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  • feedwordpress 09:00:51 on 2017/10/31 Permalink
    Tags: , , , Life Principles, Life Skills, Values,   

    12 Successful Leadership Principles That Never Grow Old 

    In an age when everything is newer, better faster, it’s good sometimes to pause and remember some of the old wisdom that humanity has acquired through the ages.

    If we hold to these evergreen principles, they can carry us through the toughest and most challenging times in work and in life—just as they did for our parents and grandparents.

    The words may seem timeworn at first glance, but that’s evidence of their enduring value, and if you move past their familiarity to connect with the meaning, you’ll understand why they’ve lasted so long.

    Everyone’s list may be a little different, but here are 12 of my own favorites:

    1. If you want something in life, you have to pay the cost.
    Too often, we want the reward without the risk, the success without the failure. But you can’t have a destination without a journey. And every journey comes at a cost—an investment of time, patience and discipline every step of the way.

    2. When you can’t change the situation, you can still change yourself.
    Sometimes you have no choice but to accept whatever life sends your way. When that happens, the important thing is that you meet the situation with the best you have to give. Nothing more, nothing less.

    3. Every leadership success story is laced with struggle.
    Just because you’re struggling, it doesn’t mean you’re failing. Every great success requires some kind of struggle to get there. Use your difficulties and frustrations to motivate and inspire you. The true measure of your success is how many times you can bounce back from failure.

    4. Weakness of attitude becomes weakness of character.
    It doesn’t take long for a temporary slip in standards to become permanent—and when that happens, it becomes part of your character. Don’t accept excuses from yourself or allow yourself to slack off.

    5. Sometimes you have to lose yourself to find yourself.
    Even the wrong choices can bring us to the right places. To be creative and productive in life, you must first lose your resistance to being wrong. On the darkest path, there are lessons to learn and moments of grace to savor that you won’t find anywhere else.

    6. Positivity fuels positivity; negativity fuels negativity.
    Your ability to be positive hinges on your attitude—an external expression of your internal state. When you keep a positive orientation, you infuse your life with purpose, meaning and vitality in every situation.

    7. When you help others you help yourself.
    The purpose of human life is to serve, and to show compassion and goodwill to help others. Successful people are always looking for opportunities to help others instead of asking “What’s in it for me?”

    8. There’s no progress without a plan.
    As the saying goes, if you fail to plan you are planning to fail. If you want to achieve results that you can document and point to, you need an achievable, measured, specific goal. Learning to set appropriate goals is a skill you can practice and learn.

    9. There are things you can control and things you can’t.
    Even though you cannot control much of what happens, you can control your attitude toward those events. When you do, you will be mastering change rather than allowing it to master you.

    10. The key is not to spend time but to invest it.
    All that really belongs to us is time. So treat your time as a precious and nonrenewable resource: treasure your time, invest it wisely and enjoy every moment. No idleness, no laziness, no procrastination. Nothing is a waste of time if you use the experience wisely.

    11. Determination will get you through almost anything.
    When things are tough, you have to be tougher. Simply refuse to give up, make sure you’re working hard, and keep it up until things improve. Replace your fears of what else could wrong with positivity about what could go right.

    12. You are the only person responsible for your success.
    You were put on this earth to achieve your greatest self, to live out your purpose, and to do it courageously. Remember that all great achievements require time, and be patient with yourself on the journey.

    LEAD FROM WITHIN: The principles in which we live by in our business and leadership they are the most important elements of our success and happiness.


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  • feedwordpress 09:14:41 on 2017/04/25 Permalink
    Tags: , Imposter, Imposter Syndrome, , , Life Skills, , , , , ,   

    How the Imposter in You Can Derail Your Leadership 

    Lead From Within, Lolly Daskal, Imposter Syndrome

    How many times in your life have you wanted to achieve something significant but were stopped by an inner voice?

    How many times in your leadership have you wanted to move to the next level but heard something inside saying, “No, you’re not ready”?

    These voice—the one that tells you you’re not good enough, smart enough, capable enough, worthy enough, or ready for the next step—is the voice of the imposter within you. The imposter wants to hold you back and prevent you from doing the things you dream about. It’s sabotaging you in the guise of protecting you.

    The imposter’s voice is the voice of fear—fear of vulnerability, fear of shame—and it will work to keep you from trying new things or taking bold action. Here are five ways the imposter can derail your leadership:

    The imposter compares. Most of us spend too much time looking over our shoulder to see how successful, how accomplished, how smart someone else is and how we measure up. There will always be someone who appears to be smarter, better, faster, wiser, leaner than you are. It can be exhausting trying to keep up with everyone, and comparing yourself to others leads to nothing but frustration. Measure your accomplishments within yourself. Don’t look at others but ask yourself daily what you can do better tomorrow.

