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    14 Things Smart Leaders Do to Boost Their Own Confidence  


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    Even if luck played a role, top leaders are where they are because of their skills, determination and confidence. But self-confidence is something that many people—including leaders—sometimes struggle with. To help you when your own confidence starts to falter, here are 14 ways you can banish self-doubt:

    Practice it until you get it. Make building your confidence into a habit and practice it daily or even hourly. Don’t wait to think about it till you’re feeling vulnerable. The more your inner confidence becomes a habit and a practical skill, the more secure you can be knowing it’s there when you need it.

    Establish realistic self-awareness. Knowing your leadership strengths will give you confidence, and facing up to the places where you need more development will help you determine what you need to focus on to get better at what you do.

    Make the most of your mistakes, then ignore them. Mistakes are for learning, and only those who have ceased to develop never take a wrong step. Treat mistakes as a source of information and an opportunity for learning.

    Limit self-blame. Kicking yourself for past inadequacies gives fuel to self-doubt, so be encouraging with yourself as you would with someone on your team. Blaming yourself is a waste of time that could be spent moving forward with the intention of doing better with each new experience.

    Pick a role model. Choose a leader you admire. What qualities do they possess? Which of those qualities do you already have, and which do you need to develop?

    Celebrate wins. We’re often so busy getting things done that we hardly take the time to acknowledge our wins. Celebrating accomplishments is a great way to boost your confidence.

    Align your mind and body. Pay attention to your body language and your thoughts so they can be aligned and not in conflict.

    Own your strengths as well as your weaknesses. So many of us are so busy owning our weakness that we forget to own our strengths—the parts of us that are capable and competent to feel confident about what we do and who we are.

    Stretch yourself. Try something outside the scope of what you’ve done before. Stretch your boundaries, go outside your comfort zone. From discomfort comes growth.

    Be kind to yourself. Being kind to yourself is an important skill in building a leadership strategy. Issues with self-confidence are often rooted in a bad habit of punishing yourself and withholding rewards. Learn to treat yourself with kindness and your confidence will grow.

    Don’t give in to self-doubt. If you’re in a position of leadership, that’s not an accident. Know that you have what it takes to lead well and that others believe in you.

    Give yourself credit. A leader is all about making other feel inspired and motivated—but who gives the leader credit and inspiration? If necessary, give it to yourself.

    Upgrade your network. A better group of people in your network helps your leadership and builds your confidence as you connect with people who can help you develop.

    Help others be more successful. Leadership confidence isn’t just about building your own track record of successes. The essence of leadership is helping others around you become more successful. And when you do, you also help yourself.

    Lead from within: Confidence is the key ingredient of smart leadership, but it must be cultivated and development if it doesn’t exist.

     


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    The Leadership Gap: What Gets Between You and Your Greatness


    After decades of coaching powerful executives around the world, Lolly Daskal has observed that leaders rise to their positions relying on a specific set of values and traits. But in time, every executive reaches a point when their performance suffers and failure persists. Very few understand why or how to prevent it.

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  • feedwordpress 08:00:52 on 2019/10/24 Permalink
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    This is What Happens When Your Leadership Lacks Confidence 


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    Confidence is one of the most important leadership skills you can have—but it isn’t always easy to come by. Confidence is grounded in your perception of your own abilities and how you come across to others. If you’re constantly comparing yourself to others and feeling that you’re coming up short—not smart enough, not successful enough, not advancing quickly enough—you can quickly spiral into self-doubt. Here are some of the insights I’ve discovered about confidence in my many years as a leadership coach:

    Confidence is not just one thing. Confidence covers a range of perceptions, attitudes and feelings, and labeling yourself as lacking confidence is an unhelpful generalization. At any moment we’re almost all very confident in some respects and unconfident in others. Get to know the entire profile of your confidence and the things that influence it from day to day.

    Appearances can be misleading. Many people who appear to have a great deal of confidence actually have no more than the rest of us. The difference is this: they know that they might make a mistake, get something wrong, or put their foot in their mouth, but they keep those possibilities in perspective and know that it’s not life or death. Most people feel less confident than they look, and remembering this can help you navigate your own moments of unconfidence.

    Confidence comes from doing things well. Before you can do anything well, you have to learn how to do it badly. Confidence comes from practicing your capabilities and competencies. Once you know that you can start something and improve on it through practice, you’ll feel less anxious about taking on new roles and skills.

    People take you at your own estimation. Ask yourself what habits you have that may signal to others know how you feel about yourself. Even if you think you’re hiding your thoughts, people will pick up on your level of confidence and adjust their expectations to match. True confidence is hard to fake—you need to develop it as something you feel and know about yourself.

    When a leader lacks confidence, the consequences affect the entire team. Unconfident leaders withhold information, postpone important decisions, and have trouble building teams and inspiring them. Without confidence, there is no leadership—because what you don’t have, you cannot give to others.

