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  • feedwordpress 08:20:05 on 2018/06/13 Permalink
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    How to Improve Communication With Your Boss 

    Everyone is always looking to improve their communication and especially when it comes to communicating with the boss.

    Your boss is an important factor in your success, the better relationship you have the more successful you will become.

    But great relationships are based on having great communication, so what is the best way to improve your communication with your boss try these 10 effective ways.

    1. Develop a relationship:

    It’s very important that you not only have a cordial relationship with your boss, but one that feels like you are connected. make a point to connect- get to know your boss and communicate to your about what you are working on, it is always good to be interested in a person and to offer support. your boss is a person who I am sure is working very hard, by showing an interest the dividends will grow.

    2. Always keep your boss in the loop:

    No one likes surprises, especially your boss, if something bad happened, you need to be able to communicate it. it’s always better to find out from you, so you can manage the message, than if your boss has to find it out from someone else, the best relationship you can form with your boss is by keeping them consistently informed

    3. Don’t give alternative facts:

    It is important to get the facts right, your boss deserves to know and they deserve to get the facts, your boss doesn’t really need alternative facts or assumptions or opinions, there is a lot of opinions and misinformation all the time, become the person who your boss can rely on.

    4. Habitually come prepared:

    When it comes to having a better relationship with your boss, being prepared is a prerequisite for success. chance favors the prepared mind. if you think you will be prepared, if you are prepared then you will have no worries.

    5. Recognize time is precious:

    Don’t waste your bosses time, time is precious, it’s a commodity. Keep your communication short and specific. when you speak be concise and clear, so your boss can get the most of the time you spend together, when you increase your communication with your boss. you will increase your productivity and your boss’s productivity.

    6. Don’t exaggerate or stretch the truth:

    If you are excited about something don’t oversell, and don’t overstate it, because if you are so busy explaining it -your boss might just find that it’s not worth their while, if its good, be specific and concise and let your boss decide. after all you want to support your boss not make their job more complicated or difficult.

    7. Be a problem solver:

    Your boss has problems that is a fact, but what you do can be a game changer, you wallow with your boss on how bad things are- or you can become the problem solver the solution generator.

    8. Acknowledge feedback Isn’t criticism:

    You may not like it but there is some truth somewhere in the feedback you call criticism. Use the feedback to devise solutions and not to offer blame, or excuses. Even if you think you are in the right, your message is not getting communicated to the boss clearly. Fix the communication and turn the criticism into corrective action. all feedback is good feedback. take it in stride.

    9. Always honor the chain of command:

    Going over your boss’s head to their boss can be dangerous. Learn to pick your battles, and do your best to get your point across in your communication, and be prepared to be challenged and honor the consequences. Don’t do anything to jeopardize your relationship with your boss by doing something arrogant like going over their head. unless if you feel you have to, then inform your boss, remember your boss doesn’t like surprises.

    Successful communication with your boss can be mutually beneficial. So learn how to communicate like a leader.

     


     

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  • feedwordpress 22:19:31 on 2018/06/11 Permalink
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    5 Signs You Have Fallen Out of Favor with Your Boss 

    Has your boss stopped returning your calls?

    Have they stopped asking you for your opinion or introducing you to new clients?

    It’s time to consider the possibility that you’re being frozen out from above.

    Here are some surefire signs that you’ve fallen out of favor–and, on the positive side, what you can do about them.

    1. You’re being assigned to menial tasks instead of good projects.

    You have worked hard and been putting in long hours–maybe even more hours than most–but you’re not seen competent or capable and get assigned to tasks far below your ability level.

    What to do: Become your own advocate. Make a list of all the things you have done well and approach your boss with clear concise communication. Let your boss know that you want to grow and develop and do more than you are doing now. Ask directly for an opportunity to showcase your skills and talents, then give it all you’ve got. Make a big enough impression that your abilities will never again be in doubt.

    2. You’re experiencing radio silence in place of feedback.

    There’s only one thing worse than constant micromanaging feedback, and that’s not getting any feedback at all. The absence of feedback may mean your boss doesn’t view you as a valued team member and so doesn’t particularly care what you do. Or it’s possible that you’re not being coached up because your boss believes you won’t be around much longer.

    What to do: Again, speak up. Ask directly for feedback. Show an interest in improving and in your boss’s thoughts, and let them know you value their them.

