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  • feedwordpress 18:19:27 on 2018/06/11 Permalink
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    7 Things You Should Always Be Able to Say About Yourself 

    There are elements within ourselves that can either sabotage our success or lead us to greatness. In my new upcoming book, The Leadership Gap: What Gets Between You and Your Greatness, I speak about seven characteristics that can unleash your greatness and success.

    Here are seven statements that reflect those characteristics. Whatever your role or aspirations–in leadership or in life–you should always be able to voice these statements as truth.

    1. I am confident. Confidence is not a thing that is assured to us. We have to work on it by mastering our competencies and building expertise in our areas of capability. It is within that equation that you can honestly say “I am confident.”

    2. I trust my intuition. Most people have a hard time leaving their analytical mind behind and having faith in their instincts, especially when it comes to business and leadership. But what I’ve found in my research is that trusting your gut is a skill that some of the top leaders of top industries use to make decisions. I’ve also found that those who go with their intuition are able to surpass those who rely on analytical thought alone.

    3. I am honest. Let’s be honest about honesty: studies show that every third sentence a person speaks is a lie. When lying is so pervasive, then naturally telling the truth is hard. But honesty is critically important. It creates peace of mind when you take ownership of your choices and mistakes and admit it when you’ve done something wrong. When you take responsibility, people connect with your candor and you’re free to be your best self. And when you stick with the truth, it doesn’t matter how often you’re asked about the subject. You’ll never get caught up in conflicting versions.

    4. I am courageous. Being brave doesn’t come naturally to most of us. Usually the first step in being courageous is to conquer fear itself by turning it into a motivator. In work, as in other areas of life, fear is something that can us back from happiness and success. But when you’re able to describe yourself as courageous, you’re saying that you’re willing to face your fears, conquer your fright and do what it takes to be brave.

    5. I am trustworthy. Trust isn’t easy to come by. If you want to be trusted, you have to begin by being trustworthy. Trustworthiness is shown in a person’s actions, not in their words. It requires doing the right thing and doing things right and keeping your word in every circumstance. Then can you say of yourself “I am trustworthy.”

    6. I am a person of integrity. Most people look for the easy way out and are willing to settle for solutions that are fast, cheap and less complicated. To do things with excellence is to be better, not faster; to focus on quality, not quantity. if you want to people to trust your leadership or do business with you, you have to understand yourself to be a person of integrity.

    7. I am loyal. A person who can say they are loyal understands how to serve others, protect others and help others. Being loyal is about thinking of others before you think of yourself.

    All great leaders are cognizant of what they say about themselves, it means they are mindful of who they are being while they are succeeding. If you truly want to unleash your own greatness, Get The Leadership Gap and learn more about what might get between you and your greatness.

     

     


    N A T I O N A L    B E S T S E L L E R

    THE LEADERSHIP GAP

    What Gets Between You and Your Greatness

    After decades of coaching powerful executives around the world, Lolly Daskal has observed that leaders rise to their positions relying on a specific set of values and traits. But in time, every executive reaches a point when their performance suffers and failure persists. Very few understand why or how to prevent it.

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  • feedwordpress 11:58:38 on 2018/06/11 Permalink
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    10 Dreadful Mistakes People Make When Having a Conversation 

    Conversing is like driving: We all want to think we’re better at it than most people, but many of us fall prey to common mistakes and have room for improvement.

    The good news is that it’s absolutely possible to improve. Being a good conversationalist isn’t a magical gift that some are born with, but something that relies mainly on skills you can acquire and develop.

    Here are 10 of the most dreadful conversational mistakes and effective ways to improve upon them.

    Mistake No. 1: Speaking but not really listening

    Most of us have heard before that one of the most important facets of good conversation is being a good listener, but it’s more than just listening to the other person talk. You need to know how to listen and respond in a way that demonstrates you’re contributing to the conversation. One way to improve is with the technique of active listening. Ask questions based on what you hear. Really listen and be interested in what the others are saying. Make relating statements. Make comments that show you’re paying attention, repeat back key sections, and ask questions that move the discussion forward. Pretend there’s going to be a quiz.

    Mistake No. 2: Asking too many distracting questions

    A series of questions, even if they originate in genuine interest and enthusiasm, can sometimes come across as an interrogation. Improve your conversation by pausing, listening, and allowing the other person to speak and express him- or herself. Ask questions that are based on what’s being said, relevant, and unobtrusive.

