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  • feedwordpress 15:40:42 on 2022/11/30 Permalink
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    Advice to the Working Mother 


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    When I was a young mother, I worked outside the home. My job as a television news reporter was demanding and time consuming. Juries. Stakeouts. Crime scenes. Long hours that couldn’t always be predicted. My husband traveled so we hired a babysitter to make sure someone was always home.

    Many of my friends traveled a different path. When children arrived, they quit their jobs to be full time stay at home moms. They shared stories of Mommy and Me classes, holding their babies for a first swim lesson, being present at every milestone and activity. Sometimes they made me feel guilty.

    I always adjusted my schedule and swapped shifts to be present for important moments like school plays, sporting events and volunteering in their classrooms. I was there for their first words, first steps, potty training and transitioning from crib to big boy beds. We enjoyed family dinners, holiday gatherings and great vacations. But these so-called friends had a way of making those who worked outside the home feel they were less of a mom than those who stayed home full time. Once, one of them asked if I ever felt guilty about “having someone else raise your children.”

    Seething, I told her our babysitter wasn’t a replacement for us and I remember defending myself. But why? Because she made me feel guilty? My husband reassured me that I was a great mom, and I shouldn’t let others tell me how to feel. He was right.

    We’ve always been a great team. If I was away, he did what was needed. Laundry. Shopping. Driving. Attending events. When he was gone, I did the same. Unlike the stereotypical TV shows of the 1950’s where Dad earned the money and Mom put dinner on the table, in my house Dad also put dinner on the table. We parented equally. This was not the case for some of my stay-at-home mom friends. Like their mothers before them, Mom ran the home while Dad went to the office.

    There is no right or wrong as to how people choose to run their households and raise their families. But thanks to the choices we made, our boys grew up appreciating women as equals. I’m the first to tell you it’s easier to go to work than to stay home with young children. I’m also the first to tell you not to let anyone guilt you into making you feel you’re not as good as them.

    Fast forward to present day. Our sons are well adjusted independent adults. I never think about something I might have missed, and I never feel guilty. Rather, I feel proud. Proud of the young men my boys have become and proud of everything we shared and continue to share together.

    As the years went by, it occurred to me that perhaps these women guilted me to mask their own insecurities. Maybe they envied that I worked outside the home. Maybe they resented marrying men who left the child rearing and housework to them. Maybe they needed to validate themselves and justify their decision to stay home. Or maybe they were happy and genuinely believed their way was the better way. I also realized it didn’t matter.

    One of my son’s was just married. He married a woman who shares the values we instilled in him. He knows how much he’s loved; how proud we are of him and that we will always be there for him, his brother, and his family.

    Being physically present 24/7 for your children doesn’t define you as a better mother. You are the only one who can define you. How you raise your children is your choice. If I had to do it over again, I’d do it the same way.

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  • feedwordpress 09:00:04 on 2022/11/29 Permalink
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    7 Easy Morning Rituals To Jump Start Your Day 


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    Among other traits, it takes strength and stamina to be a great leader. Some days can be difficult, and sometimes you have to work hard to find motivation. To make sure you’re up for whatever the day brings, one of the best things you can do for yourself is to make your morning a strong start. Set yourself up for a productive day by adopting some (or all!) of these simple, but effective morning habits:

    Get up early. Research shows that early risers are more successful and productive, plan more effectively, and better anticipate challenges and problems. Waking up early gives you more time to plan and get ready for the day without rushing.

    Eat something healthy. The old adage is true: you are what you eat. Starting the morning with something that’s tasty and good for you will power you up for whatever lies ahead. To be your best, eat your best.

    Work in a workout. There’s lots of evidence that morning is the best time to work out. A morning workout forces you to wake up early, and it gives you a natural mood booster and increased energy all day.

    Boost your intrinsic motivation. It’s hard to get excited about getting out of bed in the mornings when you are not totally sold on what you’re getting up for. And even if you love everything about your job, the daily grind can make it hard to keep going. That’s why you need to work on your inner motivation—which powers you from within—to keep yourself going. Extrinsic motivation like money, recognition, or praise, can only take you so far. But when you tap into your personal source of motivation, there can be no stopping you.

    Do something that inspires you. Whether it’s reading a chapter from a favorite book, spending a bit of time on a creative project, a run, or having breakfast with family or friends, do something that nurtures and inspires you. Then watch how it sets you up for the day.

    Spend some time with your journal. When you start your day journaling, you can clear your mind, focus your thinking for the day, and empower change in yourself. You’re more in tune with the patterns of your day and life.

    Meditate or pray. Even a few quiet moments of meditation or prayer can give you a boost as you take on the day. Performed regularly, it can reduce stress and negative self-talk, and it keeps you aligned with your values. A moment of calm in the morning resonates all day.

    When it comes to kick-starting your day, make sure you have morning rituals that give your mind and body what they need to be refreshed and newly motivated.

    Lead From Within: A good morning ritual gives you a clean slate every day, and you have a chance each day to build it up to be what you want.

     


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  • feedwordpress 09:00:19 on 2022/11/22 Permalink
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    7 Common Phrases That Can Ruin Your Leadership Credibility 


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    We’ve all been there: someone says something and you suddenly think I’m not sure I trust them now.

    Credibility is like a currency that never depreciates unless you do something to undercut its value. If people think you’re credible, they trust you. They listen to you, depend on you, and follow you. But if you undermine that credibility, it takes a long time to earn it back.

