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  • feedwordpress 22:50:27 on 2021/05/19 Permalink
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    Why Being a Self Serving Leader is So Dangerous 


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    Good leadership is focused on others, but self-serving leadership undermines that principle to focus on the ego and the symptoms can take hold and begin damaging your leadership before you’re even aware. Be on guard against these signs so you can recognize them in yourself before they take root and grow:

    Arguing. If you find yourself often arguing with others or in a mindset where you’re right and others are wrong, you’re likely coming across as rigid and unwilling to listen. Stop arguing and start being open to finding points of agreement.

    Absence. If you’re always engaged in something else when your people need you, they’ll see you as distracted, absorbed and preoccupied. Work to becoming a leader who empowers, inspires and motivates by being available and accessible.

    Defensiveness. When your leadership is about protecting and defending yourself, you’re likely to find yourself working against those you’re supposed to be leading.

    Boasting. When you take all the credit instead of sharing it with your team, you show them where your priorities are, so don’t expect them to work so hard next time. Spotlight your people instead of yourself.

    Bluster. If you’re in the habit of speaking over others, interrupting, and making statements without allowing others to respond or express their own thoughts, you kill the energy and ideas of your team. Talk less and listen more.

    Competitiveness. Competition can spur people to do great work, but if you’re competing against those you lead, you’re setting a bad example. Remember that they’re on your side; work to elevate their performance and focus your competitive side elsewhere.

    Envy. When you’re jealous or begrudging of those you lead, remember that leadership at its core is taking pleasure in other people’s success. Celebrate, appreciate and recognize the work and success of others.

    Self-promotion. If your leadership is ego-driven, you’re missing the point. Turn your attention to elevating those you lead, not yourself. Any time you  find yourself wanting to promote yourself, change it up and honor your team instead.

    Delusion. if you’re basing your leadership on a false impression of your own self-importance, you need to understand that grandstanding serves only to isolate you from those you are trying to influence and lead, and it’s counterproductive to bringing people together to do great things. Break down the false and misleading impressions you have of yourself and practice leading from reality.

    Ego. When you think of leadership as something you do to serve yourself, your leadership is bogged down in ego. Instead, try dedicating your energy to helping others be successful. Be known as a leader who serves others instead of yourself.

    Self-serving leadership is dangerous to you and to those you lead. Few things can do more to undermine your influence, respect and trust.

    Lead from within: It’s easy to fall into self-serving leadership behaviors, even if it’s not the way you normally operate. So be a thoughtful leader who is self-aware at all times.


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    The Leadership Gap
    What Gets Between You and Your Greatness


    After decades of coaching powerful executives around the world, Lolly Daskal has observed that leaders rise to their positions relying on a specific set of values and traits. But in time, every executive reaches a point when their performance suffers and failure persists. Very few understand why or how to prevent it.

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  • feedwordpress 10:50:53 on 2021/05/04 Permalink
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    Your Leadership Is Contagious—Whether You Know It Or Not 


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    When standards in an organization change, the process tends to be so gradual that it’s not readily noticeable. One day you look around and realize that things that used to be unacceptable are now commonplace. Whether it’s a lax attitude toward work and deadlines, gossip and backbiting, or dishonesty, it’s easy for negative behavior to take hold.

    When norms change, people tend to ask “How did that happen?” I’m here to tell you: it starts at the top. Leadership is contagious, whether leaders know it or not. If a leader’s standards slip, the standards of the organization follow. If leadership’s values are compromised, the values of the business won’t be far behind. It’s imperative to keep close tabs on your own leadership, because others are certain to follow your lead, one by one, until your entire team is affected.

    Here are some of the ways leaders can ensure that their contagious leadership is spreading only good qualities:

    Be consistent and predictable. If you want to be trusted, respected and credible, people have to know that they can count on your conduct to always be consistent.

    Remain true to your values. Let others know who you are and what you stand for, and lead through your example of living out your values every day. Give people reason to feel good about emulating you.

    Evaluate your communications. Leaders communicate a lot, and people are quick to judge those communications as well as the cues they get from body language and nonverbal communication. Think about what you’re saying and—even more important—how you’re saying it.

    Show people what’s most important to you. The quickest way to learn what’s important to someone is to see what they give their time to. Ask yourself if you’re spending your time in ways that reflect your values or if you’re sending mixed messages.

    Take command of your emotions. If you’re quick to lose your temper, if you yell when things go wrong, if you lose patience easily, you’re sending a message to others that it’s OK—and maybe even expected—to do the same. Don’t let your own behavior validate screaming, tantrums, or abuse. Remember, your emotions have the power to make people comfortable or uncomfortable—which do you want it to be?

    Embody positivity. A positive leader means a positive team and positive organization; a negative leader is working to build a team and culture based on negativity.

    Treat others the way you want to be treated. Treat people with respect and dignity and they will treat you—and their coworkers—the same.

    When you’re a leader, your actions are constantly being watched by others. Ask yourself if you want those you lead to emulate what you do and how you do it. If not, be thoughtful of how you lead and commit to setting a good example.

    Lead from within: If you know your leadership is contagious, you’re more likely to exhibit behavior worth catching.

     


    #1 N A T I O N A L  B E S T S E L L E R

    The Leadership Gap
    What Gets Between You and Your Greatness


    After decades of coaching powerful executives around the world, Lolly Daskal has observed that leaders rise to their positions relying on a specific set of values and traits. But in time, every executive reaches a point when their performance suffers and failure persists. Very few understand why or how to prevent it.

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  • feedwordpress 08:00:50 on 2021/04/20 Permalink
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    How Leadership Challenges Can Bring Out the Best In You 


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    Being a leader is a challenge in itself. And every leadership role comes with its own set of specific challenges. In my work as a leadership coach I have been able to see a wide range of situations that are especially challenging to leaders. Whatever form a challenge takes, it’s best to approach it as an opportunity for you and your team to excel in a high-profile situation.

