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  • feedwordpress 09:00:03 on 2019/01/10 Permalink
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    Why It’s Important For Leaders to Fail Well 

    When we think of leaders we don’t often think of failures, but one of the hallmarks of the best leaders is knowing how to fail well. Every successful person is someone who has failed at something—and in some cases, many things—but without ever regarding themselves as a failure. They take risks, and sometimes the risks work out and sometimes things go wrong, but they remain positive and determined throughout.

    Just as beginning skiers start out by being taught how to fall without injuring themselves, leaders should be taught, coached and supported in facing adversity and failure without shaking their confidence. Part of that process is developing the right attitude about failure by considering its benefits. Here are some of the most important:

    Failure keeps us focused on our strengths. One of the principal differences between a winner and a loser is that a winner always concentrates on what they can do instead of the things they can’t. When you find an area of weakness—and we all have them—work to leverage it into a strength and use it to your advantage.

    Failure teaches us to be flexible. Flexibility is key to success. Always be willing to vary your approaches to problems and circumstances to see what works best.

    Failure teaches us to rethink what we deserve. Remember, you are what you think—so if you think failure happens because you don’t deserve success, it’s time to rethink. If you internalize failure and blame yourself, you’ll continue to find ways to fail. But if you externalize it, it will help you keep the right perspective. Take responsibility for your actions, but don’t allow yourself to take failure personally.

    Failure reminds us that everything is temporary. Nothing ever stays the same; everything has an ebb and flow. Don’t allow yourself to view failure as a permanent state of being, or you’ll risk getting stuck in bad patterns.

    Failure shows us it’s not fatal. When leaders fail, they see it as a momentary event, not a life sentence. It’s not the end of the world, but a chance to project yourself ahead and see yourself having overcome and persevered.

    Failure disciplines our expectations. Failure can be helpful in learning how to manage expectations. It takes time, effort and discipline to overcome a setback. You learn to approach each day with realistic expectations and not get down when things don’t work out. The greater the accomplishment, the greater the challenge, the more a realistic orientation is required.

    Failure instructs us to keep trying. Every leader knows that in order to succeed, you have to learn to try and try again. Take a page from highly successful individuals and learn to keep moving forward no matter what happens.

    Lead from within: It is possible to cultivate a positive attitude about yourself no matter what circumstances you find yourself in. That’s leadership at its core.

     


     

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    The Leadership Gap: What Gets Between You and Your Greatness

    After decades of coaching powerful executives around the world, Lolly Daskal has observed that leaders rise to their positions relying on a specific set of values and traits. But in time, every executive reaches a point when their performance suffers and failure persists. Very few understand why or how to prevent it.

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  • feedwordpress 09:00:10 on 2018/12/11 Permalink
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    My Best Advice for Leaders When Things Are Going Wrong 

    I’ve been coaching top leaders in almost every industry for decades, and I’ve learned that even when it appears that an organization is running well and its leaders are effective, it’s often a very different story behind the scenes.

    Tough times are a fact of life for nearly every organization at some point. And when times get tough, leaders have to get tougher.

    I once heard a CEO yell in frustration, “I’m going to walk away from this whole company.” He was over it almost immediately, but his words in that tense moment genuinely frightened his board and team to the point that they began to question his leadership.

    Maybe more than at any other time, when things go wrong your words and actions as a leader are critically important. Here’s my best advice for those times:

    Face your obligations. Harriet Beecher Stowe said, “When you get into a tight place and everything goes against you till it seems as though you could not hang on a minute longer, never give up then, for that is just the place and time that the tide will turn.” Sometimes what is needed most will happen when you face your challenge and own your struggles. Success often lies in your ability to face difficult situations.

    Use the struggle to pivot. The uncertainty and uprootedness of moments of crisis have a strange benefit: they make it a great time to change direction. Moving to things that will serve your organization in a different way and pose new challenges—the kind of change that people find frightening under many circumstances—can instead be a welcome source of hope in tough times. Sometimes problems are pushing you directly into the path of opportunities that weren’t visible before.

    Change your thinking. It’s easy to turn your thoughts to a dark and negative place when things go wrong, especially if you don’t have the resources or influence to change a tough situation. But in these cases, the only thing you can control is the way you think and respond. However difficult, struggle makes us strong and comes with important lessons. Instead of giving in to negativity, try to view the situation as a chance for you and your team to learn and grow.

    Make a plan to move forward. As a leader, you cannot get stuck in a problem but need to be the source of plans and solutions. Problems come and go, but ultimately you won’t be remembered for the problems you faced but the solutions you came up with. Leadership at its best is when you don’t like something and you move ahead and use your influence to do something about it.

