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  • feedwordpress 19:28:34 on 2017/12/11 Permalink
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    Do you believe these men are ashamed of their behavior? One former Philadelphia TV reporter doesn’t. 

    Saying I’m sorry is becoming overused. Today Show morning host Matt Lauer is sorry. CBS morning anchor Charlie Rose is sorry. Actor Kevin Spacey is sorry. Senator Al Franken is sorry. Movie producer Harvey Weinstein says he’s sorry. Because the word sorry is used so often when someone admits doing something wrong, it has lost is power.

    In our business, we have always advised clients in trouble to apologize if they erred and if they were genuinely sorry.  Saying I’m sorry acknowledges vulnerability and humility. However, when it’s heard too often, it begins to sound insincere and void of any real meaning.

    That’s why I find it interesting that “I’m sorry” is now being accompanied with two new words; ‘ashamed and embarrassed’. The growing list of powerful men accused of inappropriate workplace behavior say they’re “ashamed and embarrassed” that they’ve let people down.

    Should we weep now or hold our tears for a more appropriate moment? I don’t believe for a second these men are ashamed or embarrassed about their behavior. They are ashamed and embarrassed that their behavior is now public. The real shame is for the people these men allegedly harassed who have been living in silence all of these years for fear that their careers or reputations would be damaged.

    Harassment in the workplace is nothing new. What is new, is that people, especially women, are now empowered to speak out. It doesn’t matter how long ago something inappropriate happened. Survivors are regaining power by stripping power from high-profile men who apparently made their own rules. What is new, is what some once laughed away as ‘boys will be boys’ is no longer an acceptable thought process. What is new is that “I’m sorry” is no longer and should no longer be enough.

    A quick unofficial survey of my professional female friends and colleagues reveals that almost all of us have been the victims of inappropriate male behavior. It may have been a touch in an inappropriate place or language that was sexually explicit.

    As a younger television news reporter, I would come home and recount some of the things that happened or were said in newsrooms I worked in. Horrified, my husband used to say if this happened in his office, these men and women would have been fired. He would urge me to report them. In most instances, no one would have done anything about it.

    I recall a television videographer graphically recounting his sexual experience with a woman he was dating. Given we were in a news van traveling at a high rate of speed, I couldn’t get out. I repeatedly told him I was not interested, and he had crossed the line. He just laughed. There was no one to report him to because he would have denied it. It would have been his word against mine.

    In my day, television newsrooms were often synonymous with bad behavior. Inappropriate conduct that didn’t make the news was almost the norm. It wasn’t just sexual advances or inappropriate flirting. It was intimidation, aggressive behavior and a barrage of obscenities hurled at individuals. It was putting someone down in front of others, reducing them to tears.

    I once worked for a news director who threw his typewriter through the plate glass window of his office as the staff was readying for the evening news. The newsroom stopped. Everyone looked up. Then, as quickly as the glass had shattered, everyone resumed working as if the outburst had never occurred.

    Don’t get me wrong; there were many trustworthy ethical people in the multiple newsrooms I worked in. But, like a fast-moving virus, it sometimes felt like the few people with bad values contaminated the entire space.

    I recall an evening that I was asked to cover a specific story. Due to medical reasons and a note from my doctor, I was unable to go. The night time editor cursed at me, called me names, insinuated I was a liar and then proceeded to criticize my qualifications and questioned how I was ever hired.

    Visibly shaken, I called my boss, explained what happened and told her I was going to file a complaint with human resources. The next day, she cautioned me not to ‘make this a big deal’. She said she would talk to him, but he probably didn’t mean anything and was just doing his job. She said if I made waves, it would come back to haunt me. She was the only woman in management and on a fast track to move up the ladder. She didn’t want me to get involved, because she didn’t want to be involved.

    Different times. Different standards. Yet, cultures of silence and fear still exist today.

    While NBC says they had never had a single complaint against Matt Lauer in all his years at the network, I find it difficult to believe that no one even had an inkling that he may have misbehaved. If he did what multiple people said he did, then many must have known about it. They were simply too afraid of him to complain.

    Since Harvey Weinstein was first accused of sexual assault and harassment, three dozen men have been accused of varying degrees of misconduct. Chances are, more complaints will surface. The question the rest of us face: will we become de-sensitized to these accusations as we have to societal violence and other unfortunate but common occurrences?

    Change is always slow, but change can lead to improvement. At the Today Show, CBS, Netflix and other companies who have come under fire for the bad behavior of their employees, we are witnessing management doing the right thing to reinforce what their organizations stand for.

