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  • feedwordpress 14:30:46 on 2018/08/07 Permalink
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    Quick Tip #80: Mix it Up 


    Turn boring talks and presentations into brilliant ones by learning how to mix up the energy along the way!

     
  • feedwordpress 04:35:17 on 2018/06/16 Permalink
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    Stop Saying Yes When You Want to Say No 

    Most people hate saying no. Nobody likes the idea of disappointing others, but knowing when and how to say no is one of the most important skills you can cultivate. Done right, “no” can help you build better relationships and free you up to do the things that are important to you.

    Here are some ways to start building your ability to say that difficult word:

    Acknowledge that you can’t do everything.

    Trying to say yes to everything is likely to leave you trapped with no time or energy for yourself–and unable to give your best to any of your commitments. Start by selecting the things you genuinely want to say yes to–the things that build relationships with important people in your life, that align with your values, that bring you joy–and stop accepting responsibilities that don’t meet those criteria.

    Define your personal boundaries.

    Boundaries define the emotional and mental space between yourself and another person. Think of them as the gatekeepers of your personal space, and make sure that you’re clear about how much you’re able to take on. Setting boundaries, especially with people you care about, can be difficult and may make you feel guilty at first, but remember that caring for yourself helps assure that you have the energy to be there for others.

    Identify your priorities.

    To make good decisions about what to say no to, you need a clear idea of your own priorities. If you’ve left them undefined, sit down and spend some time thinking about what’s most important to you. Learning to prioritize effectively can help you become more efficient, save time, and decrease stress. Once you know what’s most important, it’s easier to decide where to focus your energy .

    Practice saying the words.

    Whether you’re declining an invitation to a party or turning down a new project at work, you can say no while still being friendly and respectful. Give yourself some ground rules and practice what you’ll say. Give a brief reason if you wish to, but don’t falter or back down. Be direct: “I’m sorry, but that’s not something I can take on now.”

    Never compromise on your integrity.

    Your integrity sets your standards and gives you a code of morality and ethics. Use it to guide you in saying no and you’ll always make consistent choices that are grounded in your beliefs.

    Know that you can’t please everyone.

    Trying to make everyone happy is a recipe for stress and frustration–and it’s literally impossible to do. You may fear that people will disrespect you or be disappointed if you say no, but most people won’t think any less of you. Remember too that in saying no you’re modeling good self-care to those around you.

    Here’s the bottom line: Knowing when to say no takes learning. Hone your skills so that you’re able to more easily recognize and deal with the situations where it’s your best response.

     


     

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    The Leadership Gap: What Gets Between You and Your Greatness

    After decades of coaching powerful executives around the world, Lolly Daskal has observed that leaders rise to their positions relying on a specific set of values and traits. But in time, every executive reaches a point when their performance suffers and failure persists. Very few understand why or how to prevent it.

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  • feedwordpress 08:20:05 on 2018/06/13 Permalink
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    How to Improve Communication With Your Boss 

    Everyone is always looking to improve their communication and especially when it comes to communicating with the boss.

    Your boss is an important factor in your success, the better relationship you have the more successful you will become.

    But great relationships are based on having great communication, so what is the best way to improve your communication with your boss try these 10 effective ways.

    1. Develop a relationship:

    It’s very important that you not only have a cordial relationship with your boss, but one that feels like you are connected. make a point to connect- get to know your boss and communicate to your about what you are working on, it is always good to be interested in a person and to offer support. your boss is a person who I am sure is working very hard, by showing an interest the dividends will grow.

    2. Always keep your boss in the loop:

    No one likes surprises, especially your boss, if something bad happened, you need to be able to communicate it. it’s always better to find out from you, so you can manage the message, than if your boss has to find it out from someone else, the best relationship you can form with your boss is by keeping them consistently informed

    3. Don’t give alternative facts:

    It is important to get the facts right, your boss deserves to know and they deserve to get the facts, your boss doesn’t really need alternative facts or assumptions or opinions, there is a lot of opinions and misinformation all the time, become the person who your boss can rely on.

    4. Habitually come prepared:

    When it comes to having a better relationship with your boss, being prepared is a prerequisite for success. chance favors the prepared mind. if you think you will be prepared, if you are prepared then you will have no worries.

    5. Recognize time is precious:

    Don’t waste your bosses time, time is precious, it’s a commodity. Keep your communication short and specific. when you speak be concise and clear, so your boss can get the most of the time you spend together, when you increase your communication with your boss. you will increase your productivity and your boss’s productivity.

