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  • feedwordpress 09:00:50 on 2020/02/06 Permalink
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    This One Trait Will Destroy Your Leadership 


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    There are lots of traits that can harm your leadership. But the most dangerous—the trait that carries a real danger of destroying your ability to lead—is defensiveness.

    No one enjoys taking criticism, but if you can’t listen to others and take in what those around you are saying, you’re slowly eroding your leadership, even if you don’t realize it. Here are some questions to help you identify the principal danger signs in yourself:

    Are you closed off to criticism? if you cannot listen to criticism you will never know what people actually think. Unless you are willing to hear the candid thoughts of people you trust, you cannot develop or grow as a leader, and you will likely lose the respect of your people.

    Do you deny your mistakes or faults? You can’t learn from your mistakes if you’re busy trying to deny they exist. The best leaders are humble enough to see their mistakes, courageous enough to admit them and wise enough to correct them.

    Do you rationalize away your failures? Nobody wants hear how you justify your mistakes as a leader—they want to know what you’ve learned in the process, how failure has made you smarter and better. The best route to respect is to be candid about your own missteps and failures.

    Do you get upset at the messenger who brings bad news? If you punish those who are honest with you, no one will tell you truth. An important part of being a leader is showing strength and tenacity in the face of bad news, focusing on solutions rather than lashing out.

    Do you blame others for your problems? When you try to blame others for your own shortcoming and problems, it shows your low self-esteem as a leader. It’s never easy, but you have to show that you’re courageous enough to accept your faults and strong enough to take corrective action.

    Do you ignore others? If you don’t listen to others, others won’t listen to you. It’s that simple.

    Do you lead with a sensitive ego? A sensitive ego is one that protects you from pain. It can also prevent a you from maturing mentally and emotionally by causing you to distort truths and ignore unpleasant facts about yourself. When you fail to connect with and show your authentic self, you cast your leadership into question.

    Do you shut down negative feedback? Trying to keep things quiet doesn’t make them go away—and most of the time it doesn’t even work. Make yourself listen to the good and the bad, because what you don’t own will end up owning you.

    Are you unapproachable? As a leader, you should be both approachable and accessible. You can’t lead when you’re closed in.

    If you’re concerned that defensiveness is harming your leadership, get your ego out of the way and start working through to the honesty and integrity that foster great leadership.

    Lead from within: Defensiveness is a sign of failure. You can’t move forward in your leadership until you overcome it.

     


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  • feedwordpress 09:00:57 on 2020/01/30 Permalink
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    Learn How the Best Leaders Know How to Read People 


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    Knowing how to read people is an important leadership skill. A big part of leadership is the ability to manage groups of diverse individuals, and the key to making that work is developing your ability to see differences in people so you can employ those differences for everyone’s benefit.

    Here are some of the techniques top leaders use in reading people:

    They start with understanding themselves. The best leaders know that to truly understand others, they have to first spend the time to understand themselves. They seek out feedback so they can discover their strengths and weaknesses, and they cultivate self-awareness by considering how their words and actions affect themselves and others.

    They learn about personalities. Top leaders make it a point to familiarize themselves with different personality types to help them understand people and their differences. Studying a personality system like Myers-Briggs or Enneagram can help you develop the knowledge and insight you need to understand people at a foundational level.

    They observe and listen. The best leaders are observant; they take the time to look and listen, which enables them to assess people at different levels in different situations. The more closely you observe someone, the more you know about them and the better you can read and understand them.

    They look below the surface. Most people judge others by what they say, but the best leaders assess them on what they do. They go a level deeper to see how the person truly functions and what makes them tick. They move past the surface and look for the essence of people.

    They look for difference. Top leaders look for the skills that make a difference—the skills that make up a person’s ability to bring a project to success. Finding people with those skills means being able to seek out difference.

    They watch for emotion. Research has found that people who are emotionally expressive are more reliable, capable and trustworthy than others. Talented leaders look for people who can connect with enthusiasm, passion and personal involvement.

    They think in terms of motivation. To truly read people, you need to know what motivates them. Only when you understand what drives someone can you begin to understand them on a meaningful level. It is the choices we all make that drive us to be who we are.