    Mistake No. 3: Rambling on and on with no end in sight

    Often an indication of nervousness, rambling can lead to a hard time getting your point across. When you ramble, people are likely to simply tune out. Instead, be concise to have the most impact in what you are trying to convey. Practice beforehand about what you might want to speak about. Being prepared will give you the confidence you need to be better at expressing yourself.

    Mistake No. 4: Not tasting your words before you spit them out

    Some people just like to hear themselves speak; they often leave listeners feeling that they are filling up space without adding value to the conversation. Go into conversations well informed and thinking of ways that add value and interest to a conversation. Think before you speak, and be sure to taste your words before you spit them out.

    Mistake No. 5: Inducing an argument

    Don’t dominate a conversation by only expressing your opinion and wanting to be right–that’s more of a monologue than a dialogue. Accept the fact that everyone is entitled to his or her opinion. You don’t need to force others into agreeing with you–they’ll likely choose to walk away from you instead. Stay humble and truly listen to the other points of view.

    Mistake No. 6: Acting confident but lacking confidence

    A lack of confidence can often come across in conversation as disingeniousness. Make sure you go in with sufficient confidence to feel self-assured about what you are expressing.

    Mistake No. 7: Dominating the conversation

    Everyone hates it when one person dominates a conversation, but it’s incredibly hard to realize when you’re doing it in the moment. Even if you don’t consider yourself much of a conversationalist, you may end up dominating a conversation. If you want to win influence and gain friends, take an interest in others and what they have to say. Check yourself mid-conversation so you don’t end up talking the whole time.

    Mistake No. 8: Endlessly interrupting

    One of the worst things you can do in conversation is fail to let someone else finish what he or she has to say before voicing your opinions. When you let your conversational partners finish speaking, especially in cases of disagreement, it tells them that you’re courteous enough to listen to other points of view.

    Mistake No. 9: Sounding like a perennial expert

    If you are the expert in every topic, then most people will feel they have nothing to contribute. Instead, work to know a little about many things–or at least to be open to talk about them, instead of trying to steer the conversation back to your favorite subject.

    Mistake No. 10: Speaking too fast

    When you get excited or nervous, or if you have a lot to say, the words may naturally come in a constant stream. But to the listener, it sounds too fast and incoherent. Speak slowly and make time to think about your choice of words; use pauses to add impact to your sentences.

    If you have some or all of these dreadful conversation habits, do something about them, especially if you seek to have an impact, make a difference, and succeed in your endeavors.

     


    N A T I O N A L    B E S T S E L L E R

    THE LEADERSHIP GAP

    What Gets Between You and Your Greatness

    After decades of coaching powerful executives around the world, Lolly Daskal has observed that leaders rise to their positions relying on a specific set of values and traits. But in time, every executive reaches a point when their performance suffers and failure persists. Very few understand why or how to prevent it.

    buy now

     


    Additional Reading you might enjoy:

     

    Photo Credit: Getty Images

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  • feedwordpress 11:57:57 on 2018/06/10 Permalink
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    9 Communication Habits That All Successful Leaders Have 

    The way you communicate as a leader is important. The right tone, the right voice, the right body language–these elements are as important as the words you say, sometimes more.

    Having a leader who understands the principles of great communication can make the difference between a collaborative team and one that goes in circles.

    If we can get our communication right, we can build strong teams, be persuasive with clients and generally accelerate our business.

    Here are some principles to remember.

    1. Customize your communication.

    Consistency is important, but that doesn’t mean you should speak the same way to everyone. Customize your messages in light of what you know about the listener. Some people like details, some like the big picture, and some people want to hear only about the bottom line. Pay attention to their cues and tailor your communication accordingly.

    2. Actively listen.

    Good listening is among the most important, and overlooked, principles of great communication. Don’t zone out when someone else is speaking, and make sure that your own body language indicates your interest. Maintain eye contact and respond with small gestures that show you are listening and receiving the message. If you have any doubts about what you’re hearing, try paraphrasing or repeating back what you have heard.

    3. Let others finish.

    If you’re anxiously waiting for an opening so you can jump and speak, you are not really listening. Train yourself not to think about interrupting other speakers but instead to make sure they have had their say before you begin speaking.

    4. Ask simple questions.

    You learn the most when you keep your questions simple and open-ended. Why, what, when, where, and how are still the gold standard. If you ask the right questions you will always find the right answers.

    5. Be polite.

    Don’t check your phone or look at your watch when someone else is speaking. Give the respect of your undivided attention.