    6. Don’t exaggerate or stretch the truth:

    If you are excited about something don’t oversell, and don’t overstate it, because if you are so busy explaining it -your boss might just find that it’s not worth their while, if its good, be specific and concise and let your boss decide. after all you want to support your boss not make their job more complicated or difficult.

    7. Be a problem solver:

    Your boss has problems that is a fact, but what you do can be a game changer, you wallow with your boss on how bad things are- or you can become the problem solver the solution generator.

    8. Acknowledge feedback Isn’t criticism:

    You may not like it but there is some truth somewhere in the feedback you call criticism. Use the feedback to devise solutions and not to offer blame, or excuses. Even if you think you are in the right, your message is not getting communicated to the boss clearly. Fix the communication and turn the criticism into corrective action. all feedback is good feedback. take it in stride.

    9. Always honor the chain of command:

    Going over your boss’s head to their boss can be dangerous. Learn to pick your battles, and do your best to get your point across in your communication, and be prepared to be challenged and honor the consequences. Don’t do anything to jeopardize your relationship with your boss by doing something arrogant like going over their head. unless if you feel you have to, then inform your boss, remember your boss doesn’t like surprises.

    Successful communication with your boss can be mutually beneficial. So learn how to communicate like a leader.

     


     

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    The Leadership Gap: What Gets Between You and Your Greatness

    After decades of coaching powerful executives around the world, Lolly Daskal has observed that leaders rise to their positions relying on a specific set of values and traits. But in time, every executive reaches a point when their performance suffers and failure persists. Very few understand why or how to prevent it.

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  • feedwordpress 18:19:27 on 2018/06/11 Permalink
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    7 Things You Should Always Be Able to Say About Yourself 

    There are elements within ourselves that can either sabotage our success or lead us to greatness. In my new upcoming book, The Leadership Gap: What Gets Between You and Your Greatness, I speak about seven characteristics that can unleash your greatness and success.

    Here are seven statements that reflect those characteristics. Whatever your role or aspirations–in leadership or in life–you should always be able to voice these statements as truth.

    1. I am confident. Confidence is not a thing that is assured to us. We have to work on it by mastering our competencies and building expertise in our areas of capability. It is within that equation that you can honestly say “I am confident.”

    2. I trust my intuition. Most people have a hard time leaving their analytical mind behind and having faith in their instincts, especially when it comes to business and leadership. But what I’ve found in my research is that trusting your gut is a skill that some of the top leaders of top industries use to make decisions. I’ve also found that those who go with their intuition are able to surpass those who rely on analytical thought alone.

    3. I am honest. Let’s be honest about honesty: studies show that every third sentence a person speaks is a lie. When lying is so pervasive, then naturally telling the truth is hard. But honesty is critically important. It creates peace of mind when you take ownership of your choices and mistakes and admit it when you’ve done something wrong. When you take responsibility, people connect with your candor and you’re free to be your best self. And when you stick with the truth, it doesn’t matter how often you’re asked about the subject. You’ll never get caught up in conflicting versions.

    4. I am courageous. Being brave doesn’t come naturally to most of us. Usually the first step in being courageous is to conquer fear itself by turning it into a motivator. In work, as in other areas of life, fear is something that can us back from happiness and success. But when you’re able to describe yourself as courageous, you’re saying that you’re willing to face your fears, conquer your fright and do what it takes to be brave.

    5. I am trustworthy. Trust isn’t easy to come by. If you want to be trusted, you have to begin by being trustworthy. Trustworthiness is shown in a person’s actions, not in their words. It requires doing the right thing and doing things right and keeping your word in every circumstance. Then can you say of yourself “I am trustworthy.”

    6. I am a person of integrity. Most people look for the easy way out and are willing to settle for solutions that are fast, cheap and less complicated. To do things with excellence is to be better, not faster; to focus on quality, not quantity. if you want to people to trust your leadership or do business with you, you have to understand yourself to be a person of integrity.

    7. I am loyal. A person who can say they are loyal understands how to serve others, protect others and help others. Being loyal is about thinking of others before you think of yourself.

    All great leaders are cognizant of what they say about themselves, it means they are mindful of who they are being while they are succeeding. If you truly want to unleash your own greatness, Get The Leadership Gap and learn more about what might get between you and your greatness.