    In my work as a leadership coach, I help my clients learn to identify and avoid phrases that erode their credibility. Here are seven of the most common:

    “To be honest…” People who are telling the truth don’t have to make a point of it. If you tell people you’re telling the truth, you’re actually warning them to be on guard. When you plant doubt in people’s mind, they lose trust in what you’re saying—and in your overall credibility.

    “I’ll try.” In leadership, it’s important to be decisive and reliable. There is no room for “I’ll try.” If you’re going to do something, say so—and then make sure you do it. If you can’t make that commitment, don’t say anything. When you tell someone you’ll try, all you gain is sounding wishy-washy.

    “Let me get back to you on that.” This phrase may seem harmless, but it sounds like a dodge. Know your capabilities and speak with confidence. If you’re asked something you don’t know, say so outright: “I’m not sure, but I’ll find out.”

    “In my opinion…” This commonly used phrase undermines your point of view. Even if you don’t intend to, it carries a suggestion of bias. Instead, say “I think…” or “My experience suggests….”

    “I could be wrong.” You may be shooting for humility with this phrase, but it comes off as uncertain and unconvincing. If you state a fact, do so with confidence. If there’s a significant chance you’re wrong, lead off with something like “It’s possible…” or don’t say it at all.

    “On the up side…” When people hear this phrase, they know what’s coming: bad news with an attempt at comfort and possibly a poor attempt at humor. Don’t sugarcoat when you have something negative to communicate. Be forthright and honest, and you’ll always hold people’s trust.

    “This is probably stupid, but…” Why would you qualify one of your thoughts as stupid? If it’s genuinely stupid, it’s better left unsaid. If it’s a question, just ask. And if it’s an off-the-wall idea, pitch it that way without calling it stupid.

    When you’re in leadership, communication is one of the most important things you do. It’s how you convey information; just as important, it’s how you signal your credibility and strength. You can be honest and transparent without undermining yourself.

    Lead From Within: Trust, credibility and respect all depend on effective communication.

     


    #1 N A T I O N A L  B E S T S E L L E R

    The Leadership Gap
    What Gets Between You and Your Greatness


    After decades of coaching powerful executives around the world, Lolly Daskal has observed that leaders rise to their positions relying on a specific set of values and traits. But in time, every executive reaches a point when their performance suffers and failure persists. Very few understand why or how to prevent it.

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  • feedwordpress 09:00:07 on 2022/11/15 Permalink
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    How To Lead More Effective Meetings and Get Better Results 


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    Many of my executive clients complain that they spend all day in meetings, often with little to nothing to show for it. We’ve all been there, suffering from unproductive meetings that waste our time and energy. You may not be able to control other people’s meetings, but you can make sure that the ones you lead are worth attending.

    This five-step plan will help you make your meetings more effective and more likely to yield better results. The next time you schedule a meeting, start by considering the Five P’s:

    Purpose. Every meeting needs a purposeful agenda. Let people know what the meeting is about ahead of time and specify if they need to do anything ahead of time to prepare.

    Preparation. Most of what makes a meeting successful is the advance preparation. Consider your purpose, specific action items, and points that need to be communicated or discussed. Ask yourself if a meeting is the best way to achieve the goals you’ve defined.

    People. Make sure you have the right people in the room. Be thoughtful about who you invite. If you’re sharing information, include everyone who needs that information. If a decision needs to be made, include those providing input and everyone whose approval is required. But don’t over invite: once you’ve got everyone who truly needs to be there, stop. Let the meeting’s purpose dictate who needs to be there.

    Process. As part of your planning, think about the specifics of how things will get done. What will be the order of information? What process will you follow? How will you clarify and capture the actions and decisions made during the meeting? Following up after the meeting is important too. Define accountabilities and next steps, and make sure everyone has an open task list and that the owners are clearly identified. Solidify agreed-upon timelines for resolving open issues. Once it’s all clearly defined, document everything in a follow-up email to the team. (Don’t forget to thank them for their time and effort.)

    Progress. If you want your meetings to be effective, think in terms of progress. Progress is about results, and people should be accountable for honoring their share of the commitments that make up that progress. As things move from planning to reality, take time to celebrate accomplishments and achievements as part of the agenda. It’s also a good idea to check in and ask what’s working, what isn’t working, and why.

    For all that people complain about meetings, they’re still one of the best ways to share information, gain consensus, assign accountability, and get things done. If you lead them poorly, they’re a big waste of time. But if you lead them well, your team will be on track to get the results they want.

    Lead From Within: The most effective meetings are the ones where people get to show their competence and capabilities, so don’t let them go to waste. Lead effective meetings by following the Five P’s and see the difference.

     


    #1 N A T I O N A L  B E S T S E L L E R

    The Leadership Gap
    What Gets Between You and Your Greatness


    After decades of coaching powerful executives around the world, Lolly Daskal has observed that leaders rise to their positions relying on a specific set of values and traits. But in time, every executive reaches a point when their performance suffers and failure persists. Very few understand why or how to prevent it.

    buy now

     


    Additional Reading you might enjoy:

    The post How To Lead More Effective Meetings and Get Better Results appeared first on Lolly Daskal.

     
  • feedwordpress 00:30:46 on 2022/11/10 Permalink
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    Quick Tip #118: Power of the Pause 


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    Um. Uh. Just. Ya know. Filler words are distracting, annoying and make the most knowledgeable person seem uncredible.

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