    The imposter wants to please everyone. When you feel insufficient it’s a short leap to wanting to always please everyone, even though you know it’s impossible. Trying to please all is a no-win situation; leadership is not about pleasing people but empowering them—and that means sometimes pushing them to the edge of their discomfort zone. If you’re trying to please everyone you are doing harm to your leadership.

    The imposter is an overachiever. When your to-do list that is longer than you can manage, you need to step back. Delegate to the gifted and talented people you’ve surrounded yourself with. When you do, you help keep your own workload manageable and you empower others to lead and grow.

    The imposter is a perfectionist. There are few things more unhealthy than an either-or system in which you’re either perfect or a failure. Perfection isn’t real, and the sooner a leader knows that the less they will feel like an imposter. Don’t reach for perfection but concentrate doing your best to the best of your ability in a way that shows people that what you do you take pride in. Remember that your actions send a message to those you lead.

    The imposter feels like a fraud. The saying “fake it till you make it” is certainly popular. But it can be a damaging message. Pretending to be something else while you’re trying to figure it out isn’t authentic or genuine. Don’t fight the imposter by pretending that you deserve your success—learn to believe it, and then let the rest fall into place.

    Lead from within. The imposter within you will try to sabotage you and play havoc with who you are and what you can accomplish. The only effective way to combat it is to take full charge of your capabilities and competence and lead with confidence, because greatness lies within you.
     
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  • feedwordpress 12:41:07 on 2016/12/06 Permalink
    Tags: , , Humble Leaders, Humility, , , Life Skills, , , ,   

    The Best Leaders Are Humble Leaders 

    screen-shot-2016-12-06-at-7-28-00-amWhen we think of great qualities of leaders, the first things that come to mind are traits like charisma, bravado and vision.

    You wouldn’t expect to see humility on that list—but you should.

    Research shows the effectiveness of humble leadership: Humble leaders have more influence, they attract better people, and they earn more confidence, respect and loyalty than those who rely upon ego and power.

    In my work as a coach, I emphasize not just the importance of humility but also the fact that it’s a skill.

    Here are some key skills of humble leaders. Look through and see which you already have and which you need to develop:

    They lead to serve. Humble leaders shift attention away from themselves and focus on the contributions and needs of those around them.

    They have reserves of inner strength. Being a humble leader isn’t a sign of meekness or powerlessness but of great inner strength. The best leaders are humble on the outside and confident on the inside.

    They admit to their mistakes. All leaders are human, which means they all make mistakes from time to time. When you are willing to share your own missteps and mistakes, it allows others to connect to you in a deeper way. Humility is a quality that lets others see your humanity.

    They seek input from others. The first step of turning to others for input is being vulnerable enough to admit that you need the help and insight of others—which is a sign of great character on its own.

    They know themselves. Humble leaders know who they are and behave in a way that’s consistent with that knowledge. They also recognize where there’s room for improvement.

    They are genuine. Humble leaders know the importance of being authentic. They are the same person in private, in public, and in personal life, in every situation and with every kind of people.

    They invite trust. Humble leaders know that trust—earning it, giving it and building it—is the foundation of great leadership.

    They treat others with respect. Humble leaders are consistent and disciplined in their treatment of others. They treat everyone with respect regardless of their position, role or title.

    They understand their limitations. Humble leaders have the confidence to recognize their own weaknesses. Rather than viewing their limits as a threat or a sign of frailty, they surround themselves with others who have complementary skills.

    They model the way. Humble leaders lead by example. Their leadership isn’t expressed as “because I’m the boss” authority but in every one of their actions and words.

    Lead From Within: There is always room to be a better person and leader. If you can cultivate humility as a skill, you will be strong when you are weak and brave when you are scared.

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  • feedwordpress 11:51:01 on 2016/11/15 Permalink
    Tags: , , , Determination, Having Guts, , , Life Skills,   

    Your Leadership Requires You to Have Guts 

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    Leadership is hard. It means making difficult decisions, stepping out of your comfort zone, and standing on the edge of your greatness.

    Leadership requires that you have guts.

    There are many who have the title of leader. But the only ones who truly deserve the title are those who can weather the storms and stand in their struggles.

    Because true leadership requires great men and women to bring all the courage, boldness, toughness, determination and audacity they can summon.
    Here are some of the qualities of a gutsy leader. Cultivate them now to become everything you can be:

    The COURAGE to change direction when things are on the wrong track. When something isn’t working, you need a leader who has the courage to see the need for change and bring up the benefits of going in another direction. It’s the kind of courage that shows up when you most need to shake things up and get back on the path toward something great. You’ll never do anything worthwhile in this world without courage.