     

     


    N A T I O N A L    B E S T S E L L E R

    THE LEADERSHIP GAP

    What Gets Between You and Your Greatness

    After decades of coaching powerful executives around the world, Lolly Daskal has observed that leaders rise to their positions relying on a specific set of values and traits. But in time, every executive reaches a point when their performance suffers and failure persists. Very few understand why or how to prevent it.

    buy now

     


    Additional Reading you might enjoy:

     

    Photo Credit: Getty Images

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  • feedwordpress 11:58:38 on 2018/06/11 Permalink
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    10 Dreadful Mistakes People Make When Having a Conversation 

    Conversing is like driving: We all want to think we’re better at it than most people, but many of us fall prey to common mistakes and have room for improvement.

    The good news is that it’s absolutely possible to improve. Being a good conversationalist isn’t a magical gift that some are born with, but something that relies mainly on skills you can acquire and develop.

    Here are 10 of the most dreadful conversational mistakes and effective ways to improve upon them.

    Mistake No. 1: Speaking but not really listening

    Most of us have heard before that one of the most important facets of good conversation is being a good listener, but it’s more than just listening to the other person talk. You need to know how to listen and respond in a way that demonstrates you’re contributing to the conversation. One way to improve is with the technique of active listening. Ask questions based on what you hear. Really listen and be interested in what the others are saying. Make relating statements. Make comments that show you’re paying attention, repeat back key sections, and ask questions that move the discussion forward. Pretend there’s going to be a quiz.

    Mistake No. 2: Asking too many distracting questions

    A series of questions, even if they originate in genuine interest and enthusiasm, can sometimes come across as an interrogation. Improve your conversation by pausing, listening, and allowing the other person to speak and express him- or herself. Ask questions that are based on what’s being said, relevant, and unobtrusive.

    Mistake No. 3: Rambling on and on with no end in sight

    Often an indication of nervousness, rambling can lead to a hard time getting your point across. When you ramble, people are likely to simply tune out. Instead, be concise to have the most impact in what you are trying to convey. Practice beforehand about what you might want to speak about. Being prepared will give you the confidence you need to be better at expressing yourself.

    Mistake No. 4: Not tasting your words before you spit them out

    Some people just like to hear themselves speak; they often leave listeners feeling that they are filling up space without adding value to the conversation. Go into conversations well informed and thinking of ways that add value and interest to a conversation. Think before you speak, and be sure to taste your words before you spit them out.

    Mistake No. 5: Inducing an argument

    Don’t dominate a conversation by only expressing your opinion and wanting to be right–that’s more of a monologue than a dialogue. Accept the fact that everyone is entitled to his or her opinion. You don’t need to force others into agreeing with you–they’ll likely choose to walk away from you instead. Stay humble and truly listen to the other points of view.

    Mistake No. 6: Acting confident but lacking confidence

    A lack of confidence can often come across in conversation as disingeniousness. Make sure you go in with sufficient confidence to feel self-assured about what you are expressing.

    Mistake No. 7: Dominating the conversation

    Everyone hates it when one person dominates a conversation, but it’s incredibly hard to realize when you’re doing it in the moment. Even if you don’t consider yourself much of a conversationalist, you may end up dominating a conversation. If you want to win influence and gain friends, take an interest in others and what they have to say. Check yourself mid-conversation so you don’t end up talking the whole time.

    Mistake No. 8: Endlessly interrupting

    One of the worst things you can do in conversation is fail to let someone else finish what he or she has to say before voicing your opinions. When you let your conversational partners finish speaking, especially in cases of disagreement, it tells them that you’re courteous enough to listen to other points of view.

    Mistake No. 9: Sounding like a perennial expert

    If you are the expert in every topic, then most people will feel they have nothing to contribute. Instead, work to know a little about many things–or at least to be open to talk about them, instead of trying to steer the conversation back to your favorite subject.

    Mistake No. 10: Speaking too fast

    When you get excited or nervous, or if you have a lot to say, the words may naturally come in a constant stream. But to the listener, it sounds too fast and incoherent. Speak slowly and make time to think about your choice of words; use pauses to add impact to your sentences.

    If you have some or all of these dreadful conversation habits, do something about them, especially if you seek to have an impact, make a difference, and succeed in your endeavors.

     


    N A T I O N A L    B E S T S E L L E R

    THE LEADERSHIP GAP

    What Gets Between You and Your Greatness

    After decades of coaching powerful executives around the world, Lolly Daskal has observed that leaders rise to their positions relying on a specific set of values and traits. But in time, every executive reaches a point when their performance suffers and failure persists. Very few understand why or how to prevent it.

    buy now

     


    Additional Reading you might enjoy:

     

    Photo Credit: Getty Images

    The post 10 Dreadful Mistakes People Make When Having a Conversation appeared first on Lolly Daskal.

     
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