    3. You’re encountering insults and rebukes instead of praise and validation.

    If your boss is throwing insults at you, rebuking you and saying disparaging or discrediting things, you don’t have to ask yourself if you have a problem. You do.

    What to do: Talk to your boss promptly. Some aren’t great with people or social skills, and they might not even be aware of what’s happening. It’s a tough tightrope to walk, because you don’t want to come across as a complainer. Lead the way and speak to your boss with respect, giving them a chance to return it.

    4. Your boss is available or accessible to everyone but you.

    If they ignore you but have no problem making time for others, you have a problem.

    What to do: Speak from your heart and try to find out why things are the way they are. Ask what you can do to prove yourself and make things right, and let your boss know their guidance and input are important to you.

    5. Your boss is always micromanaging instead of trusting your judgment.

    If everything you do seems to be wrong and your boss has started not to trust you, you need to save yourself and your reputation.

    What to do: Before it becomes a bigger problem, talk to your boss. Be inquisitive and open, not defensive and confrontational. Ask how you can do better and let your boss know you will do your best so you can earn their trust again.

    There are many reasons why you may have fallen out favor with the boss, but the worst thing you can do is pretend it’s not happening. The sooner you realize the relationship isn’t working is the moment you have to make it right. Do what you have to do to communicate with your boss and start making improvements immediately.

     


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    THE LEADERSHIP GAP

    What Gets Between You and Your Greatness

    After decades of coaching powerful executives around the world, Lolly Daskal has observed that leaders rise to their positions relying on a specific set of values and traits. But in time, every executive reaches a point when their performance suffers and failure persists. Very few understand why or how to prevent it.

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  • feedwordpress 21:16:31 on 2018/06/11 Permalink
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    10 Powerful Ways to Deal With Your Narcissistic Boss 

    Practically everyone has either worked for a narcissistic boss or been exposed to one in some capacity. It’s an unforgettable experience to be around someone who’s flagrantly self-absorbed, self-admiring, self-centered and self-obsessed–someone who works hard only when long as someone’s watching, who’s quick to claim credit and to assign blame.

    A narcissistic boss spends an enormous amount of time thinking about achieving power, influence and success. As a result, there’s a tendency to lie and exaggerate the truth to feel self-important.

    But the biggest problem with having a narcissistic boss is that they never feel they’re the problem. They may have go-to scapegoats, or they may pick employees seemingly at random to be tagged with the blame when something goes wrong.

    If you’re dealing with a narcissistic boss, you basically have two choices: you either quit and get another job or you stay and deal. And if you stay, the only way to deal is not to try to change your boss but instead to change yourself and the way you respond.

    Here are ten power moves that will help you deal and keep you from feeding the narcissistic behavior:

    Understand the source. To cope with your narcissistic boss, you have to understand them. The odds are very high that they’re never going to change, and they’re never going to be easy to work with. The description that’s been going around under names like “The Narcissist’s Prayer” sums it up well:

    That didn’t happen.

    And if it did, it wasn’t that bad.

    And if it was, that’s not a big deal.

    And if it is, that’s not my fault.

    And if it was, I didn’t mean it.

    And if I did…

    You deserved it.

    Respond, don’t react. The worst thing you can do with a narcissist is to shine a spotlight on their bad behavior–they thrive on attention. Instead, learn to respond in affective way that keeps you in control of options and choices. If you feel yourself reacting, step away and regain back your control.

    Set clear boundaries. Set a firm boundary wherever you need one and stick to it. Remember, boundaries aren’t meant to control others; they’re a guideline for you to know what is and isn’t acceptable. Boundaries are a part of self-care–they’re healthy, normal and often necessary.

    Don’t allow them to get under your skin. Narcissists thrive on getting a rise out of someone–especially someone they feel they have power over. They will goad you, shame you, call you out, embarrass you and humiliate you, but you don’t have to allow any of it to get under your skin. Use emotional intelligence to manage your thoughts and actions. And remember that any cruel behavior and words reflect badly on the narcissist, not you.

