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  • feedwordpress 10:00:36 on 2018/01/16 Permalink
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    What Great Leaders Struggle With – But Are Scared to Admit 

    I recently gave a keynote to a room filled with hundreds of leaders from around the world. These were people with prestigious positions and reputations for excellence, and I was humbled and honored to be in their presence.

    After my keynote a crowd gathered at the back of the room, where I was signing my new book. Speaking with these accomplished leaders one on one, I began to notice a pattern. Many of them were using the content of my talk as a springboard to talk about their struggles—struggles they were scared to admit to others, especially their colleagues, their teammates, and their boards. The nature of their struggles fell into a few broad categories.

    1. They were grappling with loneliness and isolation. We think of business leaders as being surrounded by people all the time, but the old adage is true—it really is lonely at the top. In a recent study, 61 percent of C-suite leaders believed isolation hindered their performance. That’s a significant proportion of top executives who are suffering—and not performing at their peak. The sense of isolation is even more pronounced, and its effects more significant, during challenging times. Those who are dealing with loneliness and isolation need to know they aren’t alone. Finding ways to let people in may mean overcoming the myth that we need to do it alone, but it’s the best cure for loneliness and isolation.

    2. They were wrestling with self-doubt and feelings of inadequacy. From time to time we all feel inadequate. or suffer from self -doubt, but leaders tend to see it through the lens of their team and the others who are counting on them, and it leaves very little room for even questioning yourself. In an unfamiliar situation or one with no easy answers, even if they have the necessary skills to arrive at a solution, they may start to question and mistrust themselves. As I discuss in my latest book, The Leadership Gap, tapping into your capabilities and competencies can provide the confidence you need to overcome times of self-doubt.

    3. They were fearful of letting people down. Like the rest of us, most leaders ascribe to a set of rules and standards, and they hope people are pleased with the work they do. But if it’s done right, leadership involves risk and courageous decisions, and one of the hazards is that sometimes you let others down and have to face their disapproval. Especially when you’re trying to achieve something significant, it’s important to remember that you can’t always please others (or even yourself) and free yourself to make tough choices in light of the big-picture priorities and your goals for your team and organization.

    4. They were afraid of public failure. We may teach that failure is a component of eventual success—and it is—but it’s still something that everyone dreads. And when you fail as a leader, you fail big. Especially for a group of people who tend to have healthy egos, it can be rough. It may be easier said than done, but when you’ve wiped out is the time to get out of your own head and look objectively at failure as a learning experience.

    5. They were scrambling to get everything accomplished. We all tend to have a lot to do on any given day. That daily pressure is magnified for leaders, who have their own things to accomplish and have to make sure everyone on their team is performing well. It’s a big burden, and the only way through is to focus on what you need to accomplish as a leader, do it with excellence and make sure you are surrounded by the right people doing their right jobs in the right way.

    6. They were laboring over their weaknesses. Most people hate to admit they have weaknesses. My keynote took this as a topic, with the gist being that while most leaders are working to find their strengths, I’m a big believer in identifying your weaknesses and leveraging them. That same message is an important part of The Leadership Gap.

    7. They struggled with criticism. Leaders learn early on that everyone has an opinion about their actions and thoughts. All feedback is good, but it’s hard to listen to critical opinions, especially when they seem poorly thought through or mean spirited. As a leader, you need people to share information with you, and that means managing your emotions when you hear things seem unfair.

    8. They were wrestling with the best way to handle confrontation. Few of us enjoy confrontation, but it’s a necessary skill if you want to challenge those you lead. The reality of leadership is that there are times when you have disagreements where you have to stand up and challenge someone. Confrontation is where the skill of true leadership lies, because the best leaders learn how to question and tackle challenge with a humble and sincere approach.

    What I came to realize that day is that it doesn’t matter what position you have or whether you lead a team of one or a company of thousands. Struggle is a part of leadership, it brings lessons to be learned and opportunities to be shared. If you can find meaning in your struggle you will succeed as a leader.

