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  • feedwordpress 08:00:38 on 2020/10/22 Permalink
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    Do You Need to Learn To Be Better With People? 


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    Interacting and connecting with others is a critical factor in leadership—and among most other fields, as well. Some people have a gift for being with others easily and instinctively. But for many people, it doesn’t come naturally. If you struggle with carrying out interpersonal interactions , it may help you to know that it’s made up of specific skills you can learn and practice and master. Here are some of the most important areas you can work on:

    Develop great verbal skills. The top skill in working effectively with people is the ability to communicate clearly. That means talking less and listening more, asking great questions and learning from the answers. To develop a deeper connection with others, remember that people do their best work when they feel informed, understood and listened to.

    Learn how to assert yourself. If you have something to say, say it. Don’t make other people guess what’s on your mind, and don’t overthink and miss a chance to contribute something of value. Express yourself in a meaningful way so people can understand where you are coming from; when people understand you, they can better connect with you.

    Learn to handle conflict. Conflict is inevitable in any relationship or organization, and the way you handle conflict will show people a lot about you. The most effective strategy for resolving conflict is to do it quickly, peacefully and collaboratively. As soon as you sense that something is becoming an issue, take immediate steps to resolve it before it grows worse. Practice the art of working with others to create mutually agreeable solutions.

    Develop a memorable presence. Your presence has a direct relationship with your ability to create lasting personal relationships and build a great network. If you have a strong presence, people gravitate toward you, remember you more clearly and are more likely to want to work with you. The best way to leave an interesting and compelling impression with others is to follow the basics: make eye contact, ask questions and listen with genuine interest, be responsive, and, above all, give your undistracted attention,

    Find your confidence. If you’re anxious, nervous or worried all the time, it makes the people around you feel anxious and concerned as well. Work to look and sound confident—not arrogant, thinking you know best about everything, but genuinely confident in your authentic self, your honesty and your integrity. This kind of true confidence draws people in and inspires their own confidence, building strong relationships and communication in every direction.

    Even the most gifted of us can be better at our people skills, and remembering that truth can make a difference in how we show up in our life and leadership.

    Lead from within: Everyone wants to know how to captive the attention of others, how to hold their interest and create deep impactful relationships. As with so many other things, the way to make it happen is to build strong skills.

     


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    The Leadership Gap
    What Gets Between You and Your Greatness


    After decades of coaching powerful executives around the world, Lolly Daskal has observed that leaders rise to their positions relying on a specific set of values and traits. But in time, every executive reaches a point when their performance suffers and failure persists. Very few understand why or how to prevent it.

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  • feedwordpress 08:00:56 on 2020/09/29 Permalink
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    What Leadership Skills Will Be Needed In the Future 


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    It may be hard to think about the future when the present is so challenging, but in times of great change and uncertainty it’s more important than ever to stay a step—or several steps—ahead in your preparation. These are the skills you should be cultivating now to be successfully as a leader for the future.

    A positive attitude toward change. Leaders of the future will need to be optimistic by nature and positive about change, because everything around us is likely to remain uncertain and complex for some time to come. Leaders won’t have the luxury of allowing themselves to become overwhelmed or immobilized; they must maintain an optimistic mindset as things around them remain unsure.

    A communication style that brings clarity around complexity. Leaders of the future will need to cultivate the ability to see through complexity and complications, to make sense of messy situations filled with contradictions, to cut through superficial concerns and communicate the essence of the issue at hand. Their clarity will help them lead people to better things that most people can’t yet perceive.

    Transparency that leads to trust. Leaders of the future will need to be fully authentic and transparent. Even when the news is bad, people want to know what’s really happening. In an era when trust will be crucial, leaders who are consistently open and genuine, regardless of the circumstances, will engender that trust.

    Flexibility that embraces ambiguity. Leaders of the future will need to be agile and flexible—able to create quickly, risk passionately, pivot immediately and move on from failures, taking in the lessons of each experience in order to keep moving forward. The future will bring ambiguity, and the best teachers will be creation, risk, failure and experience.

    A true appreciation of diversity. Leaders of the future will need to genuinely appreciate diversity and embrace its value at every level. In a time of uncertainty, constructive engagement happens best when leaders bring together people with different backgrounds, expertise and knowledge.

    A gift for seeing the good within the bad. Leaders of the future will need to develop the skill of learning how to turn crises and challenges into opportunities. Preparation and nimble thinking will keep teams and organizations out in front of events, so they’re ready to offer solutions in the moment.

    The confidence to undertake massive disruption. Leaders of the future need  to access their inner determination to achieve and their willingness to make massive changes in their teams, their organizations, their industries—even themselves.