    6. Use the power of “I” statements.

    Communication becomes more productive when you avoid stating your thoughts as facts. For example, instead of saying, “This project is a failure,” you might say, “I am very concerned about the sustainability of this project.” Try to avoid “you” statements (“You haven’t done anything”) that set up a cycle of judgment and defensiveness. Instead, say, “I can see there’s still a lot to be done.”

    7. Pay attention to what your body’s saying.

    Some researchers find that body language makes up more than half of what you’re communicating. Is your posture open and confident, or closed off?

    8. Watch your tone.

    Make sure your tone matches what you’re saying if you want your message to be clear.

    9. Avoid sarcasm.

    It has a high failure rate–and even when it works, it mostly serves to build walls and destroy strong connections.

    There are few things you can do that will benefit your leadership and organization more than working to improve your communication skills.

    Make sure you and those on your team communicate clearly and with purpose, and your odds of success grow astronomically.

     


    N A T I O N A L   B E S T S E L L E R

    THE LEADERSHIP GAP

    What Gets Between You and Your Greatness

    After decades of coaching powerful executives around the world, Lolly Daskal has observed that leaders rise to their positions relying on a specific set of values and traits. But in time, every executive reaches a point when their performance suffers and failure persists. Very few understand why or how to prevent it.

    buy now

     


    Additional Reading you might enjoy:

     

    Photo Credit: Getty Images

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  • feedwordpress 08:00:11 on 2018/06/05 Permalink
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    Overcome These Obstacles and Build an Effective Team 

    After decades of observing teams as an executive leadership coach, I’ve come to realize two things.

    First, every team has issues to overcome before they can function effectively.

    Second, every team has the ability to navigate those issues and do great work together. There aren’t any shortcuts, but you can make it happen with determination and hard work.

    Here are some of the most common obstacles I see in teams. Think about the teams you’re involved with as you read through and see if you recognize any patterns:

    Weak leadership. When a team isn’t meeting expectations, the problem often lies not with the team but with the leader. If the leader isn’t up to it, someone else on the team needs to step up, even unofficially. Once the ineffective leader sees how it’s done, they may begin to serve more effectively. If not, the bases are covered. Bottom line: in the absence of leadership, it is the responsibility of the team to step up and lead the way. The solution is to establish sound leadership.

    Lack of connection. When a team can’t connect, the real issue is usually communication. And that’s critical, because communication is the one of the most important factors in successful teamwork. Fostering communication means being open to suggestions and concerns, asking questions and offering help. The solution is to establish cohesive communication among your team members.

    Only a few members are engaged. If you’ve ever attended a meeting where two or three people are doing all the discussion, you understand this issue. Fairness aside, it’s not sustainable. Sooner or later, the rock stars will quit carrying the others, and the entire team will go down. Everyone member needs a role that fits their abilities, and accountability for carrying it out. The solution is to find a way for everyone to be of value.

    Trust is lacking. This one’s simple, although it may be the most important of all. If you can’t trust your teammates, you don’t have a team. Trust is the foundation of any effective team. The solution is to model and foster trust, trustworthiness, and trusting relationships.

    Self-serving attitudes. When a team member’s in it only for themselves, they do real damage. They withhold information, fail to communicate and can’t be trusted. It doesn’t take them long to erode the team’s fiber. The solution is to build a culture based on working together, connecting together and winning together.

    Death by consensus. Consensus is great, but it often takes a bad turn. Months can pass with the same topic unresolved because people are absent or disengaged. If no one’s interested, don’t make it important. Give a deadline for opinions and then make a decision. The solution is to set objectives, solve problems and plan for action.

    Lead From Within: Creating an effective team is ongoing process that takes leadership and partnership. It can be challenging work, but it’s well worth the effort.

     


    N A T I O N A L   B E S T S E L L E R

    THE LEADERSHIP GAP

    What Gets Between You and Your Greatness

    After decades of coaching powerful executives around the world, Lolly Daskal has observed that leaders rise to their positions relying on a specific set of values and traits. But in time, every executive reaches a point when their performance suffers and failure persists. Very few understand why or how to prevent it.

    buy now

     

     


    Additional Reading you might enjoy:

     

    Photo Credit: Getty Images

    The post Overcome These Obstacles and Build an Effective Team appeared first on Lolly Daskal.

     
  • feedwordpress 03:07:05 on 2018/06/04 Permalink
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    Quick Tip #78: Less is More 

    To learn how to structure and become a more efficient communicator watch this video.

     
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