    Lead From Within: When leaders can battle the struggles of the present they will learn to unlock the success in their future.


    N A T I O N A L   B E S T S E L L E R

    The Leadership Gap
    What Gets Between You and Your Greatness

    After decades of coaching powerful executives around the world, Lolly Daskal has observed that leaders rise to their positions relying on a specific set of values and traits. But in time, every executive reaches a point when their performance suffers and failure persists. Very few understand why or how to prevent it.

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  • feedwordpress 11:29:06 on 2017/06/21 Permalink
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    Do You Know Your Leadership Gaps? 

    There’s an important question I ask myself when evaluating a book’s long-term benefit to me.

    Does this book cause me to re-think how I see myself and how I show up in the world?

    If I don’t sense that I can be transformed – either inside or outside – as a result of reading a book, it’s usually not a good use of my time.

    Lolly Daskal’s new book, The Leadership Gap: What Gets Between You and Your Greatness, gets an A+ in that regard.


    A review by Meredith Bell on Linkedin about The Leadership Gap: What Gets Between You And Your Greatness

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  • feedwordpress 03:05:32 on 2017/04/20 Permalink
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    How To Pivot in Your Transformation 

    Naketa Thigpen, Lolly Daskal, Balance Boldly



    What’s stopping you from pivoting into your next move? Pivoting is essential with any transition in any part of your life. This pivot could be a career change, starting a family, starting a business, or even growing a business. Maybe what’s stopping us from fully pivoting is #TheLeadershipGap.

    We are continuing our Season2 of the Balance Boldly Podcast how to stop falling into the trap of Desperate Acts! On this episode, our featured guest expert, Lolly Daskal and I discuss the benefits of figuring out #TheLeadershipGap and its importance in your life’s transitions. Tune in now and learn how to close #TheLeadershipGap

    “Allow yourself to be taken to the next level with self-reflection- #TheLeadershipGap #BalanceBoldly” http://apple.co/2mPHNYO

    “Sometimes you need someone to challenge YOU and say, ‘You can do better”- @LollyDaskal #quote #TheLeadershipGap #BalanceBoldly http://apple.co/2mPHNYO

    “Every strength has a polarity, your shadow, unaware, it cost us our greatness.” #TheLeadershipGap #BalanceBoldly http://apple.co/2mPHNYO

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  • feedwordpress 17:14:50 on 2017/04/11 Permalink
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    The Go Giver Podcast: Bob Burg and Lolly Daskal 

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    We all have strengths and we all have weaknesses. What are the three basic types of weaknesses, and how should we approach them? We’ll look at that in our Thought of the Day. And in our interview segment, we’ll hear from renowned Executive Leadership Coach, Lolly Daskal. She’ll take a look at the gaps that can keep any of us from realizing our full leadership potential, how we can recognize them, and how we can fill in those gaps. That and more on today’s show.

    Bob’s Thought of the Day

    We’ll explore:

    • The three types of weaknesses, and how to know the appropriate action (or non-action) to take concerning each one.
    • Personal examples of how I have dealt with each type of weakness in my own life.
    • How the third type of weakness causes gaps in our effectiveness, and why we must work on them in order to be more effective personally and professionally.

     Interview with Lolly Daskal

    You’ll discover:

    • How Lolly defines the leadership gap, and why many leaders don’t face their own gaps.
    • Why greatness lies in the gaps between where you are and where you want to be.
    • How to know when you have a leadership gap.
    • The seven leadership archetypes, their characteristics, and the polarities present in each one.
    • The difference between confidence and competence.
    • A success story of a CEO who experienced a leadership gap, and how Lolly helped him recognize and overcome it.

    The seven leadership archetypes:

    1. The Rebel
    2. The Explorer
    3. The Truth Teller
    4. The Hero
    5. The Inventor
    6. The Navigator
    7. The Knight

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    Your entire life is about unifying who you are in the process of becoming the best leader possible.…

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