    The immediate firing, publicly communicating and not tolerating this kind of behavior shows us that as organizations, they are the ones who are sorry, ashamed and embarrassed that this has happened under their watch.
    In the past, an apology and statement saying what your business stands for often made things go away. Today, it’s one thing to say what you stand for or have your core values printed on posters that are plastered on walls around the office. It’s something entirely different to enforce those values.

  • feedwordpress 18:00:36 on 2017/12/06 Permalink
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    4 Ways to Ensure Readability in Your Writing 


    by Barbara McNichol

    “Writings are useless unless they are read, and they cannot be read unless they are readable.” – Theodore Roosevelt

    If Roosevelt lived in today’s world, he might have known that 6% of the time wasted in corporations is due to poorly written communications. Of course, your goal is readability. At the same time, you desire to be fast and efficient. What techniques can help ensure your message is clear?

    Consider these:

    • One Thought, One Sentence
    • Rewrite Negative into Positive
    • Build Bridges to Guide Your Reader
    • End Sentences with Your Strongest Point

    One Thought, One Sentence

    As you might have learned in high school composition class, strive to express one thought in one sentence. You’d craft another sentence for the next thought, and so on. Also, medium-length or long sentences are fine on occasion, but you propel your prose forward with short, succinct sentences.

    Rewrite Negative into Positive

    It’s hard for readers to track what’s being written when it’s stated in a negative way. Often, negative statements require a lot more words to make a point. Avoid using “no” and “not” except when you want to emphasize or contrast something.

    Negative: We can’t incorporate all the design features without increasing the unit size.

    Better: To incorporate all the design features, we have to increase the unit size.

    Build Bridges to Guide Your Reader

    As you craft your message, use bridge words and phrases to keep your train of thought moving forward. Logical links build your case—the smoother the better.

    Here are examples of bridge words that . . .

    • connect two ideas of the same kind: and, plus, as well as
    • add another thought: besides, also, what’s more, besides, then, again,
    • compare or contrast ideas: but, still, however, yet, rather, likewise
    • reinforce an idea: indeed, in fact, of course, by all means
    • show results: as a result, consequently, thus

    End Sentences with Your Strongest Point

    Consider placing the most vital words at the end of your sentence. Doing so adds emphasis and bridges one idea to the next. Which of these sentence variations is stronger?

    • “You’ll enhance your ability to communicate clearly by using these four techniques.”
    • “Using these four techniques, you’ll enhance your ability to communicate clearly.”

    If you said the second, I’d agree. Leave readers with a benefit statement as the last idea they read. A subtle distinction, yes, but it helps strengthen your intention.

    How do you strive to improve readability in your writing? Share your ideas here.

    Barbara McNichol is passionate about helping administrative professionals add power to their pens. To assist in this mission, she has created a Word Trippers Tips resource so you can quickly find the right word when it matters most. It allows you to improve your writing through excellent weekly resources in your inbox, including a Word Tripper of the Week for 52 weeks. Details at Word Trippers is 40% Off until 12/18/17.

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  • feedwordpress 16:35:26 on 2017/12/01 Permalink

    Self Driving Cars will save you Time and Money 

    Mercedes Self driving car concept: Let’s look at each other!

    With a self driving car, what will you do with that extra time and money? Plan now, they arrive in 2–3 years.

    Time Savings:
    The average American commuter spends 50 minutes a day going to work and back. With self driving cars emerging in just 2–3 years, what will you do with your reclaimed time?

    Me? I sometimes take an Uber or Lyft to downtown SF from Silicon Valley, traffic is gnarly, parking is frustrating and expensive. I use this downtime to: catch up on emails, listen to audiobooks/music and relax or take a nap — it’s already like a self driving car.

    BMW’s self driving car concept, I’ve seen this first-hand, impressive.

    Economic Savings:
    I live on the Peninsula near Facebook/Box/Oracle. My Uber or Lyft costs to 1 Market in SF which is 24 miles away, is $42–100 depending on time of day or type of ride, one way. I don’t have to pay $25 parking, gas or wear or tear (which is $13.20, calculated on 55 cents per mile write off per us tax code, a total of $38.20) so my actual cost is a mere $4 if I take the least expensive ride.

    Once self-driving Uber’s and Lyft’s emerge (Uber just agreed to buy 24,000 Self driving Volvo’s) the cost of my ride will plummet as there’s no human, it’s possible the overall economics would be a net positive.