    Leadership can be difficult—at times it’s just about impossible to navigate—and if you don’t have confidence in yourself, your team isn’t going to have confidence in you or in themselves. Cultivating your own confidence is one of the best things you can do for yourself and your team.

    Lead from within: If you want to generate self-confidence, learn more about what causes you to have lack confidence. It is only then that you can build your self-esteem.


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    The Leadership Gap: What Gets Between You and Your Greatness


    After decades of coaching powerful executives around the world, Lolly Daskal has observed that leaders rise to their positions relying on a specific set of values and traits. But in time, every executive reaches a point when their performance suffers and failure persists. Very few understand why or how to prevent it.

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  • feedwordpress 04:40:39 on 2019/04/25 Permalink
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    10 Signs You May be an Insecure Leader (and How to Be More Confident ) 


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    At some point in our lives and our leadership, we all experience insecurity. And when we act out of that insecurity we tend to behave badly, sometimes harming our relationships and reputation in the process. Especially for leaders, insecurity affects not only ourselves but also those around us.

    Because when an insecure leader thinks everything is about them as a result, every action, every choice, ever decision is put through the filter of their own self-centeredness, which doesn’t really serve others well.

    Here are 10 of the top signals that insecurity may be damaging your leadership. If any of these sound familiar, stop the behavior and work through the issues before major consequences result.

    You become defensive when challenged. When an insecure leader feels they’re being challenged or confronted, their first response is to feel they’re in the wrong—and to avoid that discord they quickly become defensive. Learn to welcome direct, honest communication even if it’s not what you want to hear; make peace with the fact that you will sometimes get it wrong.

    You micromanage. Insecure leaders like to control everything, even how other people do their work. They feel the more control they have the less likely they’ll be faced with a better way. Instead, give autonomy to your team and allow them to show off their talents and strengths.

    You’re not interested in feedback. Insecure leaders get annoyed when their team members or colleagues want to give them feedback. They see it as a confrontation and respond with fear and dismissal. Become familiar enough with your own strengths and weaknesses to take criticism in stride.

    You refuse to explain your decisions. Insecure leaders fear that the rationale for their decision may not hold up well, so they communicate decisions with no underlying explanation. Explain your decisions and the reasons behind your thinking so others can understand and trust your choices.  

    You stop listening to other people’s opinions. Insecure leaders see asking questions, seeking advice and listening to the opinions of others as a sign of weakness. They don’t want to be perceived as needing help. Emulate confident leaders by being willing to listen and learn from the opinions of others. In time you’ll realize that it’s actually a sign of strength.

    You always have to have final word. Insecure leaders need to be seen as always winning—even in an honest difference between two sound opinions. Learn to value the thoughts of others, especially in areas you need to know more about.

    You get angry when a team members resigns. Insecure leaders see any departure as a reflection on their leadership, so they respond in anger and focus on the faults of the person who’s leaving. When you lose a valued team member, take stock and ask yourself whether there’s anything you should do differently to keep your best people happy and productive.

    You blame others. When things go wrong, an insecure leader will never take responsibility but will always blame others first so they can avoid thinking about the possibility that they did something wrong or made a bad decision. Work to be secure enough in your leadership to say, “I messed up—let’s go make it better now.”

    You take credit for your team’s achievements. Insecure leaders like to take credit for other people’s work—not because it makes them feel better, but because it makes them seem indispensable and helps ease their fears of being unnecessary or unworthy. Emulate the great leaders who know success takes a team, and be quick to praise and recognize the achievements of others. (By the way, that’s also the best way to make yourself look good.)

    You don’t promote or develop your best people. Insecure leaders want to protect themselves at all costs, and they see the smartest and highest-achieving people around them as threats. They hand out titles only to those they believe will never question their authority or outshine them. As a leader, the best success you can achieve is the success of your people.

    We all have moments of insecurity. But if any of these descriptions sounds like you, you need to act quickly to change directions. If you can’t do it on your own, recruit the help of a coach or mentor—someone who can help you become more confident in who you are. Left unchecked, your insecurities will affect not only you but also everyone you lead.

    Lead from within: An insecure leader must become big enough to admit their mistakes, smart enough to correct them and strong enough to embrace them.

     


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    The Leadership Gap: What Gets Between You and Your Greatness


    After decades of coaching powerful executives around the world, Lolly Daskal has observed that leaders rise to their positions relying on a specific set of values and traits. But in time, every executive reaches a point when their performance suffers and failure persists. Very few understand why or how to prevent it.

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  • feedwordpress 08:00:41 on 2019/03/18 Permalink
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    7 Guaranteed Ways to Boost Your Confidence 


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    Successful people seem to radiate confidence. It’s obvious that they feel assured about themselves and what they’re doing. But in almost every case, it’s not success that makes people confident—it’s confidence that makes them successful.

    Here are seven bulletproof strategies you can use to become more confident.

