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  • feedwordpress 08:00:32 on 2018/06/21 Permalink
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    7 Body Language Mistakes You Need to Avoid 

    If you’re in a position of leadership—whether you’re a CEO, manager, or community volunteer—it’s likely that you put a great deal of care into the words you use. But if your
    body language doesn’t sync with those words, you may be giving a terrible impression without even knowing it.

    It is said that people form impressions of others in seven to 30 seconds. That’s pretty quick.
    If you don’t have the right body language, you may be leaving a negative impression
    before you even have a chance to speak.

    Body language goes far beyond a handshake and smile. But in my decades of executive leadership coaching, I’ve found that executives don’t pay nearly enough attention to its importance.

    Here are some of the most common body language mistakes to avoid if you want
    to make the great impression as a leader.

    1. Clashing body cues and spoken words. If you’re saying “Let’s all work together
    and make this work” while your hands are crossed against your chest, you’re likely
    coming across as confusing. People tend to trust nonverbal messages over verbal
    ones when the two are at odds. If you want people to believe your conciliatory words,
    uncross your arms and appear friendly and approachable and open.

    2. Raising your chin when you speak. While you definitely want to be proud of
    what you’re saying, a raised chin is a sign that you feel superior to the person
    you’re speaking with. Show respect by lowering your chin and staying evenly
    face-to-face.

    3. Putting one foot out the door. If you want to see where a person’s interest truly lies,
    look at their shoulders and feet. One of the first indicators that someone is trying to
    leave a conversation is when they turn a shoulder or a toe away. To show engagement
    and interest, keep your body directed at the person in front of you.

    4. Lack of eye contact. When you fail to maintain eye contact with someone
    who’s speaking, you’re signaling a complete lack of interest. Lack of eye contact
    will shut down even the most enthusiastic speaker. Establish the habit of thoughtful
    eye contact to show your interest.

    5. Constant fidgeting. Have you ever had a conversation with someone who couldn’t
    stop moving? Feet bobbing up and down, swaying back and forth, making little motions
    with their arms—fidgeting sends a message of stress bordering on anxiety, and it’s both unnerving and extremely distracting. When you have something to say, relax your body
    and try to be still as possible so your words come out strong and your body doesn’t give away cues of your stress.

    6. Not giving enough space. This one is especially important: give people enough space. People who lean right into you and speak inches away from your face seem to be taking advantage of their power. Nobody likes to feel their space has been invaded. Unless
    you’re signaled an invitation to come closer, the best body language is to stay at least
    an arm’s length away. Don’t back up too far, though, or you’ll come across as
    unapproachable or uninterested. Stand just close enough to show you’re engaged,
    and don’t lean in or out too much.

    7. Looking at your watch. Have you ever been distracted in a meeting or conversation
    when the person you’re trying to connect with keeps looking at their watch? We all know
    that means they’re checked out, uninterested or indifferent to what is being said. Stop
    looking at your watch—that goes for your phone, too—and don’t let your body language signal boredom.

    Everyone wants to make a good impression, no matter what their position or title. But
    when your body is saying one thing and your words another, there’s a better-than-average chance you’re making a poor impression. Review these common mistakes from time to
    time and make sure you’re not guilty of any of them and if you are avoid them or correct them.

    Lead From Within: As a leader, your body language will speak volumes, make sure
    you are mindful and paying attention to the message you are sending.

     


     

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    The Leadership Gap: What Gets Between You and Your Greatness

    After decades of coaching powerful executives around the world, Lolly Daskal has observed that leaders rise to their positions relying on a specific set of values and traits. But in time, every executive reaches a point when their performance suffers and failure persists. Very few understand why or how to prevent it.

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  • feedwordpress 03:56:24 on 2018/06/16 Permalink
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    10 Ways Successful Leaders Think Differently 

    To be an effective leader, you need to think like a leader. But what does that even mean?

    Successful leaders tend to share habits of thought that set them apart. While these patterns have many elements, they’re grounded in an understanding of the power of thought.