    Don’t feed the beast. A narcissistic boss has a constant need to be admired by others. So refuse to feed the beast. It’s good to understand that bad behavior comes from insecurity and that the more your narcissistic boss acts out, the more insecure they are. But it’s just as important to remember that the more you feed the bad behavior the worse it will become. Narcissists surround themselves with only two types of people: those who enable them and those who bite their tongue. Anyone who doesn’t fit into one of these two categories will certainly be fired or banished–and, if the narcissist has their way, manipulated into thinking it was actually their own fault.

    Don’t empower those who don’t deserve it. Your narcissistic boss holds some degree of power by virtue of their position, but we know there are no leaders without followers. Refuse to follow those you don’t admire, those you don’t trust, and those who lie. Just do your job to the best of your ability and with respect, honor and integrity. When you do, you’ll be known as one of the sane ones–maybe even the only sane one.

    Fact check everything. A narcissist will always portray themselves as a victim who’s innocent in all aspects. When the truth offends them–which is often–they’re quick to exchange it for lies and half truths. If you’re dealing with a narcissistic boss, be ready to do a lot of checking up.

    Don’t argue. The last thing you want to do is argue with a narcissist, because everything you say and do will be held against you. Don’t argue or engage but instead make them invisible–the last thing a narcissist wants. It’s impossible to argue with someone who’s willing to distort the truth to suit their own agenda–the best you can do is to take away their power by making them unimportant and invisible.

    Don’t be provoked. Narcissists thrive on provoking people and then blaming them for the fight. Stay cool and disengaged and refuse to be swept up by the wave of dysfunction. The alternative is realizing they’ve found a way to make it all your fault. Don’t allow yourself to be provoked or manipulated.

    Stay focused on what’s important. Working with a narcissist boss means a constant pull to play by their rules and for everything to revolve around them, with no accountability or responsibility when things go wrong. It’s easy to feel angry and frustrated. That’s when you have to take a step back and reconnect with your purpose in being there.

    It’s never going to be easy working with a narcissist. Often the wisest thing to do is just walk away–but when that’s not possible, remember you’re at least gaining valuable experience in dealing with one of the most difficult personalities you’re ever likely to encounter.


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    THE LEADERSHIP GAP

    What Gets Between You and Your Greatness

    After decades of coaching powerful executives around the world, Lolly Daskal has observed that leaders rise to their positions relying on a specific set of values and traits. But in time, every executive reaches a point when their performance suffers and failure persists. Very few understand why or how to prevent it.

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  • feedwordpress 10:41:43 on 2018/06/11 Permalink
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    Here’s What You Do When You’re Smarter Than Your Boss 

    If you’ve ever had a boss who was truly inept–not the kind of inept where you hang up on people because you don’t understand how the office phones work, but truly unable to do their job–you know what a frustrating experience it is.

    If you’re like most people in that situation, you ended up spending much of your day covering the boss’s tracks, doing the things they couldn’t, fixing their mistakes (and sometimes covering up for them). And you probably went through a lot of resentment and anger–perfectly understandable for someone who’s trying to do their own job and their boss’s, while the boss draws a big paycheck and keeps going.

    If you’re in that situation now, you really know how rough it can be. But that doesn’t mean there’s nothing you can do. Here are some ideas to help you deal with being smarter than your boss:

    1. Never ever badmouth or gossip about your boss. Never say a bad work or talk behind their back. No matter how unqualified your boss is, complaining about it to others reflects badly on you–and it can interfere with your ability to advance in your career (or even transfer to another department to escape). Badmouthing and gossip are bad form, always.

    2. Be as useful as possible. Make yourself useful to your boss–and your team–by taking on what you can. Look for places where their points of weakness match your strengths, and focus yourself as much as possible in that area. Being useful is a great way to commend yourself to your boss, and to be noticed by those who are higher up.

    3. Be positive, not resentful. Try to find the silver lining and do what you can to learn as much as you can from the experience. Think about the opportunities for growth and visibility you’re gaining.

    4. Work with them, not against them. If you can concentrate on finding ways to work with your boss, not against them, things will go much more smoothly. Take a leadership role where you can–it will help you prepare for the day when you’re running the show.

    5. Never disagree publicly. Don’t contradict or embarrass your boss in front of others. When you disagree or point out a problem, do it privately and with respect.

    6. Don’t take it personally. This is a situation that happens all the time, and it’s not about you. Chances are that everyone is wondering how this person got to be the boss, but that’s not your concern. You can waste your energy complaining about it, or find a way to advance your own goals.

