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  • feedwordpress 08:00:55 on 2019/08/20 Permalink
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    The Best Advice for a Leader Who’s a Fixer 


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    At our weekly coaching session, my client was more serious and quiet than usual. When I asked what was wrong, he said, “Nothing.”

    After a long pause, he asked me, “What is the best advice you would give to a leader who is a fixer?”

    I smiled and reassured him that most leaders I know—especially the really smart ones, the really good ones—are fixers at heart. But the truly great leaders know they can’t fix everything, and they know what to do when they catch themselves trying.

    He started to relax a bit. Knowing he wasn’t alone in his concern was helpful. But of course our work had just begun—he also needed to know what to do.

    This is what I told him:

    When you want to jump in and correct someone, pause. Take a moment and give yourself a chance to regroup so you can make better decisions and act wisely. A smart leader who knows what needs to be done will want to jump in and correct the situation—but don’t. Be the leader who is able to ask the questions that lead others to the next step instead of finding it for them. Be a leader who empowers others.

    When you want to tell people what to do, stop yourself. Great leaders don’t tell people what to do. They demonstrate, navigate, stand beside their people and work with them as partners. You never want to be the kind of leader who simply tells others what to do. Giving people a chance to have input and to give you feedback is a sign of a great leader.

    When you delegate work and it isn’t done well, don’t criticize. Unless you’re an exceptional communicator, it’s hard for someone else to know exactly what you want. If you give someone an assignment. and it’s not done the way you would do it, resist the temptation to criticize. Instead, guide them through the work with questions, and ask them if they can think of a better approach. Give them an opportunity to think, assess and rework.

    When you want to go faster, slow down. If you want speed, you might not get excellence or quality. As a leader, it is important to set the pace, but it is just as important that people can keep up with you. If you are 10 steps ahead of everyone, no one will be following you as a leader—so slow down to keep up with the people you want to bring along. Walk in step with those who are following you.

    When you think you know how to do it better, check yourself. As leaders, we always tend to think we can do everything a little bit better. But part of leadership is giving the people you hired a chance to do their job. If you find yourself saying, “This is how we can do it better,” stop! Allow people to speak up and give their input. It’s your job to make the space for others to tell what they think and share their ideas. Leadership is not a one-person job—it takes a great group of people coming together to makes things work.

    Great leaders know how to do many things very well. They have the competence and skills to make things better, faster, and quicker, and the confidence to act with intelligence and wisdom. But that doesn’t mean they should be trying to fix everything that isn’t working.

    Lead from within: Great leadership isn’t showing off how much you know and how much you can do. It’s about allowing others to show you their own greatness so you can celebrate and appreciate it.

     


     

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  • feedwordpress 11:24:54 on 2017/08/22 Permalink
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    It’s True — You Can’t Do It All 


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    It can be hard to be a leader in today’s hurried business climate. People seem to expect a leader to know everything, be everything and do everything, all at the same time.

    But even if you can, that doesn’t mean you should.

    Great leaders know that deciding what not to do is as important as deciding what to do.

    Most leaders executives, bosses, managers run into trouble when they think they need fix it all, but frankly that’s impossible.

    In my new national bestselling book, The Leadership Gap, I highlight a big problem in leadership, the archetype, the leader I call the fixer, the fixer, is someone who needs to step in all the time and show they can do it all. they are constantly telling people what to do and how to do it without even waiting to see if people understand what they are saying or asking of

    So how do we leverage the fixer within ourselves:

    We need to fix the fixer: Before we can fix anyone, or anything we need to fix ourselves. Hire a coach or get a mentor, to help you get over the fact that you have to be the martyr, savor, of everyone and everything. deal with your inner demons. whatever they maybe, this may be the hardest part of healing yourself, its much easier said than done, because as human beings  we are complicated and as a fixer we want to simplify everything.

    Trust people to fend for themselves: As a leader helping other, you don’t allow them to fend for themselves, instead of always offering to rescue, solve, comfort, or defend. Learn to become a better listener than a leader who does a lot of talking. Become the kind of leader that’s compassionate and considerate, but don’t offer to take over someone else’s problems in order to make those problems go away. The best leaders empower others by just being there for them and listen with understanding.

    Don’t cross boundaries: How many times have you found yourself in situations and you ask yourself how did I get in so deep, I don’t even belong here. don’t allow yourself as a leader to get swallowed up in other people challenges or complications,

    Shield yourself from emotional hostage syndrome. Many years ago, I coined the phrase emotional hostage syndrome, when I started to notice some of my clients that I was coaching were feeling the things for another so strongly that they become hostage of their emotions. When you cannot separate yourself from another you lose perspective. In order to make sure you don’t lose perspective or a point of reference make sure you come from the right amount of apathy with a dash of empathy. Resist the urge to take on responsibility, where the responsibility belongs in the first place.

    If you have a tendency to be a fixer, a problem solver, resolver, decipher or decoder. I am saying you think about taking one little step back – will you still be the leader?

    The answer unequivocally is YES.

    People will still view you as leader. Maybe even with more respect than if you always were fixing their problems, solving their challenges.

    The best leader give the gift in others in trusting them and empowering them to solve their own problems, but letting them know that as leader you are standing right beside them and supporting them if they need you.

    John Quincy Adams said, if your actions inspire others to dream more, learn more, do more and become more you are a leader.

    Lead from within: At the end the best leaders don’t tell people how to do things, they support them and let them surprise you with their results.  Because as a leader its not necessarily the one who does the greatest things but it’s the one who gets the people to do the greatest things that is a great leader.


    Learn how to leverage the fixer within you in my National Bestseller book:
    The Leadership Gap: What Gets Between You and Your Greatness

    After decades of coaching powerful executives around the world, Lolly Daskal has observed that leaders rise to their positions relying on a specific set of values and traits. But in time, every executive reaches a point when their performance suffers and failure persists. Very few understand why or how to prevent it.

    buy now

     



    Additional Reading you might enjoy:

     

    Photo Credit: Getty Images

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