    Everything we think, like everything we do, has consequences. Positive thoughts grow into positive attitudes that in turn grow into positive outcomes–and negative thoughts do the same in the other direction. As the saying goes, we become what we think.

    Successful leaders understand this principle well, and they express it in specific highly disciplined ways. Here are some examples:

    1. Instead of thinking only of themselves, they include others.

    While most people express their hopes and aspirations in terms like “I hope I get” or “I want to do,” successful leaders understand that it’s we before I and us before me. Their team, the people they lead, are at the forefront.

    2. Instead of dwelling on problems, they focus on solutions.

    Problems are real, and they warrant our attention, but they don’t go away without solutions. Knowing things aren’t working is a good first step but nothing more. Great leaders understand that focusing on problems brings more problems but focusing on solutions opens up opportunities.

    3. Instead of advancing their individual success, they work toward building a successful team.

    Most people think of success as something to be achieved as an individual, believing that if something good happens it’s because they made it happen. Successful leaders understand that the diverse strengths of a team are much more likely to create and maintain success. Their key belief: together we can do great things.

    4. Instead of making things complicated, they simplify.

    It’s easy to get wrapped up in details and spiral into excessive complication. Great leaders, on the other hand, have the ability to eliminate the unnecessary so they can focus on the heart of the issue. It’s an approach that lets them solve problems quickly and effectively.

    5. Instead of trying to determine who is right, they think in terms of what is right.

    By refusing to view conflict in terms of who’s right and who’s wrong, successful leaders know that it’s about working together to move things forward and make it right. They analyze issues, not people.

    6. Where others think small, they think big.

    Fear of success and fear of failure are both attitudes that can keep you thinking small. Successful leaders understand if you think small, you’ll stay small, and that’s the worst kind of failure. They don’t let their fears dissuade them from thinking big.

    7. Where others become distracted, they stay focused.

    Most people don’t have the discipline or endurance to stay focused through the nonstop distraction of modern life. Successful leaders have the strength of purpose to see things through to completion.

    8. Where others want control, they go with the flow.

    Most of us want more control in our lives, and that desire is a major source of stress. In truth, though, much of what happens in work and in life is outside our control. Successful leaders understand that anything you cannot control is teaching you to let it go and go with the flow.

    9. Instead of thinking, “Let’s just get this done,” they ask themselves, “How can I get this done with excellence?”

    You can always find a justification to cut a few corners when timelines or budgets are tight. But successful leaders embrace a spirit of excellence that leads them to give their all, not because someone is looking over their shoulder but because it’s the right thing to do.

    10. Where others wish they had more acknowledgment, successful leaders work to appreciate others more.

    Most of us are at least somewhat preoccupied with wanting recognition for our hard work and a job well done. Successful leaders are usually going in the opposite direction, constantly looking for new opportunities to acknowledge those who have done the hard work. They care more about giving recognition than receiving it.

    We fail to be successful leaders when we fail to think like successful leaders. Changing mental habits is difficult work, but establishing the right way of thinking is required if you want to succeed and make a lasting change in the world.

     

     


     

    N A T I O N A L   B E S T S E L L E R
    The Leadership Gap: What Gets Between You and Your Greatness

    After decades of coaching powerful executives around the world, Lolly Daskal has observed that leaders rise to their positions relying on a specific set of values and traits. But in time, every executive reaches a point when their performance suffers and failure persists. Very few understand why or how to prevent it.

    buy now

     


    Additional Reading you might enjoy:

     

    Photo Credit: Getty Images

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  • feedwordpress 08:00:00 on 2018/06/15 Permalink
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    6 Harsh Truths That Will Make You a Better Leader 

    Leaders are the same as everyone else–they make mistakes, stray from the path and compromise their effectiveness because of ego, pride, or insecurity.

    Having served as a leadership coach for more than three decades now, I’ve often seen great men and women not get the respect they deserve as a leader because they don’t understand the reality of their own leadership. Based on their experiences, I have collected some harsh truths that every leader must face before he or she can achieve greatness.

