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    6 Habits That Will Turn Your Failures Into Successes 

    Every one of us has made mistakes, and we all have weak spots. But if you want to be successful in what you do and in how you do it, the trick will lie in not repeating the same mistakes.

    In order to do that, it will mean taking a long view of your patterns and your thinking and not repeat the ones that don’t work. Here’s a successful system to make that happen:

    1. Identify your patterns.

    If you want to make a break from how you’ve done things in the past, seek out patterns, if you cannot identify them for yourself, ask others for input–it can be hard to seeing yourself clearly and objectively.

    2. Recognize your gaps.

    Everyone has at least one thing that stands in their way of their success. In my new bestselling book, The Leadership Gap, I identify seven gaps that most of us experience. Learning to identify and leverage them can help keep you from  repeating your mistakes.

    3. Revise your outcome.

    To get different results you have to revise your actions. Start by identifying your weakness, then design a solution and do what you can to get the results you want. Deal with one problem at a time and focus on small wins at first.

    4. Let your ego go.

    Many years ago, when I first started my coaching consultant company, I realized how many leaders make decisions and take action from their ego. It happened so often that I turned ego into an acronym for “edging out greatness.” Ego makes it difficult to see yourself or your choices objectively, but if you let your ego go, you can become not only more effective but even more influential.

    5. Practice radical honesty.

    To avoid repeating your mistakes, the blinders must come off about your blind spots and weaknesses. When you can be radically honest with yourself–and trust me, it takes practice–you will be able to deal with the consequences of your realities. It will not only improve your achievements–it will change your life.

    6. Know what’s important.

    Are you willing to admit that you don’t know something? Most leaders think they need to know everything. The best leaders don’t know much more than the rest of us, but they’re great at coming up with the right questions and having smart individuals tell them what they think. It isn’t nearly as important to have all the answers as it is to have the right questions.

    7. Bring people along.

    There are many ways to succeed. You can succeed on your own over a long time, or you can bring others along and get the help you need. Bringing people along and getting them involved will not only broaden your perspective but will expand your sphere of knowledge.

    At the end of the day, you cannot allow your mistakes to become a pattern and your blind spots to keep you from succeeding. Every mistake has a solution, and this process helps you find it.


     

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    The Leadership Gap: What Gets Between You and Your Greatness

    After decades of coaching powerful executives around the world, Lolly Daskal has observed that leaders rise to their positions relying on a specific set of values and traits. But in time, every executive reaches a point when their performance suffers and failure persists. Very few understand why or how to prevent it.

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  • feedwordpress 21:43:49 on 2018/06/11 Permalink
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    10 Bad Habits That Are Actually Good for You 

    We tend to group habits into two clear groups: good and bad.

    It sounds like common sense, but the line isn’t always so clear. Some habits that we think of as bad can actually be good for you in the right situation.

    Here are some habits you may want to reconsider:

    1. Procrastination. In a culture where we’re constantly running at full speed, multitasking and distracted, we don’t always realize how tired and stressed we are. Sometimes the best thing you can do for yourself is to put things off and remember that everything doesn’t always have to be so urgent.

    2. Boredom. Most people disapprove of boredom, sometimes because they believe it reflects a lack of inner resources. But being bored can be an important conduit for creative thinking. It can give you the space you need to turn old problems into innovative solutions or find new areas of thought and imagination.

    3. Saying no. We’ve been taught that saying no is a selfish act. But the alternative–saying yes to everything–can lead to overwork, scattered energy and resentment. Learning how to graciously say no to things that don’t matter will free up the time you need to focus on the things that are most important.

    4. Doing less. Today’s work culture tells us we should always be doing more, more, more. It leaves us feeling like we’re falling farther and farther behind no matter how hard we work. So take some stuff off your plate. Delegate. Keep projects in bounds when they threaten to grow out of control.

    5. Tuning out. Even if you’re saying no, procrastinating, and doing less, you can’t recharge your batteries if you’re still internally plugged into your to-do list. To truly revive yourself means disconnecting entirely. Play some music or paint or meditate or read a book or go for a hike in the woods. Getting lost in a different world for a while can be hugely energizing.

    6. Losing your temper. We’re taught that we should never lose our temper, that we should manage our emotions in every situation. But there are times when it’s OK, even necessary, to let go and vent. It’s much healthier to lose your temper here and there instead of holding everything in until you explode and do real damage–or keep it bottled and do psychic harm to yourself.

