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  • feedwordpress 08:00:54 on 2018/06/28 Permalink
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    7 Important Questions to Ask People You Admire   

    What if you suddenly found yourself sharing an elevator or seated at an event with somebody you admire, someone like, Warren Buffett, Elon Musk or Bill Gates? Would you stammer an introduction and look awkwardly at your feet, or would you be able to make the most of the encounter with a set of smart, concise questions?

    It’s unlikely you’ll ever meet any of those people, but you probably encounter other admirable people on a regular basis. Whether it’s a national leader in your field or the senior manager who works down the hall, here are some questions you can ask from the leaders you admire to learn from their success:

    1. What’s the biggest factor that has helped you be successful?
    Success is different for everyone, but it’s always interesting to learn how people arrived where they are. Their stories may point you in a new direction, give you an answer you’ve been looking for, or motivate you to push through the tough times. Responses also give you insight into their values and priorities.

    2. What are your success habits?
    Asking successful people about their daily habits can give you ideas for your own routines. The answers are rarely esoteric; generally, they’re actions anyone can take. As the old saying goes, we are what we repeatedly do.  Excellence, then, is not a quality but a habit, and successful people are simply those with successful habits.

    3. What mistakes have you made along the way?
    This question is one of the most important things you can ask anyone, because it allows you to learn from their experience. If you ask it often and listen carefully to the answers you hear, you will make fewer mistakes yourself. You’ll have insight into how to do things in a way that doesn’t lead to miscalculations or blunders.

    4. What was the hardest decision you ever had to make?
    Most successful people have had to make at least a few genuinely difficult between-a-rock-and-a-hard-place decisions. Learning what they chose, and why, gives you a close look at their thought processes and priorities, helping you prepare for the tough decisions that lie down the road for you. At the end of the day, it’s in your moments of decisions that your success is shaped.

    5. What is the best advice you can give?
    Some people respond better than others to such an open-ended question, but when it connects, it can cut right to the important stuff. Compile the responses you get to this question and keep them where you can read through them all from time to time.

    6. If you could start all over again, what would you do differently?
    Successful people tend to be self-aware, and it’s likely that they’ve already given this question some thought. You might expect to hear about preventing some mistake or failure, but successful people know that mistakes and failure are among our greatest teachers. Many focus instead on wishing they had taken more chances and been bolder.

    7. What’s one change I should make right now to help me get closer to my success?
    This question is appropriate to ask of someone who’s already familiar with you and your work. Improvement requires change, and sometimes the hardest part is knowing what needs to change.

    Most successful people are grateful for what they’ve achieved, and many are happy to share their knowledge and experience. It’s too good a resource to waste, so be prepared to make the most out of every encounter, especially with those you admire.

    Lead From Within: Just remember, we tend to become those we admire.

     


     

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    The Leadership Gap: What Gets Between You and Your Greatness

    After decades of coaching powerful executives around the world, Lolly Daskal has observed that leaders rise to their positions relying on a specific set of values and traits. But in time, every executive reaches a point when their performance suffers and failure persists. Very few understand why or how to prevent it.

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  • feedwordpress 08:00:03 on 2018/06/26 Permalink
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    The 15-Minute-A-Day Habit That Can Boost Your Leadership 

    A study conducted at Harvard Business School found that a daily 15-minute habit can increase your productivity and effectiveness. The daily habit is as simple as they come—making time every day for reflection will help boost your leadership.

    There are at least three different ways you can practice daily self-reflection:

    1. Shut everything out and sit down for a time of quiet contemplation. In my work as an executive leadership coach, I try to introduce some kind of meditation into each of my clients’ routines. I’ve seen the benefits of meditation firsthand: it can help you settle down after a long day, it can make you sharper and smarter, and it can counteract the information overload that’s become part of everyday life. When truly successful individuals begin to meditate, they become even more productive and creative leaders.

    Research on mindfulness suggests that meditation sharpens skills like attention, memory and emotional intelligence. That’s a great return on an investment of just 15 minutes a day. And if you’re thinking you already have too much on your plate and don’t need yet another thing to do, rethink that proposition. After all, meditation is literally the act of doing nothing.