    Reading people—sizing them up, picking up on their signals, getting to know them on a deeper level—is an important skill for any of us, but it’s critical for leaders who aspire to greatness. People count on their leader, and to be effective in that role requires that you build a quick and accurate understanding of the people you’re leading so you can help them build success, both individually as a team.

    Lead from within: The best leaders are really good at reading people. They understand the people around them—sometimes even better than the people understand themselves.

     


    #1 N A T I O N A L   B E S T S E L L E R

    The Leadership Gap
    What Gets Between You and Your Greatness


    After decades of coaching powerful executives around the world, Lolly Daskal has observed that leaders rise to their positions relying on a specific set of values and traits. But in time, every executive reaches a point when their performance suffers and failure persists. Very few understand why or how to prevent it.

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  • feedwordpress 09:00:44 on 2020/01/09 Permalink
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    The Best Way to Become an Approachable Leader 


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    Being an effective leader means putting others at ease, because when people feel comfortable they perform at their best. That means building a rapport, listening, sharing, and understanding others—in short, being accessible and approachable. Here are some techniques that can help you become a more approachable leader:

    Initiate. As the leader, being approachable has to start with you. You have to put out your hand first, you have to make eye contact first, you have to ask the questions first. You have to make the first move so people feel comfortable with you.

    Do some drive-bys. To build the connections that allow people to think of you as approachable, take time every day to stop at a desk or two and check in to see how the person is doing. Ask about their family or pets or interests. The whole idea is not to talk about work but to show that you care about them as a person.

    Give people your full attention. Being available with your full attention demonstrates that you’re involved and interested in those around you, making it easier for them to come to you—both in good times and when problems arise. Don’t try to multitask when a person is standing in front of you. Show them that they have your complete attention, whether they’re telling you about their weekend or explaining a serious work-related issue.

    Share information. Approachable leaders share information—and they get more information in return, along with loyalty and trust. When leaders confide in their team and invite others to respond in turn, they gain important insights. People feel valued and truly part of a team, and they respond with engagement and energy.

    Become a good listener. Approachable leaders are good listeners. They listen without interrupting, they ask clarifying questions and they don’t judge instantly. They listen to understand. Then they restate what is being said to show they hear and understand, with questions to fill in any gaps. They don’t necessarily offer advice or try to fix situations that don’t require their involvement. Their focus is on hearing, understanding and connecting.

    Give your time. You never want to come across as a leader who doesn’t have the time for their people. At work and in life, make sure every day you make time for the people and things that are most important to you. Even if you’re the busiest person in the world, order your days so those around you know that you will always have time for them.

    There will always be some degree of separation between the leader, boss or manager and those who work for them. But making honest everyday efforts to bridge that divide will help you earn a reputation as a great leader.

    Lead from within: People are most likely to resonate with a leader who feels like someone at their level but with the power to make their jobs easier and more successful.

     


    #1  N A T I O N A L   B E S T S E L L E R

    The Leadership Gap: What Gets Between You and Your Greatness


    After decades of coaching powerful executives around the world, Lolly Daskal has observed that leaders rise to their positions relying on a specific set of values and traits. But in time, every executive reaches a point when their performance suffers and failure persists. Very few understand why or how to prevent it.

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  • feedwordpress 09:00:37 on 2020/01/07 Permalink
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    How Do the Best Leaders Avoid Miscommunication 


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    Being able to communicate effectively is perhaps the most important of all leadership skills. It is what enables us to pass information to other people and to understand what is being said to us, the foundation of productivity and strong relationships.

    It was Dale Carnegie who stated, in How to Win Friends and Influence People, that 90 percent of all management problems are caused by miscommunication. Here are some of the ways the best leaders avoid miscommunication:

    They listen to understand. People want to know they’re being heard. The best leaders take care to really listen to what the other person is saying instead of thinking about their own response. They are constantly asking for clarification to avoid misunderstandings. Taking the trouble to build understanding lets the person you’re speaking with know that you’re taking them seriously.

    They think before they speak. The best leaders are good at pausing before they speak instead of saying the first thing that comes to mind. They take a moment to think things through, paying close attention to what they say and how they say it. If you adopt only one habit to improve your communication skills, this is the one to choose.

    They know their audience: To communicate effectively, it is important to first know who it is you’re speaking to. The best leaders understand that each listener is different—whether it’s an individual or a group—and make sure to consider their background, expectations and cultural norms before they speak. Even difficult messages are better received when they’re delivered in a way that’s focused on the recipient.