    Don’t let anything stop you. Whatever the obstacles or challenges, the best time to show determination is when you’re facing your biggest challenges, because the true essence of determination will get you through anything. The difference between impossible and possible lies in a leader’s determination. Some people succeed because they are destined, but most succeed because they are determined.

    Lead from within: When things go wrong, become the kind of leader who can make things turn out the best—and make the best of things along the way.

     


    N A T I O N A L   B E S T S E L L E R
    The Leadership Gap: What Gets Between You and Your Greatness

    After decades of coaching powerful executives around the world, Lolly Daskal has observed that leaders rise to their positions relying on a specific set of values and traits. But in time, every executive reaches a point when their performance suffers and failure persists. Very few understand why or how to prevent it.

    buy now

     


    Additional Reading you might enjoy:

     

    Photo Credit: iStock Photo

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  • feedwordpress 08:00:30 on 2018/10/22 Permalink
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    This is Why Failure Makes You a Better Leader 

    “Success is not final, failure is not fatal:
    it is the courage to continue that counts.”

    ― Winston S. Churchill

    I teach and coach leadership to thousands of people each year—at conferences, lunches, events, and workshops, and in one-on-one coaching practice with leaders. And most of the time, the leaders I coach want quick fixes and perfunctory processes to achieve what they want to accomplish. Their true interest often lies in knowing how they can get to their goals more quickly and with less difficulty. But that’s not what growth is all about.

    What I know from my experience as a leadership coach is that growth comes with struggle and achievement is earned through repeated failures. There’s no way to shortcut the experience that doesn’t also shortchange the outcome. The most valuable things in life aren’t the ones that come easily.

    What I know from my experience as a leadership coach is that growth comes with struggle and achievement is earned through repeated failures. There’s no way to shortcut the experience that doesn’t also shortchange the outcome. The most valuable things in life aren’t the ones that come easily.

    To be a truly meaningful leader you have to embrace struggle and make failure part of your success story. Here are some of the ways failure is valuable and why it’s at the heart of most success stories.

    Failure teaches wisdom. Success feels good, but failure—as long as you don’t let it get the best of you—brings wisdom and growth. Leaders who have failed have a depth of understanding that can’t be obtained any other way.

    Failure breeds resiliency. Nothing in life creates resiliency like struggle and failure. Persistence and resilience come from working through difficult problems and still finding the will to keep going and take chances.

    Failure stretches potential. Until you’re tested, it’s hard to imagine being able to endure struggle. But failure, when it comes, can take you far beyond the limits you imagined for yourself. Every failure is an opportunity to rethink your own limits and realize how much stronger and more capable you are than you ever thought.

    Failure provides opportunities. Our natural impulse is to shy away from failure—nobody wants to take on a struggle—but when you eliminate adversity, you limit your potential. Failure provides you with additional resources and preparation to take advantage of the opportunities that come your way.

    Failure supplies motivation. Nothing else is as motivating as struggle. I’ve seen it many times over as a coach: defeat motivates people to concentrate harder, focus better and achieve more.

    Failure generates benefits. It may be hard to see when you’re feeling stuck in failure, but with the benefit of a little time and distance, you’ll be able to discover the benefits and the value of struggle. It’s a matter of looking at events through the lens of your eventual success.

    Lead from within: If you pursue success, welcome failure, hold on to hope and never lose your perspective, you’ll find there is something positive in every negative experience.

     


     

    N A T I O N A L   B E S T S E L L E R
    The Leadership Gap: What Gets Between You and Your Greatness

    After decades of coaching powerful executives around the world, Lolly Daskal has observed that leaders rise to their positions relying on a specific set of values and traits. But in time, every executive reaches a point when their performance suffers and failure persists. Very few understand why or how to prevent it.

    buy now

     


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    Photo Credit: iStock Photos

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  • feedwordpress 08:00:18 on 2018/07/10 Permalink
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    6 Struggles Every Leader is Guaranteed to Face 

    Every leader will face struggles, but some struggles are common enough that you can learn from the bad experiences of others and avoid the trouble and risk of taking them on yourself.

    Here are six top struggles leaders are guaranteed to face work to avoid them.

    Not doing the right thing. If you don’t lead with character, struggle is practically guaranteed. Character in leadership means consistently doing the right thing and the best thing. It plays a major role in your ability to lead and influence. Great character is molded into great leadership.

    Leading through demands and control. Leaders lose respect when they have to rely on demands and control—and losing respect is fatal to leadership. Leaders may try to demand respect and control outcomes. But respect is earned, not demanded, and outcomes are outside your control. Let go; learn to lead with vision and trust that the outcomes will be positive the long run.

    Relying on unclear messages. If you aren’t a good communicator, serious struggle is more likely to occur. Just as most people think they’re good drivers, most leaders think of themselves as great communicators—but as an executive leadership coach I often see leaders who think they are communicating brilliantly when no one around them has a clue what they’re trying to say. Work on your communication skills to make sure you keep your messages clear and compelling.