    The BOLDNESS to face reality when resources are strained. When money or another vital resource is dwindling, you need to be bold enough not to hide in the spreadsheets but to come out and share the hard truth. You can admit that things are not as they should be, but in a way that is unafraid and focused on solutions, with faith in your team’s ability to rally even at the last minute to turn things around. To be bold is to always be facing forward.

    The TOUGHNESS to be more stubborn than your difficulties. When you’re facing obstruction and obstacles, handicaps and complications, you need to be the leader who says “Times are tough but we are tougher.”

    The DETERMINATION to pursue new opportunities in the face of opposition. People don’t generally like change, so it’s up to the leader to push past the status quo and make things happen. It’s a job that takes tenacity and spirit. Some leaders succeed because they are destined, but most because they are determined.

     The AUDACITY to say no unapologetically. Some leaders want to say yes to everything—but when they do, they take away their ability to set priorities. Every great advance in leadership came from someone who found the nerve to simply say “no”—as a complete sentence, without any justification or explanation or apology. When you make judicious use of “no,” you set the priorities that allow you to say a bigger “yes” to the most compelling ideas and vision.

     If you’re serious about leadership, always remember that it has to come from deep inside. It takes courage, boldness, toughness, determination and audacity, as the saying goes: no guts, no glory.

    Lead From Within: Great leaders aren’t always the ones who win, but those with the most guts.

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  • feedwordpress 12:59:22 on 2016/09/06 Permalink
    Tags: , Critical Leaders, , , Lessons in Leadership, Life Skills, , ,   

    7 Effective Skills You Need to Survive the Critical Leader 

    Screen Shot 2016-09-06 at 8.53.52 AMWe have all been there before: Working under a leader who is constantly criticizing, a boss who is quick to accuse and blame, a manager who is constantly disparaging the staff.

    It’s extremely hard to work with someone who’s always critical, finding fault and spooning out judgment. It creates a tense, untrusting environment and an adverse working culture.

    The first impulse is to walk away and move on to better things. But quitting isn’t always the best option—or an option at all.

    In those situations, there are still strategies you can employ to survive a critical leader.

    1. Decide that you won’t allow anyone to treat you in a way you wouldn’t treat yourself, or others. You don’t have to endure being humiliated, belittled, or otherwise emotionally abused. Recognize such behavior for what it is and make a commitment to yourself that you will not allow it.

    2. Draw a line. All healthy relationships have boundaries, but abusers are experts at crossing those lines. When you feel that someone has overstepped your boundaries, stand up for yourself boldly but respectfully. The moment you are uncomfortable is the moment to say something. It may be as simple as “I need to go now.” Don’t let things get out of hand, because that is how you set a precedent for acceptance and turn a one-time event into a chronic challenge.

    3. Propose a better plan. Trying to make sense of crazy will drive you insane. Instead have a plan for action that changes the circumstances. Alone or with others, you can schedule a time to sit down and let your leader know that your team needs a better form of communication. Try to work with them to develop a plan that treats accountability and responsibility as a two-way street.

    4. Remember that some people come into your life as blessings and others as lessons. Everything that happens to you, for good or for ill, carries a lesson. Even watching what others do wrong from a distance can teach you a lot. When you see and hear things you don’t like, look for the lessons you can learn from them.

    5. Let the things that irritate you about others lead you to a better understanding of yourself. You can also learn about yourself by watching those around you. Sometimes it’s the things we ourselves are guilty of that annoy us the most in others. And if you are in a position to lead or manage, ask yourself if your own behavior reflects how you’d like to see your team act.

    6. Be the change you want to see. You can’t control anyone else’s behavior, but you can always model what you’d like to see. Be mindful of how you react, respond, and reply, and make sure you don’t let yourself be influenced by the bad leadership you’re working under. Swim against the current with commitment and tenacity, and maybe your behavior will influence others.

    7. Respect yourself enough to walk away. If you have seriously given a bad situation every chance to improve—if you have done everything in your power to make it work, if you have talked, made a plan, became the change you want to see—there is one last thing you must decide.
    You may be past the point of trying to be honest and respectful with an emotional manipulator when everything you try to do is turned against you. If you’re doing yourself more harm than good, it’s time to respect yourself and walk away. There’s one kind of strength in surviving an emotionally abusive person, and another kind that comes from removing yourself from a toxic environment. The answer varies depending on the situation and how long you’ve been trying. Sometimes you have to ask yourself what will you allow to continue and what will you not.

    Lead from within: We must never make excuses for critical people, but we can learn to be better people in their presence.

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