    7. Daydreaming. Many people think of daydreaming as a form of laziness, but allowing your mind to wander is one of the best things you can do for yourself. Daydreaming actually helps boost your problem-solving abilities. So while it may increase the time it takes to complete the task in front of you, it can help you be effective in understanding and solving bigger issues.

    8. Messiness. Some studies have found that a messy environment can be good for productivity, especially if your work requires creative thought. Neat rooms may be pleasant and calming, but untidiness lends itself well to solutions from off the beaten path.

    9. Fidgeting. You may have been told that an inability to sit still is a bad habit. But researchers have found that that wiggling in your seat, tapping your foot, jiggling your legs or even drumming your fingers can increase your metabolism and may play a positive role in overall fitness.

    10. Sleeping late. Many people think those who sleep are lazy and unmotivated. In actuality, many people are not getting enough sleep during the week and are trying to make up for it over the weekend. But insufficient sleep is associated with a wide range of health problems, from stroke risk to weight gain. So don’t begrudge your body what it needs. Don’t sleep all day, but don’t feel bad when you hit the snooze alarm a few extra times.

    Now, go enjoy some of the habits you used to feel bad about!

     


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    THE LEADERSHIP GAP

    What Gets Between You and Your Greatness

    After decades of coaching powerful executives around the world, Lolly Daskal has observed that leaders rise to their positions relying on a specific set of values and traits. But in time, every executive reaches a point when their performance suffers and failure persists. Very few understand why or how to prevent it.

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  • feedwordpress 19:11:56 on 2018/06/11 Permalink
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    Breaking These 11 Bad Habits Will Make You a Lot Happier 

    Nobody is free of bad habits. From junk food to cigars, from being late to constantly being on our phones, there are things we know we should give up.

    Bad habits come at a cost–in health, in reputation, in money. But some are worse than others. Here are 11 habits that we pay for with reduced happiness. Which of them might be making your life less rich and good than it could be?

    1. Neglect. When you habitually ignore responsibilities and the things you are accountable for, they weigh on you even more heavily and take a toll on your happiness–even (maybe especially) when you fall back on the excuse of neglecting small things to accomplish bigger ones. Over time, neglecting responsibilities causes terrible damage, and neglecting opportunities for happiness causes deep regret. Stay on top of things for your best chance of happiness.

    2. Complaining. Seeking success in life and business can be difficult, but constant complaining makes it harder than it needs to be–and it’s tiresome to those around you. If you frequently find fault in things or focus on things that aren’t working or seem unfair, you’re hurting yourself. Instead, embrace the positives and the places where you can make a change for the good.

    3. Self-doubt. For many people, self-doubt is a major obstacle to a great life–few things will sabotage your success more. It’s that troubling and persuasive voice that holds you back from seizing opportunities and fulfilling responsibilities. It’s the self-talk that tells you you’re not good enough, often without you even being aware of it. Tune in to the messages you give yourself and make sure they’re positive.

    4. Blaming. Blaming others takes time and energy away from your own self-improvement and efforts. You can spend your life blaming the world for your troubles, but when you do, you deny your own responsibility for creating the life and leadership you choose. When you stop blaming others you can begin to truly connect to your own power.

    5. Control. Especially when things are out of control, you may be in the habit of trying to take control. Most of the time that’s an illusion, of course–you have little to no power to change anything outside yourself. What you can control is your attitudes and responses. Free yourself of the rest and let things take their own natural course, and you’ll be much happier.

    6. Criticism. The time you spend criticizing others is time you could be spending improving yourself. People who incessantly criticize other people are generally unhappy about something in their own lives, and they criticize others in an effort to feel better about themselves. If that sounds painfully familiar, remind yourself that it takes little character to condemn, and far more to find happiness in understanding others and yourself.

    7. Bossiness. People who are busy dictating to others often never pause to take responsibility for themselves. If you truly seek happiness, then start to take responsibility for yourself. When you demonstrate responsibility and collaboration instead of dictating to those around you, you gain respect and trust.

    8. Rejection. Some level of rejection is healthy and even necessary to maintain high standards, but if you’re in the habit of rejecting everything that comes your way, maybe it’s because of fear or a habit of negativity. Rejecting ideas, thoughts and opportunities before you actually give them a chance can keep you from experiencing new things and benefiting from new ideas. Keep your critical facilities but learn to trust and let things in.

    9. Manipulation. Especially under mounting pressure, you may sometimes feel that the only way to get things done is by manipulating others. But when you manipulate, you cross important boundaries and risk your own happiness as well as that of others. Instead, go straight for what you know you want, with room for those you can persuade to come with you of their own free will.