    7. Be respectful in communication. Whether you’re writing or speaking, don’t use any language or tone with your boss–or, for that matter, with anyone–that can come across as smug or superior or belittling. It may be a challenge if that’s how you’re feeling, but keep it to yourself.

    8. Focus on advancing your own career rather than bringing someone else down. Look for ways you can advance your own career instead of hoping for opportunities to point out your boss’ shortcomings. Take the high road.

    9. Don’t complain. You probably want to, and you may have plenty of reason. But don’t go above your boss’ head to complain. It may or may not help with the problem, but it will almost certainly hurt your own reputation. The one exception: if there’s a legal, ethical or safety issue at stake, you may need to report it. In that case, find out about whistleblower laws and any other protection that may apply.

    10. Start looking for another job. if you are doing all of this and it’s still taking a toll on you, it’s time to start looking for a job find a company where there is better opportunity for you and for you to advance.

    It’s never fun to work for a bad boss. But like most things, it does have a silver lining. You’re in a great position to build and demonstrate your own abilities, along with your problem-solving and people skills. If nothing else, someday it will turn into a great story you can tell.

     


    N A T I O N A L    B E S T S E L L E R

    THE LEADERSHIP GAP

    What Gets Between You and Your Greatness

    After decades of coaching powerful executives around the world, Lolly Daskal has observed that leaders rise to their positions relying on a specific set of values and traits. But in time, every executive reaches a point when their performance suffers and failure persists. Very few understand why or how to prevent it.

    buy now

     


    Additional Reading you might enjoy:

     

    Photo Credit: Getty Images

    The post Here’s What You Do When You’re Smarter Than Your Boss appeared first on Lolly Daskal.

     
  • feedwordpress 10:32:19 on 2018/06/11 Permalink
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    What Happens When Your Boss Doesn’t Want You to Succeed 

    We all come across a terrible boss sooner or later. Maybe it’s a clash of generations, work styles or personalities. Maybe there are philosophical differences that are hard to bridge. Maybe they’re angry or frustrated over something in their own life, or just not a nice person. Maybe they feel a little threatened by your youth or your abilities.

    For whatever reason, there are few things that can throw you off your game at work more than wondering if your boss is undermining your success or even setting you up to fail.

    Here are some of the symptoms of a serious boss problem:

    1. Your boss ignores you. If your boss ignores or avoids you, it may mean that they find your presence frustrating or that they consider you unimportant. Aside from hurting your ego, this attitude can do huge damage as you’re cut out of the loop on important information and decisions.

    2. Your boss is hypercritical. If your boss is constantly singling you out as a negative example and criticizing you–especially in public–they’re damaging your self-image and the way others perceive you. Even if you’re struggling with something, that should inspire offers of help rather than scorn.

    3. Your boss micromanages you. Of course, some bosses micromanage everyone. But being singled out may signal a lack of trust. Micromanagement can also originate from poor delegation skills, but you can’t advance if you’re not entrusted with meaningful responsibilities on your own.

    4. Your boss withholds information. There are few things more directly undermining that withholding information. You’re left looking inept and foolish. If this happens, you may need to develop back-channel sources to find out what you need to know.

    5. Your boss doesn’t give you the projects aligned with your strengths. If you’re not getting projects that let you work to your strengths, volunteer to help with something that does. Keep finding ways to contribute and engage and show what you can do.

    Even with a good boss, these mishaps can happen now and then. But if it’s pervasive or habitual, you need to appoint yourself the CEO of your own destiny and start making a new plan.

    Sticking it out is a high-risk option–the people you most want to see leave have a way of staying in place forever, and the damage a bad boss can do to your career and your psyche is significant. Take care of yourself by walking away before it comes to that.

     


    N A T I O N A L    B E S T S E L L E R

    THE LEADERSHIP GAP

    What Gets Between You and Your Greatness

    After decades of coaching powerful executives around the world, Lolly Daskal has observed that leaders rise to their positions relying on a specific set of values and traits. But in time, every executive reaches a point when their performance suffers and failure persists. Very few understand why or how to prevent it.

    buy now

     


    Additional Reading you might enjoy:

     

    Photo Credit: Getty Images

    The post What Happens When Your Boss Doesn’t Want You to Succeed appeared first on Lolly Daskal.

     
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