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    What to Do When You Are Afraid of Your Leader 


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    The idea of someone fearing a leader or boss may seem odd. But it happens more often than you might think, at every level and within every type of organization.

    Fear of a leader covers a lot of ground, from simply feeling a bit intimidated by someone’s power and authority to fear of abuse or harassment. Whatever the source and degree of your fear, you have to learn to deal with it. Here are some steps you can take:

    Recognize your fear. Everything starts with awareness. Think about the fears that are stopping you from being yourself. Just observe them. This process is actually incredibly freeing.

    Admit your fear. Many people know what they are afraid of, but won’t admit it, even to themselves. This resistance only gives your fear more power. Denial means you’re running instead of facing.

    Decide if you want to change it or not. At some point, you have to decide to face your fear. You can choose to be less afraid. That doesn’t mean your fear is will just go away, but it will move the ball. It will create a shift. Examine what your fear is and make a decision—to stay fearful or to change.

    If you decide to stay as you are, you can stop reading here. But if you decide to stop being fearful, here are the next steps:

    Define the challenge. Now is the challenge to no longer allow the fear to drive a wedge between you and what you want to accomplish. If you want to stop being afraid of your leader, be specific about how you want to stop being afraid. For example, if your boss is known for having a bad temper, maybe you want to be able to talk to them without being afraid they’ll bite your head off. Once you know your goal, you can start moving toward what you want.

    Take a baby step. The most common reaction in a fearful situation is “I can’t!” This is the fear of failure and loss that stops us from taking action.  Instead of giving in to that anxiety, learn to move in the direction you want to be going. If you are fearful of talking to your boss, do a drive-by—a quick encounter. Stop by your boss’s office and ask, “Have you got a minute?” Then go in and say something short and specific and leave. Breaking your action down into small steps makes it far less daunting.

    Keep moving toward your fear. In order to succeed in your challenge you need to keep moving toward it. As you do, you’ll notice it growing smaller and more manageable. What’s more, as your fears recede, your confidence grows. In time, your fears will have lost their control over you.

    Practice and practice. if you want to get over the fear, you have to do what you are afraid of over and over again. Keep having brief conversations. Have more interactions and gradually increase their length and complexity, so you can keep practicing. Every time you do, you move closer to your goal.

    Visualize successful outcome. Every day, take a moment to visualize success over your fear. Visualize having dialogue that is easy and comfortable. See it working; see yourself being successful. Imagine yourself standing up straight with a smile, moving confidently. In every respect, act as if you already have the courage you want to see.

    When you force yourself to face a fear-inducing situation, your self-esteem, self-respect and sense of personal pride increases and eventually you reach the point in life where you can look fear straight on and be brave.

    Lead from within: Fear is normal, but it’s when you no longer allow yourself to be driven by your fears that life becomes truly rewarding.


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  • feedwordpress 21:22:34 on 2018/06/10 Permalink
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    The Remarkably Simple Way to Turn Fear Into Success 


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    All of us experience fear now and then. And all of us know the effects fear can have on us. Fear can hold us back from pursuing our dreams, whether those dreams are about starting a business or starting a relationship. It can keep us stuck where we are.

    If fear is keeping you from being who you want to be or what you want to accomplish, start by understanding what your particular fear means.

    Here are five common sources.

    1. FEAR = For Everything A Reason.
    Fear isn’t always bad, of course. It keeps us from doing lots of things that are dumb and dangerous. But the kind of fear that gets between you and the things you want often disguises itself as reasonable caution. To understand the difference, ask yourself what’s on the other side of your fear. If it’s something with little payoff besides risk-taking, it’s likely the wiser path to listen to your fear. But if the fear is holding you back from something significant you want–especially if it’s a significant change in your life–it’s time to fight.

    2. FEAR = Face Everything And Recover.
    Fear frequently rears up when we begin to gain a level of understanding about our lives. Recovery–whether it’s from a past event or a present obstacle–is one of the greatest gifts you can give yourself, but it’s natural for a part of you to prefer the comfort of the status quo. If you’re thinking through something serious in your life and everything locks up, that’s fear trying to take charge.

    3. FEAR = Find Excuses And Reasons.
    When we try something new, there’s almost always a period of uncertainty and discomfort. It’s at exactly that point that fear kicks in and pushes us back to safe ground. If this pattern develops long enough, eventually we don’t even consider change but go straight to the reasons why it won’t work. It’s your choice: you can either allow your world to shrink because you’ve been paralyzed by fear and negativity, or just commit to taking the next step and watching the world start to open up.

    4. FEAR = Frantic Effort to Avoid Reality.
    Fear takes us away from what we know and tries to lure us into a kind of alternate reality–one that rewards us for timidity, for staying quiet and staying put, for settling. Of course, we know those things aren’t true. Rewards come to those who jump in and take chances. Sometimes you have to shove fear aside to stay grounded in the real world.

    5. FEAR = False Evidence Appearing Real.
    Danger is real; fear, on the other hand, is a product of our thoughts. We create it, and ultimately we give or deny it power. Fear can sure feel like reality. You overcome it when you remember you are strong because you know your weaknesses, you are powerful because you know your flaws, and you are determined because you know reality from fear’s falsehood.

    6. FEAR = Forget Everything And Run.
    There’s no denying the temptation: when things turn tough, the easiest way through is to turn and run. But that’s not the path to achievement and success. But if you can find the courage to stand your ground, you hold the power.

    Fear shows up in lots of different forms, but the only way out is through–staying present in the moment and committed to the things you want to accomplish. It’s your life you’re standing up for. See it as an adventure. Feel the fear and do it anyway.


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    What Gets Between You and Your Greatness

    After decades of coaching powerful executives around the world, Lolly Daskal has observed that leaders rise to their positions relying on a specific set of values and traits. But in time, every executive reaches a point when their performance suffers and failure persists. Very few understand why or how to prevent it.

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