    We can’t know what lies ahead. But whatever form the future takes, successful leaders will be those who know how to act with courage and clear intent in an authentic and engaging way that will create trust among their people—those with the imagination, integrity, and agile intelligence to make truly great things happen.

    Lead from within: The future holds both challenges and opportunities. Are you listening to the signals today and developing the skills you’ll need to lead in the times ahead?

     


    #1 N A T I O N A L  B E S T S E L L E R

    The Leadership Gap
    What Gets Between You and Your Greatness


    After decades of coaching powerful executives around the world, Lolly Daskal has observed that leaders rise to their positions relying on a specific set of values and traits. But in time, every executive reaches a point when their performance suffers and failure persists. Very few understand why or how to prevent it.

    buy now

     


    Additional Reading you might enjoy:

     

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  • feedwordpress 08:00:19 on 2020/09/01 Permalink
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    How to Build Trust In A Room When You Need It Most 


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    To be an effective leader you need to be able to build trust. It’s really that simple. If trust isn’t present, you can’t lead successfully. Building trust is an ongoing process, something you need to work at every day. Here are some of the key elements:

    Learn to communicate effectively. Poor communication is a major reason for mistrust. Good communication includes being clear about what you have or have not committed to and what has been agreed upon. Building trust requires connection, so it’s important that the messages you send are exactly what you intend them to be and that you listen well enough to interpret other people’s messages correctly.

    Demonstrate expertise and good judgment. People are more likely to trust you as a leader if they believe you know what you’re talking about and have the experience and discernment to make good decisions. You can’t build trust when you’re faking it. Do your homework and make sure you can showcase your expertise with clarity and confidence.

    Value your relationships and don’t take them for granted. Strong leadership is based on developing and maintaining relationships. That means you need to be active in keeping relationships strong, never taking them for granted. When you support people, resolve conflicts fairly and give honest feedback, you show the consistency that builds trusting relationships.

    Follow through on commitments and do what you say you’ll do. In a recent study, a significant percentage of employees said that the most effective way to build trust was simply following through on commitments. In contrast, 48 percent said their leaders were all talk and no action. Building trust means voicing commitments and then doing what you said you would do.

    Be unfailingly honest and transparent. Many leaders, even those who pride themselves on communication and motivation, have a hard time telling the truth when the news is bad. While it’s a natural impulse to protect people from bad news, a lack of transparency and honesty creates a culture of suspicion and rumors.

    Admit your mistakes and take ownership of your failures. You’ve probably seen what happens when someone—especially a leader—tries to hide their mistakes. Most often the person ends up looking even worse than they would have if they’d just owned up from the start. There’s a common fear that showing your vulnerable side and letting people see your imperfections will damage your credibility as a leader. In fact, it builds trust and relatability.

    Trust is required in the workplace so everyone can feel they are there for the right reasons, working toward shared goals with a sense of purpose. Every effective leader knows that if trust isn’t in the room, they have to learn to build it and earn it.

    Lead from within: Leading a company to greatness isn’t done in a day, and no one said it would be easy. But when you build strong foundations of trust, people can work to build greatness together.

     


    #1 N A T I O N A L  B E S T S E L L E R

    The Leadership Gap
    What Gets Between You and Your Greatness


    After decades of coaching powerful executives around the world, Lolly Daskal has observed that leaders rise to their positions relying on a specific set of values and traits. But in time, every executive reaches a point when their performance suffers and failure persists. Very few understand why or how to prevent it.

    buy now

     


    Additional Reading you might enjoy:

     

    Photo Credit: iStockPhotos

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  • feedwordpress 08:00:43 on 2020/08/13 Permalink
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    How to Tell Who Will Be A Good Leader 


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    A question I hear often—from colleagues, board members, HR directors, recruiters, and people at workshops and conferences—is how you can tell whether someone will be a good or a poor leader. What are the signs, qualities, traits that predict excellent leadership? There’s no clear-cut answer, but after years of coaching leaders around the world, these are my baseline predictors, for two reasons: first, because they show up consistently in the best leaders, and second, because they can’t be faked.

    Integrity. Integrity as a leadership trait encompasses honesty, sincerity, truthfulness, transparency and strong moral values. Of all leadership qualities, it’s the most important. If someone embodies integrity, I know they are capable of becoming a great leader.

    Empathy. Most people don’t listen at all or, at best, listen with a corner of their attention. But a person who listens well, who sets out to understand and communicates with compassion, has the makings of a great leader.

    Accountability. The best leaders take responsibility for their leadership and hold themselves accountable. They admit their mistakes and take the blame when things go wrong, but they also work on hard on getting the job done and getting results—and when they do, they give the credit to others.