    Here are some of the most common situations that can give you the opportunity to bring out your best in your leadership and team:

    When you’re starting something new. Whether you’re launching a new initiative, creating a new product or hiring new people for leadership, new beginnings are challenging. But they also present a clean slate. Make sure you put in the planning and effort you need up front to ensure the new initiative is successful.

    When you’re concluding something. As a venture or working relationship ends, it creates change—and sometimes heightened emotions—that can be difficult to navigate. It’s your role as a leader to tie up loose ends and ensure a smooth transition so everyone can move on successfully.

    When you’re planning a change. Organizations, teams and people are constantly changing, and most of the time that’s a good thing. You can’t have growth and improvement without change. But even the most positive change sometimes runs into opposition and defensiveness. Change has a considerable psychological impact on the human mind, and for people who are fearful by nature that impact takes the form of anxiety. For the hopeful it is encouragement; for the confident it is inspiration. It is the leader’s job to be able to handle these mixed responses with grace while getting people accustomed to the idea of change.

    When you’re in transition. It’s one thing to plan for change, but when the actual transformation begins, the prospects are high that your leadership and team will face significant challenges and difficulties. Weathering these times of transition takes confidence, thoughtfulness, and careful communication—including lots of listening. This means that at a time when you’re likely to be distracted by a thousand details, you have to stay mindful of keeping everyone strong and moving forward together. For many leaders, times of transition represent the most significant challenges of their careers.

    Whatever the challenge, try to view it as an opportunity for you to bring the best of who you are and what your leadership has to offer. To fully leverage the opportunity you have to acknowledge the attitudes and tendencies that get in your way and work to overcome them, work closely and effectively with your team, and do your part to keep steering the organization in a direction that serves its mission. It all starts with effective leadership.

    Lead from within: There will always be challenges, and how you show up as a leader will always make a difference. Make you sure your leadership is bringing out your best so those around you can bring out theirs.

     


    #1 N A T I O N A L  B E S T S E L L E R

    The Leadership Gap
    What Gets Between You and Your Greatness


    After decades of coaching powerful executives around the world, Lolly Daskal has observed that leaders rise to their positions relying on a specific set of values and traits. But in time, every executive reaches a point when their performance suffers and failure persists. Very few understand why or how to prevent it.

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  • feedwordpress 16:54:00 on 2021/04/16 Permalink
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    Qualities Of A Great Assistant 


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    Are You a great assistant? Many times in my live workshops and seminars for executive and administrative assistants, I ask the participant to create a list of qualities, attributes, and attitudes of star-performing assistants. Over the years, I have collected more than 300 ideas that I want to share. As you go through it, check …

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  • feedwordpress 08:00:03 on 2021/04/13 Permalink
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    Why Too Much Passion Is Bad For Your Leadership 


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    To keep up with the development and growth of the leaders I coach, I do an annual assessment of their leadership with my clients and with the people they lead. Last year I heard an interesting bit of feedback in one of these sessions: “At times his passion is great, but most of the time it’s overwhelming.”

    I’d never before considered the possibility of a leader’s having too much passion. But since then, I’ve taken some time to think about the highly passionate leaders I’ve worked with. And they do seem to share some tendencies that can lead to problems:

    They can be overwhelming. As I learned directly, passionate leaders can come across as overwhelming without even realizing it. Their passion and enthusiasm can feel like a burden to people who are struggling to keep up with their pace and level of energy.

    They can make everything important. Passionate leaders have a tendency to make everything high priority, and that urgency creates chaos. They may try to make everything urgent—which ironically means nothing can stand out as being important. People need clear priorities.

    They can complicate the simplest matter. Passion can drive complexity, complicating things that should be simple. People are thrown off by unnecessary complication.

    They can be too intense. People want to feel comfortable around their leader. Intensity can easily cross the border to be disturbing or even frightening.

    They aren’t always adaptable. Great leadership is about being adaptable and flexible, able to change course when needed. When passion makes a leader stubborn and unyielding, they’re unable to find new solutions and have difficulty adapting to changing circumstances.

    They can be closed-minded. Leaders need to always hold an open mind. They have to be able to listen to others and learn along the way. Sometimes passion leads to the kind of certainty that closes a leader’s mind and shuts others out.

    They can be intimidating. Some leaders express their passion by speaking loud and long, which may unnerve people and leave little room for them to express their thoughts.

    But here’s the good news: It’s possible for passionate people to lead without being overwhelming, complicating and rigid. The secret is staying attuned to others. To be an effective leader means being able to read the room and meet people where they are—not where you want them to be.

    Leaders who are admired for their passion are inclusive. They listen when others speak, they stay flexible and adaptable, and they’re great communicators.

    When passionate leadership is about a single-minded perspective and a narrow mindset, it’s likely to go off on the wrong track. But when it’s about making others better, serving the organization and guiding a vision, it can be a source of tremendous strength.

    Lead from within: The world needs passionate leaders, but make sure you avoid the traps of overly passionate leadership.

     


    #1 N A T I O N A L  B E S T S E L L E R

    The Leadership Gap
    What Gets Between You and Your Greatness


    After decades of coaching powerful executives around the world, Lolly Daskal has observed that leaders rise to their positions relying on a specific set of values and traits. But in time, every executive reaches a point when their performance suffers and failure persists. Very few understand why or how to prevent it.

    buy now

     


    Additional Reading you might enjoy:

    Photo Credit: iStockPhotos

    The post Why Too Much Passion Is Bad For Your Leadership appeared first on Lolly Daskal.

     
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