    Trying to persuade without inspiring. No matter how strong your vision is, if you lack the ability to inspire and motivate others you’re not going to connect. The difference between motivation and inspiration is that motivation must constantly be renewed, while inspiration lasts a lifetime. Great leaders instill both.

    Refusing to delegate. Most leaders—if not all—think they can always do everything better themselves, and as a result they have a hard time delegating. But refusing to delegate turns you into a micromanager and erodes trust in your leadership, which leads to constant struggle. Learn how to delegate the right task to the right person and then maintain the right level of involvement.

    Giving in to self-doubt. They may or may not ever express it, but from time to time every leader asks themselves, “Am I measuring up?” If the answer is no, it’s likely a matter of self-doubt or lost confidence. Comparisons to others is a quick way to derail leadership. Refuse to measure yourself against anything but your own goals and expectations.

    Lead From Within: Avoid struggle when you can, and learn to face the unavoidable struggles with confidence. The lessons we learn from struggles—our own or those of others—lead to true progress and growth.

     


     

    N A T I O N A L  B E S T S E L L E R
    The Leadership Gap: What Gets Between You and Your Greatness

    After decades of coaching powerful executives around the world, Lolly Daskal has observed that leaders rise to their positions relying on a specific set of values and traits. But in time, every executive reaches a point when their performance suffers and failure persists. Very few understand why or how to prevent it.

    buy now

     


    Additional Reading you might enjoy:

     

    Photo Credit: iStock Photo

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  • feedwordpress 16:07:56 on 2018/06/09 Permalink
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    7 Powerful Ways to Turn Every Failure Into Success 

    Failure is part of life, and most certainly part of business. We don’t often acknowledge it, but failure is also a fundamental element of our success.

    Our instinct is to be ashamed of failure, maybe because we don’t like how it makes us feel–humiliated, as though we have done something wrong.

    But if you can shift your perspective and look at failure not as something to be ashamed of but something valuable, you can begin to understand that it’s through failure that we truly learn to succeed.

    The sooner we stop shaming our failures, the easier it will be to turn them to our advantage. Here are seven points to think about:

    1. Mistakes are not a problem, but not taking the opportunity to learn from them is. Identify your mistakes and learn from them quickly. Many successful people have experienced some kind of failure–and they build on those lessons. Learning to fail well means learning to understand your mistakes. In every mistake there is a potential for growth.

    2. Be careful how you talk to yourself, because you are listening. Self-talk can be incredibly damaging, especially after a failure. Handle your self-talk and don’t allow it to make you feel worthless–especially in the aftermath of a failure. Let it sting for a moment, and then do everything you can to stay positive and get back on track.

    3. It’s far better to do something imperfectly than to do nothing perfectly. The only true failure is doing nothing–inaction puts everything at risk. When we do nothing, it means we are not moving anywhere. And that is a surefire way to stay in failure. All that is required for failure to triumph is for us to do nothing.

    4. We are products of our past, but we don’t have to let our mistakes define us. Even if the past did not go as we had hoped, our future can still be better than we can envision. Too often, we’re afraid to talk about our past and our failures out of fear that they’ll define us. Let it out, but stay focused on what’s ahead.

    5. The enemy of success is fear of failure. It’s not failure itself that’s so dangerous–it’s the fear of failure that keeps us doing nothing. Like all fears, you conquer it by facing it down. And when the fear of doing nothing exceeds the fear of doing it wrong, that is when your true work begins.

    6. Consistent action creates consistent results. Strength doesn’t come from what you can do, it comes from mastering the things you once thought you couldn’t do. So let yourself fall down, but learn to dust yourself off and get up and move forward. What you do every day matters more than what you do every once in a while. Consistency is key to success.

    7. You can’t do it alone–and you don’t have to. Sometimes our failures keep us stuck in our old ways and we need support to help us get past our bad habits. The worst thing we can do is think we need to handle this alone. Find a coach, a mentor, or a friend who supports you in your efforts and has the experience to get you pointed toward your own success.

    Failure is the only way to grow yourself and grow your organization, because ultimately, it is how we learn to succeed.

     


    N A T I O N A L   B E S T S E L L E R

    THE LEADERSHIP GAP

    What Gets Between You and Your Greatness

    After decades of coaching powerful executives around the world, Lolly Daskal has observed that leaders rise to their positions relying on a specific set of values and traits. But in time, every executive reaches a point when their performance suffers and failure persists. Very few understand why or how to prevent it.

    buy now

     


    Additional Reading you might enjoy:

     

    Photo Credit: Getty Images

    The post 7 Powerful Ways to Turn Every Failure Into Success appeared first on Lolly Daskal.

     
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