    10. Deception. Deception is another case where people convince themselves that the end justifies the means. You can rationalize and say that your particular deception isn’t hurting anyone, but when you allow deception–whether it’s to protect yourself, advance your ideas, or even to spare others–you harm your own integrity, and that doesn’t make for happiness.

    11. Selfishness. Those who are self-serving think only of themselves, with a “what have you done for me lately” mentality. When you’re focused only on yourself, you may feel that the world only is centered around you, but in driving people away you risk emptiness and the loss of the connections that make happiness possible.

    If you count any of these among your own bad habits, start learning how to reverse them today. Resolve not to let them interfere with your prospects for happiness.

     


    N A T I O N A L    B E S T S E L L E R

    THE LEADERSHIP GAP

    What Gets Between You and Your Greatness

    After decades of coaching powerful executives around the world, Lolly Daskal has observed that leaders rise to their positions relying on a specific set of values and traits. But in time, every executive reaches a point when their performance suffers and failure persists. Very few understand why or how to prevent it.

    buy now

     


    Additional Reading you might enjoy:

     

    Photo Credit: Getty Images

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  • feedwordpress 13:29:55 on 2018/06/11 Permalink
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    18 Effective Habits of Highly Successful People 

    Whether we like it or not, a big part of what we do in life is governed by habits. Even more importantly, habits can lead us to think and feel in certain patterns.

    Since habits are so powerful, it’s worth paying attention to the ones that are most effective.

    Here are 18 effective habits of successful people, learn them, implement them and make them your own.

    1. Successful people are persistent.

    They know nothing can take the place of persistence and determination, so they make a habit of never quitting until they get results.

    2. Successful people are self-confident.

    Self-confidence comes from the habit of mastering yourself, your skills and talents. It’s a process that slowly but surely builds unshakeable trust in yourself–which is a vital element of success.

    3. Successful people think big.

    When you think big, you act big, and big things happen. What is the next big idea, project, business that you can think about?

    4. Successful people have an unswerving commitment.

    Their strong convictions mean they’ll structure everything else in their life around their most important goal, doing whatever it takes to make it happen.

    5. Successful people contribute generously.

    Successful people make it a habit to bring value to others. To become successful, look for ways to give, not to get.

    6. Successful people have tremendous willpower.

    They have the strength to see things through without vacillating or procrastinating. When you want it, you make it happen. The world’s greatest achievers are those who have had the willpower to stay focused on their goals and consistent in their efforts.

    7. Successful people have patience.

    They understand that in everything there are failures and frustrations. To take setbacks personally just slows things down that much more. Their habit of patience is not so much about the ability to wait as knowing how to act while they’re waiting.

    8. Successful people are optimistic.

    They choose positivity instead of fear. Optimism is an ideal strategy for making a better future–you have to first believe that the future can be better before you can step up and take responsibility for making it so.

    9. Successful people are flexible.

    They make it a habit of being agile and adaptable. Many of them have become successful doing something different from what they initially started out to do. They know the world is always changing and they refuse to lock themselves into a box.

    10. Successful people know their “why.”

    Successful people make a habit of knowing why they do what they do–what they’re in it for. They’ve given thought to their reasons and motives, which in turn gives them the courage and the determination to continue.

    11. Successful people think long term.

    Most people think short term, because they want instant gratification. Successful people know how to set that desire aside and cultivate the habit of thinking in the long term. They plan ahead because they know that lasting success beats momentary gratification.

    12. Successful people are strong communicators.

    People who can communicate effectively excel in life. Successful people understand that in order to achieve great success, you must first must understand your central message and how best to communicate it.

    13. Successful people take risks.

    They know you can’t make important gains without important risk. If you take risk out of life, you take opportunity out along with it.

    14. Successful people have self-management skills.

    In the end, everything boils down to personal relationships and self-management. Successful people make those areas a priority–people skills and personal development.

    15. Successful people are resourceful.

    They develop networks and cultivate contacts, and they know how to make things work. They know when you have the right people with the right abilities in the right place at the right time, everyone benefits.

    16. Successful people take definitive actions.

    If there’s one critical thing that separates successful people from the herd, it’s this: successful people take action. They don’t talk about what they’re going to do or think about their intentions. They get up and get it done.

    17. Successful people play by their own rules.

    They make a point of working harder than everyone else and learning every single detail from scratch. And because they do what most people aren’t willing to do, they get to set the agenda.

    18. Successful people think winning thoughts.

    They don’t allow any room for negativity or doubt. They may even visualize how success will look and feel. They intuitively understand that once you can think it you can achieve it.