    Appreciation of others. If a prospective leader can’t appreciate others and recognize them for their contributions, that’s a huge red flag. Great leaders excel at appreciating people, elevating them to greater heights and getting the most out of their capabilities.

    Decisiveness. Leaders are bombarded on a daily basis to make decisions, and the great ones are decisive. Period. They know how to settle tough, thorny issues and maneuver through the sea of day-to-day small decisions. A decisive leader exudes confidence and is someone people want to follow.

    Trusting and trustworthy. Trust is among the most important traits for a new leader to build and grow. Without trust in every direction there is very little respect for leadership. Trust is what turns a good leader into a great leader.

    Several components may go into great leadership, but in my experience poor leadership can be recognized with just one quality: it’s carried out for personal gain or to control others.

    Good leaders are constantly working to help, support, develop and invest in others. A bad leader, on the other hand, thinks only of how they can get ahead and move their own agenda forward. Unfortunately, it’s easy to spot a bad leader, and they exist in almost every organization—they’re the ones who are demoralizing amazing people and teams and destroying the cultures that foster excellence.

    Lead from within: I hope each one of you gets to experience a good leader and follow their lead. And if you have to be exposed to poor leadership, I hope you can learn from it as a negative example.

     


    #1 N A T I O N A L   B E S T S E L L E R

    The Leadership Gap
    What Gets Between You and Your Greatness


    After decades of coaching powerful executives around the world, Lolly Daskal has observed that leaders rise to their positions relying on a specific set of values and traits. But in time, every executive reaches a point when their performance suffers and failure persists. Very few understand why or how to prevent it.

    buy now

     


    Additional Reading you might enjoy:

     

    Photo Credit: iStockPhotos

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  • feedwordpress 08:00:43 on 2020/08/13 Permalink
    Tags: , , , , , , Life Skills, , , ,   

    How to Tell Who Will Be A Good Leader 


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    A question I hear often—from colleagues, board members, HR directors, recruiters, and people at workshops and conferences—is how you can tell whether someone will be a good or a poor leader. What are the signs, qualities, traits that predict excellent leadership? There’s no clear-cut answer, but after years of coaching leaders around the world, these are my baseline predictors, for two reasons: first, because they show up consistently in the best leaders, and second, because they can’t be faked.

    Integrity. Integrity as a leadership trait encompasses honesty, sincerity, truthfulness, transparency and strong moral values. Of all leadership qualities, it’s the most important. If someone embodies integrity, I know they are capable of becoming a great leader.

    Empathy. Most people don’t listen at all or, at best, listen with a corner of their attention. But a person who listens well, who sets out to understand and communicates with compassion, has the makings of a great leader.

    Accountability. The best leaders take responsibility for their leadership and hold themselves accountable. They admit their mistakes and take the blame when things go wrong, but they also work on hard on getting the job done and getting results—and when they do, they give the credit to others.

    Appreciation of others. If a prospective leader can’t appreciate others and recognize them for their contributions, that’s a huge red flag. Great leaders excel at appreciating people, elevating them to greater heights and getting the most out of their capabilities.

    Decisiveness. Leaders are bombarded on a daily basis to make decisions, and the great ones are decisive. Period. They know how to settle tough, thorny issues and maneuver through the sea of day-to-day small decisions. A decisive leader exudes confidence and is someone people want to follow.

    Trusting and trustworthy. Trust is among the most important traits for a new leader to build and grow. Without trust in every direction there is very little respect for leadership. Trust is what turns a good leader into a great leader.

    Several components may go into great leadership, but in my experience poor leadership can be recognized with just one quality: it’s carried out for personal gain or to control others.

    Good leaders are constantly working to help, support, develop and invest in others. A bad leader, on the other hand, thinks only of how they can get ahead and move their own agenda forward. Unfortunately, it’s easy to spot a bad leader, and they exist in almost every organization—they’re the ones who are demoralizing amazing people and teams and destroying the cultures that foster excellence.

    Lead from within: I hope each one of you gets to experience a good leader and follow their lead. And if you have to be exposed to poor leadership, I hope you can learn from it as a negative example.

     


    #1 N A T I O N A L   B E S T S E L L E R

    The Leadership Gap
    What Gets Between You and Your Greatness


    After decades of coaching powerful executives around the world, Lolly Daskal has observed that leaders rise to their positions relying on a specific set of values and traits. But in time, every executive reaches a point when their performance suffers and failure persists. Very few understand why or how to prevent it.

    buy now

     


    Additional Reading you might enjoy:

     

    Photo Credit: iStockPhotos

    The post How to Tell Who Will Be A Good Leader appeared first on Lolly Daskal.

     
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