    2. You can write down your day. Journaling for 15 minutes at the end of the day has always been a useful tool for keeping track of your activities and thoughts. The act of writing things down helps you understand them more clearly and keep a clear perspective. The simple process of committing your thoughts and ideas to paper pays great dividends and gives you a clear articulation of your thinking. And science is finding that the act of writing accesses your analytic and rational left brain, freeing your right brain to create and intuit. Writing unlocks all kinds of capabilities and affords the opportunity for unexpected solutions to seemingly unsolvable problems.

    Successful leaders throughout history have kept journals. Presidents have maintained them for posterity; other famous figures keep them for their own purposes. The 19th-century playwright Oscar Wilde said, “I never travel without my diary. One should always have something sensational to read on the train.”

    3. You can summarize your thoughts and rehearse your actions. Taking the time to think things through engages you in a self-directed, self-disciplined, self-monitored, and self-correcting process. It allows you to think clearly and rationally and solve problems systematically, boosting the critical thinking skills that have become so important in the new knowledge economy. Mentally summarize the events of the day, think about the actions you want to take tomorrow and rehearse them in your head in a way that gives you the best outcome.

    Whichever method you choose, this 15 minutes is likely to become the most important part of your day. With just 15 minutes of reflection a day, you can boost your career, your productivity and your effectiveness. Try it and see how it changes your life.

    Lead From Within: From quiet self-reflection will come even more effective action.

     


     

    N A T I O N A L   B E S T S E L L E R
    The Leadership Gap: What Gets Between You and Your Greatness

    After decades of coaching powerful executives around the world, Lolly Daskal has observed that leaders rise to their positions relying on a specific set of values and traits. But in time, every executive reaches a point when their performance suffers and failure persists. Very few understand why or how to prevent it.

    buy now

     


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  • feedwordpress 08:00:32 on 2018/06/21 Permalink
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    7 Body Language Mistakes You Need to Avoid 

    If you’re in a position of leadership—whether you’re a CEO, manager, or community volunteer—it’s likely that you put a great deal of care into the words you use. But if your
    body language doesn’t sync with those words, you may be giving a terrible impression without even knowing it.

    It is said that people form impressions of others in seven to 30 seconds. That’s pretty quick.
    If you don’t have the right body language, you may be leaving a negative impression
    before you even have a chance to speak.

    Body language goes far beyond a handshake and smile. But in my decades of executive leadership coaching, I’ve found that executives don’t pay nearly enough attention to its importance.

    Here are some of the most common body language mistakes to avoid if you want
    to make the great impression as a leader.

    1. Clashing body cues and spoken words. If you’re saying “Let’s all work together
    and make this work” while your hands are crossed against your chest, you’re likely
    coming across as confusing. People tend to trust nonverbal messages over verbal
    ones when the two are at odds. If you want people to believe your conciliatory words,
    uncross your arms and appear friendly and approachable and open.

    2. Raising your chin when you speak. While you definitely want to be proud of
    what you’re saying, a raised chin is a sign that you feel superior to the person
    you’re speaking with. Show respect by lowering your chin and staying evenly
    face-to-face.

    3. Putting one foot out the door. If you want to see where a person’s interest truly lies,
    look at their shoulders and feet. One of the first indicators that someone is trying to
    leave a conversation is when they turn a shoulder or a toe away. To show engagement
    and interest, keep your body directed at the person in front of you.

    4. Lack of eye contact. When you fail to maintain eye contact with someone
    who’s speaking, you’re signaling a complete lack of interest. Lack of eye contact
    will shut down even the most enthusiastic speaker. Establish the habit of thoughtful
    eye contact to show your interest.

    5. Constant fidgeting. Have you ever had a conversation with someone who couldn’t
    stop moving? Feet bobbing up and down, swaying back and forth, making little motions
    with their arms—fidgeting sends a message of stress bordering on anxiety, and it’s both unnerving and extremely distracting. When you have something to say, relax your body
    and try to be still as possible so your words come out strong and your body doesn’t give away cues of your stress.