    1. A title doesn’t make you a leader.

    When you attain a leadership title, it simply gives you the opportunity to become a leader, so don’t mistake it for validation that you’ve already arrived. All a title does is buy you time–time to earn influence or to lose it, to get the job done or to fall short. Understand that titles are not the end but the beginning of leadership.

    2. Leaders don’t come with followers.

    As a leader, you don’t automatically have followers, only subordinates. It’s your behavior as a leader that determines whether or not those subordinates ever turn into followers. This is an especially harsh truth, but it’s also an important one.

    3. Leadership isn’t about position.

    For any leader to be effective, they must learn how to perform and get results. Leadership is not about your position but your performance–whatever your role. This small distinction is critical to your success as a leader.

    4. Competence isn’t enough.

    It’s foolish to think that competence alone can make you a great leader–or a leader at all. Competence is a requirement, but you also need to master a set of key leadership skills–vision, empowerment, and communication–to become a leader others admire and respect.

    5. Just because you inherited it, that doesn’t mean you earned it.

    Leadership is not genetic. If you inherit a title, it’s up to you to earn the position. That may mean working even harder than you’d have to otherwise. Set your privilege aside and focus on what you can do for your team.

    6. Authority doesn’t make you a leader.

    Many positions involve some degree of authority–police officer, judge, teacher, coach, parent. But even for people in those positions, leadership is not about authority or power. It is instead cultivated through character, competence, consistency, and compassion–traits that allow you to earn influence. And influence, not authority, is the foundation of successful leadership.

    The bottom line is this: In order to become the kind of leader you aspire to be, you need to first understand and learn to live with some harsh truths. Once you make them part of your reality, you’ll be on the path to becoming a better leader.


     

    N A T I O N A L   B E S T S E L L E R
    The Leadership Gap: What Gets Between You and Your Greatness

    After decades of coaching powerful executives around the world, Lolly Daskal has observed that leaders rise to their positions relying on a specific set of values and traits. But in time, every executive reaches a point when their performance suffers and failure persists. Very few understand why or how to prevent it.

    buy now


    Additional Reading you might enjoy:

     

    Photo Credit: Getty Images

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  • feedwordpress 08:00:53 on 2018/06/12 Permalink
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    How to Encourage Your Employees to Take Leadership Roles  

    Every organization needs strong leadership at the top—but that’s not enough. You need leaders throughout your company, in every area and at every level.

    When you have people with leadership potential in roles where they can make important decisions, achieve goals, reach targets and feed the bottom line, you’ll have a thriving and strong organization.

    One of the best things you can do as a leader is to encourage your employees to take on leadership roles. Here are some ways to make that happen:

    Create a compelling vision tied to a strong sense of purpose.

    It’s a combination that gives people the energy and passion to be creative, responsible and accountable. Thinking in terms of a mission greater than themselves, they feel empowered to bring out their best. Seek out and hire people who resonate with and are excited by the organization’s vision, and provide ways for them to help fulfill its purpose.

    Identify the right people to do the right things.

    One of the best ways to empower people is to recognize their talents and give them jobs that feed their strengths. It begins with having the right people—those who can elevate themselves into leadership roles via their competence and capabilities—doing the right things and gaining confidence along the way.

    Encourage decisiveness and accountability.

    One important trait of being a leader is the ability to make decisions and to be accountable for your actions. When you give your employees autonomy and authority, you’re telling them you trust them. And when you show trust, most—if not all—will step up and surprise you with how much they can do if they know you are counting on them.

    Promote collaboration and cooperation.

    It’s frustrating and difficult when an organization is structured in silos; the best companies foster cross-functional teams that cut across departmental boundaries to take full advantage of the ideas and expertise of all employees. Any time you put people together, encourage teamwork, collaboration and cooperation, and reward those who take on extra initiatives. This practice will encourage people to display their leadership skills and is a great investment for the business at large.

