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    7 Important Questions to Ask People You Admire   

    What if you suddenly found yourself sharing an elevator or seated at an event with somebody you admire, someone like, Warren Buffett, Elon Musk or Bill Gates? Would you stammer an introduction and look awkwardly at your feet, or would you be able to make the most of the encounter with a set of smart, concise questions?

    It’s unlikely you’ll ever meet any of those people, but you probably encounter other admirable people on a regular basis. Whether it’s a national leader in your field or the senior manager who works down the hall, here are some questions you can ask from the leaders you admire to learn from their success:

    1. What’s the biggest factor that has helped you be successful?
    Success is different for everyone, but it’s always interesting to learn how people arrived where they are. Their stories may point you in a new direction, give you an answer you’ve been looking for, or motivate you to push through the tough times. Responses also give you insight into their values and priorities.

    2. What are your success habits?
    Asking successful people about their daily habits can give you ideas for your own routines. The answers are rarely esoteric; generally, they’re actions anyone can take. As the old saying goes, we are what we repeatedly do.  Excellence, then, is not a quality but a habit, and successful people are simply those with successful habits.

    3. What mistakes have you made along the way?
    This question is one of the most important things you can ask anyone, because it allows you to learn from their experience. If you ask it often and listen carefully to the answers you hear, you will make fewer mistakes yourself. You’ll have insight into how to do things in a way that doesn’t lead to miscalculations or blunders.

    4. What was the hardest decision you ever had to make?
    Most successful people have had to make at least a few genuinely difficult between-a-rock-and-a-hard-place decisions. Learning what they chose, and why, gives you a close look at their thought processes and priorities, helping you prepare for the tough decisions that lie down the road for you. At the end of the day, it’s in your moments of decisions that your success is shaped.

    5. What is the best advice you can give?
    Some people respond better than others to such an open-ended question, but when it connects, it can cut right to the important stuff. Compile the responses you get to this question and keep them where you can read through them all from time to time.

    6. If you could start all over again, what would you do differently?
    Successful people tend to be self-aware, and it’s likely that they’ve already given this question some thought. You might expect to hear about preventing some mistake or failure, but successful people know that mistakes and failure are among our greatest teachers. Many focus instead on wishing they had taken more chances and been bolder.

    7. What’s one change I should make right now to help me get closer to my success?
    This question is appropriate to ask of someone who’s already familiar with you and your work. Improvement requires change, and sometimes the hardest part is knowing what needs to change.

    Most successful people are grateful for what they’ve achieved, and many are happy to share their knowledge and experience. It’s too good a resource to waste, so be prepared to make the most out of every encounter, especially with those you admire.

    Lead From Within: Just remember, we tend to become those we admire.

     


     

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    After decades of coaching powerful executives around the world, Lolly Daskal has observed that leaders rise to their positions relying on a specific set of values and traits. But in time, every executive reaches a point when their performance suffers and failure persists. Very few understand why or how to prevent it.

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  • feedwordpress 23:42:53 on 2018/06/10 Permalink
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    11 Ways to Become a Person You Can Admire 

    It’s important to have someone you look up to, but don’t forget the other side of the coin. Wherever you are, you have a sphere of influence–a group of people who are influenced by the things you say and do. How does your life hold up?

    The core of an admirable life is respect. When you respect yourself and others, you behave in a way that sets a high standard. You’ll do things you can be proud of and inspire others to do the same.

    Here are 11 tangible steps you can take toward living a more admirable life:

    1.     Learn to be comfortable in your own skin.
    The real purpose of your life is to evolve and grow into the whole person you are capable of being. It’s easy to get off the path and spend your time trying to be someone you think you’re supposed to be, but any effort to changing yourself for other people is bound to be hollow. The best you can do is be your true self.

    2.     Choose simplicity over complication.
    So much of what we do makes things more complicated than they has to be. But when things get complicated it’s easy to become confused and lose your way. You’ll live a better life when you’re able to keep things easygoing and straightforward.

    3.     Don’t dream your life; live your dreams.
    Never put off or give up on your dreams. You are powerful when you believe in yourself – when you know that you are capable of anything you put your mind to. When you finally decide just to be yourself, you can make your life look any way you want it to look. Go after your dream, no matter how unattainable others think it is.

    4.     Stop pleasing others despite yourself.
    How many wasted years, months, days have you spent trying to please others? Making everybody happy is never your responsibility–if they like you for who you are, good, and if not, it’s not your problem. Do more of what makes you happy, and in turn you will make others around you happy, too.

    5.     Live fully and dare greatly.
    Take risks and be bold. If you win, you win; if you lose you’ll still be wiser. Try new things and take advantage of every opportunity that comes your way, because every risk, every dare, is a victory over fear.

    6.     Don’t worry what other people think.
    When you let go of worrying about the expectations and opinions of others, you can start standing out from the crowd and working on what’s important to you.

    7.     Embrace integrity– always.
    Integrity is central to any admirable life. It’s about making sure your words are consistent with the way you behave, and that you’re willing to live up to what you expect from others.

    8.     Treat confidence as a superpower.
    Confidence allows you to take on any challenges that are thrown at you and shows what you are made of. It’s impossible not to admire those who have been through a lot and can still keep moving forward.

    9.     Be interested to be interesting.
    The most interesting people in the world are those who demonstrate authentic curiosity toward the world and people around them. Look around. Pay attention. Ask people to tell you their stories and listen.

    10.  Treat yourself as you treat others.
    People who live to help and serve others sometimes forget to extend those principles to themselves. You can’t truly appreciate or care for anyone else if you don’t first appreciate and care for yourself.

    11.  Stop pretending or faking it.
    You don’t have to pretend or fake it to have a flawless life to live admirable. Allowing yourself to be yourself in all your flawed human glory is ultimately the most admirable thing you can do–and life gets so much easier when you stop pretending and you stop faking.

    In the end, if you can become a person you admire, you will be able to help others bring out their best as well.

     


    N A T I O N A L    B E S T S E L L E R

    THE LEADERSHIP GAP

    What Gets Between You and Your Greatness

    After decades of coaching powerful executives around the world, Lolly Daskal has observed that leaders rise to their positions relying on a specific set of values and traits. But in time, every executive reaches a point when their performance suffers and failure persists. Very few understand why or how to prevent it.

    buy now

     


    Additional Reading you might enjoy:

     

    Photo Credit: Getty Images

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