous studies point to regular exercise as having a significant role in increasing energy levels and reducing fatigue.

    Lead from within: If you are truly mindful of your energy and you manage it well, you’re likely to become far more productive—and, as a result, a more effective leader.

     


     

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    The Leadership Gap: What Gets Between You and Your Greatness

    After decades of coaching powerful executives around the world, Lolly Daskal has observed that leaders rise to their positions relying on a specific set of values and traits. But in time, every executive reaches a point when their performance suffers and failure persists. Very few understand why or how to prevent it.

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  • feedwordpress 09:00:48 on 2018/02/06 Permalink
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    7 Ways To Keep Your Team Happy And Motivated 

    There are probably few if any people in leadership who don’t aspire to have a happy team. But what does it take to keep people motivated? Especially these days, when most people are working long hours and have so much to do, there are steps you can take to help ensure your team is happy (and, since the two go hand in hand, motivated). Here’s a list, compiled from the workshops I facilitate, of what fuels the happiest teams

    1. A happy team has a supportive leader. A happy team has a leader who is engaged and supportive—and leaders with that style will go much further than either micromanagers or aloof directors. People are much more willing to go the extra mile if they know their team leader is willing to roll their sleeves up and pitch in when necessary. They need to know their leader is someone they can count on when the going gets tough.

    2. A happy team has an inclusive culture. One key to a happy team is to create an environment where people feel free to discuss ideas openly and to disagree with each other before reaching consensus—or, at the very least, a compromise that everyone can live with.  If the culture is right, the conversation will be honest and the communication will find common ground. Make sure your team atmosphere is one where new ideas are welcomed, healthy debate is encouraged and everyone works toward the same goals of trust, respect and success.

    3. A happy team has opportunities for learning. When team members feel that the organization and leadership are invested in their career, they feel valued—which in turn makes them feel happier and more productive, innovative and creative. Team members are also invigorated by feeling that they’re growing and not just standing still. Extend as many opportunities as possible for learning and professional development.

    4. A happy team has up-to-date tools that work well. Teams work at their best when they know they’re equipped to do their job properly. Tools that are outdated or that don’t work well make the workplace stressful and frustrating. When setting goals for your team, make sure that they have the tools and training to accomplish they need.

    5. A happy team has ongoing feedback and clear communication. Good communication skills build trusting relationship and cultivate happy people. That means you need to be as skilled at listening as at speaking and writing. Allocate ongoing time for feedback, making sure communication is honest, truthful and straightforward. Teamwork thrives in an environment where communication is valued.

    6. A happy team knows mistakes are acceptable. While you should be able to expect consistently high performance from your team, mistakes and errors are inevitable. A positive working culture is one where employees are not made to feel that a mistake is unacceptable or fatal. The best teams make mistakes—and then learn from them. Avoid blaming or shaming people when they make a mistake.

    7. A happy team receives appreciation and recognition. When your team does something above and beyond, something unexpected, something that impresses you—express appreciation and recognition as loudly and publically as possible. It’s a no-brainer: making people feel valued it one of the easiest things you can do to foster a positive workplace culture and a happy team.

    Everyone in the organization, from the top down, is responsible for designing and building a positive environment and culture where people can be happy, where everyone makes a contribution, where everyone counts.

    Lead from within: Happy people make happy teams, and happy teams know what they want and how to navigate toward it together.


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    What Gets Between You and Your Greatness

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  • feedwordpress 09:00:51 on 2017/10/31 Permalink
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    12 Successful Leadership Principles That Never Grow Old 

    In an age when everything is newer, better faster, it’s good sometimes to pause and remember some of the old wisdom that humanity has acquired through the ages.

    If we hold to these evergreen principles, they can carry us through the toughest and most challenging times in work and in life—just as they did for our parents and grandparents.

    The words may seem timeworn at first glance, but that’s evidence of their enduring value, and if you move past their familiarity to connect with the meaning, you’ll understand why they’ve lasted so long.

    Everyone’s list may be a little different, but here are 12 of my own favorites:

    1. If you want something in life, you have to pay the cost.
    Too often, we want the reward without the risk, the success without the failure. But you can’t have a destination without a journey. And every journey comes at a cost—an investment of time, patience and discipline every step of the way.

    2. When you can’t change the situation, you can still change yourself.
    Sometimes you have no choice but to accept whatever life sends your way. When that happens, the important thing is that you meet the situation with the best you have to give. Nothing more, nothing less.

    3. Every leadership success story is laced with struggle.
    Just because you’re struggling, it doesn’t mean you’re failing. Every great success requires some kind of struggle to get there. Use your difficulties and frustrations to motivate and inspire you. The true measure of your success is how many times you can bounce back from failure.