    Communicate often. If you want people to take on leadership roles, communicate with transparency and share information freely. Only when they have information can employees make sound decisions, achieve their goals, reach their targets and step up to their leadership roles.

    Lead from within: The more you support your people, the more support your people will provide you.

     


    N A T I O N A L    B E S T S E L L E R

    THE LEADERSHIP GAP

    What Gets Between You and Your Greatness

    After decades of coaching powerful executives around the world, Lolly Daskal has observed that leaders rise to their positions relying on a specific set of values and traits. But in time, every executive reaches a point when their performance suffers and failure persists. Very few understand why or how to prevent it.

    buy now

     


    Additional Reading you might enjoy:

     

    Photo Credit: Getty Images

    The post How to Encourage Your Employees to Take Leadership Roles  appeared first on Lolly Daskal.

     
  • feedwordpress 15:52:40 on 2018/06/10 Permalink
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    7 Things You Wouldn’t Think Make Leaders Great (but They Do) 

    If you want to be a great leader who attracts other great people, you first must find great qualities within yourself.

    But leadership qualities often come as a paradox, packaged along with their contradictions.

    Here are seven surprising but important traits of great leaders–see which you should be leaning into.

    1.     Be strong and vulnerable. Great leaders need to be strong in their convictions, relentless in their values and passionate in their beliefs. They also need to be vulnerable enough to show their weaknesses and flaws. We cultivate strength when we allow our most vulnerable selves to be seen and known.

    2.     Be tender-hearted and tough-minded. Leadership is a combination of toughness and tenderness; it’s a combination of both. A great leader partners a tough mind with a tender heart. Do not mistake a tender heart for a weakened mind, and do not confuse a tough mind with a heartless soul. if you want to excel in business and transcend in leadership, allow your tough mind and tender heart to integrate. In Japanese the kanji kokoro can also be pronounced as shin–a word that can mean either heart and mind. We need that integration to make us whole and successful.

    3.     Be willing to help and willing to step back. Great leaders are compassionate; they aspire to relieve the suffering of others. They use language like I understand you and I want to help you. Just as important, a leader must be able to use the language of having faith in others–words like I believe in you, You can do it. You need both, because you don’t want to become an enabler or a fixer who takes away the power people have within themselves to make things happen.

    4.     Be open-minded and decisive. Great leaders are always great listeners and communicators, open to opinions and available to listen to new ideas. But there comes a moment when they must step up, be decisive and make the call, even if it’s unpopular.

    5.     Be respectful and candid. Great leadership grows out of earning and showing respect–treating others as you would want to be treated, talking to people the way you would want to be talked to. At the same time, there are moments when a leader has to say things that people might not want to hear. Being candid takes courage, but ultimately it implies equality–especially when it’s combined with respect.

    6.     Be flexible and stubborn. Leadership requires flexibility and agility; leaders know that change is inevitable and need to know how to move with the ever-changing times. But great leaders are stubborn when it comes to things that are important–doing the right thing, being ethical, leading with integrity and character.

    7.     Be proud and humble. Like many other things, pride can be either a positive or a negative. You want to be proud of your people and their hard work and accomplishments, but you must temper your pride with humility. To be a humble leader takes great courage, and it’s critical in creating an environment where employees feel included, acknowledged and appreciated.

    Leadership is a fierce combination of contradictions that add up to surprising things that make us great leaders.

     


    N A T I O N A L   B E S T S E L L E R

    THE LEADERSHIP GAP

    What Gets Between You and Your Greatness

    After decades of coaching powerful executives around the world, Lolly Daskal has observed that leaders rise to their positions relying on a specific set of values and traits. But in time, every executive reaches a point when their performance suffers and failure persists. Very few understand why or how to prevent it.

    buy now

     


    Additional Reading you might enjoy:

     

    Photo Credit: Getty Images

    The post 7 Things You Wouldn’t Think Make Leaders Great (but They Do) appeared first on Lolly Daskal.

     
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