    Some economic models (link in comments) predict that the cost of a self driving ride as a service could be as low as 35 cents a mile. Which mean my ride would go from $42 with a human driver, down to $8.20 one way, which is still tax deductible. That’s cheaper than parking at Caltrain and taking the train in, which would also take longer, and still require a transfer, you’ll be lucky to get a seat, during rush hour.

    Social Impact:
    Of course there are significant impacts, as the most common job code in most American states is “professional driver” we will need to offer either updated skills and roles for them, or switch to an economic model that enables care for all. It’s worth noting most of these vehicles will be electric, reducing emissions.

    My prediction: some rides will eventually be free as unit economics drop, in exchange for advertising, marketing or even data provided. Marketers will pay top dollar for a truly captive audience.

    Photos: Volvo self driving car recliner, Mercedes seats face each other, BMW (Bronze sedan) which I’ve seen and touched multiple times.

    Volvo’s luxury image offers a laid back experience
  • feedwordpress 00:24:03 on 2017/12/01 Permalink

    Dog Whisperer 

    My friend’s dog hates me. This really bothers me because I have never met a dog that didn’t like me or vice-versa. In fact, my husband calls me a dog whisperer because dogs seem to naturally gravitate toward me. Just last week, a woman was walking her dog on the beach. I was walking the other way when her dog abruptly turned around and started following me.

    Dog whisperer.

    Another friend’s dog is so excited when I come by that he presses himself against me and moves with me like glue stuck to cardboard until I leave.

    Dog whisperer.

    There is a dog I know who has NEVER left her owner’s bedroom overnight, yet she slept on the floor beside me in the guest bedroom when I stayed over.

    Dog whisperer.

    You get the picture.

    So, now you understand why I don’t understand why my friend’s dog doesn’t like me.

    Her name is Rosie. She’s a Jack Russell Terrier. She appears to have a personality disorder. Several times a year, I stay with my friend who lives in another state. When I arrive at her home, Rosie carries on like a maniac until her owner calms her down. Once I’ve been inside for a few minutes, she does a complete 180 and can’t seem to get enough of me, in a good way. She sits on my lap. She kisses my face. If I get up, she follows me around. I begin to feel like a dog whisper again.

    Then it happens. Another 180. Most recently, I walked into the kitchen to assist my friend with dinner and bam! She snarled, bolted after me, jumped on me and bit my thigh. No blood, but I was a little freaked out. The owners apologized profusely, saying they can’t understand what happened and they put her in her cage. Time out for Rosie.

    Once out after a long scolding, she cowered back to me and tried to make friends, but still nursing my thigh, I refused to make eye contact until the next morning. Thinking Rosie, the Impaler was still in her cage, while everyone was sleeping, I made my way downstairs for coffee. There she was. Loose. 14 pounds of anger staring me down. I walked toward the coffee maker. She followed behind. I took my coffee into the family room and sat down. She sat on the floor in front of me, snarling ever so slightly under her breath. I tried to talk nicely to her and she started barking. Fortunately, she woke her owners up and they took her away.

    I started thinking about it and wondered, why do I care if this dog likes me? Admittedly, it’s probably because I’m afraid she’ll bite me again. However, there is a great analogy to be made when it comes to the workplace.

    At work, most of us want to be liked. We want the boss to notice our effort and good work. We want colleagues to want to work with us. Acceptance. Respect. Appreciated. Most of us want that. Yet the reality is, we can’t and won’t be liked by everyone. If we spend all our time trying to get everyone to like us, we risk worrying more about what other people think instead of being true to ourselves.

    Leaders don’t have to be liked by everyone to be great leaders. Think back to some of your bosses. You probably liked some of them. They were personable and fun to be around, but they weren’t necessarily strong leaders. Others may have been difficult or abrasive; not the kind of people you wanted to socialize with after work. Yet, they may have been strong effective leaders who you trusted and respected. That’s the key.

    All day long we use products that we trust. For example, you may own an Apple computer. You don’t like, or dislike CEO Tim Cook because you don’t know him. Yet, you would never buy anything else. You trust Apple. You respect the company’s ability to make a solid product that works for you.

    Johnson’s baby shampoo is another example. There are many baby shampoos available to you, but if your mother used Johnson’s and your grandmother used Johnson’s, you might prefer Johnson’s. You have never met CEO Alex Gorsky and don’t have an opinion of him, but you trust J&J products and respect the company’s longevity and reputation.

    Amazon is also a good example. You may know nothing about CEO Jeff Bezos, but many have great respect for Amazon’s business model and ability to make on-line shopping easy.