    6. Not giving enough space. This one is especially important: give people enough space. People who lean right into you and speak inches away from your face seem to be taking advantage of their power. Nobody likes to feel their space has been invaded. Unless
    you’re signaled an invitation to come closer, the best body language is to stay at least
    an arm’s length away. Don’t back up too far, though, or you’ll come across as
    unapproachable or uninterested. Stand just close enough to show you’re engaged,
    and don’t lean in or out too much.

    7. Looking at your watch. Have you ever been distracted in a meeting or conversation
    when the person you’re trying to connect with keeps looking at their watch? We all know
    that means they’re checked out, uninterested or indifferent to what is being said. Stop
    looking at your watch—that goes for your phone, too—and don’t let your body language signal boredom.

    Everyone wants to make a good impression, no matter what their position or title. But
    when your body is saying one thing and your words another, there’s a better-than-average chance you’re making a poor impression. Review these common mistakes from time to
    time and make sure you’re not guilty of any of them and if you are avoid them or correct them.

    Lead From Within: As a leader, your body language will speak volumes, make sure
    you are mindful and paying attention to the message you are sending.

     


     

    N A T I O N A L   B E S T S E L L E R
    The Leadership Gap: What Gets Between You and Your Greatness

    After decades of coaching powerful executives around the world, Lolly Daskal has observed that leaders rise to their positions relying on a specific set of values and traits. But in time, every executive reaches a point when their performance suffers and failure persists. Very few understand why or how to prevent it.

    buy now

     


    Additional Reading you might enjoy:

     

    Photo Credit: Getty Images

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  • feedwordpress 08:00:20 on 2018/06/19 Permalink
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    5 Ways to Be A Better Leader 

    Good leaders, like professional athletes, make everything they do look easy. But in reality, many of them have to work hard to manage or compensate for potentially career-limiting traits.

    I’ve worked with many executives as a business leadership coach, and I’ve come to understand that becoming a better leader requires a strategy and suggestions on how to improve. With that principle in mind, here are five ways you can become a better leader immediately.

    Practice self-awareness. Think of yourself as the conductor of an orchestra—focused on helping every person on your team perform at their best. To be effective in this work, you need to understand your own strengths as well as your weaknesses and leadership gaps. Understanding yourself helps you leverage your strengths and your gaps. And at the end of the day, we all need to understand what challenges us and allow that awareness to become better leaders. What we understand, we own—and what we own doesn’t own us.

    Learn how to coach your people. The greatest and strongest leaders know they’re only as good as the teams around them, so they put tremendous emphasis on coaching and supporting their people, helping them grow. It’s important to give each person the attention and feedback that will motivate them to make meaningful contributions.

    Be willing to talk about difficult subjects. It’s always nice when you can act as a cheerleader for your organization, but the more important task is to help your team navigate the uncertain times. Business is messy, leadership isn’t easy and the way ahead may be far from clear. Communicate with your team about the issues facing your organization and industry—things like risks, variables, volatile markets. When you do, you not only build trust but also quash speculation and rumor mills.

    Ask for help when you need it. Most leaders consider themselves highly capable, which makes it even harder when they need to ask for support. But requesting help from others will always be one of the best ways to become a better leader. If you’re feeling stuck, seek out a mentor or hire a coach.

    Serve as a model. When you act as a model of integrity and hard work—when you talk the talk and walk the walk—people will admire your leadership and work to emulate your behavior. If you want to become a better leader, work on modeling the qualities you’d like to see in your team and in others.

    Lead from within: The best leaders know they can be even better leaders and they do everything they can to improve.

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    N A T I O N A L    B E S T S E L L E R
    The Leadership Gap: What Gets Between You and Your Greatness

    After decades of coaching powerful executives around the world, Lolly Daskal has observed that leaders rise to their positions relying on a specific set of values and traits. But in time, every executive reaches a point when their performance suffers and failure persists. Very few understand why or how to prevent it.

    buy now
     


    Additional Reading you might enjoy:

     

    Photo Credit: Getty Images

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  • feedwordpress 04:57:51 on 2018/06/16 Permalink
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    10 Bad Mistakes You Can Make as A New Boss 

    If you have plans of becoming a manager or taking on any leadership position, you can help yourself tremendously by being aware of the mistakes that hurt the reputations and relationships of new bosses. Here are the ten most common that I see in my work as a leadership coach. Check in with yourself periodically throughout your first year and make sure you’re avoiding these potholes, and before you know it you’ll be a well-regarded and seasoned leader.