    Think confidently. Many people limit themselves with what they think. Remember, you can always go as far as your thoughts let you, and what you believe you can achieve. So, what are you thinking? Are they positive thoughts? Are they thoughts of you being successful? If not, it’s time to change your thinking and change your life. When you think confidently you become confident.

    Communicate confidently. A confident person is assured in their communication. They speak up when something needs to be said and they say what needs to be heard. When you communicate with self-assurance, you gain respect. And that respect, in turn, gives you even more assurance.

    Decide confidently. When decisions need to be made, a strong confident person jumps in and makes them. They may study the situation, but they don’t waffle over the options. When you’re strong and decisive, you invariably come across as self-assured and self-confident.

    Act confidently. The quickest way to acquire confidence is to tackle something you fear and learn to do it well. Confident people are not afraid to take on challenges, because they know their self-opinion isn’t based on a single success or failure. What they do does not affect their outlook. They know that they’re always going to do their best in any given situation, so they will act confident even if mistakes happen. The best way to act confident is to feel confident.

    Believe confidently. No matter how you well you think you carry yourself, if you do not believe in yourself it will show. People determine how to treat others based on perceptions, so it’s important to project belief in yourself. Knowing your worth gives you  inner confidence, which leads naturally to confident behavior.

    Dress confidently: People often make snap judgments based on a person’s appearance. Sometimes that means dressing the part. If you look like you’re ready to get things done, people are more likely to treat you with respect and deference. Self-confidence is the best outfit, so give it your personal spin and own it.

    Focus confidently. Confidence is all about focus. Confident people focus on how to improve everything they do until they succeed. People who lack confidence, on the other hand, focus on what they don’t know and what they can’t do. They worry about their shortcomings instead of leveraging their strengths. When you worry about failing, you’re more likely to fail. But when you confidently seek out solutions, you’re more likely to succeed.

    Lead from within: Confidence is within your power. if you take to heart these seven strategies and incorporate them into your life, you’ll soon be the picture of confidence.

     


     

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    The Leadership Gap: What Gets Between You and Your Greatness

    After decades of coaching powerful executives around the world, Lolly Daskal has observed that leaders rise to their positions relying on a specific set of values and traits. But in time, every executive reaches a point when their performance suffers and failure persists. Very few understand why or how to prevent it.

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  • feedwordpress 08:00:37 on 2018/11/01 Permalink
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    7 Powerful Reasons Smart People Doubt Themselves 


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    Almost everyone struggles with self-doubt at some point or another. And almost everyone thinks they’re the only one who does.

    It’s freeing to know that self-doubt is a near-universal feeling. If anything, it’s the smartest people who doubt themselves the most. Here are some of the ways smart people give self-doubt a chance to take root:

    They focus on the things they don’t know instead of what they do. Everyone needs to stretch out of their comfort zone, but if you spend most of your time working outside your expertise you’re likely to end up doubting yourself.

    They tell themselves that others have more experience. Even if you aren’t the most experienced, if you have a skill or knowledge they lack, you’re the expert. Allowing yourself to believe that what you know is valuable and useful will give you the assurance you need.

    They don’t believe they have the right skills. You have to start somewhere—whether it’s your first job or reinventing your career in a new industry. Virtually no one has all the skills required for being a great leader right from the start. Learning the skills you need in your current situation gives you power—and makes you a smart leader.

    They care too much about what other people think. It’s easy to get stuck on what people tell you about yourself. If you focus too much on what other people think, you’ll never learn to think for yourself—and about yourself—on your own. Stop worrying what other people think and concentrate on doing your best.

    They fear they’re not good enough. Especially when you’re faced with something new, you may experience a fear that you’re not good enough for the task at hand. This inner voice is your mind trying to protect you, but you don’t need protection. You just need to know you are good as you need to be, and then take a chance.

    They allow a past mistake to loom over the present. Mistakes—especially those with lasting consequences—often leave people seriously doubting their abilities. Allow those mistakes to become learning lessons for the present and the future without dwelling on them. Sometimes things have to fall apart before they can be put back together.

    They’re busy competing with everyone else. It’s always tempting to compare yourself with colleagues, but it’s much more productive—and healthier—to take stock of who you are and what you’re good at. Remember that you have strengths other people don’t possess and that the only person you can truly compete with is yourself.

    As a coach, I define confidence as believing you are able and competence as knowing you are able. When you know you’re able, you can take action regardless of self-doubt. You can’t live your life for other people. You’ve got to do what’s right for you.

    Lead from within: Even the smartest people need to remember that when they doubt their power, their doubt can be powerful.

     


     

    N A T I O N A L   B E S T S E L L E R
    The Leadership Gap: What Gets Between You and Your Greatness

    After decades of coaching powerful executives around the world, Lolly Daskal has observed that leaders rise to their positions relying on a specific set of values and traits. But in time, every executive reaches a point when their performance suffers and failure persists. Very few understand why or how to prevent it.

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    Additional Reading you might enjoy:

     

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