    It’s not just products. Think about the doctors or lawyers you’ve encountered. Some lack personality, but they are known for their precision in surgery or excellence in the courtroom. You might not like them, but you trust them to produce the best outcomes for you.

    Trust and respect in business is a good thing. If people trust and respect your product, they will buy from you and recommend you to others. Your business and reputation will likely thrive.

    That was the problem with Rosie and me. I wanted her to like me, but I didn’t trust her. Like a back-stabbing workplace colleague, her unreliable behavior created tension. I was wary and on guard.

    To be seen as a leader and build trust at work, consider these seven simple steps:

    1. Be open. When people speak to you, listen. Accept their ideas and suggestions even if you don’t implement them.
    2. Tell the truth. Honesty is still the best policy. Constructive feedback is more productive than critical feedback.
    3. Stay issue oriented. I once had a boss who made everything personal. Focus on issues and solutions instead of personalities.
    4. Be aware of body language. Look people in the eye when they are speaking to you and you are speaking to them. Avoid fidgeting, closed gestures such as arms crossed, hands behind the back or in pockets. Avoid checking your texts and emails when someone is trying to have a conversation with you.
    5. Ask probing questions. Asking questions suggests that you know you don’t have all the answers and are interested in ideas and opinions of others.
    6. Strive for consistency. That means don’t tell one-person layoffs are due to budget constraints and then tell someone else it was because of poor performance.
    7. Gossip is not for grown-ups. If you want to be trusted, then zip it. Keep what others tell you to yourself.

    Like dogs, who quickly decide who they like and who they don’t, people can often sense if someone isn’t trustworthy. It may be the words they use, non-verbal signals they send or even their appearance that determines our reaction even when we don’t really know them.

    Maybe that’s where Rosie and I broke down. We don’t really know each other. Perhaps when I went to the kitchen to help my friend, she perceived I might cause harm. Or, when sitting on the couch, maybe I moved too quickly threatening her space.

    Maybe that’s what happened. Maybe I should take the high road and give Rosie the benefit of the doubt. Maybe, but I don’t think so. I may never figure out why that dog doesn’t like me, but the next time I visit my friend, I’m going to respect Rosie’s space and hope she’ll respect mine.

    Like a worker who spends too much time trying to please, I’m expending too much energy wondering why Rosie and I don’t connect, when there are still plenty of dogs who like me for me.

    To them, I’m still a dog whisperer.

  • feedwordpress 14:54:38 on 2017/11/29 Permalink
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    Unleash Your Greatness 

    Lolly Daskal is one of the most sought-after executive leadership coaches in the world. Her extensive cross-cultural expertise spans 14 countries, six languages, and hundreds of companies.

    As founder and CEO of Lead From Within, her proprietary leadership program is engineered to be a catalyst for leaders who want to enhance performance and make a meaningful difference in their companies, their lives, and the world. Based on a mix of modern philosophy, science, and nearly thirty years coaching top executives, Lolly’s perspective on leadership continues to break new ground and produce exceptional results.

    Of her many awards and accolades, Lolly was designated a Top-50 Leadership and Management Experts by Inc 100 Great Leadership Speakers for Your Next Conference and Speakers at your next event by Inc. magazine.

    Her writing has appeared in HBR,, Fast Company (Ask The Expert), Huffington Post, and Psychology Today, and others. Lolly’s proprietary insights are the subject of her new book, “The Leadership Gap: What Gets Between You and Your Greatness.”

    What you’ll learn about in this episode:

    • Lolly’s journey that led her to become a leadership guru
    • The difference between someone who fixes problems and someone who navigates through them
    • Lolly’s book: “The Leadership Gap: What Gets Between You and Your Greatness”
    • The traits/archetypes we need to get to the next level and the gaps that are keeping us from them
    • How to fill those leadership gaps
    • RETHINK: the seven archetypes that are all about rethinking who you are
    • The truth-teller archetype and why its archetype is the deceiver
    • The best ways for leaders to build trust
    • Why the imposter syndrome is real and lives within the rebel archetype
    • The difference between virtue and skills and why the difference will make or break a leader
    • Why every single person has what it takes to be a great leader — and — what it takes to stand in your greatness
    • Tailoring the questions you ask the people you lead need to be tailored to the individual
    • Meditating on the things that went well and not taking them for granted

    Ways to contact Lolly: Website:

    The post Unleash Your Greatness appeared first on Lolly Daskal.

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