    They treat everyone equally. The best leaders never talk down to anyone but treat everyone with the same respect. No one will want to hear from you if you seem to be holding yourself above them, but communication opens up when you treat everyone as equals.

    They manage their tone. Communication is far more difficult if you let your emotions go unchecked. The best leaders know how to manage their emotions in times of anger, sorrow, fear and joy. They may express emotion in their words and nonverbally, but they do so appropriately, maintaining a tone of confidence and calmness.

    They’re attentive. Much of the power of communication lies not with what we say but with how we say it. The best leaders adopt the practice of listening more than they speak, and they’re attentive to the person who is in front of them. Your full presence is among the most important gifts you can give. And the more attuned you are to what others are saying, the more precise you can be in your response.

    They maintain a positive attitude. The best leaders make a concerted effort to always have a positive attitude. When you communicate with positivity, people will generally respond in the same way. Whatever you send out as a leader is usually returned to you, so own the power of contagious positivity.

    Communicating effectively is a skill you can practice and develop once you’ve learned the basic techniques. If you want to be your best as a leader, learn to be your best as a communicator.

    Lead from within: The best leaders grow by constantly practicing their communication skills, because communication make us who we are.

     


    #1 N A T I O N A L   B E S T S E L L E R

    The Leadership Gap
    What Gets Between You and Your Greatness


    After decades of coaching powerful executives around the world, Lolly Daskal has observed that leaders rise to their positions relying on a specific set of values and traits. But in time, every executive reaches a point when their performance suffers and failure persists. Very few understand why or how to prevent it.

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  • feedwordpress 09:00:31 on 2019/12/26 Permalink
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    Why Do The Best Leaders Downplay Pressure 


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    All leaders feel pressure. You may experience it by just showing up at work, by sitting in a million meetings a day, by feeling that you’re constantly in problem-solving mode, by juggling the day-to-day demands of management. There is always something to fret or worry about, always something that is urgent. Unmanaged, pressure can leave you feeling ready to burst.

    As an executive coach who works with prominent leaders in their respective industries, I see the pressure many people constantly live under—as well as its consequences. A few years ago, when one of my clients told me how the constant anxiety of his job was truly getting the best of him, I made a simple suggestion: if you cannot change the situation you must change your mindset about the situation.

    Instead of looking at everything as a problem, I told him, look at situations as opportunities. Instead of taking everything so seriously, look for situations you can have some fun with. This mindset shift was a game changer for him.

    When you cultivate the ability to downplay pressure, you reap significant benefits:

    Lowered stress. When you feel pressured you feel trapped, and when you feel trapped you experience physical responses that are harmful to your body and mind. The best leaders understand that when they defuse pressure, they lower their own damaging stress responses and those of everyone on their team.

    Improved focus. Sometimes when pressure is intense it can make you feel that you are literally spinning out of control. Great leaders know that by reducing external pressure they can cultivate a sense of internal calm. They teach their people to eliminate distractions and remove unnecessary diversions, helping to keep them calm, focused and productive.

    Increased courage. When you’re in leadership, big decisions are an everyday part of your job—and big decisions require courage. Often it’s this ability to take a courageous risk that makes a difference between good enough and greatness—and stress may make you more likely to shy away. Great leaders intuitively understand that when you downplay stress you can allow yourself to feel bold, which in turn helps you embolden their team to do great things.

    We all experience pressure—not only leaders but workers at every level. But if you can follow the example of great leaders and learn to downplay the pressure, you and your team can better cultivate the skills you need to be successful. It’s a best practice that all of us can use.

    Lead from within: The greatest leaders downplay pressure to up play success.

     


    #1   N A T I O N A L   B E S T S E L L E R

    The Leadership Gap
    What Gets Between You and Your Greatness


    After decades of coaching powerful executives around the world, Lolly Daskal has observed that leaders rise to their positions relying on a specific set of values and traits. But in time, every executive reaches a point when their performance suffers and failure persists. Very few understand why or how to prevent it.

    buy now

     


    Additional Reading you might enjoy:

     

    Photo Credit: istockphoto

    The post Why Do The Best Leaders Downplay Pressure appeared first on Lolly Daskal.

     
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