    In the end, successful people know the importance of having effective, healthy winning habits, and they work hard on creating, building and cultivating winning habits to make their success a reality.

     


    N A T I O N A L    B E S T S E L L E R

    THE LEADERSHIP GAP

    What Gets Between You and Your Greatness

    After decades of coaching powerful executives around the world, Lolly Daskal has observed that leaders rise to their positions relying on a specific set of values and traits. But in time, every executive reaches a point when their performance suffers and failure persists. Very few understand why or how to prevent it.

    buy now

     


    Additional Reading you might enjoy:

     

    Photo Credit: Getty Images

    The post 18 Effective Habits of Highly Successful People appeared first on Lolly Daskal.

     
  • feedwordpress 13:23:27 on 2018/06/11 Permalink
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    16 Daily Habits That Will Instantly Make You a Happier Person 

     

    If you want to improve your life, and you want to improve it right now!

    You have to to be to develop good habits.

    These good habits need to be positive, accumulative and directive.

    Change rarely comes without extensive effort over time, but in the long run, time you spend growing good habits will pay off well because the behavior that helps you succeed becomes automatic.

    Here are 16 habits to work on. Prioritize and focus on a few at a time with the idea that you’re serious about improving your life right now.

    1. Share what you know.

    Success emerges from what you know and how you share it. Let go of worrying about what you don’t know or are unsure of and make a habit of confidently telling what you know.

    2. Embrace positive thoughts.

    It’s one of the few things you can absolutely control: Your thoughts. Discipline yourself to notice when you’re slipping into negativity and steer yourself back to the positive.

    3. Cultivate a beginner’s mind.

    The expert’s mind may have certainty, but the beginner’s mind is filled with possibility. And success comes to those who allow themselves to be open to new things–always learning, always listening, always growing.

    4. Engage in immediate action.

    Think about that project you’ve been putting off, that business you keep thinking about, that venture you’re afraid to begin. Think about what you need to do and then do it without hesitation. Action leads to success.

    5. Stay the course.

    If you want to be successful, you can’t let short-term failure bring you down–no matter how many times it happens. When you fall, get right back up and keep trying.

    6. Don’t ask permission.

    Success comes to you when you take your life in your own hands and make it happen. The only permission you need to be happy and successful is your own.

    7. Celebrate your obstacles.

    Success is about learning from failures and moving forward. Learn to celebrate failure as a teacher.

    8. Be open to epiphanies.

    Learn to trust your insights about the past and your intuition about the future. Staying open is the easy part; the trick is learning to let go of the need to make things more complicated than they are.

    9. Don’t let others define you.

    Don’t allow anyone else to tell you who you are and what you want. If you live by someone else’s definition, you’ll never be able to live into your own opinions. Success comes to those who know who they are and what they want

    10. Be kind to yourself.

    Many of us tend to be hard on ourselves, but if you want to improve your life, if you want to succeed, you have to learn to cut yourself some slack. When you make a mistake, treat yourself with the kindness you’d show to your best friend.

    11. Keep your promises.

    People with good intentions make promises, but people with good character always keep them. Your promises should be as binding as a contract.12. Look for admirable contemporaries.

    In every situation, look for people you can admire. Let them know that you appreciate what they do, and share in their enthusiasm. Successful people surround themselves with people they resonate with.

    13. Battle your demons.

    Find the warrior within you and hold off the things that are keeping you back. Stand your ground and fight for control of your life.

    14. Give yourself credit.

    Focus on the things you do right and give yourself credit where it’s due. Cultivate the habit of respecting yourself to help you remember deserve the best.

    15. Stand in your power.

    If you want to succeed, refuse to allow others to make decisions for you or tell you what you really want. Be strong in yourself. Live in your power.

    16. Be appreciative.

    It’s easy to get so caught up in everyday activities that you forget to express your gratitude. To be acknowledged and thanked can make someone’s day or even change a life. And success follows those who know how to show appreciation.

     


    N A T I O N A L    B E S T S E L L E R

    THE LEADERSHIP GAP

    What Gets Between You and Your Greatness

    After decades of coaching powerful executives around the world, Lolly Daskal has observed that leaders rise to their positions relying on a specific set of values and traits. But in time, every executive reaches a point when their performance suffers and failure persists. Very few understand why or how to prevent it.

    buy now

     


    Additional Reading you might enjoy:

     

    Photo Credit: Getty Images

    The post 16 Daily Habits That Will Instantly Make You a Happier Person appeared first on Lolly Daskal.

     
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