    Trying to lead with a one-size-fits-all approach.

    Don’t assume that everyone needs the same kind of communication or motivation. The best bosses make an effort to become acquainted with those they lead as individuals and tailor an equitable approach that best connects with each individual on their team. Leadership is about investing your time and energy in getting to know those you lead and giving them what they need most.

    Poor communication.

    Even some experienced leaders have a hard time communicating well with their team. Good news is easy, but difficulties and problems are more challenging to communicate effectively. In my new book, The Leadership Gap, I talk about great leaders as great communicators and truth tellers. They’re honest and transparent with their team, even if the news is bad. Whatever’s going on, share it openly and involve others to come up with a solution. Honest communication builds trust and shuts down harmful rumor mills and gossip.

    Thinking that what got you here will keep you here.

    Many people are promoted to management because they’re rock stars in their field–but that doesn’t necessarily mean they have the managerial or leadership skills they need in their new role. Find a coach or mentor who can help you excel in the transition and teach you what you need to know to succeed and keep advancing.

    Trying to change everything right away.

    Making rapid wholesale changes is among the worst mistakes you can make in any position of authority. To earn respect, start by taking some time to understand the workplace culture and dynamics, then make any changes incrementally and with as much participation and buy-in from the team as possible. Listen and learn, and don’t change things that work well just because you can.

    Abusing power.

    Leadership is not about flexing your personal power but empowering others. That means you stand alongside those you lead and develop relationships that are collegial and mutually respectful. When you do, you’re more likely to discover a team of followers–not just subordinates–who work effectively, efficiently and happily.

    Failing to deliver difficult feedback.

    It’s natural to want to be liked, so too often new bosses avoid giving feedback–especially the difficult kind. But here’s the irony: if your leadership style is based on pleasing people and being liked, over time you’ll be seen as insecure, and you’ll become disliked and disrespected. If problems persist and challenges go unaddressed, your best people will grow frustrated, which in turn will lead to low morale and high employee turnover. Better to face up to what needs to be done.

    Staying isolated in the office.

    To be in a new position can be daunting, and wanting to make sure all goes well can keep you working long hours isolated behind closed doors. But that isolation is a big mistake. New leaders need to be visible, available and accessible. Your presence helps convey the message that you’re there to serve others and they can count on you.

    Not learning to delegate effectively.

    As a leadership coach I can’t count how many times I’ve heard this: “I’m new, I want to do things right, and if it’s going to be done right, then I have to do it myself.” Wrong! if you cannot delegate, you are not leading effectively. The only message you’re sending is that you’re a micromanager who doesn’t trust your people to do their jobs, and that reputation never leads to good results. Don’t make the mistake of trying to do everything all by yourself. Learn to trust those who have been hired to do their work–stand beside them but don’t control them. Give them the freedom they need to excel.

    Not knowing how to motivate others.

    It can be intimidating to be the new boss, but it’s imperative that you start by working to understand the motivation of your people–what drives them, compels them, excites them. From there you can fulfill your responsibility to nourish them into doing things they didn’t even know were possible. As I tell my clients, great leaders inspire those around them to do great things, and they do it by knowing what motivates others to excel.

    Failing to show appreciation.

    In their desire to hit the ground running and start racking up impressive accomplishments, new leaders often fail to recognize the contributions of others. When you focus only on results, you forget to acknowledge the effort, the talent and the performance. And when that happens, you team becomes less imaginative, less productive, and more likely to play it safe and just put in their hours.

    Every new role carries a need for new skills, and being a new boss is no different. Avoid these costly rookie mistakes and you’ll have a great start toward becoming the leader you are meant to be.


     

    N A T I O N A L   B E S T S E L L E R
    The Leadership Gap: What Gets Between You and Your Greatness

    After decades of coaching powerful executives around the world, Lolly Daskal has observed that leaders rise to their positions relying on a specific set of values and traits. But in time, every executive reaches a point when their performance suffers and failure persists. Very few understand why or how to prevent it.

    buy now


    Additional Reading you might enjoy:

     

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