    4. Weakness of attitude becomes weakness of character.
    It doesn’t take long for a temporary slip in standards to become permanent—and when that happens, it becomes part of your character. Don’t accept excuses from yourself or allow yourself to slack off.

    5. Sometimes you have to lose yourself to find yourself.
    Even the wrong choices can bring us to the right places. To be creative and productive in life, you must first lose your resistance to being wrong. On the darkest path, there are lessons to learn and moments of grace to savor that you won’t find anywhere else.

    6. Positivity fuels positivity; negativity fuels negativity.
    Your ability to be positive hinges on your attitude—an external expression of your internal state. When you keep a positive orientation, you infuse your life with purpose, meaning and vitality in every situation.

    7. When you help others you help yourself.
    The purpose of human life is to serve, and to show compassion and goodwill to help others. Successful people are always looking for opportunities to help others instead of asking “What’s in it for me?”

    8. There’s no progress without a plan.
    As the saying goes, if you fail to plan you are planning to fail. If you want to achieve results that you can document and point to, you need an achievable, measured, specific goal. Learning to set appropriate goals is a skill you can practice and learn.

    9. There are things you can control and things you can’t.
    Even though you cannot control much of what happens, you can control your attitude toward those events. When you do, you will be mastering change rather than allowing it to master you.

    10. The key is not to spend time but to invest it.
    All that really belongs to us is time. So treat your time as a precious and nonrenewable resource: treasure your time, invest it wisely and enjoy every moment. No idleness, no laziness, no procrastination. Nothing is a waste of time if you use the experience wisely.

    11. Determination will get you through almost anything.
    When things are tough, you have to be tougher. Simply refuse to give up, make sure you’re working hard, and keep it up until things improve. Replace your fears of what else could wrong with positivity about what could go right.

    12. You are the only person responsible for your success.
    You were put on this earth to achieve your greatest self, to live out your purpose, and to do it courageously. Remember that all great achievements require time, and be patient with yourself on the journey.

    LEAD FROM WITHIN: The principles in which we live by in our business and leadership they are the most important elements of our success and happiness.


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  • feedwordpress 09:14:41 on 2017/04/25 Permalink
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    How the Imposter in You Can Derail Your Leadership 

    Lead From Within, Lolly Daskal, Imposter Syndrome

    How many times in your life have you wanted to achieve something significant but were stopped by an inner voice?

    How many times in your leadership have you wanted to move to the next level but heard something inside saying, “No, you’re not ready”?

    These voice—the one that tells you you’re not good enough, smart enough, capable enough, worthy enough, or ready for the next step—is the voice of the imposter within you. The imposter wants to hold you back and prevent you from doing the things you dream about. It’s sabotaging you in the guise of protecting you.

    The imposter’s voice is the voice of fear—fear of vulnerability, fear of shame—and it will work to keep you from trying new things or taking bold action. Here are five ways the imposter can derail your leadership:

    The imposter compares. Most of us spend too much time looking over our shoulder to see how successful, how accomplished, how smart someone else is and how we measure up. There will always be someone who appears to be smarter, better, faster, wiser, leaner than you are. It can be exhausting trying to keep up with everyone, and comparing yourself to others leads to nothing but frustration. Measure your accomplishments within yourself. Don’t look at others but ask yourself daily what you can do better tomorrow.

    The imposter wants to please everyone. When you feel insufficient it’s a short leap to wanting to always please everyone, even though you know it’s impossible. Trying to please all is a no-win situation; leadership is not about pleasing people but empowering them—and that means sometimes pushing them to the edge of their discomfort zone. If you’re trying to please everyone you are doing harm to your leadership.

    The imposter is an overachiever. When your to-do list that is longer than you can manage, you need to step back. Delegate to the gifted and talented people you’ve surrounded yourself with. When you do, you help keep your own workload manageable and you empower others to lead and grow.

    The imposter is a perfectionist. There are few things more unhealthy than an either-or system in which you’re either perfect or a failure. Perfection isn’t real, and the sooner a leader knows that the less they will feel like an imposter. Don’t reach for perfection but concentrate doing your best to the best of your ability in a way that shows people that what you do you take pride in. Remember that your actions send a message to those you lead.

    The imposter feels like a fraud. The saying “fake it till you make it” is certainly popular. But it can be a damaging message. Pretending to be something else while you’re trying to figure it out isn’t authentic or genuine. Don’t fight the imposter by pretending that you deserve your success—learn to believe it, and then let the rest fall into place.

    Lead from within. The imposter within you will try to sabotage you and play havoc with who you are and what you can accomplish. The only effective way to combat it is to take full charge of your capabilities and competence and lead with confidence, because greatness lies within you.
     
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