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  • feedwordpress 22:50:27 on 2021/05/19 Permalink
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    Why Being a Self Serving Leader is So Dangerous 


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    Good leadership is focused on others, but self-serving leadership undermines that principle to focus on the ego and the symptoms can take hold and begin damaging your leadership before you’re even aware. Be on guard against these signs so you can recognize them in yourself before they take root and grow:

    Arguing. If you find yourself often arguing with others or in a mindset where you’re right and others are wrong, you’re likely coming across as rigid and unwilling to listen. Stop arguing and start being open to finding points of agreement.

    Absence. If you’re always engaged in something else when your people need you, they’ll see you as distracted, absorbed and preoccupied. Work to becoming a leader who empowers, inspires and motivates by being available and accessible.

    Defensiveness. When your leadership is about protecting and defending yourself, you’re likely to find yourself working against those you’re supposed to be leading.

    Boasting. When you take all the credit instead of sharing it with your team, you show them where your priorities are, so don’t expect them to work so hard next time. Spotlight your people instead of yourself.

    Bluster. If you’re in the habit of speaking over others, interrupting, and making statements without allowing others to respond or express their own thoughts, you kill the energy and ideas of your team. Talk less and listen more.

    Competitiveness. Competition can spur people to do great work, but if you’re competing against those you lead, you’re setting a bad example. Remember that they’re on your side; work to elevate their performance and focus your competitive side elsewhere.

    Envy. When you’re jealous or begrudging of those you lead, remember that leadership at its core is taking pleasure in other people’s success. Celebrate, appreciate and recognize the work and success of others.

    Self-promotion. If your leadership is ego-driven, you’re missing the point. Turn your attention to elevating those you lead, not yourself. Any time you  find yourself wanting to promote yourself, change it up and honor your team instead.

    Delusion. if you’re basing your leadership on a false impression of your own self-importance, you need to understand that grandstanding serves only to isolate you from those you are trying to influence and lead, and it’s counterproductive to bringing people together to do great things. Break down the false and misleading impressions you have of yourself and practice leading from reality.

    Ego. When you think of leadership as something you do to serve yourself, your leadership is bogged down in ego. Instead, try dedicating your energy to helping others be successful. Be known as a leader who serves others instead of yourself.

    Self-serving leadership is dangerous to you and to those you lead. Few things can do more to undermine your influence, respect and trust.

    Lead from within: It’s easy to fall into self-serving leadership behaviors, even if it’s not the way you normally operate. So be a thoughtful leader who is self-aware at all times.


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  • feedwordpress 09:00:56 on 2020/02/18 Permalink
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    How Great Leaders Control Their Ego 


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    Everybody has an ego, and a healthy ego is necessary for success in leadership or any field. You need to have faith in yourself and your abilities, and when you’re trying to achieve something difficult, it serves you well to have that voice in your head saying “You’re the one who can make this happen.”

    But left unchecked, an ego can be a destructive force. It may keep you from admitting you don’t know something you need to learn, or persuade you not to consider the areas you need to improve upon. Sometimes it takes the form of the fear of looking foolish, which can keep you from speaking up or taking a chance on an opportunity.

    Knowing how to manage your ego is important. Here are some of the approaches top leaders use:

    They acknowledge and respect their ego. Great leaders understand that the first step in managing their ego is to acknowledge it and respect it. They never try to disingenuously pretend that it doesn’t exist. They respect their ego enough to understand how it serves them, even if it means having to face harsh realities about themselves.

    They don’t compare themselves to others. The best leaders understand that big egos come with big expectations, and they resist the constant temptation to measure themselves against others. They compare themselves only to their own ideals and aspirations as they decide what’s most important and focus on getting there.

    They never stop learning. The smartest person in the room isn’t the one whose ego is telling them they’re the smartest. It’s the one who knows how much they still have to learn.

    They serve a higher purpose. Top leaders know that the best way to control their ego and keep perspective is to remember that the world does not revolve around them. Holding to an attitude of service, in leadership and in life, breaks the pressure we put on ourselves, giving us room to move from self-importance to a sense of genuine purpose. The highest level of achievement is based on passion and service, not hitting a target for personal accomplishment. Living life beyond ourselves in service of others doesn’t just keep our egos in line—it creates more adventure, fulfillment and meaning.

    Great leaders understand that controlling their ego is a personal challenge that is critical to success, and it’s something they have to do themselves, every day. It’s the only way to build respect and trust with others.

    Lead from within: A big ego can create huge achievement but it can result in huge destruction too. Controlling its power is a skill well worth mastering.

     

     


    #1 N A T I O N A L   B E S T S E L L E R

    The Leadership Gap
    What Gets Between You and Your Greatness


    After decades of coaching powerful executives around the world, Lolly Daskal has observed that leaders rise to their positions relying on a specific set of values and traits. But in time, every executive reaches a point when their performance suffers and failure persists. Very few understand why or how to prevent it.

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  • feedwordpress 09:00:12 on 2019/11/14 Permalink
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    How to Know Success Has Gotten to Your Head 


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    We’re all working toward being successful and achieving that success is a wonderful feeling. But once you’re there, it’s important to make sure it doesn’t go to your head.

    It’s an issue many successful people struggle with, and it can cause serious problems. When you allow your ego to rule, you lose control of your life, your relationships, and everything you’ve worked so hard for.

    An overgrown ego is something to be consistently watchful for. Here are some of the most common signs:

    You hog the spotlight. When you put yourself out front and keep others in the shadows, you aren’t communicating your success but your sense of self-importance. Putting others forward is not only the right thing to do but also makes you look better.

    You’ve stopped learning. Learning doesn’t happen by chance—it takes work and diligence and humility. Talent and luck can happen to anyone, but if you don’t keep learning your success isn’t likely to last.

    You take all the credit. Nothing ever great has ever been accomplished without the help of someone else. When you pretend that an achievement is yours alone, you alienate those around you—the very people whose help you’re likely to need again.

    You have a sense of entitlement. Believing you deserve certain privileges ahead of other people is a great way to build resentment and contempt. Being the boss doesn’t put you at the front of the line.

    You ignore feedback. When you tune out feedback, you risk coming across as someone who thinks they’re too smart to listen to others. And you’re undermining yourself, because success favors those who know how to listen and respond to others.

    Your behavior is self-centered. If you consistently put your own needs ahead of others’, you haven’t achieved success at all—because true success is about sharing what you have with those around you.

    You’re difficult to be around. If people find it challenging to spend time with you, you’ll soon find yourself alone.

    You’re not respectful of others. If you find yourself looking down on others , it’s time for a serious attitude check. Everyone deserves respect. Remember that the day may come when your own success has slipped and the people you’ve slighted are on top , and treat them as you would wish to be treated yourself.

    A healthy ego and self-respect are important for anyone, but never forget that you’re no better than those around you. Enjoy the success you’ve earned. Just remember that it doesn’t mean you’re smarter, or more valuable or more worthy of respect.

    Lead from within: When you become successful, don’t give in to your ego or rest on your accomplishments. Through success, failure and everything in between, make it a goal every day to be better than yesterday.


    #1  N A T I O N A L  B E S T S E L L E R

    The Leadership Gap: What Gets Between You and Your Greatness


    After decades of coaching powerful executives around the world, Lolly Daskal has observed that leaders rise to their positions relying on a specific set of values and traits. But in time, every executive reaches a point when their performance suffers and failure persists. Very few understand why or how to prevent it.

    buy now

     

     


    Additional Reading you might enjoy:

    Photo Credit: iStockPhotos

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